You seem way to worried about everything. If the time comes to have sex, have sex. And WTF is with this high school sweethearts destiny crap, dont be silly. Ignore all of that stuff and just follow your feelings.

You cant plan life, you also cant live to the morals of someone else. If things feel right to you then go for it (I'm speaking more broadly that sex here).

Cr4zyH0r5e

Peru1308 Posts

July 03 2010 07:30 GMT

#63

ok well I can't tell you that this is what's gonna happen, and it wasn't my story first hand but a couple years ago I had a group of 4 best friends and 1 of them was dating the other's sister, and the dude was cool with it... It was all great for them for a while, then they broke up, then they got back together, then they broke up again... then they got back together she got pregnant my friend came back to the country, he was still cool with the dude, then he left again, then they broke up again... haven't bothered asking any of them what's up with the situation cuz I really don't care, but if you're that cool with your bud unless you totally destroy his sister and his family your friendship with him might not be jeopardized... I mean as long as you don't do something assholish on purpose... Every relationship is different and things may or may not work out, but if she's 14 don't expect too much from her... You might be very mature but have you considered you feel that way about her because of how close you guys are to each other? Happened to me quite a few times, never bothered pursuing a relationship... From what I heard these kind of things usually don't work out, specially if she's that young...

Then again you don't come to TL for relationship advice, you come for SC advice and for the intellectual community

if you say you love her question yourself about it, seriously doubt yourself and answer yourself why do you love her? If you have answered all of your questions and nothing is preventing you from pursuing the relationship just go with it and blog it

Worst case scenario their family won't talk to you again and you get new friends and you'll have an interesting blog on TL.

deathgod6

United States5064 Posts

July 03 2010 07:38 GMT

#64

Haven't you seen Harry Potter?

OhThatDang

United States4685 Posts

July 03 2010 08:42 GMT

#65

just wait two years and remind yourself. JAILBAIT (unless its different in aus!!!)

anywho man, if he is your best guy friend then it will be extremely weird after awhile. Imagine coming over watching movies, he would leave or some shit. things will get really awkward if soemthing happens or they will fight cause you did something stupid and hell question you.

Once you hurt her hell probably either get mad or just be whatever. But then coming over to his house would be awkward cause shes there and shell leave (saying you guys break up before she moves out).

faction123

Australia949 Posts

July 03 2010 08:55 GMT

#66

besties

Baksteen

Netherlands438 Posts

July 03 2010 09:39 GMT

#67

On July 03 2010 17:42 OhThatDang wrote:
just wait two years and remind yourself. JAILBAIT (unless its different in aus!!!)

anywho man, if he is your best guy friend then it will be extremely weird after awhile. Imagine coming over watching movies, he would leave or some shit. things will get really awkward if soemthing happens or they will fight cause you did something stupid and hell question you.

Once you hurt her hell probably either get mad or just be whatever. But then coming over to his house would be awkward cause shes there and shell leave (saying you guys break up before she moves out).

It's just a tradeoff. If you think it's worth it OP then by all means just go for it. Just think it through first, which you seem to be doing so i think you'll be fine.

Atlare

Australia893 Posts

July 03 2010 09:59 GMT

#68

On July 03 2010 18:39 Baksteen wrote:

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It's just a tradeoff. If you think it's worth it OP then by all means just go for it. Just think it through first, which you seem to be doing so i think you'll be fine.

Thanks, i definitely have.

NoobStyles

Australia257 Posts

July 03 2010 10:53 GMT

#69

THIS IS NOT LEGAL ADVICE

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_consent_in_Oceania

arb

Noobville17919 Posts

July 03 2010 10:59 GMT

#70

Normally the golden rule is dont go for a bros sister

but hell if he says go for it do it.
Though like someone else said just remember fucking up would ruin your friendship with him too..

so just think about it first

Atlare

Australia893 Posts

July 03 2010 11:22 GMT

#71

On July 03 2010 19:53 noob styles wrote:
THIS IS NOT LEGAL ADVICE

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_consent_in_Oceania

Old news, i've mentioned this. Hence why i've said on numerous times i'm not really interested in her like that, its my last priority. Also, its an uninforced law. Only the parents enforce it and usually nothing is done about it unless it was not consensual .

TheAntZ

Israel6248 Posts

July 03 2010 12:15 GMT

#72

I think you have lucked into a very good situation. This way you can spend time with your friend and gf and they wont feel too awkward with each other once the whole 'im datin ur sis' awkwardness wears off, and by the way you describe his reaction, that shouldnt take very long at all

On July 03 2010 15:37 Torenhire wrote:

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You can be...my american bestie?

Ella will be my Canadian bestie. Yes. Sounds good.

can I be your bangladeshi bestie?