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On September 16 2010 03:25 Xyik wrote: Wow all I can say is that you're a loser. Seriously, how would you feel if your girlfriend of 4 years broke up with you for some random dude? Worse yet, your girlfriend of 4 years whom you've met preparations to go overseas and see her, broke up with you for some douchebag she barely knows.
Honestly? I hate people like you. The only reason you want her so bad is because you can't get anyone else. These are one of your lucky golden 'opportunities' so you make excuses and justify your actions by hoping she has a bad boyfriend. If you were such a baller, you'd forget her and find an equally attractive girl without a boyfriend.
If that happened I would be happy she is gone ultimately it is her lost and it would let me move on as soon as possible rather than prolong something which is going no where.
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On September 16 2010 03:54 gmsts wrote:Show nested quote +On September 16 2010 03:25 Xyik wrote: Wow all I can say is that you're a loser. Seriously, how would you feel if your girlfriend of 4 years broke up with you for some random dude? Worse yet, your girlfriend of 4 years whom you've met preparations to go overseas and see her, broke up with you for some douchebag she barely knows.
Honestly? I hate people like you. The only reason you want her so bad is because you can't get anyone else. These are one of your lucky golden 'opportunities' so you make excuses and justify your actions by hoping she has a bad boyfriend. If you were such a baller, you'd forget her and find an equally attractive girl without a boyfriend. If that happened I would be happy she is gone ultimately it is her lost and it would let me move on as soon as possible rather than prolong something which is going no where.
lol you wouldn't be happy, you'd be like goddamn I just wasted 4 years of my life with a slut.
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so she's regularly cheating on her boyfriend, then tell you this:
On September 15 2010 23:25 gameguard wrote: she was hurt telling me im just like any other guy.
and at the same time she says she loves her boyfriend?
What a whore, lol.
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Be an alpha male and give her an ultimatum, stop being a beta male and just suggesting that you like her or suggesting that she leaves him for you. Tell her straight out.
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come on, man up. bang her first then you discuss your future, else you fall into the good friend zone, and you will never get out. You were so close to score, but you wuss out. DON"T BE A WUSS. Since you don't know her bf, it's perfectly find to date her knowing the fact that she is in a relationship. She loves the attention you give her, that's why she keep playing mind games with you, either you get out or get in, don't make your life miserable, that's the last thing you want to do. From what i can scene, you are already cruising toward it with 200 mph.
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On September 16 2010 01:46 {88}iNcontroL wrote: My advice is get some beer, talk to her and be all "baby, the sun and moon rise and fall on the beauty that is your eyes" and then drink/kiss. After she replies with something (I imagine) like "if only I ... *gasp*" and then you go "what is it? What holds thy tongue so?" but of course she just sits there with her bare back to you sobbing (you can tell because of the rise and fall of her slender shoulders). After drinking the beer you leave to go get more beer but come back to find she has TURNED TOWARDS YOU and you drop the beer which melodramatically falls to the floor smashing into shards and IN THE SHARDS you can see you two making love while drinking beer SHE WENT AND GOT SLIGHTLY FASTER.
After making sweet love and pouring beer on each other you guys drink some more and kiss intensely but then she cries because she has dishonored her family. So you break into a martial arts montage in the backyard which ends with kicking a tree over as sweat shoots off your bare chest.
Seems pretty obvious what needs to happen.
this is one of the best posts i've read in a long time. I love you inc Edit: in response to OP, just give up on it. Its really not worth it - too many negative potential effects to too little positive potentials.
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On September 16 2010 02:20 Salv wrote:Show nested quote +On September 16 2010 02:07 dudeman001 wrote:On September 16 2010 00:51 Salv wrote:On September 16 2010 00:48 dudeman001 wrote: First off, nothing is your fault. If the girl is really that keen on cheating on a boyfriend she's had for 3-4 years, you can't blame yourself.
Second, let her make her own choices. Not much sense getting in a relationship with her if she goes into it not sure what she's doing. Let her sort what she really wants and plan from there. Can you specify what you mean when you say nothing is the OP's fault? What about his role in this girl cheating on her boyfriend? It's not the OP's fault because in the situation, he's just a guy who's attracted to a girl. Yeah she's taken, but if she had the decency to not cheat on her boyfriend there'd be no issues here (unless our OP made a move anyway). If a girl has a boyfriend and is flirting with you anyway, are you going to feel like you're doing something wrong? You shouldn't, since she's the only using guys as she chooses. I still see it as a dick move, it's promoting cheating as long as the other person is willing. Maybe I just have more moral scruples to this situation than most of the people in this thread, but I think if you're moving in on a girl that you know is taken, regardless of whether or not she's into it, you're a dick.
Lol at people bashing him OP for dating a girl with a boyfriend... as long as the girl isn't engaged or married she's free game to chase, being GF/BF is only a course to decide whether they should marry and stay together forever or not
you're only a dick if you move on a girl if she's your buddies' girl, you don't move on a friends girl
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Well the problem is, its her choice. you can't really do anything about her boyfriend and whatever at this situation. Whether she dumps her bf or goes to you, is entirely her choice
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On September 16 2010 03:56 Xyik wrote:Show nested quote +On September 16 2010 03:54 gmsts wrote:On September 16 2010 03:25 Xyik wrote: Wow all I can say is that you're a loser. Seriously, how would you feel if your girlfriend of 4 years broke up with you for some random dude? Worse yet, your girlfriend of 4 years whom you've met preparations to go overseas and see her, broke up with you for some douchebag she barely knows.
Honestly? I hate people like you. The only reason you want her so bad is because you can't get anyone else. These are one of your lucky golden 'opportunities' so you make excuses and justify your actions by hoping she has a bad boyfriend. If you were such a baller, you'd forget her and find an equally attractive girl without a boyfriend. If that happened I would be happy she is gone ultimately it is her lost and it would let me move on as soon as possible rather than prolong something which is going no where. lol you wouldn't be happy, you'd be like goddamn I just wasted 4 years of my life with a slut. Tbh if you date a girl for 4 years and enjoy it the whole time, I'd say its usually worth it no matter what happens after. As long as you enjoy it while it lasts.
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What helps me...
Just think when you like her...
"Well, she'd cheat on me too, even if she told me she loved me, she'd be consistently screwing around with other guys."
I'd break up with a gf if she was just drinking constantly with a guy she liked and was being overly flirty. She wouldn't even have to cheat. Convince yourself she's a slut.
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On September 16 2010 01:42 JackMcCoy wrote: Hey, don't worry, I feel you bro. Overwhelmed by the crippling fear that you can't do better than this broad? Hey, you might be right, I’ve seen it happen before, a guy thinks “hey I can do better than this, I have dignity and self-respect. I don’t need her.” Wrong. That guy was ugly and he made the biggest mistake of his life. I don’t want you to do the same. These people don’t know you, so don’t listen to their feel-good Oprah advice, you know you need a regular schedule of getting butt so that you can remain socially relevant to your peers and not drown in the deep, smothering, infinitely black waters of being alone.
Everyone here’s giving you “hallmark channel”, but I’m gonna throw at you some “Discovery channel”. When two dudes in nature are gravitating towards the same chick, they don’t consult Dr. Phil or teamliquid or their favorite Nicholas Sparks movie adaptation, they get down to business. There’s 2 possible routes: fighting or peacocking. You ever seen those goats just ramming their fuckin heads at each other? Be prepared for that, except with fists (or maybe heads). Option 2 is to bring some sexy back and hit her with a piece of the magic.
Obviously you don’t want to fight this guy if he’s bigger than you. Maybe he’s on the juice and could punch your nose out the back of your head. Maybe he’s a troubled stranger with a shady past and nothing left to lose. Basically, don’t fight him unless you have an overwhelming advantage and it will be an easy victory. Don’t overdo it though, because if you start roughing the kid up when he’s on the ground the chick’s emotional hard-coding is gonna make her want to help and mother the weak one. All you want to do is exercise some physical prowess and render him immobile and stupid looking, but remember: only if he’s much smaller and weaker than you (also, if you do engange he does start to win, tell him you’re gay and he’ll be charged with a hate crime if he assaults you, great escape plan).
If you’re not going to fight, then you’ve got to peacock. You’ve got to show this chick why you’re better in every way than this guy. Start off by only referring to him using words like “bozo”, “dweeb” or “pointdexter”. Use every opportunity to make him look stupid, and frequently make subtle remarks about his ambiguous sexuality. If he looks like he works out, ball him things like “meathead”, “juicer” or “hulktard”. If he looks nerdy then call him things like “Screech” or “Urkel”. When you hang out together, excuse yourself to go to the gym then make threatening phone calls to his cell phone where you disguise your voice with one of those voice changers and say things like, “This is the police, you’re gonna die now faggot!” or “Do you know what we do to little pieces of fish like you in the bighouse? That ass is mine in 14 days.” This will serve to confuse and scare him, making him seem nervous and jittery while you’re cool hand Luke. Start calling his room at all hours of the night, waking him up and psyching him out. This campaign of psychological warfare will take its toll, and pretty soon he’ll be a walking mess.
Start making references to other girls you’re gonna take out, then make up fantastical stories about how amazing your dates were while she’s stuck babysitting this bag of nerves. Something like, “Yeah, it was really magical. We went to this little Italian place by the bay and they put us out on the honeymoon table under the stars. We were just staring into each other’s eyes when John Mayer came over to us and said we looked so happy that he wanted to play an impromptu set of romantic hits for us. One of the old men came over to tell us how happy he was for us when he started choking on some of the fantastic meatballs we were all eating. I hopped up and gave him the Heimlich and saved his life, and to thank me he’s flying us out to stay in his villa in Tuscany next month for free. I’m not going to call myself a hero, but that was their word for me. It was a pretty good night.”
There are plenty more avenues to pursue until you break this guy. Feel free to try some of the following: call his work as “US Marshall Mike Dexter” and tell them you’re looking for an escaped sex offender, giving the other guy’s name. Try to sound like a girl and leave voicemails on both his and her phone demanding a paternity test and thanking him for hepatitis. The possibilities here are endless.
As you can see, getting girls is easy. Good luck!
Best advice ever. You Sir are a winrar!
Incontrol followed up a close second, but listen to every word JackMcCoy kindly bequeathed to you...
PS: You're still a fag
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On September 16 2010 04:28 saltywet wrote:Show nested quote +On September 16 2010 02:20 Salv wrote:On September 16 2010 02:07 dudeman001 wrote:On September 16 2010 00:51 Salv wrote:On September 16 2010 00:48 dudeman001 wrote: First off, nothing is your fault. If the girl is really that keen on cheating on a boyfriend she's had for 3-4 years, you can't blame yourself.
Second, let her make her own choices. Not much sense getting in a relationship with her if she goes into it not sure what she's doing. Let her sort what she really wants and plan from there. Can you specify what you mean when you say nothing is the OP's fault? What about his role in this girl cheating on her boyfriend? It's not the OP's fault because in the situation, he's just a guy who's attracted to a girl. Yeah she's taken, but if she had the decency to not cheat on her boyfriend there'd be no issues here (unless our OP made a move anyway). If a girl has a boyfriend and is flirting with you anyway, are you going to feel like you're doing something wrong? You shouldn't, since she's the only using guys as she chooses. I still see it as a dick move, it's promoting cheating as long as the other person is willing. Maybe I just have more moral scruples to this situation than most of the people in this thread, but I think if you're moving in on a girl that you know is taken, regardless of whether or not she's into it, you're a dick. Lol at people bashing him OP for dating a girl with a boyfriend... as long as the girl isn't engaged or married she's free game to chase, being GF/BF is only a course to decide whether they should marry and stay together forever or not you're only a dick if you move on a girl if she's your buddies' girl, you don't move on a friends girl
Disagree. You're an asshole for promoting cheating. Look, assuming a couple is exclusive of course, if you go after a girl with a boyfriend and she had any class, she would turn you down. If you go after a girl with a boyfriend and she's fine with that, she's a whore. Her actions promote the idea that it's acceptable to cheat. Your actions of going after any girl, regardless if they are taken are not, also promotes the idea that it's acceptable to cheat. If you do that, IMO, you're an asshole. You wouldn't care much for it if it happened to you, so you shouldn't pull that crap with others; it's altruism that benefits everyone who values monogamy.
Moving in on your friends girlfriend is just being an asshole to a higher degree. Congratulations for having some line you're not willing to cross.
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Do what you wanna do. Living with regrets is worthless.
IF she says no to you to stay with the other guy, you'll fell better than living questioning "what if she choose me?"
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On September 15 2010 23:25 gameguard wrote: I will just stand by her if she needs me and try to be good to her. Whether this is healthy, I dunno. But I made a promise and I intend to keep it.
Not gonna be very healthy if her boyfriend shows up with a shotgun at your door. Seriously tho you should wait it out imo, and see how their relationship goes.
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I'm going to be blunt here and say you're a complete douche for even considering doing anything with this chick. I mean what the fuck, she's been with a guy for 4 years and you want to ruin that just cuz you've got a little crush on her after just a few months? Man up, stop focusing on yourself for a sec and put yourself in that other guys shoes.. Burn the bridge completely and move the fuck on. Don't be the guy that causes another guy to contemplate suicide over a bad breakup.
And in response to your comments on how unhappy she is with the relationship.. What gives you the right to be the judge of that. You don't even fucking understand what she's saying and you're making that conclusion off of her tone during a phonecall? They've been together for 4 years and she's calling him from abroad from another guys room. Of course they're going to have a few arguments. You don't have any say in what's a healthy relationship and what's not because you are clearly self centered yourself. Jesus christ I am genuinely disturbed that someone with a mindset like yours will be a doctor someday
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In your life you definitely need to go out with a girl that dates another guy, just to see how it is. I've learned so much and restored a lot of faith in women from a couple of those instances. One time I knew it all along and was laughing about it while my friends were scolding me yet I couldn't help it - the girl was too good. Was really hard for both of us but I kind of fed off those emotions - it was a nice experience after all, something to remember.
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On September 16 2010 05:49 EpiK wrote: I'm going to be blunt here and say you're a complete douche for even considering doing anything with this chick. I mean what the fuck, she's been with a guy for 4 years and you want to ruin that just cuz you've got a little crush on her after just a few months? Man up, stop focusing on yourself for a sec and put yourself in that other guys shoes.. Burn the bridge completely and move the fuck on. The be the guy that causes another guy to contemplate suicide over a bad breakup.
And in response to your comments on how unhappy she is with the relationship.. What gives you the right to be the judge of that. You don't even fucking understand what she's saying and you're making that conclusion off of her tone during a phonecall? They've been together for 4 years and she's calling him from abroad from another guys room. Of course they're going to have a few arguments. You don't have any say in what's a healthy relationship and what's not because you are clearly self centered yourself. Jesus christ I am genuinely disturbed that someone with a mindset like yours will be a doctor someday
A lot of these girls have only been dating one guy, that's why they don't know how to behave in that situation and have so many doubts. If she isn't going to spend the rest of her life with him - you can definitely become the next guy she dates. And if you get that impossible girl it is so much more rewarding. You'd wake up with a "fuck yeah" face on.
And there is no "healthy relationship". Sometimes you will meet someone that is not with you but that would most likely be your dream girl. You can stay away or you can try at it - depends on your mentality, I rather regret something that I've done than regret not doing anything.
Sometimes you have to take responsibility - would you not touch a girl if she was a virgin? Because this is the same premise - you might be ruining something that you don't want to be responsible for in the long run.
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Just cause there's a goalie doesn't mean you can't score.
=D
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No one knows your situation as well as you do, and no one on this thread cares as much about you than you do. Were I in your situation, I'd get away from the girl.
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Why would you wanna date a whore??? Get your rocks off and all, but you don't actually date a ho that cheats on her boyfriend for you. That shit's a law like gravity and stuff.
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