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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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B.I.G.
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GoTuNk!
Chile4591 Posts
On November 04 2017 01:51 urmomdresslikafloozy wrote: I guess i really dont know what I want lol. I am an only child and moved away from my parents along time ago so nobody has been breathing down my neck to settle down, get into a committed relationship, and start a family, but mabye they should have? I have friends and neighbors my age that are married and have children that i hang out with sometimes but I cant really relate because ive been independent for so long. Its getting to the point that asking out college girls when you are 10 years older than them is getting borderline creepy so i need to change my strats. I guess ill give the adults sports league thing a shot  My gf is 9 years younger than me, she's the most mature girl I've met so far lol. You live in the U.S., i'm sure there are tons of conservative girls of all ages around who want serious stuff, just look in another places. There is also lots of girls, of any age, that won't settle down at all. You seem to be doing ok with woman and life in general, not sure why your first post is so negative :p | ||
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
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urmomdresslikafloozy
191 Posts
On November 04 2017 22:22 GoTuNk! wrote: My gf is 9 years younger than me, she's the most mature girl I've met so far lol. You live in the U.S., i'm sure there are tons of conservative girls of all ages around who want serious stuff, just look in another places. There is also lots of girls, of any age, that won't settle down at all. You seem to be doing ok with woman and life in general, not sure why your first post is so negative :p My apologizes. I didn't mean to come off as a pessimist XD Im just kinda frustrated. I live in a affluent neighborhood and the girls around here make me feel like the dudes in this video. I never tried tinder before. Is a legit way of meeting girls? I was allways under the impression that if I signed up I would just be spammed by bot accounts. | ||
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
On November 06 2017 02:32 urmomdresslikafloozy wrote: I never tried tinder before. Is a legit way of meeting girls? I was allways under the impression that if I signed up I would just be spammed by bot accounts. Pretty much everyone has tried tinder at some point these days. So the girls you find in real will most likely be the same types you find on tinder, albeit a lot more pickier. I pretty much just view tinder as a introduction service these days. Talk a little, see if she is interested in seeing you, then ask her out. | ||
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ApatheticSchizoid
Canada85 Posts
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Acrofales
Spain18290 Posts
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ApatheticSchizoid
Canada85 Posts
On November 06 2017 19:47 Acrofales wrote: OT: Are you a pathetic schizoid? Or are you an apathetic schizoid? Also, the fact that you are referring to yourself as a schizoid makes me doubt that you are actually schizophrenic at all, regardless of whether you are apathetic or pathetic. I'm an apathetic schizoid. Keep in mind that the term 'schizoid' doesn't refer to people who have schizophrenia, but instead schizoid personality disorder. | ||
[Phantom]
Mexico2170 Posts
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
On November 11 2017 02:13 [Phantom] wrote: If you breakup with someone for about a month, and two weeks in you go out with someone a couple of times and kiss and stuff, and then go back to your ex, is it cheating? I don't think it's "wrong" since you weren't together, but obviously what I think doesn't matter here whatsoever. My guess how this will turn out: She will find out that you dated some girl during the "break" and get pissed. You break up. | ||
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Artisreal
Germany9235 Posts
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Plansix
United States60190 Posts
On November 11 2017 03:17 Artisreal wrote: if you breakup you're single. ? That is how is always worked for me. The only real problem I could see coming from teh post above is if the person wasn't honest about dating someone else during that month. | ||
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
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Artisreal
Germany9235 Posts
On November 11 2017 03:42 LemOn wrote: Did you break up with her, fool around and then take her back? Because yeah that'll be easy to seem like you broke up to pork someone else and then came back when done I can 100% agree with this interpretation of the post. | ||
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ApatheticSchizoid
Canada85 Posts
On November 11 2017 03:42 LemOn wrote: Did you break up with her, fool around and then take her back? Because yeah that'll be easy to seem like you broke up to pork someone else and then came back when done Even if he didn't, I still think it'd be great to just be honest and say what you did. Keeping something from her just because you weren't 'together' can cause some big issues in the future if it's with other things as well. If he's not serious about her, no point in telling her. If he wants something meaningful then, it'd be best to stay honest. | ||
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Slydie
1935 Posts
On November 13 2017 19:31 ApatheticSchizoid wrote: Even if he didn't, I still think it'd be great to just be honest and say what you did. Keeping something from her just because you weren't 'together' can cause some big issues in the future if it's with other things as well. If he's not serious about her, no point in telling her. If he wants something meaningful then, it'd be best to stay honest. Really? Be very careful there! Even things that are "right" in our dating culture morally can cause a terrible emotional shitstorm. I would not tell her anything unless she asks, and if she does ask: focus on the emotonal aspects of it, telling how those doing things with the other girls did not do it for you, and that it feels great to be back with your GF. A friend of mine had a major screwing around period like yours, but got back to his now wife, and after moving around the world with her, they just had their 3rd kid. Some time apart to think, try and feel can be good! | ||
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Incognoto
France10239 Posts
I asked her out 3 months ago and was told no. Which to me, was fine. What ended up happening was that we got closer over time. More chemistry, etc. Over time I have been getting compliments from her (nice ones, not just looks but also about person) and haven't shied away from complimenting her back. The chemistry is real, texting late into the night, about anything and everything. We've even shared some personal worries. I really do not want to ask her out again because: 1. I already asked her out and as far as I'm concerned the ball would be in her court, 2. She is working 2 full time jobs and has almost no free time at all. Even if she were interested, a relationship would be difficult for her to handle, That's not my problem them. I recently made a callous comment (it was me being careless with my wording) and she got angry at me. The texting stopped abruptly. I waited a few days, then texted her about something unrelated. She seemed fine at that point, then I very indirectly apologized and she indirectly said it was OK (just compliments). Fast forward a few days from there, we haven't texted in a while. I'm half concerned that she has lingering disappointment in me and half concerned that she is losing interest in our friendship. Even though I want to date her, it's her friendship that matters to me more as of right now. However I wonder if the "romantic" tension (really, for lack of a better word. is it mutual? I don't know) is making things more difficult than they should be. I really just want to be an excellent friend to her because she's an excellent human being whom I respect deeply. | ||
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Excludos
Norway8256 Posts
Where do you guys go to meet girls? I'm in a position where I'm done with school, I got a decent living, my own apartment, car, etc and want to find someone to share my life with. But being a nerdy nerd with only nerdy nerd friends I have practically no girls in my or any of my friend's lives. So where do you go? Clubs are out: Music is too loud to even yell "hello" let alone attempt a conversation (Also the music sucks..I might be getting old), dating sited are really difficult unless you look really good (Most of them seem to have a 10 to 1 guy/girl ratio so the girls generally just get to pick whomever they might want) and costs a good bit of money, and mostly everyone at work is minimum 20 years older than me. I'm assuming lots of other people here have found themselves in a similar situation, since we're all nerd after all. What did you do? What helped? | ||
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Dark_Chill
Canada3353 Posts
On November 14 2017 02:56 Excludos wrote: I'm unsure what realistically I can expect of answers here, but I might as well give my desperation a go: Where do you guys go to meet girls? I'm in a position where I'm done with school, I got a decent living, my own apartment, car, etc and want to find someone to share my life with. But being a nerdy nerd with only nerdy nerd friends I have practically no girls in my or any of my friend's lives. So where do you go? Clubs are out: Music is too loud to even yell "hello" let alone attempt a conversation (Also the music sucks..I might be getting old), dating sited are really difficult unless you look really good (Most of them seem to have a 10 to 1 guy/girl ratio so the girls generally just get to pick whomever they might want) and costs a good bit of money, and mostly everyone at work is minimum 20 years older than me. I'm assuming lots of other people here have found themselves in a similar situation, since we're all nerd after all. What did you do? What helped? Look in your area for events/activities which you think nerds don't do. Jogging clubs, rock-climbing is a common suggestion. Look to meetup.com for finding people to do stuff you also want to do. Expand your social circles and you'll find more people, some of which are bound to women no matter how nerdy (whatever that means anymore) the activity is. | ||
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Titusmaster6
United States5937 Posts
On November 14 2017 02:42 Incognoto wrote: I'm in an awkward situation with a girl. I asked her out 3 months ago and was told no. Which to me, was fine. What ended up happening was that we got closer over time. More chemistry, etc. Over time I have been getting compliments from her (nice ones, not just looks but also about person) and haven't shied away from complimenting her back. The chemistry is real, texting late into the night, about anything and everything. We've even shared some personal worries. I really do not want to ask her out again because: 1. I already asked her out and as far as I'm concerned the ball would be in her court, 2. She is working 2 full time jobs and has almost no free time at all. Even if she were interested, a relationship would be difficult for her to handle, That's not my problem them. I recently made a callous comment (it was me being careless with my wording) and she got angry at me. The texting stopped abruptly. I waited a few days, then texted her about something unrelated. She seemed fine at that point, then I very indirectly apologized and she indirectly said it was OK (just compliments). Fast forward a few days from there, we haven't texted in a while. I'm half concerned that she has lingering disappointment in me and half concerned that she is losing interest in our friendship. Even though I want to date her, it's her friendship that matters to me more as of right now. However I wonder if the "romantic" tension (really, for lack of a better word. is it mutual? I don't know) is making things more difficult than they should be. I really just want to be an excellent friend to her because she's an excellent human being whom I respect deeply. It sounds like you want to cling onto that small chance of having a romantic relationship with her. I think you should just let it go and pursue relationships with other women. If you truly believe she might have romantic feelings for you, ask her again and be direct. If she says no then you can move on knowing you tried. | ||
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