EPTA side note; often girls don't want to break up with the bf not because they "love the bf" (which is bullshit, love lasts only for a year in terms of chemistry and after that it's up to a mutual effort to keep the feelings going) but because they don't want to be left alone. I know lots of girls who have bfs just as a "placeholder" until they find someone better. pretty self-serving if you ask me, but that's how people are.
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Xstatic
United States765 Posts
A side note; often girls don't want to break up with the bf not because they "love the bf" (which is bullshit, love lasts only for a year in terms of chemistry and after that it's up to a mutual effort to keep the feelings going) but because they don't want to be left alone. I know lots of girls who have bfs just as a "placeholder" until they find someone better. pretty self-serving if you ask me, but that's how people are. | ||
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er.misrah
United States55 Posts
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johanngrunt
Hong Kong1555 Posts
also, if she can leave him for you, what's to stop her leaving you for someone else. could be a potential pitfall later. plenty other fish in the sea, and as a med student your "qualifications" seem pretty good. | ||
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IceCube
Croatia1403 Posts
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mardi
United States1164 Posts
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MisterD
Germany1338 Posts
I do not know how long people last in such a state, for that person of mine its about two months now i think, so it might take a while, but my guess is it will still happen. So the question remaining is, if the situation for your relation with her has changed until that point or not. You might try to shortcut it and think about it this way: If she was to argue with her bf for another 8 months or something, and then break up, think hard about if believe that both, you and her, would give your relation a chance. If you don't think, its gonna happen then, i think it's going to be a lot easier for you to let go already now. And if you think you (plural you) will give it a shot then still, well then you have something to hope for (in which case you should rethink this exact thing maybe once a month to not waste too much time if the situation eventually changes). | ||
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FreeZEternal
Korea (South)3396 Posts
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Bereft
United States1007 Posts
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Licmyobelisk
Philippines3682 Posts
PS with regards to the topic, I'd slap/punch both of you guys for backstabbing me while I was away. It's much better not to hit on a girl with a BF unless you're really a jerk. Well if her boy isn't that loyal so c'est la vie. Anyway if you're currently living here in Manila or Quezon City, much better if you meet up some of the Ph players (like myself on Sept 18, this coming saturday) so that you'd have a few more baller friends! | ||
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Salv
Canada3083 Posts
Secondly, why would you want to go out with a girl who you know is willing to cheat on her boyfriend? She admitted to you that she was close to having sex with you, and you more or less stated that you two had made out and felt each other up (assuming). I wouldn't be able to deal with that personally, if she did that to her old boyfriend, who is to say she wouldn't do that to you. Think about it, the right move is to forget about her. | ||
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HuK
Canada1591 Posts
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dudeman001
United States2412 Posts
Second, let her make her own choices. Not much sense getting in a relationship with her if she goes into it not sure what she's doing. Let her sort what she really wants and plan from there. | ||
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NIIINO
Slovakia1320 Posts
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Salv
Canada3083 Posts
On September 16 2010 00:48 dudeman001 wrote: First off, nothing is your fault. If the girl is really that keen on cheating on a boyfriend she's had for 3-4 years, you can't blame yourself. Second, let her make her own choices. Not much sense getting in a relationship with her if she goes into it not sure what she's doing. Let her sort what she really wants and plan from there. Can you specify what you mean when you say nothing is the OP's fault? What about his role in this girl cheating on her boyfriend? | ||
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Height
United States53 Posts
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Chill
Calgary25980 Posts
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UdderChaos
United Kingdom707 Posts
And then move on with your life. | ||
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Korynne
Canada990 Posts
Solution: You should stop hanging out with her, do NOT be there for her. She needs to realize that she can only have you or him, because right now even though she's not "dating" you she's practically doing that and having the other guy. So she needs to either realize that he is more important and she shouldn't fuck around with other guys (or at least that you won't be the boy toy she can fuck around with while having a boyfriend and then just throw you away when he's around) or she needs to realize that even though she wants the comfort and security of that other guy she's been with forever it's really over and she's just not accepting it, and she wants to be with you now. Don't let her have it both ways, because then she'll just take both, feel really shitty, and keep doing that and it's not fair to you or her boyfriend. People like to keep their options open, so even though she feels like shit right now she'll likely just drag this on because she can't decide, especially if she's been with the guy forever and at some point she loved him and she might still think she loves him but things are going shitty and they argue all the time and then there's you, who might be really fun to be with and hang out with and you can be close and physical and she misses that because her boyfriend is long-distance. | ||
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HuK
Canada1591 Posts
edit: either way good read for me too so keep them coming ^^ | ||
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Salv
Canada3083 Posts
On September 16 2010 00:55 HuK wrote: edit: either way good read for me too so keep them coming ^^ Lmao. For the sake of the OP, I hope these don't keep coming. | ||
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