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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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killa_robot
Canada1884 Posts
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Titusmaster6
United States5937 Posts
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
On June 23 2015 09:07 GreenHorizons wrote: I would advise it. Bow's aren't too tough, but arrows aren't easy if you want to shoot them more than about 5 ft with any accuracy. Last time I went camping we made crossbow bolts and tried an arrow (For a real bow) Find a couple (preferably small) arrows at a GoodWill or something and save the effort. You'll probably be pretty satisfied with the bow, should shoot 20+ft with enough power to penetrate a hay target. This isn't a first date right? No not a first date didn't think arrows would be the issue damn. But yeah I guess making the bow myself then going to the woods on a quest for arrows might be fun enough - I already texted her that "I need a hand with something. In the woods" She replied "should I bring a shovel? You killed someone didn't you" I just shot back "no need, I've got the Axe and a string already, if you happen to have an outdoor knife, bring it with you tho (no joke)" It will spoil the surprise though if I turn up with a bow already - plan was to to dazzle her with my manliness making it :D | ||
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GreenHorizons
United States23469 Posts
On June 23 2015 16:40 LemOn wrote: Nah didn't think arrows would be the issue damn. But yeah I guess making the bow myself then going to the woods on a quest for arrows might be fun enough - I already texted her that "I need a hand with something. In the woods" She replied "should I bring a shovel? You killed someone didn't you" I just shot back "no need, I've got the Axe and a string already, if you happen to have an outdoor knife, bring it with you tho (no joke)" It will spoil the surprise though if I turn up with a bow already - plan was to to dazzle her with my manliness making it :D Sounds like a good idea to me. The way I'd do it is that I would bring out the pre-made (bought or custom) arrows and challenge her to a bow making contest, then an archery contest. Pretty sure we established we like different types of women though  Either way, if you want to impress her though I'd go with making the bow in front of her, as it's harder to screw up. I'm telling you making arrows is hard to do with any decent outcome. You could bring some feathers (for fletching) if you insist on making the arrows. Whether you clue her into the fact you brought them is up to you. The idea of wild feathers is icky to some people though. Not sure on the environment and how likely you are to find suitable materials otherwise. I'm probably stealing this idea, just fyi. | ||
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
I found arrows for $3 each ina shop 20mins from me - these should more than do ![[image loading]](http://i.gyazo.com/d3fa17b25cac36713d0ae4300d751178.png) we'll do fun stuff in town - she wants to take me to a place she likes that I haven't been to, there's some latino food festival thingy I'll take her to. And then we'll pick up the gear at my place and head to a park in the woods nearby to make the bow/shoot some trees. hopefully when she sees the arrows along with an axe, knife and string and duct tape it'll make it more believable that I don't plan to murder her in the woods :D | ||
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
In other news I went back to my hometown and holy fuck the girls on Tinder here. I counted to 32 before a girl who wasn't like 8/10 showed up. Also I tested the "set phasers to cougar" type deal and matched with a woman who is 33 years old, this could be fun. | ||
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GreenHorizons
United States23469 Posts
On June 23 2015 17:24 LemOn wrote: OK thanks for tip - would've sucked. and making arrows is not nearly as fun I found arrows for $3 each ina shop 20mins from me - these should more than do we'll do fun stuff in town - she wants to take me to a place she likes that I haven't been to, there's some latino food festival thingy I'll take her to. And then we'll pick up the gear at my place and head to a park in the woods nearby to make the bow/shoot some trees. hopefully when she sees the arrows along with an axe, knife and string and duct tape it'll make it more believable that I don't plan to murder her in the woods :D Sounds good, wouldn't plan on shooting at trees though the arrows won't stick and will be less satisfying. A paper target on a soft dirt mound (not an aggressive ant hill though) would work. Or stringing it between trees works. Just make sure you plan on missing and your arrows land in an easy to find place. Styrofoam would be a good target too, just put in in a garbage bag or 2 to limit the litter. Depending on the quality of the bow you could potentially puncture a 2 liter which is fun. At least watch a couple videos on making them if you haven't tried already. EDIT: $3 arrows are a swinging deal too. | ||
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SixStrings
Germany2046 Posts
On June 19 2015 23:08 unsaeglich wrote: I can't wait you for you to fall in love with the girl that teaches you sex  Once you have (good) sex, you will find out how much you enjoy being this girl. I was in a similar situation, and I was until a few month with that girl together, total 1,5+ years. Great time though. I am somewhat active on tinder too, and managed to be together (for 3 weeks, it seems) with an incredibly hot, and strange 18 year old girl ( I am 25 now). And while she's every nerds dream (so mine too ofc) : petite half japanese girl with natural white blond hair (albino influences), swiss, american and german pass, watches this anime stuff in japanese( translates to me fluently while watching), plays dota / lol / wc3 / cod / and some mmorpg's, worked as model, and didn't have a partner or a relationship in the past 2 years (she is very inexperienced and ehrm.. incredibly tight). For some reason she works at least 12 houres a days as apprentice for stylist (haircutter). For her it's that important that in her little free time she takes extra customers and makes their hair, and weekends too, that she has basicly no time left to do anything else. (I don't think money is the reason, maybe for the extra work, but as apprentice you don't get paid by hours..) Anyway meeting with her, regularly is become more and more impossible, as she also doesn't have a very good timemanagement (spend one saturday wondering if she would show up eventually), no clue what she was thinking looking for a steady relationship. This world is weird. So let's see what else tinder has in store for us, I wouldn't mind a shade more normal.. Call me creepy, but I think it's rather romantic that you made up such an elaborate origin-story for your body pillow. | ||
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unsaeglich
260 Posts
anyway six strings, if you keep at it, I might upload a picture of my pillow without fear being banned for bragging (only one she posted publicly everywhere anyway) | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32088 Posts
You'll find out a whole lot about her personality that way! | ||
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waffelz
Germany711 Posts
On June 23 2015 23:26 QuanticHawk wrote: imo, don't tell her what you're doing. Just say you've got a surprise and drive off into the woods with rope, a burlap bag, a hunting knife, and a ball gag. Make her carry the shovel You'll find out a whole lot about her personality that way! I actually would love to try that out. I love disturbing people and after that, every other date should be an improvement. | ||
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SixStrings
Germany2046 Posts
On June 23 2015 23:03 unsaeglich wrote: maybe that's the reason she didn't respond anymore to my calls or my messages, maybe you're hot on the trail, or she really was just busy styling some other customer's hair. How can I tell anyway six strings, if you keep at it, I might upload a picture of my pillow without fear being banned for bragging (only one she posted publicly everywhere anyway)I dare you. | ||
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Grumbels
Netherlands7031 Posts
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arb
Noobville17921 Posts
it makes me pretty fucking sick. i have learned finally no one is worth killing yourself over so maybe this will end my days without eating or my week long drinking binges or any of the other reckless shit i do nowadays | ||
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Epishade
United States2267 Posts
I really liked her too, but I'm not sure if things will be the same anymore. I'm not even sure she won't change her mind again and not take me back. I wish I just knew already. The uncertainty is worse than knowing for sure. I've had a lump in my throat all day and last night and have teared up a lot already. Wish things had turned out differently. | ||
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Juddas
768 Posts
On June 24 2015 05:13 Epishade wrote: Ugh. My girlfriend gave me the "we need to talk" thing last night and broke up with me today. I managed to talk her into reconsidering and taking me back but I don't know if it's going to last. She said she'll talk to me next week and that she's emotionally drained. When I asked if we were alright, she said she just needed a little bit of "me" time and said bye. I really liked her too, but I'm not sure if things will be the same anymore. I'm not even sure she won't change her mind again and not take me back. I wish I just knew already. The uncertainty is worse than knowing for sure. I've had a lump in my throat all day and last night and have teared up a lot already. Wish things had turned out differently. Dude let me tell you you are better than that. You don't need her to take you back. Sounds like the relationship is over to me and to give her her time. I know it sucks and things like this always suck. If she had those feelings just asking her to reconsider won't change them. From one man to another, move on, things will be better before you know it | ||
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arb
Noobville17921 Posts
On June 24 2015 05:13 Epishade wrote: Ugh. My girlfriend gave me the "we need to talk" thing last night and broke up with me today. I managed to talk her into reconsidering and taking me back but I don't know if it's going to last. She said she'll talk to me next week and that she's emotionally drained. When I asked if we were alright, she said she just needed a little bit of "me" time and said bye. I really liked her too, but I'm not sure if things will be the same anymore. I'm not even sure she won't change her mind again and not take me back. I wish I just knew already. The uncertainty is worse than knowing for sure. I've had a lump in my throat all day and last night and have teared up a lot already. Wish things had turned out differently. If it makes you feel any better, mine told me she wanted some time to herself, then me and my best friend caught her with another man not sure if that will actually make you feel better but yeah | ||
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Livelovedie
United States492 Posts
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Epishade
United States2267 Posts
I know, all of this probably makes me look like a jerk. I'm sure she feels unwanted because of my actions, even though it wasn't my intention at all. But I like her too much not to at least give it another chance. If it still doesn't work out then, then I can move on. | ||
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Acrofales
Spain18115 Posts
On June 24 2015 06:14 Epishade wrote: I'm positive she's not cheating on me. She likes me more than I like her though, and she felt like I didn't want to be a part of the relationship/commit to the relationship/let people know I was with her, such as by not changing my fb status to relationship with her or avoiding friends while we were together, or not liking public display of affection with her in front of people I know. I feel bad for it, but I would have done the same with any other girl because I don't really like "showing off" that I have a girlfriend to people I know, and I've told her this and that I very much wanted to be in the relationship. She also has a lot of health problems and she recently got another one that made me worry about having a future with her. I told her this and that's what started this breakup. She doesn't think I will ever be capable of liking her as much as she likes me. She told me she loved me a few days ago and I said I liked her a lot but that I just didn't feel comfortable saying that to her just yet and that I hoped she understood, which she seemed to take well enough, but now it just looks like another sign of me not wanting to commit. I know, all of this probably makes me look like a jerk. I'm sure she feels unwanted because of my actions, even though it wasn't my intention at all. But I like her too much not to at least give it another chance. If it still doesn't work out then, then I can move on. You need to meet somewhere in the middle. Sounds like she is the one giving everything in this relationship and you're just letting it all happen. It's not natural and it is completely normal that she feels the way she does. You need to do some soul searching: if this girl is truly worth a shot, then give her a shot. Get off the fence and show her that you really have feelings for her. If she's not worth that, then let her go. | ||
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