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On September 22 2012 01:33 Praetorial wrote: the first sentence is saying that her friend has a lot of potential. The subject of the sentence is "Your friend", which implies that her friend is the "smart person with a great potential life IN FRONT OF HER". You didn't even READ THE SENTENCE FULLY. Yes, that's what that poster said. Then the poster I quoted said:
How is this different from the baby? Killing the child isn't the answer. He's comparing the potential of the friend to the potential of the baby, which is what my point is in response to.
I don't see what's confusing here.
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Lol looks like she have some kinda of problem, i think she should look for help, to decide what she's gonna do, when i mean help = medic and social help.
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On September 22 2012 01:30 Xhiwi wrote: Her parents aren't able to help her because they're also working every day.
Errr... That's true for the majority of the parents in this world I think. Just because you are busy doesn't mean it's not possible to prioritize. Are you sure she has actually asked her parents for help and they told her they were too busy...?
EDIT: Also, like someone said, you should keep in mind that your friend is probably scared to death. Not that it's an excuse for behaving rude towards you, but perhaps it will help you to be more forgiving if you keep that in mind (if you want to be forgiving that is).
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"Hey, I'm pregnant" And this is crazy, but here's my number, help me raise my baby!
Sorry OP. To be honest you sound like a stuck up girl because you comment on the way your friend dresses and desires attention. Whether you go help your friend out with the child or not is up to you, and it's a choice you have to make.
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"And you'll help me to raise up my child."
Lolwut? Since when? You don't have to do that. Even though you're friends. If you want to of your own goodwill, God bless your merciful, patient soul. But know that it's not your issue she couldn't abstain and/or the guy didn't bother with a condom.
On September 22 2012 01:34 obesechicken13 wrote: Let's not turn this into a prolife/prochoice debate.
Yes, please. It will not end well if it does, I know it....
On September 22 2012 01:30 Xhiwi wrote: Wow. I'm really impressed by all these different opinions. And everyone of you is right. I talked to her a few minutes after my break and she said that abortion is not an option because she really wants to have this child. And yeah: She really wants to study but I guess she didn't notice that she could not do this with a baby.
For answering some of your questions: Yeah, she has other friends but they are not that close. Her parents aren't able to help her because they're also working every day. To me it sounds impossible to raise a child. But this is not my problem. The father is just a random guy who said: "I won't take care of this child." And yeah, she said "will". It wasn't a question.
I'm curious: did she give you a reason as to why she wants a kid? It sounds as though she thought to herself, "I'mma have sex, and if I get a kid from it, I'll just raise it, ezpz." Like it's some happy, innocuous coincidence rather than a pretty f-ing big deal for her.
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WTF? I actually giggled a little when I visualized the situation... -What's up? *looks at floor and says timidly* -I'm pregnant... -Oh. That's sucks. *looks back up at him with evil smile and giant teeth and with a red background* -...And YOU'll help me raise the baby. Hehehe... just sounds wierd to have a teenager being happy about being pregnant. I mean, a teen's body is still undergoing growth, and pregnancy fucks things up alot.
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Maybe you should see if she'd consider giving the baby up for adoption? I can't imagine that she would be terrible well suited to raise a child, seeing how she is 17 and all.
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It would be impossible to raise a kid while going to school with no income. Drop out, get a job I guess.
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I don't reccomend adoption because it's clear both the girl and the guy should never breed children. Abort it
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If she doesn't want abortion, then adoption is the only way. Anything else is beyond silly.
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how good of friends are you guys? and is she sure that she's keeping it?
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On September 22 2012 06:47 Gunther wrote: I don't reccomend adoption because it's clear both the girl and the guy should never breed children. Abort it Human life is precious and not to be thrown away lightly, especially based on judgements on people who made it. Plus, genetics should never determine someone's fate. You don't even know if the parents are good people who just made an honest mistake. There are plenty of infertile couples out there, and with a good set of parents, her child can have a good life. If I were you, OP, I would recommend adoption to this girl. She seems like she would be incapable of raising a child in her current position.
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On September 21 2012 19:24 rabidch wrote:extreme girl blog... with a twist. good luck to you
lol
Yeah but srsly depending on how much her parents are willing to help her she might want to think about adoption or something. It's just really a hard life for single teen parents, and for their kids too - it's not just about her.
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Abort the child, at the age of 18 humans are emotionally too young to properly raise children to become responsible adults unless if they are helped by an elder.
She needs her own parents or the father's parents to help raise the child if abortion is too late.
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Tell her to think it out and get help first, then decide if she really wants it. It might be some extreme hormonal thing that makes her think she wants it. Or that she doesn't want to admit she made a mistake.
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Wait a minute, let me get this straight, your best friend is : - intelligent - a slut - pregnant ( and seemingly proud of it ) - ordering you to help her take care of her baby Is all of the above correct ? Do her parents know about it ? From the way you wrote that it seems like she kind of had it all planned ( having a baby, no father, having you help her with the baby ).
My opinion ( given the informations you gave us so far ) : You have no moral obligation to help a friend who pulls that kind of sh*t on you, but try to convince her to either abort, or have the baby adopted. The thing is : she can fuck herself up however she wants, but she's potentially effing up someone else's life, regardless of your stance on abortion. A 17 years old mother and no father ... i mean, it's not exactly the ideal environment to raise a child.
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I feel sorry for her parents.
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LOL @ this girl expecting you to help her raise her child. Tell her to go fly a kite and that you have a life of your own to worry about, you're 18 FFS!
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If you live in the US I'm pretty sure the father is required by law to pay child support (or you can make him do it).
I'm also surprised by all the people telling you to tell your best friend to fuck off. You're not obligated to help her raise her kid, but if you are her best friend you may as well help out a little.
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