EPTDating: How's your luck? - Page 953
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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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LemOn
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B.I.G.
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dravernor
Netherlands6192 Posts
My boyfriend probably hears a lot of stuff he doesn’t need to or want to hear, but he is really good at listening and advising, and loving me anyway. It’s one of the things I appreciate the most about him. Additionally I talk about these things so that he can know everything and still have the choice of loving me or not, and it’s my way of keeping communication open. Especially when you don’t see each other often. | ||
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farvacola
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LemOn
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B.I.G.
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Point is that in the end I respect that she doesn't try to present herself any different from who she is, like it or not. | ||
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urmomdresslikafloozy
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Uldridge
Belgium5148 Posts
Do you want to settle down, get married? Why don't you keep the solo moms or the girls that want to get married? It's very normal for women that age to be frantic about wanting to settle down, their "good" years are fading (35 is often the age limit for women to start with kids for example) So ask yourself this: what do you actually want? | ||
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Twinkle Toes
United States3605 Posts
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evilfatsh1t
Australia8863 Posts
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B.I.G.
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Unless I'm completely off ofcourse. | ||
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Belisarius
Australia6233 Posts
If you just want to mess around then it seems like you're not doing that badly. If you want something more serious, why are you writing off the ones looking to settle? | ||
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B.I.G.
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ApatheticSchizoid
Canada85 Posts
On November 03 2017 13:07 urmomdresslikafloozy wrote: as a 30 year old 6'2 skinny white boy who has never had a girlfriend for longer than 3 months, I might be cursed to live in my cocoon of self banishment forever alone. I'm a decent looking dude that owns a house has a good job with benefits but girls seem to chance like the seasons at this point. I work as a sports and conditioning trainer at the local community college coaching womens soccer, tennis, volleyball, and softball and always seem to get involved with a girl once summer and winter break comes around but it never lasts because they either transfer on scholarship or graduate and move away. The girls I date my age all seem to turn out to be solo moms or girls that want to get married and have kids in the very near future so I really dont know how to proceed. What am i doing wrong? To me it seems like you're looking for girls in the wrong areas. I'm in college right now and apart from my current GF, no one else wants to be tied down in college especially not right after. Try book stores or even local sporting events that cater to an older crowd. My city has several adult leagues that seem perfect for you to get out there and meet like minded people. Not a bad way of going about it. | ||
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urmomdresslikafloozy
191 Posts
On November 03 2017 15:54 Belisarius wrote: Yeah I feel like "what do you want?" is the relevant question. If you just want to mess around then it seems like you're not doing that badly. If you want something more serious, why are you writing off the ones looking to settle? I guess i really dont know what I want lol. I am an only child and moved away from my parents along time ago so nobody has been breathing down my neck to settle down, get into a committed relationship, and start a family, but mabye they should have? I have friends and neighbors my age that are married and have children that i hang out with sometimes but I cant really relate because ive been independent for so long. Its getting to the point that asking out college girls when you are 10 years older than them is getting borderline creepy so i need to change my strats. I guess ill give the adults sports league thing a shot  | ||
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bloodwhore~
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On November 03 2017 18:38 ApatheticSchizoid wrote:To me it seems like you're looking for girls in the wrong areas. I'm in college right now and apart from my current GF, no one else wants to be tied down in college especially not right after. Try book stores or even local sporting events that cater to an older crowd. My city has several adult leagues that seem perfect for you to get out there and meet like minded people. Not a bad way of going about it. I don't know. I just came from university. I used Tinder there and around 50% or more wanted serious relationships, and even more were open to it. At least the ones I've dated/ talked to. | ||
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waffelz
Germany711 Posts
On November 04 2017 05:11 bloodwhore~ wrote: I don't know. I just came from university. I used Tinder there and around 50% or more wanted serious relationships, and even more were open to it. At least the ones I've dated/ talked to. I am sorry to break it to you, but in my (second hand) experience those 50% are mostly ppl that are too insecure to admit they just want to sleep around because society etc. Sure most will be fine if a relationship comes from it, but that’s nothing special either. Generally there are only very few people that are really opposed to being in a relationship. Or maybe the tinder demographic is really that different between countries. | ||
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
On November 04 2017 05:16 waffelz wrote:I am sorry to break it to you, but in my (second hand) experience those 50% are mostly ppl that are too insecure to admit they just want to sleep around because society etc. Sure most will be fine if a relationship comes from it, but that’s nothing special either. Generally there are only very few people that are really opposed to being in a relationship. Or maybe the tinder demographic is really that different between countries. I doubt anyone I've talked to have actrively lied because of some social thing. I'm usually very upfront with what I'm looking for. It goes both ways though, sometimes i've wanted serious and been dissed because of that and sometimes i've wanted something casual and been dissed because of that. A lot of people write in their bios something like "If you're looking to hook up, swipe left." or "Looking for something serious". | ||
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