I miss her.
I spoke with my ex gf this evening for 4 hours...
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ranshaked
United States870 Posts
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SarR
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ranshaked
United States870 Posts
On July 20 2011 16:29 SaRrAceN wrote: Now gogogo poke the baby's head. merrzz User was warned for this post | ||
krndandaman
Mozambique16569 Posts
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ranshaked
United States870 Posts
On July 20 2011 16:32 krndandaman wrote: wait, what...? i dont mean to sound judgmental or anything but i just can't help feel that this isn't going to turn out well for both parties That's the thing. I told her many times that I'm biased. I told her that I know for a fact that I'd treat her a million times better, but the situation is just absolutely horrific. It sucks when you've been in love with someone for so many years that it ends like that | ||
Venus.exe
United States285 Posts
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ranshaked
United States870 Posts
On July 20 2011 16:36 Venus.exe wrote: Hmm thanks. I'll look in to it. We are talking on aim right now. And she just stated: Google "twin flames". It's kind of like a soul mate but it's basically your other "half" who makes you a whole and you can wait for your partner despite what situation he/she maybe in because the relationship is just so much bigger than anything humanly. It's a mystic concept so I would say take it with a grain of salt. "I don't want you to get the wrong idea" It sucks because when we spoke I can hear it in her voice that she wanted to say so many things, but she just couldn't because of her morality with her husband at this point. | ||
Artifice
United States523 Posts
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ranshaked
United States870 Posts
On July 20 2011 16:38 Artifice wrote: The whole "Lets get married right fuckin' now because I'm in the military and this won't work out otherwise" thing seems really silly to me. It doesn't seem to work out often in my experience. So maybe hold out for that? But that doesn't sound smart either. Really if she meant that much to you, you shouldn't have given up on it when you were 19, even if she did have a kid. Shitty situation for sure :| I was 19 and in college with a crappy job. She wanted to move to Florida, but I couldn't rationally see it happen. I tend to think that way; while she thinks in fantasy and instinct. | ||
Gamegene
United States8308 Posts
Believe me when I say that it only hurts your fragile heart more and more as you think about lost love more and more. | ||
ranshaked
United States870 Posts
On July 20 2011 16:46 Gamegene wrote: Move on man and meet someone better. Believe me when I say that it only hurts your fragile heart more and more as you think about lost love more and more. It's frustrating because for 2 years I've lurked on occasion her facebook and other things just to never get the balls up to actually talk to her, and then she follows me on twitter and the next day we have a 4 hour conversation about everything. I hate how poorly this guy is treating her. But she's basically stuck. She refuses to have another child to a man that will not be with her for life. I should have been that man, but I had been to afraid to accept it. | ||
Vain
Netherlands1115 Posts
On July 20 2011 16:49 ranshaked wrote: It's frustrating because for 2 years I've lurked on occasion her facebook and other things just to never get the balls up to actually talk to her, and then she follows me on twitter and the next day we have a 4 hour conversation about everything. I hate how poorly this guy is treating her. But she's basically stuck. She refuses to have another child to a man that will not be with her for life. I should have been that man, but I had been to afraid to accept it. You say it yourself."I should have been". That's in the past now and you can't do anything in your power to change that. It really sucks but you'll have to accept that at least for now. There is no reason to poke in her existing relationship either. If she leaves him for you, how can you ever trust her to never do the same thing to you? If you want to talk to her do it if it's not too painfull. Otherwise just leave it at this. that's the best you can do right now. I wouldn't wait for her relationship to end because if it doesn't it can be very hard to watch. i hope you can find a good way to handle this, You are the only one that knows the whole situation | ||
ranshaked
United States870 Posts
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arb
Noobville17919 Posts
she has 2 kids. dont tear up a happy home | ||
Zapdos_Smithh
Canada2620 Posts
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ranshaked
United States870 Posts
On July 20 2011 17:04 arb wrote: just leave her and her family alone, shit. she has 2 kids. dont tear up a happy home You're right. I'm being selfish. Ive had so many failed relationships for the past two years that it just seems right for us two to be together. I know she wants it as well, but she realizes she cant | ||
ranshaked
United States870 Posts
On July 20 2011 17:04 Zapdos_Smithh wrote: Are we supposed to be impressed by 4 hours or something? I never speak on the phone, let alone for that long | ||
MrBitter
United States2939 Posts
On July 20 2011 16:24 ranshaked wrote: When I was 13 I lost my virginity to the most wonderful girl I've ever met in my entire 22 year life. We lost contact for 6 years, but when I was 19 we rekindled our relationship. With this, I learned she had a child with a man, which in turn led us to a 1 year relationship (long distance.) It was beautiful; yet she had a child and it was getting serious. Quite frankly I wasn't ready for it and we broke it off. Several weeks later she had found a new man and quickly got married. He was in the military and it was best for her and her child. Nonetheless, this evening we spoke for 4 hours on telephone. She currently lives in Hawaii with another child on the way. It was amazing, but I know in my hear it was wrong. I told her everything I had ever wanted to say; but in the end...she's married with a child on the way. I'm not quite sure exactly how to handle this. There's an odd connection between the two of us that never fades, but we always make due with the most awkward situations possible. She understands me. I understand her. It is why she came to me. I miss her. 13!? Jesus kids are starting young these days.... | ||
Dfgj
Singapore5922 Posts
The more you bring yourself back to memories and the past and tempt yourself with thinking about them and what could be, the harder it is, because you don't let yourself move on with life. Yeah, it feels like you don't want to give up what you might have, but it's better to do so. | ||
Gamegene
United States8308 Posts
On July 20 2011 16:49 ranshaked wrote: It's frustrating because for 2 years I've lurked on occasion her facebook and other things just to never get the balls up to actually talk to her, and then she follows me on twitter and the next day we have a 4 hour conversation about everything. I hate how poorly this guy is treating her. But she's basically stuck. She refuses to have another child to a man that will not be with her for life. I should have been that man, but I had been to afraid to accept it. I know where you're coming from. I had that conversation 6 times with a girl I shouldn't have fallen in love with. And each time I had that conversation I only felt worse and worse about not being able to be part of the story. And it drove me nuts each time we had to part ways, as life goes, to the point where I would talk to her and have that conversation again, just to have some relief in knowing what happened to what could have been. But then I would feel, again, worse and worse about not being able to be part of the story. Believe me, life is full of "what ifs". It only hurts the more you think about it. ...And the sad truth is that there's nothing you can do, so the pain becomes pointless. | ||
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