EPTOn April 05 2012 19:03 essencez wrote:
If you want something you’ve never had, you must do something you’ve never done.
If you want something you’ve never had, you must do something you’ve never done.
Awesome quote
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Chill
Calgary25954 Posts
Awesome quote | ||
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B.I.G.
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A weak man does what he can, a real man does what he want. | ||
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Kukaracha
France1954 Posts
Aye, may be moons will pass before ye are given the chance to share a piece of Bach's "well-tempered clavier", but our life is a long one. | ||
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Ushio
Canada868 Posts
On April 05 2012 19:03 essencez wrote: If you want something you’ve never had, you must do something you’ve never done. this quote just completely warped the fabric of my mind | ||
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zalz
Netherlands3704 Posts
Not because it will work, but because she will shoot you down. Then, a few months down the road, when you realize your heart is in fact still beating, you will learn the valuable lesson that love isn't that big of a fucking deal. I don't like to blame Hollywood for everything, but they are certainly to blame for this distorted view of love that (mostly) young males have. Ask her out. Learn to deal with women now. It is going to save you a ton of headache down the road, because you are only going to keep making a bigger deal out of it than it really is. | ||
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DoctorHelvetica
United States15034 Posts
I also don't recommend pulling any weird "romantic" stunt or anything like that. Just talk to her. If u get rejected it's good because then you learn how to deal with that and move on. Most guys who get friendzoned only get friendzoned because they never straight up tell girls they wanna go out or that they're interested in them and expect girls to pick up on all these weird signals and implications and get mad that a relationship doesn't just happen like it does in anime. dont be that guy | ||
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Loser777
1931 Posts
(Seriously, why did you even mention those traits?) Realistically, since you mentioned that you're probably not going to end up at the same school after high school, you really have nothing to lose. Try to enjoy a fleeting moment. | ||
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dAPhREAk
Nauru12397 Posts
― Thomas Jefferson | ||
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meguca
United States78 Posts
Thank you, everyone, for the kind and thoughtful replies. I have been reading them throughout the day, and now that I am finally at home, comfortably ensconced within my double blankets with my laptop in front of me, it is time for an update. This past week I have paid particular attention to the people around me, trying to locate this girl within the crowded hallways―but to no avail. I have been intending to ask her if she would like to have lunch with me on the weekend, but when I cannot even speak to her in person, what am I to do? Hopefully, I will be able to see her tomorrow, as she sometimes stops by after my math class ends―but if not, then what? Shall I resort to inviting her to lunch over online chat, if all else fails? (We are on break from school next week, so neither of us will have any opportunity to see each other if we do not make plans to do so.) I truly, truly wish to spend time with her... but she is truly elusive. At any rate, a couple of days ago, I had a small conversation with her regarding the topic of prom. I inquired if she thought that anybody from our grade would ask her, and she replied that she "doubted it ... knowing [her] luck with guys". However, she did mention that she was anticipating that someone from our grade who she rather dislikes might try to ask her, and if he indeed does do so, she has prepared a way to 'escape' from the situation. Moreover, she expressed a desire to attend the event with someone, remarking that since she doubted anyone from our grade would ask her, she would have to ask someone not from our grade (as, apparently, senior girls should only ask people who are underclassmen or high school graduates). She went on to say that she "chose the underclass guy [she] might ask solely for his ability to make everything less awkward and more fun", particularly stating that she did not wish me to make "assumptions" regarding this person―in particular, she did not want me to "assume" that she "liked" this person. Regardless, is this a point of concern? I am unsure how I should approach this situation. Moreover, to complicate matters, she said that she "might not ask him if [she] decides to ask [her] college friend instead"―a person about whom she has divulged almost no information save for this tantalizing yet mysterious statement. People of Team Liquid, I beseech you―help. | ||
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Cyber_Cheese
Australia3615 Posts
You won't be rejected, I can actually guarantee it. If at any point you don't think you can do it, 'Fine, don't believe in yourself. Believe in the me that believes in you!' - Kamina Was hoping to find a video of kaminas believe quotes, that would have been awesome Btw: How is that an update, if the words are from before the OP :/ | ||
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DoctorHelvetica
United States15034 Posts
worst thing she can say is no | ||
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shinosai
United States1577 Posts
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phosphorylation
United States2935 Posts
While "just asking her out" might be the logical and sound step for most people his age, I don't think this is a particularly good suggestion in this slightly unusual context. Instead, I recommend that you make a conscious effort to gradually shift your online chats to real life conversations. You don't have to rush this process but I think it's a critical change you need to make. This will allow you to develop a more natural relationship with her both online and real life. Once this happens, and if you continue to make good connections with her in real life, actually asking her out to a prom might even become trivial. Awesome writing style btw... kind of reminds me of my old writing style, except mine was quite more stilted. PS. Some ideas for real life encounters: ask her to teach you some piano. Most proficient pianists (including myself) like teaching others and it might be less awkward than always to talk about random stuff. When this does happen, try to sit next to her on the bench and try to initiate (NATURALLY not like a creeper) some physical contact. | ||
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XDJuicebox
United States593 Posts
[If she knows about Starcraft, that is] | ||
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phosphorylation
United States2935 Posts
On April 06 2012 10:18 XDJuicebox wrote: You should consider learning Korean...and get her to teach it to you :D :D :D [If she knows about Starcraft, that is] let's hope this method goes better for him than it went for you | ||
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DoctorHelvetica
United States15034 Posts
On April 06 2012 09:48 phosphorylation wrote: Most people here are giving pretty bad advice. I think the context of his relationship, his background, his personality (and hers) all need to be taken into account. I maintain that I am better able to envision the situation that most others since it seems like he and I share similar backgrounds and personality. While "just asking her out" might be the logical and sound step for most people his age, I don't think this is a particularly good suggestion in this slightly unusual context. Instead, I recommend that you make an effort to gradually shift your online chats to real life conversations. You don't have to rush this process but I think it's an important change you need to make. This will allow you to develop a more natural relationship with her both online and real life. Once this happens, and if you continue to make good connections with her in real life, actually asking her out to a prom might even become trivial. Awesome writing style btw... kind of reminds me of my old writing style, except mine was quite more stilted. PS. Some ideas for real life encounters: ask her to teach you some piano. Most proficient pianists (including myself) like teaching others and it might be less awkward than always to talk about random stuff. When this does happen, try to sit next to her on the bench and try to initiate (NATURALLY not like a creeper) some physical contact. when u don't make a move or let your intentions be known for a super long time that's how you get friendzoned | ||
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phosphorylation
United States2935 Posts
Plus, I am telling him to make a move, albeit gradually and subtly. | ||
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Najda
United States3765 Posts
I'm not qualified to give you advice on what to do, but I agree with everyone else's mentality that doing nothing is the worst thing you can do. | ||
Jibba
United States22883 Posts
On April 06 2012 09:48 phosphorylation wrote: This is how you get friendzoned 90% of the time. Be direct, maybe clever (like the sign guy) and sweet.Most people here are giving pretty bad advice. I think the context of his relationship, his background, his personality (and hers) all need to be taken into account. I maintain that I am better able to envision the situation that most others since it seems like he and I share similar backgrounds and personality. While "just asking her out" might be the logical and sound step for most people his age, I don't think this is a particularly good suggestion in this slightly unusual context. Instead, I recommend that you make a conscious effort to gradually shift your online chats to real life conversations. You don't have to rush this process but I think it's a critical change you need to make. This will allow you to develop a more natural relationship with her both online and real life. Once this happens, and if you continue to make good connections with her in real life, actually asking her out to a prom might even become trivial. | ||
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DoctorHelvetica
United States15034 Posts
On April 06 2012 10:37 phosphorylation wrote: That holds true for many people but it isn't ALWAYS true -- especially when both parties in question are introverted Asians. Advice should always be tailored to the given context and background. Plus, I am telling him to make a move, albeit gradually and subtly. the things this guy are saying are a lot like all my abc friends and they always get friendzoned or think theyre getting "betrayed" by girls when theyre really not because theyre so passive/indirect all the time and make too many assumptions if it backfires at least he learned how to be assertive and direct which will help him more down the road unless he only ever thinks he will be interested in a passive asian girl for the rest of his life | ||
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