EPTWell, most nights that don't have a designated activities are gaming nights, we played a lot of Larian stuff and finished BG3 a few times, now running parallel Expedition 33 play-troughs, and then there's individual stuff like Starcraft 2, HOTS , DOTA 2 etc. that we play with friends so no need to go to arcades, even if they existed over here.
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Jankisa
Croatia1757 Posts
Well, most nights that don't have a designated activities are gaming nights, we played a lot of Larian stuff and finished BG3 a few times, now running parallel Expedition 33 play-troughs, and then there's individual stuff like Starcraft 2, HOTS , DOTA 2 etc. that we play with friends so no need to go to arcades, even if they existed over here. | ||
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Simberto
Germany12015 Posts
But yeah, playing games coop with my wife is also a joy. We tend to do hotseat strategy stuff (currently Age of Wonders, but also Civilization and the like), but might also get back into the Larian stuff. Divinity: OS (1) was fun a few years back. | ||
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Jankisa
Croatia1757 Posts
For hot seat stuff we are still stuck on Heroes of might and magic 3 and might never get over that one, just a classic, it's like playing chess to me. I kind of forgot that AoW is a thing that exists, recently had quite a bit of fun replaying Age of Mythology might give the more recent AoW's a whirl since I haven't played since the first one. | ||
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JimmyJRaynor
Canada17895 Posts
On November 04 2025 21:41 Jankisa wrote: That looks cool as fuck. Well, most nights that don't have a designated activities are gaming nights, we played a lot of Larian stuff and finished BG3 a few times, now running parallel Expedition 33 play-troughs, and then there's individual stuff like Starcraft 2, HOTS , DOTA 2 etc. that we play with friends so no need to go to arcades, even if they existed over here. The place is amazing. My wife and I are both non-drinkers and we almost always have a blast at the place. | ||
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CuddlyCuteKitten
Sweden2892 Posts
On November 04 2025 23:47 Jankisa wrote: Haha, I don't know, maybe it's the lack of children but I like to think I have a pretty busy life with a full time job, side wine business (full on vineyard of 6000 plants and 10000 liters of wine) and a pretty healthy social life, on top of that, I managed to play 1000 hours of BG3 since it released. For hot seat stuff we are still stuck on Heroes of might and magic 3 and might never get over that one, just a classic, it's like playing chess to me. I kind of forgot that AoW is a thing that exists, recently had quite a bit of fun replaying Age of Mythology might give the more recent AoW's a whirl since I haven't played since the first one. Yes. | ||
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JimmyJRaynor
Canada17895 Posts
less info about a match means a better chance the first meeting/date goes bad and you're back on the app again. Getting married usually erodes the customer base of the dating apps by 2. one analyst guy he quotes... "like lemons driving good cars out of the used car market maybe sleazeballs pushed great catches out of the dating apps" the massive multinational megacorp killed OKCupid's best features precisely because they worked too well. One thing that had to go was open, unfocused, general group public meetups. That is a revenue killer. Every singe social engagement between even just 2 people must produce $$$ for the app. We can't have 25 people meeting in the real world.... that's blasphamy! ! ! | ||
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ThunderJunk
United States741 Posts
I'm still not feeling quite ready to pursue romance at this time. I need another 3 or so months of greedy eco play before I will be ready to move my army out onto the map. Maybe by then I'll have some upgrades  | ||
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JimmyJRaynor
Canada17895 Posts
On June 02 2026 06:19 ThunderJunk wrote: I haven't dated (or had sex) in over a year. my wife was a no sex until married type. it was rough. LOL. Now, however, I agree with her. I screwed over several women getting as much action as i could with zero intention of anything long term. It is hilarious/sad how many guys don't see this behaviour as unethical/immoral. | ||
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ThunderJunk
United States741 Posts
On June 02 2026 06:56 JimmyJRaynor wrote: my wife was a no sex until married type. it was rough. LOL. Now, however, I agree with her. I screwed over several women getting as much action as i could with zero intention of anything long term. It is hilarious/sad how many guys don't see this behaviour as unethical/immoral. I don't know for sure what you did to "screw over" those women. Presumably you, knowing they wanted a long-term relationship, led them to believe that's also what you wanted so you could extract sex from them, and then you found a way to get out of it. If that's what you're talking about, I agree that's unethical and immoral - and it's something I've done in my past that I'm not proud of. Live and learn. On the other hand, some women at some times in their lives, voluntarily opt into short-term flings and purposely avoid long-term relationships, and actually leave if the short-term fling looks like it's going in the long-term direction because that's actively not what they want at that time. I'm not saying you do this - I don't know if you do or not - but I know a lot of married people can fall into a trap of thinking, "I've chosen married life, and it's working for me - so it's the only ethical way to approach sex". I think that at least some of those women are doing what's right for them at the time, and I think some of those hookups they engage in can be the morally right thing to do - but I might have a different moral basis than you. Speaking for myself.. My morality centers around protecting the long-term best interest of my genes (dispersed as they are across all of humanity, who also have 99+% similar genes - you included) and the people and things I love. So, if the objective truth is that a short-term fling empowers the long-term best interest of my genes, then it's a morally sound short-term fling. A society with high levels of trust because people are honest with and supportive of each other is good for my genetic legacy because it's easier for everyone involved to share useful information via platonic exchange. Extractive, short-term thrill-seeking by deceiving people to get sex from them and then abandon them lowers societal trust. The magnitude of the downstream consequences of that erosion of trust is too great, and the act is therefore immoral. Pleasure for pleasure's sake ignoring the consequences tends to be immoral in this framework. But also, marriage poses a risk of stagnation. Not every marriage - there are great marriages that righteously endure. But there are definitely marriages where the two people have their kids, earn their money, and become complacent - discarding all the great opportunity for societal improvement that comes from desiring to prove themselves in the sexual marketplace, because growing could mean growing apart. TLDR: I might still bang babes, or I might get married - but I'll do either with the greater good in mind. | ||
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ETisME
12888 Posts
also just got married recently, took me a while to get over some shitty relationship I had. My tip is to travel oversea together a few times; it really does give a lot of challenges even between friends. | ||
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JimmyJRaynor
Canada17895 Posts
On June 03 2026 06:16 ThunderJunk wrote: I don't know for sure what you did to "screw over" those women. Presumably you, knowing they wanted a long-term relationship, led them to believe that's also what you wanted so you could extract sex from them, and then you found a way to get out of it. If that's what you're talking about, I agree that's unethical and immoral - and it's something I've done in my past that I'm not proud of. Live and learn. On the other hand, some women at some times in their lives, voluntarily opt into short-term flings and purposely avoid long-term relationships, and actually leave if the short-term fling looks like it's going in the long-term direction because that's actively not what they want at that time. I'm not saying you do this - I don't know if you do or not - but I know a lot of married people can fall into a trap of thinking, "I've chosen married life, and it's working for me - so it's the only ethical way to approach sex". I think that at least some of those women are doing what's right for them at the time, and I think some of those hookups they engage in can be the morally right thing to do - but I might have a different moral basis than you. yes, that is what i did. in my last year of high school; i bought a Camaro and modded it to get to 60 MPH in under 4 seconds. fast girls.. fast cars. without a great car i could not attract big #s of hot girls. the car put me over the top. My high school best friend was about the size of Brock Lesnar @ 260 lbs in his senior year. He had girls and women in their 20s all over him from the age of 15. Interestingly, he got burned out from sex. You hear about how negative "body count" is for women. Well, my friend confessed to me after having sex with ~20 women during his 3rd year in high school that he was no longer into sex the way he was at 14. I was the only one he told this to. He exhibited some of the symptoms of someone who had been sexually abused even though everything he did was consensual. It was ....eerily weird. I think multiple sexual partners are an overall negative for men and women. It is especially bad for teenagers whose minds are not fully developed. For me, and i think most guys, its something you think you want; you get it and its not as great as you think. Half a slice are chef crafted rich sweet chocolate cake can be amazing. Anything more and it surprisingly starts to taste gross. When I got my Camero I had sex with 5 girls in 10 months. This was my dream.. my life's goal achieved! And after it was done, I DID NOT LIKE MYSELF. On June 03 2026 06:16 ThunderJunk wrote: TLDR: I might still bang babes, or I might get married - but I'll do either with the greater good in mind. i am glad you are keeping humanity in mind during these hedonistic times.  There is an amazing book about a group of people who believed they were above all morality and defined their own life code. You see they were smarter than the rest of us. They were cheating on their spouses.. but it was OK because they were "woke" and "enlightened" and "objective". It is hilarious reading that Dr Genius Nathaniel Branden never shoulda cheated on his wife. https://www.amazon.ca/Judgment-Day-Years-Ayn-Rand/dp/0395461073?crid=16OEXN2Y27C1U its an epic and inspirational confession. it is fascinating how multiple sexual partners messes up the male brain. from the book... "The greatest damage was not what I did to others; it was what years of evasion did to my own character." | ||
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Slydie
2012 Posts
On June 06 2026 22:10 JimmyJRaynor wrote: yes, that is what i did. in my last year of high school; i bought a Camaro and modded it to get to 60 MPH in under 4 seconds. fast girls.. fast cars. without a great car i could not attract big #s of hot girls. the car put me over the top. My high school best friend was about the size of Brock Lesnar @ 260 lbs in his senior year. He had girls and women in their 20s all over him from the age of 15. Interestingly, he got burned out from sex. You hear about how negative "body count" is for women. Well, my friend confessed to me after having sex with ~20 women during his 3rd year in high school that he was no longer into sex the way he was at 14. I was the only one he told this to. He exhibited some of the symptoms of someone who had been sexually abused even though everything he did was consensual. It was ....eerily weird. I think multiple sexual partners are an overall negative for men and women. It is especially bad for teenagers whose minds are not fully developed. For me, and i think most guys, its something you think you want; you get it and its not as great as you think. Half a slice are chef crafted rich sweet chocolate cake can be amazing. Anything more and it surprisingly starts to taste gross. When I got my Camero I had sex with 5 girls in 10 months. This was my dream.. my life's goal achieved! And after it was done, I DID NOT LIKE MYSELF. i am glad you are keeping humanity in mind during these hedonistic times. There is an amazing book about a group of people who believed they were above all morality and defined their own life code. You see they were smarter than the rest of us. They were cheating on their spouses.. but it was OK because they were "woke" and "enlightened" and "objective". It is hilarious reading that Dr Genius Nathaniel Branden never shoulda cheated on his wife. https://www.amazon.ca/Judgment-Day-Years-Ayn-Rand/dp/0395461073?crid=16OEXN2Y27C1U its an epic and inspirational confession. it is fascinating how multiple sexual partners messes up the male brain. from the book... "The greatest damage was not what I did to others; it was what years of evasion did to my own character." Reading this, I think most men have one of two numbers of sex partners: Too many or too few. Too many of you did too many things you regretted. Too few because of FOMO. Is there any way to get this right? I think it is very hard, because it is a paradox; You can't do things you regret without doing them, and you won't know if something is not "worth it" if you only wanted it, but never got there. | ||
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JimmyJRaynor
Canada17895 Posts
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Slydie
2012 Posts
On June 07 2026 07:59 JimmyJRaynor wrote: i think no sex before marriage is the optimal path. I think this is quite a risk most do not want to take. It can work, but I don't think people talk much about when it fails. The confirmation bias will be very strong with people making a lifestyle choice like that. | ||
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Harris1st
Germany7420 Posts
On June 03 2026 06:16 ThunderJunk wrote: I don't know for sure what you did to "screw over" those women. Presumably you, knowing they wanted a long-term relationship, led them to believe that's also what you wanted so you could extract sex from them, and then you found a way to get out of it. If that's what you're talking about, I agree that's unethical and immoral - and it's something I've done in my past that I'm not proud of. Live and learn. On the other hand, some women at some times in their lives, voluntarily opt into short-term flings and purposely avoid long-term relationships, and actually leave if the short-term fling looks like it's going in the long-term direction because that's actively not what they want at that time. I'm not saying you do this - I don't know if you do or not - but I know a lot of married people can fall into a trap of thinking, "I've chosen married life, and it's working for me - so it's the only ethical way to approach sex". I think that at least some of those women are doing what's right for them at the time, and I think some of those hookups they engage in can be the morally right thing to do - but I might have a different moral basis than you. Speaking for myself.. My morality centers around protecting the long-term best interest of my genes (dispersed as they are across all of humanity, who also have 99+% similar genes - you included) and the people and things I love. So, if the objective truth is that a short-term fling empowers the long-term best interest of my genes, then it's a morally sound short-term fling. A society with high levels of trust because people are honest with and supportive of each other is good for my genetic legacy because it's easier for everyone involved to share useful information via platonic exchange. Extractive, short-term thrill-seeking by deceiving people to get sex from them and then abandon them lowers societal trust. The magnitude of the downstream consequences of that erosion of trust is too great, and the act is therefore immoral. Pleasure for pleasure's sake ignoring the consequences tends to be immoral in this framework. But also, marriage poses a risk of stagnation. Not every marriage - there are great marriages that righteously endure. But there are definitely marriages where the two people have their kids, earn their money, and become complacent - discarding all the great opportunity for societal improvement that comes from desiring to prove themselves in the sexual marketplace, because growing could mean growing apart. TLDR: I might still bang babes, or I might get married - but I'll do either with the greater good in mind. You should absolutely get your genes out there. Having Mini-You's is the best thing possible and will change the way you think like nothing else before. | ||
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JimmyJRaynor
Canada17895 Posts
Notice Ben stumble over the word "content" initially saying it like "web site content" and adjusting to "i feel content". This is comedy gold. I disagree with this reviewer's take on marriage though. I'm closer to the Ben camp on that. To rebut the youtube presenter: males are not miserable because of their marriage. males are miserable because they never determined their life mission. Now, they're blaming everyone around them. You need a life mission before you go running around looking for various single women. @31:15 Ben cites a 45 year old sociological study and compares it to today. Ben then makes a great point about sex and relationships. 45 years ago eh? I guess Pat Benatar said it best ... "Love Is A Battlefield" In this video, is Pat Benatar what the kids these days call "fierce"? all this misery around "dating" so much reminds me of that great Aldous Huxley quote in Brave New World: Lenina Crowne: "What fun it would be if one didn't have to think about happiness!" Regarding the financial struggles of Dating Apps: guys in their 30s and 40s with fading testosterone are not as willing to put up with mountains of BS to nail some chick. The Dating Apps' best customers are aging out... now the dating apps are scrambling and desperate. What a fascinating time to be alive! "Oh Brave New World, with such people in it!" | ||
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Biff The Understudy
France8195 Posts
On June 02 2026 06:56 JimmyJRaynor wrote: my wife was a no sex until married type. it was rough. LOL. Now, however, I agree with her. I screwed over several women getting as much action as i could with zero intention of anything long term. It is hilarious/sad how many guys don't see this behaviour as unethical/immoral. Geez, you are such a weirdo. | ||
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JimmyJRaynor
Canada17895 Posts
its 100% standard to change one's views between age 15 and age 25. | ||
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PurE)Rabbit-SF
United States758 Posts
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WombaT
Northern Ireland27459 Posts
On August 24 2026 08:58 PurE)Rabbit-SF wrote: No luck, ain't gonna happen, bi-polar here :D I’ve had like 7 partners and a 4 year relationship while being bipolar so it’s doable! | ||
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