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I read your post again and here's my alternative take. Your story is a complete mess, either because her story is a complete mess or you are a complete mess of a man. Everything you know is from what she told you. Either that or you are stalking her.
You seem to be fishing for reasons to keep contacting her. Your ex-girlfriend wants to break contact with you but doesn't know how/you are deranged, so she makes up some story about a husband and having sex with 3 other guys in a month, that get steadily more nonsensical as you keep questioning her, saying anything just so you will just leave her alone.
So just leave her alone already, she clearly doesn't want to talk to you and want you out of her life.
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The advice is getting worse as you apparently haven't read any of my later posts on the latest of what's going on and what I'm trying to achieve.
It's interesting you would believe oBlade could be so deranged, and yet you give the benefit of the doubt to a strange woman you've never seen or talked to. Yeah she's totally innocent. Doesn't live with someone and isn't a serial cheater. Don't take my word for it that I know those are facts, just supplement your "alternative take" (alternative reality).
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Reading your opening post again re-opened my eyes into what a hot mess you are. Everything is vague and unambigious and heck, you can't even place your thoughts in writing in chronological order. You are overly concerned with calling this mythical husband a loser and an idiot, and telling us how you are not a cuck (who actually uses this word in 2019 unironically?), yet this morning when you are texting directly with "him", you can't even tell him that she cheated on him with another three men in the last month alone.
Everything is, she told me this, she told me that. Or it is "I learned" this, I learned that. How the fuck do you happen to learn these things? You tell us dumb shit like that a person can live in two places at the same time and how it isn't like you picked out furniture together. You haven't seen anybody related to her, so she either told you everything in person or through the medium of a phone, or you are a fucking stalker.
I didn't say your ex is innocent. In case you haven't realised, and it seems that way, I wrote that she is lying to you about everything. It's the only thing that makes sense. Either that or you are lying to the blog about everything. The story stinks. The story either stinks because she stinks, or you stink or both of you stinks. Either she is utterly deranged, or you are. Or both. Only you can know.
Either way, leave her alone already, she clearly doesn't want to talk to you and want you out of her life.
Stop contacting her.
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On November 09 2019 23:18 Dangermousecatdog wrote: Reading your opening post again re-opened my eyes into what a hot mess you are. Everything is vague and unambigious and heck, you can't even place your thoughts in writing in chronological order. You are overly concerned with calling this mythical husband a loser and an idiot, and telling us how you are not a cuck (who actually uses this word in 2019 unironically?), yet this morning when you are texting directly with "him", you can't even tell him that she cheated on him with another three men in the last month alone. Firstly, cucks use the word unironically, and secondly it was an obvious next step from "No pedo" to "No cuck" just to use as an easy-to-understand and concise way of explaining my intent for internet savvy people. As well as a source of levity in a stressful situation.
No, this evening when I was texting with him, I made the disciplined choice to follow the plan I had of not fucking things up for her by telling him about all the other guys when he's taken her back.
And not especially concerned with insulting him in any way, but perhaps I did get carried away from the encouragement of those in this thread, as well as her and her mother.
On November 09 2019 23:18 Dangermousecatdog wrote: Everything is, she told me this, she told me that. Or it is "I learned" this, I learned that. How the fuck do you happen to learn these things? You tell us dumb shit like that a person can live in two places at the same time and how it isn't like you picked out furniture together. You haven't seen anybody related to her, so she either told you everything in person or through the medium of a phone, or you are a fucking stalker. I'm not going to apologize for learning.
On November 09 2019 23:18 Dangermousecatdog wrote: I didn't say your ex is innocent. In case you haven't realised, and it seems that way, I wrote that she is lying to you about everything. It's the only thing that makes sense. Either that or you are lying to the blog about everything. The story stinks. The story either stinks because she stinks, or you stink or both of you stinks. Either she is utterly deranged, or you are. Or both. Only you can know.
Either way, leave her alone already, she clearly doesn't want to talk to you and want you out of her life.
Stop contacting her. Yeah, I read that. Only I can know, but you seem to know better, and can tell me over the internet that up is down. I graciously admit I may be deranged but you have to trust that some things are true and not try to deconstruct everything and end up in some plane where nothing has any meaning and there's no point. Sure maybe I made the whole thing up. Then why are you wasting your valuable time telling us how much better you are and how dumb my behavior is if nothing ever actually happened?
And why do you keep repeating that childish shit when I already explained what I'm trying to do is keep her husband from coming after me and at the same time not mess up their reconciled situation after he found out?
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I ask how you are learning the things you write, and I say your info can only be from what she is telling you, or you are stalking her and you say "I'm not going to apologize for listening to her/stalking learning."
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For someone who is concerned about her husband coming after you, you are overly concerned with telling us that he is thin and how much of an idiot and a loser you think he is, and that he is just making big talk. Grow up a bit ok?
Seriously though, don't use the word cuck. I can't even imagine a situation where someone would even say "no pedo".
Also seriously, just stop talking to her. If you feel threatened, that is an issue for law enforcement. If you feel like he will attack you and your property in a fit of rage, he would had done so already. If you feel like your pride is hurt somehow by the husband, you never even met each other, why do you care about his opinion of you?
Also also seriously, just stop contacting her and finding reasons to contact her. I don't care whether it is this morning or this evening (are you actually living in Korea? this morning was your words not mine), just stop contacting her. I don't know why you and her are still talking to each other on an app. Just stop contacting her.
It's really simple what you have to do and yet you are just hung up on your pride about explaining yourself to some random internet person because you think random internet person thinks your ex is innocent and has a greater benefit of doubt despite being outright told she is probably making stuff up to you or something.
I mean just look at this post:On November 09 2019 21:56 oBlade wrote:Show nested quote +On November 09 2019 19:22 IntoTheStorm wrote: Man, this whole situation seems so wrong to me personally that I would immediately stay as far away as possible from this mad dog of a girl, form her aggressive friends and connections, from her mental and financial issues. And I would take the utmost care to look inside myself and improve my own mind and reasoning. The second part is fine but I don't get the first. Everyone has problems. You have problems. "Be afraid and run away from everyone who doesn't live up to your exacting standards." Marcus Aurelius I think. Your concern seems to be defending your sense of pride with some garbled nonsense. Instead of taking the advice to leave her alone.
Leave her alone already, she clearly doesn't want to talk to you and want you out of her life.
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On November 10 2019 00:19 Dangermousecatdog wrote: I ask how you are learning the things you write, and I say your info can only be from what she is telling you, or you are stalking her and you say "I'm not going to apologize for learning." What were you hoping for? It's not realistic for you to expect me to prove the nitty gritty of this to you when you've already showed where you're coming from. Even if I convinced you of basic facts, from what I've seen there's a low chance it would change the content or tone of what you're saying. If you had any extra insight to offer from you being personally satisfied with proof of the fact that she's married and slept with three other guys, you already could have shared it. "Supposing you're right, oBlade, and I'm wrong, then here's what..." Yeah. If you sincerely wanted me to prove or elaborate something, you've gone about it the wrong way as you aren't owed anything and apparently have nothing to offer for my trouble.
On November 10 2019 00:19 Dangermousecatdog wrote: For someone who is concerned about her husband coming after you, you are overly concerned with telling us that he is thin and how much of an idiot and a loser you think he is, and that he is just making big talk. Grow up a bit ok? Receptionist: Good Morning. Dangermousecatdog: yoU SSEEM OVERLY C-CONcERnEd WiTh sAyInG gOod MoRNiNG!
And no, I was quoting my friend's advice, who told me the husband is just talking big, and that I shouldn't actually be worried about him doing anything. It's not a personal attack on the husband, it's an opinion, and it wasn't mine. But it's one that you agree with, as you've told me if the husband was going to do something he would have done it already. I refer you to my signature.
On November 10 2019 00:19 Dangermousecatdog wrote: Seriously though, don't use the word cuck. I can't even imagine a situation where someone would even say "no pedo". Your imagination is outclassed by probably anyone exposed to even the most rudimentary memes. What do you recommend people say? "Pedo?"
Edit: Oh, what was I thinking. The original construction is "No homo."
On November 10 2019 00:19 Dangermousecatdog wrote: Also seriously, just stop talking to her. If you feel threatened, that is an issue for law enforcement. If you feel like he will attack you and your property in a fit of rage, he would had done so already. If you feel like your pride is hurt somehow by the husband, you never even met each other, why do you care about his opinion of you? Or he's biding his time while perfecting some cunning scheme.
On November 10 2019 00:19 Dangermousecatdog wrote: Also also seriously, just stop contacting her and finding reasons to contact her. I don't care whether it is this morning or this evening (are you actually living in Korea? this morning was your words not mine), just stop contacting her. I don't know why you and her are still talking to each other on an app. Just stop contacting her. Yeah I talked to her in the morning, her husband in the evening. It doesn't offend me if you don't read what I write, but you should at least be able to read what you write.
On November 10 2019 00:19 Dangermousecatdog wrote:It's really simple what you have to do and yet you are just hung up on your pride about explaining yourself to some random internet person because you think random internet person thinks your ex is innocent and has a greater benefit of doubt despite being outright told she is probably making stuff up to you or something. I mean just look at this post: Show nested quote +On November 09 2019 21:56 oBlade wrote:On November 09 2019 19:22 IntoTheStorm wrote: Man, this whole situation seems so wrong to me personally that I would immediately stay as far away as possible from this mad dog of a girl, form her aggressive friends and connections, from her mental and financial issues. And I would take the utmost care to look inside myself and improve my own mind and reasoning. The second part is fine but I don't get the first. Everyone has problems. You have problems. "Be afraid and run away from everyone who doesn't live up to your exacting standards." Marcus Aurelius I think. Your concern seems to be defending your sense of pride with some garbled nonsense. Instead of taking the advice to leave her alone. I'm struggling here, your argument is from your perspective you think it's a lie that she slept with 3 other people, and you're saying she's not innocent.
With that post in particular I was just saying in life people aren't perfect, that's not a reason to just be scared and flee. It's not about what happens, it's about your reaction. Most people aren't that bad. Sometimes people get along and sometimes not, that's part of life. His post was good though. Just offered some general counterpoint as I think it's a little bit hyperbolic. MarlieChurphy's blog though, now there are some examples of really malicious people. Everyone go read that it's much more interesting.
On November 10 2019 00:19 Dangermousecatdog wrote: Leave her alone already, she clearly doesn't want to talk to you and want you out of her life. I think we should see other people DMCD.
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Damn, I should have looked at the title more clearly. For some reason I thought you wanted advice.
gl hf bro
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A crazy, drunk, unemployed honeypot somehow manages to nab a whole bunch of idiots and the op shrugs his shoulders and gives some stupid Marcus Aurelius quote
this site needs more girl blogs
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On November 10 2019 03:57 NrG.Bamboo wrote: Damn, I should have looked at the title more clearly. For some reason I thought you wanted advice.
gl hf bro Right now just waiting if anything else happens, or if he wants to meet. And in the mean time considering whether I should actively try to tell him about her indiscretions in their entirety. As would be totally understandable. A while ago I had originally wanted to tell him, because I believe in the truth, and if it were me I would prefer knowing over blissful ignorance. And there's nobody else who could tell him, no one who had that opportunity. But it seems not so simple. Especially now since he found out this way and is just mad at me. If we met I'd have to play it by ear I guess.
On November 10 2019 12:05 QuanticHawk wrote: A crazy, drunk, unemployed honeypot somehow manages to nab a whole bunch of idiots and the op shrugs his shoulders and gives some stupid Marcus Aurelius quote
this site needs more girl blogs Recently unemployed.
In hindsight that fake quote was too sarcastic and esoteric if people aren't even familiar with Marcus Aurelius except as a Gladiator character.
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Northern Ireland23289 Posts
Bipolar is a hell of a drug. You can be relatively emotionally stable with it, but it sounds like your woman doesn’t work hard enough at it.
Not that I particularly manage it well, I overcompensate a bit and think ‘do I really like this person or is it the bipolar impulsivity?’ far too frequently.
As for other stuff I too frequently fell into the ‘if I have one more conversation with x person all will be cleared up and civil’ pattern way too frequently, and it rarely ever worked out like that.
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On November 10 2019 23:24 Wombat_NI wrote: Bipolar is a hell of a drug. You can be relatively emotionally stable with it, but it sounds like your woman doesn’t work hard enough at it. She has gotten worse over time. She tried medication but abandoned due to side effects. Of course, she self-medicates with the alcohol. Like I say it's incredible how nonviolent she is. I've known other bipolar or schizophrenic people. Some tried incredibly hard. One I never would have guessed she was bipolar until she told me. But then her unexplained nymphomania made sense.
On November 10 2019 23:24 Wombat_NI wrote: Not that I particularly manage it well, I overcompensate a bit and think ‘do I really like this person or is it the bipolar impulsivity?’ far too frequently. That's fascinating that that's a conscious thing you think about. She said as well she doesn't even always know how she feels. Isn't that part of "working hard" though? Or what else do you do?
It's really interesting you say that because that part is contagious. I found myself constantly doubting everything about what I think and my judgments and stuff... Like existentially. Just being close to that, it's like, what really is a person? or a mind? What are the boundaries? What's real? It seems like a totally different world. Of course I couldn't say I envy you. But in many ways she's one of the most real people I've ever met. I try to figure out why occasionally... Maybe your condition necessitates some kind of introspection that many people don't have?
On November 10 2019 23:24 Wombat_NI wrote: As for other stuff I too frequently fell into the ‘if I have one more conversation with x person all will be cleared up and civil’ pattern way too frequently, and it rarely ever worked out like that. That's probably true. I'm leaning that way and hope he doesn't bother me or my life. But in the event he became suspicious of her story and wanted to know my side, I thought I should just offer to meet in person and say otherwise he has no reason to contact me. Also it serves as a good bookend to get him off my back hopefully. So hoping he wouldn't text or call or bother me with stuff, not that he would anyway even. It just felt like the right thing to say and I had to say something for closure.
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I would go meet other girls and find someone who respects me and herself.
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If you aren't looking for anything, you will soon find it.
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Fascinating. Your ramblings where you seem to be admitting that you are stalking her, and you don't even understand what people wrote, and where you think you are dropping words of wisdom when you are so weak minded that you blame danglars for "inspiring" you to send dumb texts, aren't convincing me that you aren't deranged. So I'll just leave it with this.
Leave her alone. She doesn't want to talk to you and want you out of her life.
Stop looking for support on TL to contact her.
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You're right that I don't understand what you're writing, just as you probably don't realize why it's not relevant as it's the fourth time you've repeated that.
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i read the op and barely read the following posts. i think reading the op is enough to give my opinion. run like the wind. no more problems
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On November 09 2019 05:19 Dangermousecatdog wrote:
Also don't use the word cuck. What are you some kind of incel?
Poe's Law.
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Northern Ireland23289 Posts
On November 11 2019 00:36 oBlade wrote:Show nested quote +On November 10 2019 23:24 Wombat_NI wrote: Bipolar is a hell of a drug. You can be relatively emotionally stable with it, but it sounds like your woman doesn’t work hard enough at it. She has gotten worse over time. She tried medication but abandoned due to side effects. Of course, she self-medicates with the alcohol. Like I say it's incredible how nonviolent she is. I've known other bipolar or schizophrenic people. Some tried incredibly hard. One I never would have guessed she was bipolar until she told me. But then her unexplained nymphomania made sense. Show nested quote +On November 10 2019 23:24 Wombat_NI wrote: Not that I particularly manage it well, I overcompensate a bit and think ‘do I really like this person or is it the bipolar impulsivity?’ far too frequently. That's fascinating that that's a conscious thing you think about. She said as well she doesn't even always know how she feels. Isn't that part of "working hard" though? Or what else do you do? It's really interesting you say that because that part is contagious. I found myself constantly doubting everything about what I think and my judgments and stuff... Like existentially. Just being close to that, it's like, what really is a person? or a mind? What are the boundaries? What's real? It seems like a totally different world. Of course I couldn't say I envy you. But in many ways she's one of the most real people I've ever met. I try to figure out why occasionally... Maybe your condition necessitates some kind of introspection that many people don't have? Show nested quote +On November 10 2019 23:24 Wombat_NI wrote: As for other stuff I too frequently fell into the ‘if I have one more conversation with x person all will be cleared up and civil’ pattern way too frequently, and it rarely ever worked out like that. That's probably true. I'm leaning that way and hope he doesn't bother me or my life. But in the event he became suspicious of her story and wanted to know my side, I thought I should just offer to meet in person and say otherwise he has no reason to contact me. Also it serves as a good bookend to get him off my back hopefully. So hoping he wouldn't text or call or bother me with stuff, not that he would anyway even. It just felt like the right thing to say and I had to say something for closure. Well Bipolar people, if they’re skewing high as opposed to low and depressed will be the most ‘real’ people you’ll meet as a lack of impulse control will have people doing whatever they want to in that particular moment regardless of any long term considerations.
Which would somewhat explain the train wreck of her romantic life, it’s not any kind of scheme or plan she is just doing what feels right at any particular moment regardless of the future complexities it is introducing.
My condition absolutely requires introspection to manage and fighting emotional pulls with logic or coping structures, if you want to stay stable and have a life similar to that of someone who isn’t suffering from a mental illness. As I said previously with me I might be overcompensating to avoid reckless impulsivity and cutting off things that are ‘real’, but I err on the side of caution.
Some people don’t do this out of laziness or ignorance of how to manage things, but others don’t because they actively like living in the moment and being impulsive and free-spirited.
I personally prefer to be as stable as I can because at one stage I was extremely unwell and had to take a full year out of normal life via hospitalisation, and I’d rather avoid a return.
I think your intentions re the husband are as you say, but in my experience expectation doesn’t match reality. I’ve had many times where if I just have that one more conversation things will be cool and all will be explained and it rarely works out like that.
Sorry for the late reply to the post by the way, if you’re curious about the things I outlined briefly feel free to PM me.
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I would've put the label [Girl Blog] before the title.
Also, if another man even looks at your woman, you must challenge him to a duel. Always carry a sword with you so you are always prepared for a duel.
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