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On January 07 2013 05:38 Schnullerbacke13 wrote:
i fell in crazy love to a co-worker, left my wife and my 2 year old son overnight.
My wife took the house (had payed ~half of that, but could not stand the lawyer hassle, now she sold it and its hard to get anything back) and tried to kill me from behind with a knife, also destroyed all my computers, guitars and my piano ..
sounds like you had a good thing and threw it away. I sincerely hope it ends up being worth it.
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It has come to my attention that i am in love..
FUCK!!
She has a guy and a kid...
I'm a fucking idiot.
FUCK!
Are they gonna fuck tonight?
Did they fuck last night?
Am i allowed to ask her?
She said they aren't doing too good,, but they can still fuck right? Do i really want to know?
Such a freaking weird state of mind.. It will pass after a few days i think,, it just hit me like a ton of bricks.. I need to adjust..
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On January 07 2013 05:49 Zinnwaldite wrote:
It has come to my attention that i am in love..
FUCK!!
She has a guy and a kid...
I'm a fucking idiot.
FUCK!
Are they gonna fuck tonight?
Did they fuck last night?
Am i allowed to ask her?
She said they aren't doing too good,, but they can still fuck right? Do i really want to know?
Such a freaking weird state of mind.. It will pass after a few days i think,, it just hit me like a ton of bricks.. I need to adjust..
if you're close enough to her for her to tell you that her relationship isn't going too well, I'd say you're either a. friendzoned or b. she likes you and she's waiting for you to make a move. I don't advocate cheating at all (for the cheater or person cheating with them) but it sounds like you might have a chance.
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On January 07 2013 05:57 iamahydralisk wrote:Show nested quote +On January 07 2013 05:49 Zinnwaldite wrote:
It has come to my attention that i am in love..
FUCK!!
She has a guy and a kid...
I'm a fucking idiot.
FUCK!
Are they gonna fuck tonight?
Did they fuck last night?
Am i allowed to ask her?
She said they aren't doing too good,, but they can still fuck right? Do i really want to know?
Such a freaking weird state of mind.. It will pass after a few days i think,, it just hit me like a ton of bricks.. I need to adjust.. if you're close enough to her for her to tell you that her relationship isn't going too well, I'd say you're either a. friendzoned or b. she likes you and she's waiting for you to make a move. I don't advocate cheating at all (for the cheater or person cheating with them) but it sounds like you might have a chance.
I doubt I'm friendzoned just yet.. We spent five hours on the phone, and things were said that make it pretty clear that she kinda wishes things were different.. It's just that the timing is really bad..
What i don't know is how much of their relationship remains. Often, when things get bad in relationships they tend to become mostly physical, until they eventually end. I do not like where my mind takes me. I have no claim to her, but it just messes with my psyche.
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On January 07 2013 05:38 Schnullerbacke13 wrote:
i fell in crazy love to a co-worker, left my wife and my 2 year old son overnight.
My wife took the house (had payed ~half of that, but could not stand the lawyer hassle, now she sold it and its hard to get anything back) and tried to kill me from behind with a knife, also destroyed all my computers, guitars and my piano ..
Holy shit...
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On January 07 2013 06:18 Zinnwaldite wrote:Show nested quote +On January 07 2013 05:57 iamahydralisk wrote:On January 07 2013 05:49 Zinnwaldite wrote:
It has come to my attention that i am in love..
FUCK!!
She has a guy and a kid...
I'm a fucking idiot.
FUCK!
Are they gonna fuck tonight?
Did they fuck last night?
Am i allowed to ask her?
She said they aren't doing too good,, but they can still fuck right? Do i really want to know?
Such a freaking weird state of mind.. It will pass after a few days i think,, it just hit me like a ton of bricks.. I need to adjust.. if you're close enough to her for her to tell you that her relationship isn't going too well, I'd say you're either a. friendzoned or b. she likes you and she's waiting for you to make a move. I don't advocate cheating at all (for the cheater or person cheating with them) but it sounds like you might have a chance. I doubt I'm friendzoned just yet.. We spent five hours on the phone, and things were said that make it pretty clear that she kinda wishes things were different.. It's just that the timing is really bad.. What i don't know is how much of their relationship remains. Often, when things get bad in relationships they tend to become mostly physical, until they eventually end. I do not like where my mind takes me. I have no claim to her, but it just messes with my psyche.
The question is almost never about what has been said, the question is about what has been done on a physical level. That's in most cases the only thing to properly determine how the whole thing is going.
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my luck is pretty damn good. but this thread is really entertaining.
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@Zinnwaldite
Steer clear. Always.
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On January 07 2013 14:03 Falling wrote:
@Zinnwaldite
Steer clear. Always.
on the contrary he should go for it. nothing more thrilling than stealing girls out of relationships.
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On January 07 2013 14:15 TheDraken wrote:on the contrary he should go for it. nothing more thrilling than stealing girls out of relationships.
If not for her or the guy, then for the kid. That sort of stuff is a mess and to be a cause of it...
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On January 06 2013 22:27 XiaoJoyce- wrote:
I fall for this guy, who used to msg me all the time. And ask me out.
Recently it is the other way round, I msg him all the time, but he took very long to reply me. . .
Is it over??
LOL didn't you blog about some guy problems back in the day
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On January 07 2013 14:28 Falling wrote:Show nested quote +On January 07 2013 14:15 TheDraken wrote:On January 07 2013 14:03 Falling wrote:
@Zinnwaldite
Steer clear. Always. on the contrary he should go for it. nothing more thrilling than stealing girls out of relationships. If not for her or the guy, then for the kid. That sort of stuff is a mess and to be a cause of it...
This, a million times over. And also for your own sanity's sake @ Zinnwaldite.
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Made out with a girl on day 1, day 2 i told her it was a mistake and that i didn't have any feelings for her since it she really did like me for a long time apparently. Day 3 im studying in the library at college a little bit late at night. We talk a bit in the study room, asks to give me a blowjob, said yes. Afterwards she asked if i liked her now. Said no. Thats the extent of my dating. Took me 10 minutes of face rape before i figured out how to kiss back on day 1.
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For some reason I never had issues in attracting girls. In most cases I just did not feel like doing something about it (whether due to timing/time/uncertainty/insecurities about my life at that moment). In any way, fast forward to present.
I am visiting my home for the holidays and I get to catch up with a girl from my company of friends that used to 'like' me years ago ( for years now she is a close friend of my best bud + 'friend' of mine + sister of a friend in the bunch). I find out that for five months now she is no longer with her 5 year long bf, and while there is no clear sign as to what she wants now (only some elusive signs such as touching me when no apparent need is there, hanging around with me when she could speak/touch others from our friends that are present in some cases), I am afraid that I am kind of falling for her (as in I want to spend some intimate time with her).
In the end I don't think she really wishes to do anything with me (even though I am quite confident that she digs me) and I have to leave for abroad for 6 months in 20 days. Currently struggling not to get too emotional about it but darn it my situation with all the uncertainty sure blows.
So yeah, there you go. That is my most current 'dating' story.
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On January 07 2013 14:28 Falling wrote:Show nested quote +On January 07 2013 14:15 TheDraken wrote:On January 07 2013 14:03 Falling wrote:
@Zinnwaldite
Steer clear. Always. on the contrary he should go for it. nothing more thrilling than stealing girls out of relationships. If not for her or the guy, then for the kid. That sort of stuff is a mess and to be a cause of it...
Definitely.
Also, to the guy who just got engaged, congrats! (I don't seem to be as cynical as too many others ^^)
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On January 07 2013 15:19 Alryk wrote:Show nested quote +On January 07 2013 14:28 Falling wrote:On January 07 2013 14:15 TheDraken wrote:On January 07 2013 14:03 Falling wrote:
@Zinnwaldite
Steer clear. Always. on the contrary he should go for it. nothing more thrilling than stealing girls out of relationships. If not for her or the guy, then for the kid. That sort of stuff is a mess and to be a cause of it... Definitely. Also, to the guy who just got engaged, congrats! (I don't seem to be as cynical as too many others ^^)
I always felt it was up to you to try and get your boy to break up with his girl after they get engaged. Bringing up all the negatives about marriage.
If your boy can take all the negative energy and still go threw with it, he's got to be madly in love with the lucky lady. Then you've done your duty ensuring that your buddy has thought it threw completely and can congratulate him on his wedding day knowing they are going to go far.
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I gave up and decided to just embrace my fate of becoming a wizard.
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*sigh* I think I'll just go out and have fun for awhile. If I'm still single and interested if/when she comes around, i might take a chance on it. But i feel going in now would only disrupt things. The kid is always the most important thing, and I'm not gonna be a source of chaos in this very key period of her development. Better to let things sort themselves out on their end.
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Is 6 years too much of an age gap? I know there's always stories of the gold digger 30 year difference relationships but it still nags the back of my mind occasionally..
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On January 07 2013 16:56 laoji wrote:
Is 6 years too much of an age gap? I know there's always stories of the gold digger 30 year difference relationships but it still nags the back of my mind occasionally..
Provided you're both over like, 25, it shouldn't be an issue. After a certain point people pretty well stop maturing and age becomes less relevant after all.
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