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I had a sarcastic remark typed out but thought better of it and decided to go with genuine advice.
My suggestion is to go on the trip even if you don't want to; not to have fun but to be with your parents. I also do not enjoy going on trips with my parents since we're different types of people but I have gone on a few in the past few years(I'm 24.)
Reason being is you never know when something tragic could happen, my parents are 60 so anything is possible(my mom has cancer in remission and my dad has heart problems.) I was more than happy to hike in the glorious Sequoia mountains of California with my lovely parents even though it messed up those oh so precious plans I had(not even remotely important.)
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Family vacations can suck, but as a working adult allow me to advise you to enjoy them while you can D:
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Vacations suck. Stay home and use your grocery money on weed, imo.
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god bless the 19 year old kids who have so much wisdom to impart on their parents
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So yeah, all I'm hearing is that there is work to be done on your attitude dude. The problem is with you, not with them. I feel like the only way you're gonna learn it to, is if you lose all the things you take for granted, or at least some of them. Tough love might hurt, but in this case, I think it's the answer.
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On July 10 2013 04:47 Race is Terran wrote:
I think I will go, this blog was helpful to see things differently
i think that most people who keep posting replies aren't really reading the whole thread...so I am just re-quoting this I said in a previous page, I already made up my mind and told my parents I would go
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Blazinghand
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On July 10 2013 00:48 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:
You didn't explain at all why you're whining and have a generally negative attitude.
EDIT: Never mind, I read your name.
If I weren't broke you'd have TL+
On July 10 2013 08:25 Gene wrote:Show nested quote +On July 10 2013 06:26 Stratos_speAr wrote:On July 10 2013 02:35 Race is Terran wrote:
Well thisi has given me things to think about, such as it is an opportunity to go someplaces for free all paid expenses.
I still am not sure about the spending time with my family part though, in the past, it has been a difficult issue that I've had to suck up and do. It doesn't feel like "family", it feels more like being obligated to do certain things for them because they put me into this world
edit: My parents and I although we believe in unconditional love, they tend to rope tiny little conditions to it, like the smallprint in a contract that you just kinda gloss over and then realize the stuff in small print was actually a very important condition of the agreement Dude, I'm sorry, but you sound like an incredibly spoiled brat and an entitled prick. You have yet to offer one solid reason as to why you don't like to spend time with your parents. Your parents give you fantastic vacations and all you can say is that your time is more valuable. You really need to evaluate yourself. Is there a legitimate reason that you don't like to spend time with the folks? Do they argue a lot? Are they total buzz-kills? Are they horrible people? Have they completely let you down or wronged you in multiple ways in the past so that you don't trust/like them anymore? If it's merely a matter of being kind of bored on your trips, then engage them. You're a fucking adult. Talk to them and say, "Hey, X sounds kind of boring, and I don't want us to sit in a hotel for a large chunk of our trip being bored. Let's find another thing to do while we're there." Your parents are reaching out to you by offering you fantastic things. By the sound of it, you had a fairly privileged life (correct me if I'm wrong), and you may still be living with them. And yet you merely feel like it's a chore to do anything with them. That is the definition of "entitled" and "spoiled". This "obligation" you feel is merely a consequence of your own attitude and outlook, and it sounds like your parents were 100% right; you do have a negative attitude. You need to be assertive in fixing that attitude so you can start enjoying time with your parents, and if you can't do that because you "Just don't like them" for no particularly compelling reason, then I'm sorry, but you're just a terrible person. For someone who admittedly doesn't have a clue, you're awfully fucking rude.
what stratos doesn't get is that not all people are vulcans and sometimes yes you have a negative emotion associated with something even if you don't want to have it
WHO KNEW
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On July 10 2013 01:26 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:Show nested quote +On July 10 2013 01:20 Race is Terran wrote:On July 10 2013 01:07 HaRuHi wrote:19? Ok, that is old enough to talk to your parents. They might even understand. Just say you rather would do X. Maybe surf holiday in Hawaii with them. But sitting in a boring hotel room is just not relaxing for you and if you can't find some active holiday, maybe they should just go without you. Men or Women the fuck up!  It's time, your 19, spread your wings, leave the nest, fly. edit: oh it was in the past when I was younger, but now I am just simply saying no I don't want to go. I just don't want to tell them that the reason i dont want to go is because of them so it was your name, why the hell are you crying if you managed to say no?^^ I just feel bad, it's not my parents fault they turned out the way they behave, and they love and support me. But their love can kind of be too much sometimes if that makes sense and I just feel bad for them. If I was a parent, I think it would make me pretty sad if my oldest kid told me he didnt want to go on a vacation with me because of me You sound incredibly self-entitled. If I were your parent, I'd leave you at home... but not because you're bored; because it doesn't sound like you value what your parents are offering you. I'd recommend leaving the house, living on your own, and saving up for your own vacations. lol.
Go to the store and pick up some empathy while you're there. He just wants to vent about his parents, which I think everyone needs to do at some point. It's not like he's saying "My parents won't help me pay for a car, they suck balls", because that would be self-entitled.
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I feel you bro. It sucks when you've been raised that way since early childhood. You want to say no, but they will rub it under your nose why you can't do this or that, or why you have to do one thing or another. It's like they can't let go. And if you're thinking of saying 'no', you won't know how, because you're afraid of angering them, due to 'owning' them everything. It feels like having a mental disorder or something along those lines.
Despite that, I think you should go on the vacation, as you'll definitely regret not going later in your life. Some people won't ever be able to leave their hometown, so you're lucky in that sense. If you're on that vacation, you shouldn't just hang around your parents. Go stroll by yourself around the area and find stuff to do. If you're always around your parents, there's no chance that you'll enjoy those kinds of trips, due to age differences and what have you.
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On July 10 2013 13:16 Blazinghand wrote:Show nested quote +On July 10 2013 00:48 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:
You didn't explain at all why you're whining and have a generally negative attitude.
EDIT: Never mind, I read your name. If I weren't broke you'd have TL+
I'm fortunate enough to currently have TL+, but it'll expire soon x.x I need to re-subscribe
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Guys he's already posted in here about trying to change his attitude and what have you. Takes a big man to do that too, good shit.
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I think its pretty normal at some point to not want to go on vacation with the parents, even if it is free.
I was the same when i was like 16. After i endured year after year of vacations where we just walk around all day, i finally said i didnt want to go.
So instead they let me go to a youth vacation where we traveled like 48 hours by bus and ship to greece, where there was a giant tent camp for us. Like 1000 or more people.
It was so much fun, i did that 4 more times, i had the best time ever.
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