EPTI've also heard thats it harder for someone from said minority race to date girls in/from Eastern European/Scandinavian nations, again how much truth and validity is in this?
Is it really harder.....
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nimysa
United States383 Posts
I've also heard thats it harder for someone from said minority race to date girls in/from Eastern European/Scandinavian nations, again how much truth and validity is in this? | ||
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Slaughter
United States20254 Posts
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ShaperofDreams
Canada2492 Posts
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qzmpwxno
Papua New Guinea152 Posts
 on a more serious note, i think most girls think asian guys are too stuck up or not willing to look outside of their own race or something when it comes to potential mates... | ||
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sob3k
United States7572 Posts
(white) women, I would say it is definitely harder. Most of them have told me that they just don't find asian men attractive generally. That said, I've also seen "high-value" asian/whatever guys get ridiculous amounts of ass, so it certainly isn't impossible, they're just gonna have to work harder. | ||
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seRapH
United States9715 Posts
Also asian guys often find asian girls more attractive than white girls, so there's often little reason to go outside of their minority | ||
Hot_Bid
Braavos36372 Posts
The real reason it's "harder" is because lots of Asian guys feed into this stereotype and whine about it constantly instead of just being secure and going for it. Take some responsibility. Seriously, changing stereotypes and racial perceptions starts one person at a time. Tomorrow go ask out some girl, doesn't matter which race, and don't psychoanalyze your chances or handicaps or whatever because Hollywood doesn't let Jackie Chan kiss the girl or whatever in Shanghai Noon. Screw that. Can't speak about Scandanavia but from experience, it's 90% in your head. If you are insecure about this your peers and the girls will notice, and that will make it harder for you. If you're not "asexual, non-masculine, or weak" please act like it. On November 30 2010 13:24 nimysa wrote: ... The common opinion is that an average white guy can score with a really hot chick of any race, while the average person from a minority can't unless they are very masculine or high value. ... This is some bullshit to justify failure. The next time you see an "average" white guy with a hot girlfriend, it's not because he's white. That's you attributing your feelings of inadequacy in your race, and it's a very unhealthy mindset to have. edit: I am Chinese. I have dated white girls. They are not particularly "harder to get" than Asian girls. In fact I'd say it's easier because there's simply more of them, and most Asian guys just don't approach them so it seems harder. Nothing against Asian girls, but whenever I see an Asian dude with a non-Asian girl I always feel a bit of happiness that the stereotype is breaking bit by bit and I am really happy for him. | ||
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shawster
Canada2485 Posts
over here i've seen lots of attractive white girls date asian guys, because the area is literally like 75% asian. if asians are less common, it's harder for a white chick to like the asian since she doesn't really know much about him. however where i live race doesn't matter that much anymore. a good example is my friend, he went to a private school for like 5 years and the school was 95% white (he's asian). when he came to a public school he couldn't stand asian chicks, but as time progressed he started to like them more. but don't blame your race for the reason a hot white chick is going out with a average white guy. as far as relationships are concerned i honestly believe that any match is compatible. | ||
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news
892 Posts
On November 30 2010 13:36 seRapH wrote: Also asian guys often find asian girls more attractive than white girls, so there's often little reason to go outside of their minority I'm not asian but most of my asian friends would love to date a good-looking white girl, some do. White girls are almost as tasty to asians as they are to blacks. | ||
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rezoacken
Canada2719 Posts
White may certainly be considered better looking for the average american, tall too, muscular, classy and bad-boy with king arthur jaw line and with an elephant penis. The fact is everybody as a different set of cards in this area, so play with what you have and don't look at what you may want to make your life somewhat "easier". The truth is... anyway it really doesn't matter much as long as you bring personality into the line. It will only make a difference if you rely on your look only to date women, in that case yes you may be less picked than white men but who gives a shit. Deal with who you are, be comfortable about it first and then bring personality to the table without a second thought about not looking like Brad Pitt. Just rewatch movies like fight club, and piss on such bullshit society and medias try to make you believe in. Also this guy speak truth on the same subject : On November 30 2010 13:36 Hot_Bid wrote: The reality is it is harder. But it's not just society. Yes, media and mainstream culture projects a negative stereotype to Asian guys. However, it's not as bad as you think and it's changing, I see more Asian male / non-Asian female couples around more. In old movies, you'd never see Asian guys being the lead and their romantic interests be non-Asians but look here: Asian ninja makes out with Kate Bosworth - good for Hollywood, and stereotype is dying one movie at a time. The real reason it's "harder" is because lots of Asian guys feed into this stereotype and whine about it constantly instead of just being secure and going for it. Take some responsibility. Seriously, changing stereotypes and racial perceptions starts one person at a time. Tomorrow go ask out some girl, doesn't matter which race, and don't psychoanalyze your chances or handicaps or whatever because Hollywood doesn't let Jackie Chan kiss the girl or whatever in Shanghai Noon. Screw that. Can't speak about Scandanavia but from experience, it's 90% in your head. If you are insecure about this your peers and the girls will notice, and that will make it harder for you. If you're not "asexual, non-masculine, or weak" please act like it. This is some bullshit to justify failure. The next time you see an "average" white guy with a hot girlfriend, it's not because he's white. That's you attributing your feelings of inadequacy in your race, and it's a very unhealthy mindset to have. edit: I am Chinese. I have dated white girls. They are not particularly "harder to get" than Asian girls. In fact I'd say it's easier because there's simply more of them, and most Asian guys just don't approach them so it seems harder. Nothing against Asian girls, but whenever I see an Asian dude with a non-Asian girl I always feel a bit of happiness that the stereotype is breaking bit by bit and I am really happy for him. | ||
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ramen247
United States1256 Posts
White girls will dig hot Asians just the way anybody digs attractive looking people. White girls that say they don't like Asian guys have probably never seen an attractive Asian guy. That's all. | ||
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Macavenger
United States1132 Posts
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nimysa
United States383 Posts
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aztrorisk
United States896 Posts
I once had a Asian teacher (guy) who had a really hot white wife. So it isn't impossible. You shouldn't let the odds discourage you. Who knows, maybe being apart of the minority may give you the advantage in the long run. | ||
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happyness
United States2400 Posts
One thing I thought was interesting was that among interracial couples among whites and blacks there are a lot more black-male/white-female than white-male/black-female. I would think females are generally less suprerficial than males, as in they don't care about race or looks as much as males do. | ||
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FragKrag
United States11545 Posts
As far as the yellow team, I'm not sure, but there definitely is that negative stigma. | ||
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Subversion
South Africa3627 Posts
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Adeeler
United Kingdom764 Posts
Chatting up a random woman ofc depends on your looks 1st, if you look good you look good if you don't your chances are less. Confidence goes a long way. Every/any girl that shots you down cos of your colour is a girl you don't want in the long run so you win overall and they lose cos your awesome(aren't you!). I'm the most h8'd colour on the planet atm and I have no problems chatting to white girls and can tell you that most women are pc and its just whether your actually attractive/fun that will get you the date; if you are one/either/both of those things the woman will go out with you. Be happy/chilled in your life and women will pick up on it and want you even more. | ||
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silencefc
United States875 Posts
The majority of Asians in an interracial marriages that I know of in real life, the father is the Asian. These are people +40 years old and if anything we would assume that it was harder back then. So, I don't think it's as hard as we really make it out to be. | ||
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EvilTeletubby
Baltimore, USA22251 Posts
Even creating this post asking if race makes it harder means I can 100% guarantee that you're looking at the wrong thing as a reason for your woes.  | ||
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nimysa
United States383 Posts
 Oh and go on guys | ||
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Cyber_Cheese
Australia3615 Posts
it really is harder source http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-race-affects-whether-people-write-you-back/ | ||
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Bosu
United States3247 Posts
On November 30 2010 14:04 ramen247 wrote: attractive people find attractive people appealing. I don't think it has anything to do with race unless they are just radically racist. White girls will dig hot Asians just the way anybody digs attractive looking people. White girls that say they don't like Asian guys have probably never seen an attractive Asian guy. That's all. Racism has nothing to do with attraction. I find very few women who are black as attractive. And while I may have some stereotypes about people of every race (who doesn't) I wouldn't say I am racist at all. I am about as liberal nas you can get. | ||
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Haemonculus
United States6980 Posts
Are you sure it's race specifically? I doubt many women would write you off for no reason other than race. (and if they do... why go for her in the first place? ) And there's always exceptions or whatnot. My (white) best friend in high school *only* dated Asian guys, that was just her thing. I haven't spoken to her in at least a year now, but last I heard she was engaged to an Asian man. Take a look at your other qualities. Blaming race specifically seems a bit short sighted. | ||
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Cambium
United States16368 Posts
On November 30 2010 13:36 Hot_Bid wrote: The real reason it's "harder" is because lots of Asian guys feed into this stereotype and whine about it constantly instead of just being secure and going for it. Take some responsibility. Seriously, changing stereotypes and racial perceptions starts one person at a time. ^That and also, some Asian guys prefer to date Asian girls because they feel cultural similarities are important. | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32028 Posts
On November 30 2010 14:08 Macavenger wrote: Yes, it is. Although some of the statistics there suggest that fact is more about the white girls than the minority guys. The guy who compiled that stuff is a moron. 'Racism is alive and well' Lordy. | ||
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Ancestral
United States3230 Posts
On December 01 2010 01:09 Hawk wrote: The guy who compiled that stuff is a moron. 'Racism is alive and well' Lordy. If you disagree with the statement that racism still exists I can do nothing but pity you. On another note, Indian guys mack on all the bitches I try to get with, and usually beat me. (I'm white). | ||
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Chef
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EsX_Raptor
United States2801 Posts
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minus_human
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On December 01 2010 02:52 EsX_Raptor wrote: Stop classifying yourself like this; you're a human. You can date whoever the fuck you want. It's all in the mindset, and with one like this, you're not getting far. Not everyone's dick touches the water in the toilet you know, for other guys life doesn't work like that | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32028 Posts
On December 01 2010 02:10 Ancestral wrote: If you disagree with the statement that racism still exists I can do nothing but pity you. yeah, the response rate to potential date inqueries on an online dating website does absolutely nothing to support or deny that claim. the dude who wrote that blog is a moron | ||
LosingID8
CA10824 Posts
On December 01 2010 02:58 minus_human wrote: Not everyone's dick touches the water in the toilet you know, for other guys life doesn't work like that hahahahaha i'm a korean guy with a white girlfriend and i didn't find it particularly intimidating or anything to ask her out because of her race. then again, she has yellow fever so... | ||
OneOther
United States10774 Posts
1) some people want to date people with similar cultural background and tendencies (that's why you rarely see fobby asians dating white girls, obv) 2) many asian guys lack the confidence and abilities to go for it pretty simple actually. if you are a good-looking and confident asian dude, you will get girls of all races. it seems "harder" because of those two reasons mentioned above. the most important point is that i don't think you are inherently at a disadvantage because you are asian unless the girl simply doesn't like asian guys. (which doesn't mean it's harder) | ||
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ZERG_RUSSIAN
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Really though, it's not impossible, just slightly more unlikely. Your best bet if you're not confident/in shape/in tune with what women want? Be filthy rich. | ||
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Happy.fairytail
United States327 Posts
On November 30 2010 13:36 Hot_Bid wrote: Nothing against Asian girls, but whenever I see an Asian dude with a non-Asian girl I always feel a bit of happiness that the stereotype is breaking bit by bit and I am really happy for him. So true. Whenever I see an Asian guy with a white girl, I do a little fist pump inside, and say to myself, "score another one for the team!" Unfortunately, I see white guys with Asian girls 10x more often =( WTF STOP STEALING OUR WIMINS GET YER OWN (haha jk, I don't care...too much). The major consoling factor though is the fact that 90% of those Asian girls that white guys are with are totally busted, so it actually evens out. (is it me, or are white guys generally unable to tell how hot/ugly Asian girls are?? or is there some other reason for this phenomenon?) On a more serious note -- I think in general women care less about looks than guys do, and would rather have a man who faithfully loves her than most anything else. So I don't think the race issue is much of an appearance or machismo factor, but more of a social circle factor. People tend to date within their social circles, which more often than not are of a single ethnicity, I believe. | ||
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lixlix
United States482 Posts
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emperorchampion
Canada9496 Posts
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Slithe
United States985 Posts
On December 01 2010 08:39 emperorchampion wrote: The real question is how do you get Asian girls to go out with White guys? :/ From what I have observed, this problem does not exist. | ||
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Robonord
United States311 Posts
It's harder in some ways. I've definitely been written off before by other Indian and Asian girls just because I'm Indian. On the flip side, I've had girls be very interested in what I'm all about because I'm so unique compared to other guys. You can't let the media influence your life that much, just be yourself. Personally, I've only ever been with white and hispanic girls even though I prefer Indian and Asian girls. I don't know if it's just me or if it's like that for other Indian guys. Another thing, a lot of my white friends do ALOT worse with girls then me. Some have never had girlfriend before, only kissed maybe 1 girl in their life, etc. In the end, it comes down to who you are on the inside not some perception of what you are because of your outside appearance. | ||
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OneOther
United States10774 Posts
On December 01 2010 09:09 Slithe wrote: From what I have observed, this problem does not exist. indeed, especially asian-american girls | ||
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HCastorp
United States388 Posts
On November 30 2010 13:36 Hot_Bid wrote: whenever I see an Asian dude with a non-Asian girl I always feel a bit of happiness that the stereotype is breaking bit by bit and I am really happy for him. I feel this way and I'm a white guy. Whenever I see an average-looking guy with a really fine girl on the street I try to see if I can give him an eye-contact high five. Rarely works but awesome when it succeeds. | ||
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AssuredVacancy
United States1167 Posts
On December 01 2010 08:39 emperorchampion wrote: The real question is how do you get Asian girls to go out with White guys? :/ from what i heard, just talking works, oh and not being fat. I've seen lots of white guys + asian girls, but i've never seen a fat white guy + asian girl. | ||
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emperorchampion
Canada9496 Posts
On December 01 2010 12:33 AssuredVacancy wrote: from what i heard, just talking works, oh and not being fat. I've seen lots of white guys + asian girls, but i've never seen a fat white guy + asian girl. It's all in what school you go to from what I've heard  | ||
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bloopie
United States123 Posts
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Zidane
United States1685 Posts
It will be really hard for a white guy to date a fobby asian girl regardless of race though. Asian guy/white girl couples are pretty rare I'd say though. | ||
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AssuredVacancy
United States1167 Posts
On December 01 2010 13:33 emperorchampion wrote: It's all in what school you go to from what I've heard lol all my asian female friends go head over heels over white guys if they have half a brain and are average looking, except those super traditional ones. | ||
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bloopie
United States123 Posts
On December 01 2010 15:52 Zidane wrote: From my experience, korean girls tend to date more within their own ethnicity more often than other asian girls. It will be really hard for a white guy to date a fobby asian girl regardless of race though. Asian guy/white girl couples are pretty rare I'd say though. what about an asian nonkor guy? I have been trying to talk to this pretty cute kor girl but shes so cold... and every single nonkor asian girl hits on me -.- | ||
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