EPT"Hey, I'm pregnant" - Page 2
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Grumbels
Netherlands7032 Posts
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Erasme
Bahamas15899 Posts
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Tyrran
France777 Posts
On September 21 2012 20:12 Erasme wrote: A baby that soon will ruin her life, you should really tell her to abort. This. Your friend sounds like a smart person with a great potential life ( math camp every summer ? for real ? ) in front of her. Do not let her put everything on side for raising a child alone as of now. Seing how she came to you, my guess is that the father doesnt want to raise this kid (or maybe she doesnt know who he is). Ask her why she wants to keep it. Tell her this probably means the end of her carier as a mathematician/Physicist. All the people I know that tried to raise a child as student failed to graduate. If all of this fails, and she still wants to keep the baby, help her as much as you can  | ||
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SupplyBlockedTV
Belgium313 Posts
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Pulimuli
Sweden2766 Posts
On September 21 2012 20:12 Erasme wrote: A baby that soon will ruin her life, you should really tell her to abort. An unwanted baby at that, being too young and not being able to care for a child properly and having it is just stupid. We have enough people in this world alreay, i'd say get an abortion. If she wants children when she's a bit older she can always try to have another one. If that doesnt work out there are millions of starving children in the 3rd world | ||
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AxUU
Finland162 Posts
ps. if one of my irl mates would just blatantly expect me to help them raise it I would be pissed off, but would prolly still help. | ||
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PiPaPoh
121 Posts
On September 21 2012 18:19 Xhiwi wrote: I think you're totally right. I'm actually not sure If I would really like to help her but I don't have the time or if this is just a stupid excuse. Another point is: You cant expect a reward. You'll get nothing if you help her. I know it sounds hard, but if she ruins her life in that way doesnt mean that you have to do the same. Think about this: Youre at school 10hrs, you leave and help her with the baby. When do you study at home? Midnight? And the most important thing: Soon the child will be grown up and your friend doesnt need you anymore. Much time wasted for nothing. Hard world, but you have to think about the future. | ||
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r.Evo
Germany14081 Posts
On September 21 2012 20:28 Tyrran wrote: This. Your friend sounds like a smart person with a great potential life ( math camp every summer ? for real ? ) in front of her. Do not let her put everything on side for raising a child alone as of now. Seing how she came to you, my guess is that the father doesnt want to raise this kid (or maybe she doesnt know who he is). Ask her why she wants to keep it. Tell her this probably means the end of her carier as a mathematician/Physicist. All the people I know that tried to raise a child as student failed to graduate. If all of this fails, and she still wants to keep the baby, help her as much as you can So much the above. My GFs best friend who is currently on vacation in the US told her some days ago that she "had a little accident" and "if she got pregnant from it so be it". I find bringing a child into a world where you aren't able to take care of it properly and without being able to give it what you would want to give it incredibly irresponsible. Not aborting is just as tough of a decision as aborting. Whatever it is, both have huge consequences for the rest of her live and most likely for the lives of the people around her. While I said that I find it to be irresponsible (I know 2 girls who got her kids around 17-19, both cases total disasters a few years later), I also know a girl who needed a few years to get over herself aborting her possible child. I think the choice is too hard that it would help if her best friend would bombard her with arguments and moral lectures, your best bet is to make it clear to her that whatever her plan is that she has to be aware of most consequences possible. Also she should be aware of the fact that it's her child and her responsibility. Dragging a best friend into it and expecting help is pretty damn selfish imo. | ||
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guN-viCe
United States687 Posts
- Apologize for slapping her - Support her, but also question her thought process. Get her to think and educate her if she is ignorant. She may feel that she has to go through with this pregnancy for whatever reason. Ultimately it is her decision and the best way to be a friend is to support her in her final decision without compromising your own emotions/future. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46424 Posts
On September 21 2012 18:12 PiPaPoh wrote: If she is your best friend, you have to help her in every kind of trouble. If you cant help her, thats the point of your relationship where you realize that you are just friends. There are two directions for you: Help or break up That's absolutely terrible advice in this situation. Her teen pregnancy is going to ruin her life. Why the hell should it ruin the OP's life too? If the pregnant girl was going to be a good friend, she wouldn't blatantly tell and attempt to force the OP to help her raise her eventual child. What kind of bullshit is that? You just don't do that. You don't put your friends in that kind of situation. The pregnant girl clearly isn't ready (at least from an emotional/ maturity standpoint) to be a mother. Have her get an abortion or- if she's morally against it- have her give her child up for adoption or something. Or if she doesn't want to ever get rid of the child, you need to remove yourself from this whole situation immediately. Stop being friends with her, because it looks like she's going to rely on you to do half the shit that she'll need to do. It doesn't appear like she can handle the situation alone (or with the father), and there's absolutely zero reason why the OP has a moral obligation as a friend/ best friend to sacrifice the rest of her time and money to put up with this crap. Slapping her was exactly what you should have done. That reaction was completely justified. | ||
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Scarecrow
Korea (South)9175 Posts
On September 21 2012 20:12 Erasme wrote: A baby that soon will ruin her life, you should really tell her to abort. Yep, your friend has no fucking clue how hard raising a baby is. Let alone without a reliable father. She shouldn't expect more from you than visits and presents. Seriously though she should abort. | ||
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Paperplane
Netherlands1823 Posts
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SnipedSoul
Canada2158 Posts
On September 21 2012 22:29 Paperplane wrote: It's not your responsibility. Don't get dragged into this mess or you'll end up spending more time on her baby then she will. Simple advice the OP should listen to. | ||
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Saechiis
Netherlands4989 Posts
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docvoc
United States5491 Posts
On September 21 2012 18:49 TheKwas wrote: Serious recommendation: abortion. Normally I'm not in favor of abortion, but in this case, adpotion or abortion might be a good idea. This girl might know who the father is, but I don't think she understands the magnitude of what has happened. She cannot go to college until the kid is older, like 7, she can't do that because if she doesn't play a role in his childhood, varying issues with the child's early childhood that can haunt him past adulthood.This girl is acting like a dumbass for someone who should be smart. BTW: WHO THE FUCK IS THE FATHER | ||
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lungo
Denmark276 Posts
i dont need to tell how difficult it is to raise a child, as you probably have an idea about that. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46424 Posts
On September 21 2012 23:11 docvoc wrote: Normally I'm not in favor of abortion, but in this case, adpotion or abortion might be a good idea. This girl might know who the father is, but I don't think she understands the magnitude of what has happened. She cannot go to college until the kid is older, like 7, she can't do that because if she doesn't play a role in his childhood, varying issues with the child's early childhood that can haunt him past adulthood.This girl is acting like a dumbass for someone who should be smart. BTW: WHO THE FUCK IS THE FATHER I can tell you these two aren't: But the pregnant girl needs to worry about making sure the father will be there for the baby... not just a random friend. | ||
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Cyber_Cheese
Australia3615 Posts
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r00ty
Germany1084 Posts
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bonifaceviii
Canada2890 Posts
You are now: the perfect man. | ||
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