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Integra
Sweden5626 Posts
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The KY
United Kingdom6252 Posts
On January 12 2011 06:51 ChoRds wrote: hey dude, I'm gonna say this in a very unbiased way, but there is red flags all over this thing. I know you won't listen if I say to walk away from her completely, but seriously, be cautious and keep your guard up. she's young, and just broke up with her long-term boyfriend. this ex-boyfriend shit isn't gonna go away in a snap. I don't want to see you get taken by surprise, man. this is seriously dangerous waters. just remember that this could very easily turn bad for you. I don't mean to shit on your relationship or anything, I just want you to take your time with her and not rush anything. don't lead with emotion right now. good luck man <3 I speak from experience in this sort of situation, btw. It worked out in the end for me, but I had to go through some shit to get there. Thanks for your input man (same goes for everyone), I'll definitely try to keep caution at the front of my mind. My stupid brain chemicals are tempting me to forget her (ex?) bf ever existed and plow on regardless. As you and others alluded, someone she was probably pretty reliant on for so long won't just disappear. From what I know though, I'm pretty confident she's not going back to him. | ||
justle
United States174 Posts
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guN-viCe
United States687 Posts
I say go for it, have some fun(breakup sex), and see what happens. Just don't be surprised if she is a drama bomb. | ||
Terrakin
United States1440 Posts
Stop talking to the girl, just straight up no contact until she is fully separated from her ex boyfriend (emails, texts, etc.). If you truly see the person you love in her take your time do NOT rush things. | ||
SpicyCrab
402 Posts
I convinced myself that she would treat me better than she did him and that she was just confused and I cut her a break... I decided that I really really liked her and I wanted her to be my girlfriend. We had great sex for a while. Turned out she was a really annoying princess with a huge ego and all kinds of personality issues. The more I got to know her the more clear it was to me that she was just kind of a junky person. Then she broke up with me and I was a bit upset but by that time I didn't 'actually' like her any more, I just liked having sex with her. Basically she turned out to be a disloyal, ego-inflated bitch with an attitude problem. Overall, it was pretty awesome. She was really hot. Any way, I am not saying that will be your experience, and maybe your girl is a fantastic person (?). but generally disloyal girls are disloyal girls. You can make excuses for her, but don't be surprised if she behaves in the way that other fickle girls of her ilk are won't to do. I say go for it but don't get too attached. | ||
The KY
United Kingdom6252 Posts
OK now to work on calming down. | ||
tonight
United States11130 Posts
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The KY
United Kingdom6252 Posts
On January 12 2011 10:36 tonight wrote: She's 16. This sort of thing doesn't surprise me at all. I wouldn't be shocked to hear she wanted to hang out with you still this week. Got work with her on thursday haha...well that'll be fun. AAAAAH GOD I'm going to go ahead and use the money I was going to spend on her birthday on a GSL season ticket and some booze. | ||
Chef
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The KY
United Kingdom6252 Posts
On January 12 2011 10:45 Chef wrote: Wow, I thought it would take at least a day for you to make a post about how THE INTERNET WAS RIGHT. -_- Don't rub it in man, fresh wounds and that. I like your sig, I use that line all the time. It never works. *insert Forever Alone meme* | ||
Salv
Canada3083 Posts
Either way it sucks, just move on, lots of 16 year olds out there. | ||
The KY
United Kingdom6252 Posts
Alright, done venting, thanks for advice guys even if I ignored it lile a dick and even if TL is a wildly inappropriate place to talk about this shit. | ||
tonight
United States11130 Posts
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Kakera
United States419 Posts
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Slayer91
Ireland23335 Posts
On January 12 2011 05:07 JackMcCoy wrote: I understand your feelings. I was once like you. Ah, to be young and in love. I remember that summer in Paris, a swaggering fool and a head flush with vigor and passions. I sat in the shadow of the Sacré-Cœur as Charles Aznavour crooned out of a nearby radio, “Dans son nouveau décor/Montmartre semble triste/Et les lilas sont mort.” Perhaps for him, Montmatre was lost, but to me it was the only place in the world. It was there, sitting outside a small café on the Place du Tertre, when I saw her first. Her hair danced and pulled in the light wind as she surveyed the square, looking for a corner to set up her easel. For 45 minutes I watched her with intense curiosity, trying to pick out every detail and guess its significance. I fell in love with her pouted lips, her sinewy, graceful musculature and her defiant, firebrand eyes. So lost was I in fantasy that I near failed to notice her starting to leave. I started to sweat and panic as my mind and heart raced towards an impossible frenzy. This was my chance, my one and only opportunity to risk my ego, risk my shame and expose my very humanity to attain my desire. I hurried across the square, arriving at her breathless and dizzy but empowered by the liberating release of caution and care. “Hi, I’m Jack,” I breathed between my desperate suppression of panting, focusing every square inch of mental acuity contained in my brain on keeping calm and steady. “Charlotte,” she replied, smiling with an enchanting shyness as she broke eye contact and blushed. “Charlotte. That’s beautiful. Would you like to go for dinner tonight, Charlotte? I know I’m not from around here, but I know some great places and…” She tilted her head slightly and looked away. “Sorry, I cannot. I’m sorry.” I struggled for something, anything to say to make her change her mind, but instead I simply nodded and shrugged the most cowardly shrug any man has ever pathetically offered. She turned slowly on her heel with a polite smile, and we were so close the tips of her hair flew up and brushed my face to taunt me. “I don’t even know you, but know I will miss you,” I said as she moved away. She took 5 steps before stopping. Her hand shot into her carrier bag and returned with a corner of iridescent paper torn from her sketch pad. She wrote elegantly with a small nub of charcoal and handed me the small leaf with the instructions, “Don’t smudge it,” before she turned and was whisked away into the faceless crowd. I looked down at the writing. “14 rue de cléry. 8 pm. if you are sure.” I spun around on the spot, light-headed and ecstatic. I wanted to burst with excitement. I thought of reaching out, of grabbing the nearest passing Frenchman and telling him of my wild, magnificent victory. I left the square and headed back to my hotel to change my clothes and prepare myself. The taxi pulled up outside 14 rue de cléry at 5 minutes to 8. Thankfully, the horrendous traffic and anxiety over being late kept my mind from being too occupied with my self-doubts, my nerves and my oppressive imagination. I stepped out of the cab, tipping the driver handsomely for his deft navigation, and turned towards the cobblestone path that led to the formidable, impressive residence. I rang the doorbell twice before hearing her voice from above. She was calling out the window, “Come in, please. I will be right down.” I entered warily, and found perched on the edge of an expensive-feeling ottoman. I heard delicate footsteps approach, and I turned to greet her when a diminutive, tanned fellow appeared from behind the doorway with a camera crew in tow. “Why don’t you take a seat over there?” He gestured towards a stool that sat beside a marble countertop bar. I stood, confused, and looked around the room for Charlotte. “Right over there. Just take a seat right over there,” he said, with more conviction in his voice. Nervous and somewhat disoriented, I complied and sat in the stool. “So what are you doing here tonight?” he prodded. “I’m – I’m here to meet someone. She – I think I may be in the wrong house…” He grinned slightly and flicked a glance at the camera before he said it. “Were you coming here to sleep with a 15 year old girl today? Because we have these images…” He pulled some pictures from behind the counter that must have been us, together in the square earlier in the day. I couldn’t be sure as my eyes had lost their ability to focus and my head swirled. I stumbled back off the stool and lurched toward the door. I had little coordination and less idea where I was headed as they called out after me. I burst through the front door and through the waiting arms of the French policeman standing guard. The cobblestone path swept along underneath my feet like a river. I lost my balance and fell to the earth. That’s when the dogs came. I looked up at the gorgeous Paris night sky as the Rottweiler sunk his teeth into my ankle, and I felt the tendon snap. Fucking Montmarte. You just slip out the back, Jack. Make a new plan; you don't need to be coy, just get yourself free. | ||
RezChi
Canada2368 Posts
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Integra
Sweden5626 Posts
On January 12 2011 10:17 The KY wrote: AAAAAAH FUCK she just sent me a fucking text saying she's not fucking doing it you guys were right fuck this who fucking lets it get that far then changes their mind so fast this sucks AAAAAH FFS. OK now to work on calming down. Question is, did you learn something so you don't do the same bullshit all over again? If you did learn then it was worth it. | ||
ChoRds
United States127 Posts
On January 12 2011 10:17 The KY wrote: AAAAAAH FUCK she just sent me a fucking text saying she's not fucking doing it you guys were right fuck this who fucking lets it get that far then changes their mind so fast this sucks AAAAAH FFS. OK now to work on calming down. fuck it, man. would you rather hear this shit from her now, or in 2 years? you lucked out. next time you see her, even if it really hurts, just tell her "yeah, it sucks you don't want a relationship, but I'll get over it." and move on with your day. | ||
Zim23
United States1681 Posts
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