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On March 27 2010 08:08 FakeSteve[TPR] wrote:Show nested quote +On March 25 2010 19:44 Pika Chu wrote:
I'm feeling ok now. Some sleep fixed it.
It's amazing how many people came here to give me their advices even when i specified i don't need any. I only asked a question and all i wanted maybe was people to read and listen to me. Simple as it is i don't need advices, i know what i've done wrong and most of your advices are standard bullcrap to be honest. lol enjoy your heartache i guess. maybe if you would pay attention to what your betters are trying to tell you in this thread you can avoid it in the future ^_^ i doubt it though you seem pretty intent on staying your retarded course. why are you so proud? certainly doesn't seem justified given the situation
You are the best.
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thx for writing this blog! I feel soooo good to have already been rejected twice in grade school and now getting pre-pared for some real dating. This thread is chock-full with a huge amount of advice. I guess just being natural as long as it doesn't mean throwing up your emotions all over her is the correct approach.
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Instead of telling your feelings and what not you should've asked her out on a date..... like 2 years ago.
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As stuff like this always tends to get more complicated... she just called me asking if i wanna have a coffee with her. Should have just said a clear no, but i softened up (yeah can't get rid of hopes that she'll change her mind, just can't emotionally) and accepted. So... here's how the "hurt" prolongs itself. I'll post outcome here guess you may be interested in it.
Thoughts:
- she spoke her mind last time and it's not going to change
- she's probably just going to try and assure that we're still amigos.
- maybe try and give me a clearance on her side regarding the mail i sent her (which i seriously exaggerate and was only like 1-2 pages if i look now, but it felt like writing a book)
- feelings just never go away fast, so i shouldn't pretend I'm over, just be natural and speak whatever i feel at the moment.
Whatever, doesn't matter. This is irrelevant. Que sera sera.
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On March 27 2010 21:05 TwilightStar wrote:
Never try, Never fail.
Never try, never win.
Yeah, I think I'd pass on that since usually that means she either wants to be friends or will use you somehow (some people like this though  ).
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Bro, you don't go from friends for 2 years to professing your love under a balcony Romeo style. It's just too much of a change, you gotta ease into it, start flirting and playful touching (this is advice for next time because it's too late for this time).
To ease the pain just get drunk for a few nights and put on some heavy metal then move on. Don't let a rejection get in the way of your future happiness. Being rejected is better than keeping it inside anyway.
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we never get used to pain.
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This is the reason why I'm not confessing to a girl I like...
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On March 28 2010 02:31 Kingfisher wrote:
This is the reason why I'm not confessing to a girl I like...
Don't think of it as a confession because otherwise yeah you're right you probably shouldn't.
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Man this story is soooo interesting. I almost can't believe its real!Almost...
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On March 27 2010 19:38 Pika Chu wrote:
As stuff like this always tends to get more complicated... she just called me asking if i wanna have a coffee with her. Should have just said a clear no, but i softened up (yeah can't get rid of hopes that she'll change her mind, just can't emotionally) and accepted. So... here's how the "hurt" prolongs itself. I'll post outcome here guess you may be interested in it.
Thoughts:
- she spoke her mind last time and it's not going to change
- she's probably just going to try and assure that we're still amigos.
- maybe try and give me a clearance on her side regarding the mail i sent her (which i seriously exaggerate and was only like 1-2 pages if i look now, but it felt like writing a book)
- feelings just never go away fast, so i shouldn't pretend I'm over, just be natural and speak whatever i feel at the moment.
Whatever, doesn't matter. This is irrelevant. Que sera sera.
stop thinking about it. don't put so much emphasis on stuff she does, it will freak her out/psyche you out and not help you get where you want to go.
go get coffee with her. chat, have a good time. she knows you want her so she'll have been thinking about it. if you just talk to her like one of your guy friends about whatever/don't bring up anything about you + her thats about serious relationship stuff, basically don't acknowledge that you want her, she'll feel it and wonder whats up. do it enough and she'll get so unvalidated she'll want you to go after her
does that make sense?
Thoughts:
- Have fun. If you don't walk away from the coffee shop feeling like you just had an interaction that was worth something, you need to step it up.
- Coffee and conversation is not a date. It's what friends do
- No means not yet.
- Don't put too much meaning onto anything she does and don't expect stuff from her
- This might not seem related, but it completely is: We are all destined to die. We are all running out of time. Most people don't appreciate how far they've come and keep looking forwards or backwards. Their life revolves around plans in the future or their actions are dominated by moments from the past. Take a moment and consider how there is so much to this world. I'm not saying don't plan or don't learn from your mistakes, I'm saying keep yourself connected to the present. If you have a choice between giving yourself a new experience or not, choose to explore.
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On March 25 2010 06:09 Pika Chu wrote:
I hate blogs, i never thought I'll make one, here or anywhere. I simply need to write this, since i don't feel like talking with anyone known.
So i just got a NO from a girl i really liked. It's strange, we are colleagues and were so at this master for almost 2 years now. I've always found her interesting and a nice company. I started really liking her a couple of weeks ago. It's maybe because I've found her "human nature" her sensitivity at that point. She simply opened up on me and i tend to like sensitive persons, people who can let me read them, people that are alive, that are human. Hard to explain this properly but it doesn't matter.
So i tried to tell her my feelings, just being direct and sincere. Today i finally had that occasion. I told her, went directly all-in since i liked her... in a profound way, almost getting in love with her. She looked at me amazed while i continued with my speech. She was "oh my god..." and after i told her what i wanted (which is never enough, i would've need 2 days to say everything) i asked her to be sincere about me and tell me if she's interested or not, and she finally told me she's not interested.
I was expecting this, even though she gave me a lot of "interest" signs. Didn't think it will hurt this much, i prepared myself for it... but no matter it still hurts.
I've been in this situation many times. I'm used to it, i don't want any "time will heal, it will pass, etc". And even after happening for so many times, it still hurts.
I would expect everytime this happens you get less sensitive on it and finally you will be immune to it. It will simply not hurt any longer.
So what do you guys think? Will stuff like these always hurt no matter how many you experience and suffer for?
If you keep letting yourself fall in love and then wimping out so she isn't interested in you sexually anymore then it's going to keep hurting.
so stop falling in live and start interesting her sexually, that's about it. Also don't bother with her anymore.
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On March 25 2010 09:39 Foucault wrote:
Yeah it hurts.
For a while.
Then you start working out, meet hotter girls and become awesome.
This man speaks so much truth.
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On March 28 2010 09:06 ShaLLoW[baY] wrote:Show nested quote +On March 25 2010 09:39 Foucault wrote:
Yeah it hurts.
For a while.
Then you start working out, meet hotter girls and become awesome. This man speaks so much truth.
lol. I'm at working out right now.
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On March 28 2010 02:31 Kingfisher wrote:
This is the reason why I'm not confessing to a girl I like...
Well I think that a lot of problems come from guys waiting too long to tell a girl about his feelings, and a girl is likely to take this as a guy not liking her. Don't wait man, something good might happen!
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On March 29 2010 04:01 Gogleion wrote:Show nested quote +On March 28 2010 02:31 Kingfisher wrote:
This is the reason why I'm not confessing to a girl I like... Well I think that a lot of problems come from guys waiting too long to tell a girl about his feelings, and a girl is likely to take this as a guy not liking her. Don't wait man, something good might happen!
lol you made me finally understand what a popular girl at my school is doing. She picks boys she likes and says "I know you like me" when the kid doesn't like her at all, just listening to her conversations(it's happening to me and my friends who are the quiet type and for some reason we all like listening to others conversations, which is probably why we are the quiet type lol.). Anyways, she gets the whole school to support her starting with her friends and then going from them(girls gossip A LOT) to the rest of the school in a couple days, a week tops. Annoyingly enough she picks me to do it too next. 2nd kid on her list, our second year of middle school...
... I HATE THIS GIRL!
edit: sorry for the rage...
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At least you didn't open up your heart and run away before you get an answer.
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On March 29 2010 06:21 kdog3683 wrote:
At least you didn't open up your heart and run away before you get an answer.
Did you do that?
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On March 29 2010 06:07 3FFA wrote:Show nested quote +On March 29 2010 04:01 Gogleion wrote:On March 28 2010 02:31 Kingfisher wrote:
This is the reason why I'm not confessing to a girl I like... Well I think that a lot of problems come from guys waiting too long to tell a girl about his feelings, and a girl is likely to take this as a guy not liking her. Don't wait man, something good might happen! lol you made me finally understand what a popular girl at my school is doing. She picks boys she likes and says "I know you like me" when the kid doesn't like her at all, just listening to her conversations(it's happening to me and my friends who are the quiet type and for some reason we all like listening to others conversations, which is probably why we are the quiet type lol.). Anyways, she gets the whole school to support her starting with her friends and then going from them(girls gossip A LOT) to the rest of the school in a couple days, a week tops. Annoyingly enough she picks me to do it too next. 2nd kid on her list, our second year of middle school... ... I HATE THIS GIRL! edit: sorry for the rage...
Dude, don't worry about it. When you get to high school, you'll find a group of kids like you, and you won't have to worry about anyone that's more or less popular than you (even though the girls can sometimes get a lot crazier, and more subtle about their insanity)
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