meguca's 'girl blog' - a great internal struggle - Page 5

B.I.G.

3251 Posts

April 07 2012 15:16 GMT

#81

On April 07 2012 21:04 zalz wrote:
Movies are terrible.

You are literally sitting next to one another saying nearly anything for anywhere in between 1-2 hours.

Stop trying to come up with ways to go out with a girl and not talk to her. Sooner or later you are going to have to actually talk to one.

Well you don't have to, you can also be forever alone, but if that doesn't sound appealing, get over it.

In this case, I really think Engrish has the better advice. The obsession over "teh one" is a waste of time.

i very clearly said example, no need to fret about the whole movie thing. about the girl part i guess its up to megacusa to decide if he wants to go the prom with her or just with a girl in general.

phosphorylation

United States2935 Posts

April 07 2012 16:59 GMT

#82

I have to agree that movies aren't too good unless 1)It is a horror movie and the girl tends to be touchy/get scared easily or 2) you are watching it in your bedroom or hers, not in the cinema.

Servius_Fulvius

United States947 Posts

April 07 2012 19:19 GMT

#83

On April 07 2012 14:40 meguca wrote:
...such is life...

Edit: Actually, I re-read the conversation a few time, and it seems like I missed a particular nuance. Here is the particular wording:

<me>: well if you have some free time lets go out for lunch sometime :D
<other person>: lawl.... prob not gonna happen until at least next month...

Perhaps this is hopeless, stupid optimism, but the meaning of her statement does change radically depending on whether she meant that having free time isn't going to happen until at least next month or that going out for lunch won't happen until at least next month. Perhaps, though, I am merely deluded.

Oh, you're deluded alright - deluded into thinking you will get an answer by reading "nuances" and once again overanalyzing the situation. If you would have asked her days ago things like lunch and schedule clashes wouldn't even matter because you'd already have your answer.

I did the same kind of things in high school. I became best friends with a girl and spent 2.5 years crushing on her and trying to figure her out while never actually making a move. Yeah, it's an experience best learned the hard way, but you're not even asking her out. You're asking her to a dance. Just do it already!

DoctorHelvetica

United States15034 Posts

April 08 2012 10:02 GMT

#84

best way to figure out what someone thinks is to ask them what they think

isn't wondering if someone likes you or not worst and scarier than finding out they dont? at least then u can move on and stop wasting your time throwing yourself at someone who doesnt want you

and you learn not to take it personally

jacen

Austria3644 Posts

April 08 2012 10:30 GMT

#85

On April 06 2012 11:34 Jibba wrote:
This is how you get friendzoned 90% of the time.

Do you really weigh your chances when it comes to (romantic) relationships? Sounds like PUA advice, which I'm not sure is what he really needs.

utelektr

United States109 Posts

April 08 2012 11:40 GMT

#86

Are you Sayle's brother?

Jibba

United States22883 Posts

April 08 2012 12:59 GMT

#87

On April 08 2012 19:30 jacen wrote:

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Do you really weigh your chances when it comes to (romantic) relationships? Sounds like PUA advice, which I'm not sure is what he really needs.

No, I'm just saying that being passive and trying to get them know them for an extended period before asking them out is generally a very unlikely path to getting a date. You don't have to play dumbass PUA games, just be direct, honest and funny.