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On July 17 2015 07:05 bloodwhore~ wrote:Hehe thanks! I have a feeling she will want to, she is the one talking about sending bikini pics and she was the one who started the make-out session when we met the last time. 
She 100% wants to.
Asking you if you want to see her again
spontaneous kiss on 1st date
make out 2nd
her place 3rd
everything's text book pretty much
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On July 17 2015 06:44 bloodwhore~ wrote:Yes. Going to her place tomorrow, so maybe not after tomorrow . Quote from her: "if it gets too late you can always sleep over here, just so you know  ".
Good luck man Make sure you bring a condom or two!
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On July 17 2015 07:01 LemOn wrote:Show nested quote +On July 17 2015 05:30 Zooper31 wrote:On July 17 2015 04:48 LemOn wrote:
What's your strategy about girls you're dating meeting your friends and family btw?
When, circumstances etc. I feel like it should be a natural occurrence. It shouldn't be something that is explicitly setup with the sole purpose of meeting the family. Otherwise it just becomes something that is awkward and stiff and there's lots of questions involved like you're at a job interview. If you are together long enough and you aren't hiding it, you should just naturally meet them someday and introduce yourself. Eventually you will be invited to stuff and it just becomes normal and life goes on. Yeah she bumped into my mum once. When mum was visiting without me knowing, and that was okay. But like I have 2 pals I haven't seen for 2 years visiting, they are staying for 6 days (both speak English). I will of course go with them to help them out with some pickup first 2 nights - noway I'm inviting her to that. But How weird it would be if later the 3 of us+her hang out, e.g. for hiking one day. Not really sure about this - we've been going on 1-2 dates per week for over 4 months, strictly together and everything works so well. So 3 options 1) I will blow off my mates for one night to go on a date with her then join them later 2) Me + my mates will try to pickup 2 chicks in town, try to get them to commit to do stuff one day, that way it's 3chicks + 3 guys, and we'll go hiking or some other stuff. 3) Failing that just ask her to go to town with us - watch them do pickup, tell them what to do/set them missions (that'd be fun actually we're both really creative when it comes to that - she's a massive troll. And I'll show them how it's done on first 2 days so they should at least have to balls to do approaches) I guess option 3 sounds good when I think about it, we could have stories for a long time after they leave 
You haven't seen them in 2 years. What makes you think they haven't figured out how to approach women in that time too?
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On July 17 2015 07:01 LemOn wrote:Show nested quote +On July 17 2015 05:30 Zooper31 wrote:On July 17 2015 04:48 LemOn wrote:
What's your strategy about girls you're dating meeting your friends and family btw?
When, circumstances etc. I feel like it should be a natural occurrence. It shouldn't be something that is explicitly setup with the sole purpose of meeting the family. Otherwise it just becomes something that is awkward and stiff and there's lots of questions involved like you're at a job interview. If you are together long enough and you aren't hiding it, you should just naturally meet them someday and introduce yourself. Eventually you will be invited to stuff and it just becomes normal and life goes on. Yeah she bumped into my mum once. When mum was visiting without me knowing, and that was okay. But like I have 2 pals I haven't seen for 2 years visiting, they are staying for 6 days (both speak English). I will of course go with them to help them out with some pickup first 2 nights - noway I'm inviting her to that. But How weird it would be if later the 3 of us+her hang out, e.g. for hiking one day. Not really sure about this - we've been going on 1-2 dates per week for over 4 months, strictly together and everything works so well. So 3 options 1) I will blow off my mates for one night to go on a date with her then join them later 2) Me + my mates will try to pickup 2 chicks in town, try to get them to commit to do stuff one day, that way it's 3chicks + 3 guys, and we'll go hiking or some other stuff. 3) Failing that just ask her to go to town with us - watch them do pickup, tell them what to do/set them missions (that'd be fun actually we're both really creative when it comes to that - she's a massive troll. And I'll show them how it's done on first 2 days so they should at least have to balls to do approaches) I guess option 3 sounds good when I think about it, we could have stories for a long time after they leave
Things are only weird if you let them be weird. Your state of mind should dominate the proceedings. I don't see why you wouldn't want to let your mates meet this person that you like.
On July 17 2015 07:05 bloodwhore~ wrote:Hehe thanks! I have a feeling she will want to, she is the one talking about sending bikini pics and she was the one who started the make-out session when we met the last time.
She's probably frustrated you haven't made your own moves yet.
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On July 17 2015 07:41 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:Show nested quote +On July 17 2015 06:44 bloodwhore~ wrote:Yes. Going to her place tomorrow, so maybe not after tomorrow . Quote from her: "if it gets too late you can always sleep over here, just so you know ". Good luck man Make sure you bring a condom or two!
Bring 3
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On July 17 2015 10:29 Titusmaster6 wrote:Show nested quote +On July 17 2015 07:41 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On July 17 2015 06:44 bloodwhore~ wrote:Yes. Going to her place tomorrow, so maybe not after tomorrow . Quote from her: "if it gets too late you can always sleep over here, just so you know ". Good luck man Make sure you bring a condom or two! Bring 3
Actually more than 3 is the sweet spot
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That way if you fuck one up you can still fuck three times.
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On July 17 2015 10:38 farvacola wrote:Show nested quote +On July 17 2015 10:29 Titusmaster6 wrote:On July 17 2015 07:41 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On July 17 2015 06:44 bloodwhore~ wrote:Yes. Going to her place tomorrow, so maybe not after tomorrow . Quote from her: "if it gets too late you can always sleep over here, just so you know ". Good luck man Make sure you bring a condom or two! Bring 3 Actually more than 3 is the sweet spot
I hear sometimes you'll need every last one...
+ Show Spoiler +#CondomBrag is one of the most hilarious ways of projecting masculinity in a way that's barely less subtle than talking about dick length, but still highly entertaining. Try out: "Why do they even sell the small packs of condoms. It's way more economical to get the 60-packs" or "Oh, you use X condom... Don't you think they're kinda tight?" Warning: do not attempt at home unless you're okay with losing non-douchebag friends.
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On July 17 2015 15:59 Yoav wrote:+ Show Spoiler +#CondomBrag is one of the most hilarious ways of projecting masculinity in a way that's barely less subtle than talking about dick length, but still highly entertaining. Try out: "Why do they even sell the small packs of condoms. It's way more economical to get the 60-packs" or "Oh, you use X condom... Don't you think they're kinda tight?" Warning: do not attempt at home unless you're okay with losing non-douchebag friends.
I think the real brag would be pointing out that, as long as you can buy your condoms in the store, you arent that gifted. Even better: act suprised that someone is able to use the condoms from the store. Look at them in a short moment of suprise, then just smirk and walk away.
For real though, if you happen to end up in a conversation, where someone "casually" mentions that he has to buy brand X which is something along the lines of "extra large" (the US version of this would be the magnum brand I think), just casually point out to them that those arent really all that big and usually only covers the standard deviations of penis sizes, which means that its not that big.
Or talk with a few close female friends about penis sizes(this one is actual advice. It can be really usefull, especially if you are truly above/below average by a significant margin), get some knowledge and own with that, just leave out the part of personal preferences. There arent much easier ways to tear someones confident down than countering their penis/condombrag.
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Is it paranoid that I never trusted women's condoms or is that a rational precaution? Women's condom meaning a male condom procured by a woman, not an actual female condom.
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On July 17 2015 17:41 GreenHorizons wrote:
Is it paranoid that I never trusted women's condoms or is that a rational precaution? Women's condom meaning a male condom procured by a woman, not an actual female condom.
I dont know how statistically justified your precaucion is, but given the fact that it can potentially screw up your life and doesnt take much to prevent, I would say it is reasonable. It doesnt even have to involve bad intentions from the women, she could just stored the condom wrong and bringing your own seems common sense anyways. I strongly believe that contraception is mostly the mans job, since he has no saying if things go wrong(at least here in germany) plus, he is the only one who can use protection that also prevents the spread of STDs and it really doesnt take much.
To fit the condombrag-theme:
Just have a penis big enough, that the chances she has a fitting condom are extremely low. This way you can snuck in a #CondomBrag in the very last moment where it makes sense.
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On July 17 2015 09:23 IgnE wrote:Show nested quote +On July 17 2015 07:01 LemOn wrote:On July 17 2015 05:30 Zooper31 wrote:On July 17 2015 04:48 LemOn wrote:
What's your strategy about girls you're dating meeting your friends and family btw?
When, circumstances etc. I feel like it should be a natural occurrence. It shouldn't be something that is explicitly setup with the sole purpose of meeting the family. Otherwise it just becomes something that is awkward and stiff and there's lots of questions involved like you're at a job interview. If you are together long enough and you aren't hiding it, you should just naturally meet them someday and introduce yourself. Eventually you will be invited to stuff and it just becomes normal and life goes on. Yeah she bumped into my mum once. When mum was visiting without me knowing, and that was okay. But like I have 2 pals I haven't seen for 2 years visiting, they are staying for 6 days (both speak English). I will of course go with them to help them out with some pickup first 2 nights - noway I'm inviting her to that. But How weird it would be if later the 3 of us+her hang out, e.g. for hiking one day. Not really sure about this - we've been going on 1-2 dates per week for over 4 months, strictly together and everything works so well. So 3 options 1) I will blow off my mates for one night to go on a date with her then join them later 2) Me + my mates will try to pickup 2 chicks in town, try to get them to commit to do stuff one day, that way it's 3chicks + 3 guys, and we'll go hiking or some other stuff. 3) Failing that just ask her to go to town with us - watch them do pickup, tell them what to do/set them missions (that'd be fun actually we're both really creative when it comes to that - she's a massive troll. And I'll show them how it's done on first 2 days so they should at least have to balls to do approaches) I guess option 3 sounds good when I think about it, we could have stories for a long time after they leave Things are only weird if you let them be weird. Your state of mind should dominate the proceedings. I don't see why you wouldn't want to let your mates meet this person that you like.
yeah true, I'm over thinking stuff
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On July 17 2015 17:41 GreenHorizons wrote:
Is it paranoid that I never trusted women's condoms or is that a rational precaution? Women's condom meaning a male condom procured by a woman, not an actual female condom.
There is also the size thing. If condoms fail, in a lot of cases its the wrong size, both too big and too small are dangerous. There are also quite a few slightly different shapes.
A couple years back I got a mixed bag with like 40 different condoms from a onlineshop. After trying them all on I just ordered a bigger quantity of the one that fit the best.
You also safe money, because comdoms get very cheap if you buy a 100. And they last long enough that using them all up in time isnt a problem.
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On July 17 2015 19:11 Snotling wrote:Show nested quote +On July 17 2015 17:41 GreenHorizons wrote:
Is it paranoid that I never trusted women's condoms or is that a rational precaution? Women's condom meaning a male condom procured by a woman, not an actual female condom. There is also the size thing. If condoms fail, in a lot of cases its the wrong size, both too big and too small are dangerous. There are also quite a few slightly different shapes. A couple years back I got a mixed bag with like 40 different condoms from a onlineshop. After trying them all on I just ordered a bigger quantity of the one that fit the best. You also safe money, because comdoms get very cheap if you buy a 100. And they last long enough that using them all up in time isnt a problem.
You forgot #CondomBrag at the end of that post...
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Lets fire this up with more #CondomBrag.
+ Show Spoiler +And in a few hours I come back and drop discourageing truth about penis sizes, especially lenght
But Actually, there is quite some advice in here. It is wise to take care of protection yourself and Snotling is right about buying bigger packages to save money, but even more: If you never used a condom before, try out first which one fits you like Snotling said. A condom thats to big/small is risky. Also, your penis doesnt have to be extremely long, its diameter is also important. By your first time, you might be nervous and therefore dont reach "full size" and the condom might just fit and on the second or third time, you get really confused because the condom is way to tight/wont even fit at all + Show Spoiler +. So do your preparation in advance.
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On July 17 2015 20:38 Acrofales wrote:Show nested quote +On July 17 2015 19:11 Snotling wrote:On July 17 2015 17:41 GreenHorizons wrote:
Is it paranoid that I never trusted women's condoms or is that a rational precaution? Women's condom meaning a male condom procured by a woman, not an actual female condom. There is also the size thing. If condoms fail, in a lot of cases its the wrong size, both too big and too small are dangerous. There are also quite a few slightly different shapes. A couple years back I got a mixed bag with like 40 different condoms from a onlineshop. After trying them all on I just ordered a bigger quantity of the one that fit the best. You also safe money, because comdoms get very cheap if you buy a 100. And they last long enough that using them all up in time isnt a problem. You forgot #CondomBrag at the end of that post...
how is 100 condoms in three years (thats how long they last iirc) a brag? thats not even one use per week. if someone is in a relationship for example, thats really low
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On July 17 2015 21:23 Snotling wrote:Show nested quote +On July 17 2015 20:38 Acrofales wrote:On July 17 2015 19:11 Snotling wrote:On July 17 2015 17:41 GreenHorizons wrote:
Is it paranoid that I never trusted women's condoms or is that a rational precaution? Women's condom meaning a male condom procured by a woman, not an actual female condom. There is also the size thing. If condoms fail, in a lot of cases its the wrong size, both too big and too small are dangerous. There are also quite a few slightly different shapes. A couple years back I got a mixed bag with like 40 different condoms from a onlineshop. After trying them all on I just ordered a bigger quantity of the one that fit the best. You also safe money, because comdoms get very cheap if you buy a 100. And they last long enough that using them all up in time isnt a problem. You forgot #CondomBrag at the end of that post... how is 100 condoms in three years (thats how long they last iirc) a brag? thats not even one use per week. if someone is in a relationship for example, thats really low
If someone is in a steady relationship for 3 years, I expect they don't use condoms at all. I don't. There are far more convenient contraceptives than the condom for people in a stable relationship. Seriously, fuck messing around with a rubber when you want to have sex.
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On July 17 2015 21:27 Acrofales wrote:Show nested quote +On July 17 2015 21:23 Snotling wrote:On July 17 2015 20:38 Acrofales wrote:On July 17 2015 19:11 Snotling wrote:On July 17 2015 17:41 GreenHorizons wrote:
Is it paranoid that I never trusted women's condoms or is that a rational precaution? Women's condom meaning a male condom procured by a woman, not an actual female condom. There is also the size thing. If condoms fail, in a lot of cases its the wrong size, both too big and too small are dangerous. There are also quite a few slightly different shapes. A couple years back I got a mixed bag with like 40 different condoms from a onlineshop. After trying them all on I just ordered a bigger quantity of the one that fit the best. You also safe money, because comdoms get very cheap if you buy a 100. And they last long enough that using them all up in time isnt a problem. You forgot #CondomBrag at the end of that post... how is 100 condoms in three years (thats how long they last iirc) a brag? thats not even one use per week. if someone is in a relationship for example, thats really low If someone is in a steady relationship for 3 years, I expect they don't use condoms at all. I don't. There are far more convenient contraceptives than the condom for people in a stable relationship. Seriously, fuck messing around with a rubber when you want to have sex.
Of course its not ideal, but i know quite a few women who cant take the pill vor various reasons. So in some cases there isnt really a way around it.
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On July 17 2015 20:38 Acrofales wrote:Show nested quote +On July 17 2015 19:11 Snotling wrote:On July 17 2015 17:41 GreenHorizons wrote:
Is it paranoid that I never trusted women's condoms or is that a rational precaution? Women's condom meaning a male condom procured by a woman, not an actual female condom. There is also the size thing. If condoms fail, in a lot of cases its the wrong size, both too big and too small are dangerous. There are also quite a few slightly different shapes. A couple years back I got a mixed bag with like 40 different condoms from a onlineshop. After trying them all on I just ordered a bigger quantity of the one that fit the best. You also safe money, because comdoms get very cheap if you buy a 100. And they last long enough that using them all up in time isnt a problem. You forgot #CondomBrag at the end of that post...
Ever since I put a normal sized condom over my entire leg and reached up to my upper thigh, I refuse to believe that anyone is endowed enough to fill out a condom.
Maybe in anime or other fucked up fiction, or in the animal world, but certainly not even The Mountain has a 50 cm, 20 kg penis.
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