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On July 12 2010 10:20 TOloseGT wrote:
Two teachers in my high school worked in the same department. The female teacher was engaged, but broke it off to pursue a relationship with her co-worker. This happened my freshman-sophomore year, then in my junior year they married.
So yes, sometimes office relationships work.
Another anecdote: Pam and Jim.
If you can sufficiently segregate your personal life from your work life, I don't see any reason why you should actively prohibit an office relationship.
You don't always have to do that necessarily even though... I think it's a good idea.
Two science teachers where I worked were married. On the bulletin board next to my desk was a sheet of paper that said FUD with an unused wrapped condom stapled to it. I asked someone what FUD means and they said 'f u dave' and the husband's name was dave lol.
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On July 12 2010 09:47 Dandy4 wrote:Show nested quote +On July 12 2010 09:41 CheAse wrote:
I was in a work relationship once, after it ended so did my job.
If your job means anything to you, learn from my mistake and DONT DO IT. This is a is only is a summer internship so I will only have this job two months reguardless (hopefully they hire me for a more long position.) Also I do know she is still in college so she won't be looking for a position pass the internship period.
I would go for it then! low risk and high rewards.
my relationship ended very poorly, and we were like 50% of the staff. Basically became unbearable to work with her. However we are now friends
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Is she the Pam to your Jim? Then go for it...if you're like Michael...just don't date.=D
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a lot of workplaces dont allow office relationship. You should see if yours has that rule.
I don't think they will fire you for it but if you don't perform well, they will pin you on that.
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On July 12 2010 08:24 baller wrote:
dont listen to the haters Dandy4. u can have many jobs in ur life but u can only have ONE tru love. she could be the 1 man, she could be the 1.
go for it, u will regret it forever if u do not
i just went through a similar dilemna and i thought this, then decided it was dumb and deleted her number & all messages shit. I'll explain why. you'll meet TONS of women in your life, getting all caught up on one IS MORE LIKELY TO MAKE YOU MISS YOUR TRUE LOVE THAN TO MEET HER. there are ALWAYS more women. would you stop playing sc because you had one shitty game? if you're so focused on that game you don't play another, you could not play the best game in your life. not the best metaphor but i hope you understand what I'm saying
and for work relationships, generally, no. don't do it. I mean it all comes down to whether or not you can look yourself in the mirror and say "I'm satisfied with my life" but it really speeds up the process to learn from others' experience. and that means no work relationships. doesn't mean you can't have fun while you're there though, and it deosn't exclude future hookups if one of you leaves or w/e
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On July 12 2010 10:43 shieldbreak wrote:
Is she the Pam to your Jim? Then go for it...if you're like Michael...just don't date.=D
I think I am more of a Ryan 
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Then stop taking drugs and marry a nice indian girl!
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Since it sounds like your positions are only temporary, I'd say just go for it unless it's against company policy.
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Like others have said you should check with the boss whether workplace relationships are allowed. They're not likely to hire you if you break a company rule.
I wouldn't do it if I were you. Apologies if I'm wrong but you sound more horny than head-over-heels.
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You seem WAY too concerned with the "friend zone". Trust me, if she's going to friend zone you, she's done it already. The only way you're going to know is to grow a pair, ask her out, and see what happens.
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On July 12 2010 17:44 Kashmir wrote:
I wouldn't do it if I were you. Apologies if I'm wrong but you sound more horny than head-over-heels.
Well, granted we have only met for a week, I am not going to lie and say I am not physical attracted, having said that she does seem to be a genuine cool person.
On July 12 2010 20:31 Servius_Fulvius wrote:
You seem WAY too concerned with the "friend zone". Trust me, if she's going to friend zone you, she's done it already. The only way you're going to know is to grow a pair, ask her out, and see what happens.
I have been though my fair share of the "just friends" thing, so that is the reason why I have am a little cautious. Having said that, I have decided I am mostly likely going to ask her out in the coming week.
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In that case good luck! Hopefully it'll all work out for you and you can come get your kudos when you update us later :D
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just a quick update, she said yes. Woot!
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Edit: posted late, but anyways thats cool she said yes!
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Congratulations Dandy4, incoming blog update soon yeah?
*hint hint*
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On July 16 2010 02:52 Dandy4 wrote:
just a quick update, she said yes. Woot!
Nice! I too would appreciate a blog update!
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On July 12 2010 08:19 Kennigit wrote:
Floor relationships, work relationships, college program relationships. Don't do it. Just don't.
In all of your past relationships, how many of them smoothly transitioned into lasting friendships? (kinda necessary if you work together) I think it takes someone with remarkable inner balance to step back from a relationship and avoid a lot of negative emotions to embrace a friendship. If you think both of you have that in you, fire away. I am not that person and probably never will be. Out of all the people I have met there is one that I think would be capable of a safe post coitus (and/or breakup) work relationship.
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Thanks for all the support guys, I will try update my blog after the date, which is tomorrow so you guys wouldn't have to wait too long. Side question, sorry I am a blogging n00b, should I just reply to this existing thread or start a new post when I want to update my blog post?
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Make a new thread if you are going to put some effort into writing a nice summary of your date. If you want to keep it short and simple just update it here.
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I'll be honest I didn't read all of the OP or much of any of the responses, but here is what I have to tell you. If there are mutual feelings there is no sense in not giving it a try. Try to keep things as casual as possible so if things don't work out it'll end on good terms if you still have to work with her.
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