I Failed My Parents - Page 2
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whistle
United States141 Posts
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Cambium
United States16368 Posts
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Weson
Iceland1032 Posts
When i was 14 years old i got what my doctors said was a stomach disease. This screwed up my social life and school(i was at school maybe 2-3 days out of max at max per week). This resulted in that i failed pretty much my whole education. I didn't see any point in studying when i was sick, i just wanted to escape the reality through MMO's and drugs. On top of that i attended a program that didn't suite me at all. I chose it because my friends was there and they said it was easy. I didn't graduate with a diploma, i got a piece of paper spammed with F's and some D's. This wouldn't take me anywhere. Then one day i fainted and my mum found me laying on the bathroom floor. This time my doctors scratched their heads and then realised that they had treated me for the wrong thing ... for 6 years. It turned out that i've had a infection during this whole time, this had drained my energy and i just couldn't go out and socialize or study because of exhaustion from my body fighting the infection. I get so mad when people say that Sweden has the best health care in the world ... After i got home 1-2 weeks after i started with antibiotics i was feeling physicly good for the first time in 6 years. My whole teenage had passed by and i never got to experience it. This got me into a depression. I had no education and no life experience other then from my illness that now was gone. It took me some time to gather strength to start looking for ways to sort out my life. It turned out that you get a second chance in life, you even get a third and a fourth chance it you need it. I'm now in my first year in a university and i'm 23 years old. | ||
Leeoku
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EternaLLegacy
United States410 Posts
That's more than most people amount to in their life. That's certainly more than most people realize by the time they're out of high school. Don't worry about other people. Worry about doing what you want to do, and be the best you can at it. I still struggle with my own demons regarding the same thing, but I've become more self-aware the last few years. You're already quite self-aware, so you have all the tools you need to make a better life for yourself. And remember, if your parents are good parents, they will care that you have passion for doing whatever you decide to do well and with integrity. If they are simply trying to coerce or guilt you into a life they've picked out for you, then they're not worth listening to in the first place. | ||
UmiNotsuki
United States633 Posts
Trust me, you've got nothing to worry about Your parents may be sweating and bleeding for you but they should be so proud of you for going to college at all. Hell, compared to their lives as you describe them, it's a step up for you to attend community college. Rutgers is several steps up further. Just focus on your grades in college and you'll see the gates of opportunity swing further open then your parents had hoped for | ||
Bigtony
United States1606 Posts
Ivy league is super overrated. Rutgers is an amazing University and super affordable. You will get a great education and experience, especially if you continue with the right attitude and dont party like a dickhead. Keep your chin up. I graduated from Rutgers New Brunswick. Lemme know if you have any questions; PM any time. | ||
Hidden_MotiveS
Canada2562 Posts
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Froadac
United States6733 Posts
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Endymion
United States3701 Posts
On February 26 2012 14:42 Cambium wrote: Rutgers is still a good school. Work hard during those four years and get a good job or enrol in a better grad school. That'll restore honour to your family. honor was never lost well done on being accepted to Rutgers, just keep up the good work! | ||
Cambium
United States16368 Posts
Asian parenting is terrible, truth be told. On February 26 2012 14:59 EternaLLegacy wrote: (and ivy leagues are just pretentious douche magnets so don't worry about not getting into one, the education is very rarely better) That's not very nice =/ | ||
Froadac
United States6733 Posts
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ImDrizzt
Norway427 Posts
Go experience, pursue whatever, don't listen to them, make new friends, feel, see as much as you can, and leave the haters. Not dissing, but you're parents are probably noobs following old traditions, culture and their parents programming, so they're not suited to tell you what you should do. Not saying go hating them, love them, but lol when they tell you what to do. Yay | ||
ImDrizzt
Norway427 Posts
On February 26 2012 14:13 MiStAh wrote: Don't worry about what you did in the past, just make the future count. Crap, made me spill my coffe, thought for a split second your last word was cunt. | ||
DyEnasTy
United States3714 Posts
When you are a parent who wants the best for your child, and sacrifice everything to make a better future for your child possible, maybe you will understand. | ||
brachester
Australia1786 Posts
On February 26 2012 13:57 SeizeTheDay wrote: Why do we see this so much in the Asian culture.. its always " I FAILED MY PARENTS" or "DISHONORED MY FAMILY" i dont understand your growing up in a different time a TOTALLY different place then Vietnam and your becoming your own person.. dont you think that is just how life is? that you are you and cant live up to every expectation that is given to you? The fact is your parents love you no matter what.. till you have kids I dont think people understand the undying love parents have.. even if they throw you out .. there is still a love in the heart. Because we feel guitly that we didn't achieve what our parents want us to unlike some people who don't give a shit about how our parents think. But of course, Like some people above said, you still have time to make up for your mistake bro, keep at it. Edit: That said, It doesn't mean we have to do whatever our parents told us to even though all they want is for us to be happy. | ||
achristes
Norway653 Posts
On February 26 2012 14:47 Weson wrote: Dude you got time to study ... When i was 14 years old i got what my doctors said was a stomach disease. This screwed up my social life and school(i was at school maybe 2-3 days out of max at max per week). This resulted in that i failed pretty much my whole education. I didn't see any point in studying when i was sick, i just wanted to escape the reality through MMO's and drugs. On top of that i attended a program that didn't suite me at all. I chose it because my friends was there and they said it was easy. I didn't graduate with a diploma, i got a piece of paper spammed with F's and some D's. This wouldn't take me anywhere. Then one day i fainted and my mum found me laying on the bathroom floor. This time my doctors scratched their heads and then realised that they had treated me for the wrong thing ... for 6 years. It turned out that i've had a infection during this whole time, this had drained my energy and i just couldn't go out and socialize or study because of exhaustion from my body fighting the infection. I get so mad when people say that Sweden has the best health care in the world ... After i got home 1-2 weeks after i started with antibiotics i was feeling physicly good for the first time in 6 years. My whole teenage had passed by and i never got to experience it. This got me into a depression. I had no education and no life experience other then from my illness that now was gone. It took me some time to gather strength to start looking for ways to sort out my life. It turned out that you get a second chance in life, you even get a third and a fourth chance it you need it. I'm now in my first year in a university and i'm 23 years old. Wow, that REALLY sucks... @OP I don't think you need to worry that much, idk about american schools and job requirements but since america is a lot bigger and different than norway I'll just guess that you can get a decent/good job even if your grades aren't top notch. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you need top notch grades to get a decent job in norway. You can just live on welfare your whole life and never work at all and still have a pretty ok lifestyle, or go to prison and have access to computer, tv, your own "apartment" etc. But most people that don't do too well at school here has a pretty good life anyway | ||
synapse
China13814 Posts
On February 26 2012 15:15 Bigtony wrote: I expected you to be on drugs and the verge of suicide or some shit. Ivy league is super overrated. Rutgers is an amazing University and super affordable. You will get a great education and experience, especially if you continue with the right attitude and dont party like a dickhead. Keep your chin up. I graduated from Rutgers New Brunswick. Lemme know if you have any questions; PM any time. @OP: Just make sure you don't go to Rutgers Newark | ||
Erik.TheRed
United States1655 Posts
you are definitely worrying too much! In the end it doesn't really matter where you go for an undergrad degree, but rather what you accomplish there and who you meet! And Rutgers NB has over 30,000 people... sure there are some snookie-loving retards who just party 24/7 but you can find a lot of brilliant students and professors as well. It's not like you're a lazy bum on the street, and it's likely that your parents overrated the importance of having excellent grades coming from such humble beginnings. What's most important is your ambition and your ability to network with other people -- that's what will ultimately land you a successful and fulfilling career. And btw, Rutgers is a great school and best of all we have a thriving sc2 community. I am the captain of our team, and I can confidently say that we crush most of the Ivys when it comes to sc2 ability and overall coolness. In fact those Princeton guys are so jealous that they're always asking us to hang out with them so maybe some of our uber micro skills will rub off on them | ||
NoctemSC
United States771 Posts
You go to Rutgers (which is a pretty damn good school) and you get good grades. You capitalize on this, maybe go for a masters at a prestigious university. Hell man, just do whatever it is that makes you happy, your parents will understand. | ||
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