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I'm 18 years old now and I've never really thought about "Teenage pregnancy" and stuff. But now everything has changed. (Okay, this sounds like an introduction to a typical reality show abhout teenagers).
Right now I'm sitting in school. I don't have any free time. I'm in school from 8 a.m to 6 p.m. every day and the food here is totally horrible. Whatever. My best friend is 17, almost 18. She's totally diffrent than me. She loves mathmatics, physics and on every summer vacation she goes to a mathmatics camp for 2 weeks.
And she dress like a slut. I really do like her but.. she just need this acknowledgment from guys and this is freaking annoying. Whatever.
Yesterday she wasn't in school because she was "sick". Then today she texted me "I need to talk to you". I was just like "Okaaaay. What's up?" She looked on the floor and said: "Hey, I'm pregnant"
I was totally shocked. No. I AM totally shocked. This girl who has never had a boyfriend but trying to get everyone is pregnant. My first reaction wasn't right but I slapped her. She didn't cry, no. It seemed like she's proud. She smiled and said: "Yeah, I'm really pregnant. And you'll help me to raise up my child."
I'm actually not sure If I should be angry with her. She's pregnant and expects that I'll help her even when I come home at 6 p.m.
Well, I'm reaaally confused right now and had to tell someone of this story.
Have a great day!
Edit: I'm NOT the father (what the hell?) and the father is just a random guy who don't wanna help her.
 
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so you are the father or what? or is this some kind of "Prince of Bel Air" stuff?
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No, I'm a girl and her best friend. Not the father oO
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why can't the dad help her raise the child?
edit: nvm
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If she is your best friend, you have to help her in every kind of trouble.
If you cant help her, thats the point of your relationship where you realize that you are just friends.
There are two directions for you: Help or break up
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Boy oh boy have you got a situation in your hands now...
I have no experience in this so I can't give any solid advice. However, she can't force you to help her raise her child, right? :o
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On September 21 2012 18:07 Xhiwi wrote:
No, I'm a girl and her best friend. Not the father oO
lol, didn't see that coming at all...
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On September 21 2012 18:12 PiPaPoh wrote:
If she is your best friend, you have to help her in every kind of trouble.
If you cant help her, thats the point of your relationship where you realize that you are just friends.
There are two directions for you: Help or break up
I think you're totally right. I'm actually not sure If I would really like to help her but I don't have the time or if this is just a stupid excuse.
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If she's really your homie for live... Well that still doesn't mean you have to help her raise it... Depending on what she expects you to do exactly..
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On September 21 2012 18:19 Xhiwi wrote:Show nested quote +On September 21 2012 18:12 PiPaPoh wrote:
If she is your best friend, you have to help her in every kind of trouble.
If you cant help her, thats the point of your relationship where you realize that you are just friends.
There are two directions for you: Help or break up I think you're totally right. I'm actually not sure If I would really like to help her but I don't have the time or if this is just a stupid excuse.
Sure, you can help her, but to what extent? It's her kid, her life, and you have your own life. One could argue that since she is your best friend, you have to help her. But remember that you are also her best friend, and a best friend doesn't force something upon their best friend that the best friend doesn't want or can or have time to do. (lol so many best friends in one sentence).
I can take my best friend as an example. If my best friend would have a kid, he would never say something like "you will have to help me raise this bloke" because he just wouldn't leave that burden upon me, since he was the one getting the kid, he made that choise, not me. However, I would help him the best I could, because we're friends. See how it works both ways?
My point is, I have a hard time seeing how a good friend would say something like that to you. Almost in a forcing manner. It wasn't even a question? She just said you WILL help me raise this kid?
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Wow. Well if it was my friend I'd recommend abortion... but that's just me. She seemed proud of it though? Weird, but her choice.
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On September 21 2012 18:19 Xhiwi wrote:Show nested quote +On September 21 2012 18:12 PiPaPoh wrote:
If she is your best friend, you have to help her in every kind of trouble.
If you cant help her, thats the point of your relationship where you realize that you are just friends.
There are two directions for you: Help or break up I think you're totally right. I'm actually not sure If I would really like to help her but I don't have the time or if this is just a stupid excuse.
you go to school with her? so she's probably just as busy as you are. and she has the kid. imagine having someone depend on you for everything, every hour of the day, and being unable to step away whenever you want, like you can. she's going to have to give up a lot of her dreams to raise this kid. a lot of girls drop out of school, and once you drop out, you pretty much never go back. maybe she doesn't realize it right now, but once she has the baby, she's going to have to grow up fast.
obviously your life is your own and you are in no way obligated to help her. and you shouldn't help "raise" the kid, that's her job. but just keep in mind it's a hard fucking job and she can use all the help she can get. at least try and get her to finish high school.
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Serious recommendation: abortion.
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I was seriously thinking you were an irresponsible father until i finished and read all the comments (not raise your own child or use condoms wtf?). Your friend seems to have quite a situation on her hands. Since you are best friends I don't think she would burden you by like making you be her wife but support her for sure whatever she decides to do (keep or abort). Just realize that you are doing it as a friend should you choose to and that she's the mother and all.
so young to have a kid already... even if already 18
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The decision is up to her offcourse, but if she´s 17 and loves math and physics I presume she wants to go to university.
And I think it will be pretty damn hard combining a math or physics degree with a difficult home situation let alone a child to take care of....
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You really should have slapped her a second time. Getting pregnant and then basically commanding you to help raise it is the most retarded, dickheaded and selfish thing I've the displeasure of reading on this forum. Only majors news outlets have borne news this bad to me.
So here's what you do: you leave her. Right now. Unless recently pregnant people are naturally stupider than a Down's syndrome kid who was dropped on his head, you really don't need a friend that selfish or stupid. She actually might have planned the whole thing, considering how calm she was. That would mean that even the previous excuse wouldn't work.
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Honestly, having a kid at that age is borderline impossible. Not only she would have to give up university as many have pointed out, but at 18 NONE is ready to raise a child.
Tell her to seroiusly think about the fact that she will very, very likely have to give up everything she wants to do after high school if she wants to keep and raise the child.
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extreme girl blog... with a twist.
good luck to you 
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On September 21 2012 18:07 Xhiwi wrote:
No, I'm a girl and her best friend. Not the father oO
You should update OP , to avoid a bit" of confusion
Edit: Or it is on purpose
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She has family issues? best friend or not.... you need to take care of yourself, it's not your fault she opened her legs and didn't tell the guy to wear a condom..you're 18 and seems like you have a good head on your shoulders, don't let her mistakes slow you down. She's proud that shes pregnant at 17??? seems like someones been watching too much MTV's teenage mom...or whatever that crap is called
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EPT
