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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on.
Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments.
Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. |
On January 05 2013 11:23 arb wrote:Show nested quote +On January 05 2013 11:22 MountainDewJunkie wrote:On January 05 2013 11:19 arb wrote:On January 05 2013 11:18 MountainDewJunkie wrote:On January 05 2013 11:12 arb wrote:On January 05 2013 10:51 generalyao wrote:On January 05 2013 10:38 Sakray wrote: I've never dated a girl even tho I'm on a relatioship for almost 6 years now. Internet ftw So how'd you end up in a relationship then..? There has to be some interesting story behind that he's gay I think he means he's in a relationship with someone he's never even met in person, ie, he met her online, cyber sex, phone calls, WoW, stuff like that. Phone sex is pretty good, imo he said he's never dated a girl but been in a relationship for 6 years gay imo But he said internet ftw, what would that have to do with sexual preference you can still date guys on the internet plus he said never a girl that leaves only one other sex, that being male unless its male/female or some kind of animal ??
Mail order chicken
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On January 05 2013 11:43 the_business_og wrote: bitches are the root of all evil.
Congratulations! You win sc4k's 'worst statement on TL ever' competition! You were up against some pretty stiff competition but you beat out all the other contenders. The use of the word 'bitches' instead of 'women' or 'girls' really sealed the deal.
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On January 05 2013 11:44 Wrongspeedy wrote:Show nested quote +On January 05 2013 11:23 arb wrote:On January 05 2013 11:22 MountainDewJunkie wrote:On January 05 2013 11:19 arb wrote:On January 05 2013 11:18 MountainDewJunkie wrote:On January 05 2013 11:12 arb wrote:On January 05 2013 10:51 generalyao wrote:On January 05 2013 10:38 Sakray wrote: I've never dated a girl even tho I'm on a relatioship for almost 6 years now. Internet ftw So how'd you end up in a relationship then..? There has to be some interesting story behind that he's gay I think he means he's in a relationship with someone he's never even met in person, ie, he met her online, cyber sex, phone calls, WoW, stuff like that. Phone sex is pretty good, imo he said he's never dated a girl but been in a relationship for 6 years gay imo But he said internet ftw, what would that have to do with sexual preference you can still date guys on the internet plus he said never a girl that leaves only one other sex, that being male unless its male/female or some kind of animal ?? Mail order chicken maybe shes an alien
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Pretty good! Thanks for asking op!
It's hard to find a girl that I'm interested in that is also interested in me. Dating has always been a game of convincing myself that I'll like the girls that are super into me, the girls that are not into me at all actually are, and finding out that the one I do like is already taken. I've turned down quite a few, have been turned down as often, but I think I found the right girl. Now I just have to ask her out (she'll say yes).
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On October 09 2011 15:44 VWSChe wrote: One time I thought I saw a girl, but it was actually just a funny looking mutalisk.
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On January 05 2013 11:33 r.Evo wrote: Maybe they met online, fell in love and greeted each other with a kiss the first time, skipping the "dating process". GG.
This. More exactly, we met online on some sort of roleplay-based website with an UI (you can make actions with your character on the UI and make roleplay on forums or IRC based on what your character do), and my character married her one. We had some roleplay on IRC, then we started to talk "normally" (i.e no roleplay) on IRC, MSN, etc... We texted a lot, she had free and unlimited calls from 9pm to 12pm almost everyday so we were on phone almost everyday. One day (maybe one year and a half later) I told her my feelings (basiccaly that I loved her), we met maybe 1 or 2 months later, and instead of the "hey how are you blablabla" stuff, bam, we kissed. 6 years in 2 months.
And yep, my english is shit sometimes.
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On January 05 2013 12:08 Sakray wrote:Show nested quote +On January 05 2013 11:33 r.Evo wrote: Maybe they met online, fell in love and greeted each other with a kiss the first time, skipping the "dating process". GG. This. More exactly, we met online on some sort of roleplay-based website with an UI (you can make actions with your character on the UI and make roleplay on forums or IRC based on what your character do), and my character married her one. We had some roleplay on IRC, then we started to talk "normally" (i.e no roleplay) on IRC, MSN, etc... We texted a lot, she had free and unlimited calls from 9pm to 12pm almost everyday so we were on phone almost everyday. One day (maybe one year and a half later) I told her my feelings (basiccaly that I loved her), we met maybe 1 or 2 months later, and instead of the "hey how are you blablabla" stuff, bam, we kissed. 6 years in 2 months. And yep, my english is shit sometimes. Power to you.
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On January 05 2013 11:49 sc4k wrote:Show nested quote +On January 05 2013 11:43 the_business_og wrote: bitches are the root of all evil. Congratulations! You win sc4k's 'worst statement on TL ever' competition! You were up against some pretty stiff competition but you beat out all the other contenders. The use of the word 'bitches' instead of 'women' or 'girls' really sealed the deal.
I guess there's a reason he isn't getting the "bitches"
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On January 05 2013 12:13 McFeser wrote:Show nested quote +On January 05 2013 12:08 Sakray wrote:On January 05 2013 11:33 r.Evo wrote: Maybe they met online, fell in love and greeted each other with a kiss the first time, skipping the "dating process". GG. This. More exactly, we met online on some sort of roleplay-based website with an UI (you can make actions with your character on the UI and make roleplay on forums or IRC based on what your character do), and my character married her one. We had some roleplay on IRC, then we started to talk "normally" (i.e no roleplay) on IRC, MSN, etc... We texted a lot, she had free and unlimited calls from 9pm to 12pm almost everyday so we were on phone almost everyday. One day (maybe one year and a half later) I told her my feelings (basiccaly that I loved her), we met maybe 1 or 2 months later, and instead of the "hey how are you blablabla" stuff, bam, we kissed. 6 years in 2 months. And yep, my english is shit sometimes. Power to you.
Nice story, bro One of my good (female) friends found her current bf through wow... Honestly, the internet - and games - are not a bad way to meet people at all. SC2 however isn't really the best
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On January 05 2013 12:16 Mentalizor wrote:Show nested quote +On January 05 2013 12:13 McFeser wrote:On January 05 2013 12:08 Sakray wrote:On January 05 2013 11:33 r.Evo wrote: Maybe they met online, fell in love and greeted each other with a kiss the first time, skipping the "dating process". GG. This. More exactly, we met online on some sort of roleplay-based website with an UI (you can make actions with your character on the UI and make roleplay on forums or IRC based on what your character do), and my character married her one. We had some roleplay on IRC, then we started to talk "normally" (i.e no roleplay) on IRC, MSN, etc... We texted a lot, she had free and unlimited calls from 9pm to 12pm almost everyday so we were on phone almost everyday. One day (maybe one year and a half later) I told her my feelings (basiccaly that I loved her), we met maybe 1 or 2 months later, and instead of the "hey how are you blablabla" stuff, bam, we kissed. 6 years in 2 months. And yep, my english is shit sometimes. Power to you. Nice story, bro  One of my good (female) friends found her current bf through wow... Honestly, the internet - and games - are not a bad way to meet people at all. SC2 however isn't really the best 
rofl when u mentioned sc2 :D
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On January 05 2013 10:29 CVanG145 wrote:Show nested quote +On October 09 2011 16:05 PulseKane wrote:On October 09 2011 15:56 Probe1 wrote: Single on purpose. Last relationship was 7 months of good to eh to holy shit i'm out of here. Would rather not be in a committed relationship at this point.
Except to Esports. bro, i'm with you there. threesome with esports? Hey, I'm here for the gangbang. Name the film and become respected forever by me.
Old School
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Or he's gay... which seems entirely irrelevant to the discussion
The discussion is called "Dating, how's your luck ? " . What's irrelevant ?
I'm kind of sad I missed it because now it's too late but
I've never dated a girl even tho I'm on a relatioship for almost 6 years now. Internet ftw
could be interpreted to mean his hand.
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On January 05 2013 11:43 the_business_og wrote: bitches are the root of all evil. also, you can't live with them, and can't live without them. also i have fear of talking to strangers, let alone females, so its tough. just gotta get super rich so they come to me
I guess getting rich seems easier than getting a number for some people.
Good luck getting rich without talking to people.
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I havent dated anyone for about.. 8 months now X_X
although i havent been going out there and looking for a girlfriend (i dont think anyone does?) im just waiting for the right one xD
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Some realizes that looking for the right one is more productive than waiting for the right one.
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I think something that could benefit a lot of people here is to actually leave their houses and do things that make them interesting people. I understand that the majority of TL are the indoor kind of people, and the major hobby is playing video games; still, I think that most of the people (and I'm making wild assumptions since I haven't read this thread very much) whom are crying about their dating situation are the kinds of people that don't do anything. It's cool if playing video games is part of what you do; it is completely not cool if video games are all of what you do. That is, barring the possibility that you make money playing games, since then your job is playing games, and you probably do things outside of game playing that might make you an interesting person.
If you're upset that you're an uninteresting person, with nothing to talk about, and girls are always off talking to interesting guys who do cool things with their lives: BECOME ONE OF THOSE GUYS. Seriously, if the most exciting thing you can talk about is (and this is going to date me, but I don't follow pro gaming anymore, so this is the most recent match I've watched) JoyO vs Boxer... well, you're not going to be a good candidate for most people, since they don't know what the hell you're talking about. So do things, make yourself an interesting, well-versed person, and you'll naturally meet people and girls. I know that's easier said than done for many, but it will make you a happier person in general, I think.
http://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-you-better-person/
I know it's from Cracked, and what the hell do they know, right? The man makes some great points, and point 3 is especially true. I won't call it a "resolution" but this was a realization that I had prior to reading this article, that the reason I wasn't interesting to people, part of the reason my ex-gf may have left me, and part of the reason I was having difficulty meeting new women/friends is that I don't do anything. I hang out with the same small group of friends (which includes few females, who are in relationships with my guy friends), I go to work, I work out at a small gym, and I sleep. Not a good way to meet people, and the feeling I get from the complaints I've seen here seem like they'd carry very similar stories to mine.
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Russian Federation748 Posts
That was also posted a few pages ago. Cracked must have hit the spot with that famous article.
Edit : actually not, a mediocre article. I can't see why people would laud that but blame drow for spouting nonsense.
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On January 05 2013 19:58 Kyrillion wrote: That was also posted a few pages ago. Cracked must have hit the spot with that famous article.
Edit : actually not, a mediocre article. I can't see why people would laud that but blame drow for spouting nonsense.
Yeah, I don't necessarily agree with most of it; I think he is kind of wishy-washy in some aspects. In one sentence he's telling you that you are your job (i.e. the money you make), and in the next he's telling you it's not all about your job and the money you make, but what you do overall... but point three is very true, imo. Regardless of what validity any other part of that article has, point three is absolutely true.
You don't have to be a millionaire, or a NY Times best-selling author, or anyone that is generally regarded as "important" in today's world (because almost all of those people are rich), but you have to be interesting, and you have to do what you love (it helps if you also love your job). If what you love to do is helping kids, or counseling teenagers, or something else that's equally good to do, but doesn't make much money, then that's fine. If you're a janitor, but you spend your time off going on road trips, and... idk, mountain biking through the country, that's cool too (in fact, the first two things combined was getting a friend of mine a lot of ass for a while... he doesn't seem to believe in relationships... he still gets loads of women, but he's moved on from his janitorial duties). Those things make you an interesting person to talk to, and to be around. People gravitate toward interesting people... so be interesting.
It was actually in talking to my friend that I referenced in the parenthetical statement that made me realize WHY he got women more than me. He's not significantly better looking than me (I think I'm better looking), and he doesn't make more money, wear nicer clothes, drive a nicer car, etc... yet women love this guy. Why? HE DOES THINGS! I looked through his FB pictures, and he's got pictures of his times in Cali, in Vegas, hiking through the Rockies, New York and so on. He does cool shit, so he has stories to tell, which means he has something to talk about. Me? I can talk about football, and... uhh... video games? And, imo, therein lies the difference.
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Russian Federation748 Posts
Point 3 is not that bad (the second part is much better than the first, to be honest), and certainly applies to a lot of people. It would have been more convincing did it not centre on the writer's invalid example. It should be common sense that you have to prove your writing abilities before congratulating yourself on it, and when you fail to do so in an entire article one's inclined to believe those skills don't exist.
It must be the very self-denial he mentions, but I feel his message is slightly hypocritical. People who chide their peers for not achieving enough are nearly always underachievers anyway.
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On January 05 2013 20:52 Kyrillion wrote: Point 3 is not that bad (the second part is much better than the first, to be honest), and certainly applies to a lot of people. It would have been more convincing did it not centre on the writer's invalid example. It should be common sense that you have to prove your writing abilities before congratulating yourself on it, and when you fail to do so in an entire article one's inclined to believe those skills don't exist.
It must be the very self-denial he mentions, but I feel his message is slightly hypocritical. People who chide their peers for not achieving enough are nearly always underachievers anyway.
I have a feeling that article was written by someone who doesn't date, and is pandering to other people who don't date. Anyone trying to tell someone else how they should be spending their lives to be more productive is either 1) Trying to sell something or 2) projecting insecurities about their own lives. Or in this case most likely both.
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