EPTGaming rage and anger management - please help - Page 7
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FinalForm
United States450 Posts
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NewTypeBeez
United States35 Posts
Mostly the time and money involved, in addition to the fact that I generally like to try to solve problems on my own if I can help it. I know there's irony in that previous statement considering this thread, but I looked at this as more of a way to collect ideas from other gamers who may have encountered this kind of thing. Time - you can be evaluated by someone at a psych hospital or an emergency room in 10 - 15 minutes, possibly even less. A psych hospital can actually do this over the phone for your convenience. Money - said evaluation is free (unless at emergency room) and if you actually wanted to get help at a psych facility, your insurance will more than likely cover it. Hey, if you want to compile everyones ideas to help you from ruining your life over Starcraft, then by all means try. But fix it or get help before you hurt yourself or someone else. In Starcraft we can always hit the 'play again' button, but in life we can't. | ||
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wozzot
United States1227 Posts
A lot of people become alcoholics because they enjoy alcohol too, doesn't mean they shouldn't quit Speeding and driving semi-recklessly when I have to go somewhere after playing and losing a few matches. This is the scariest thing, because I could, y'know, die, or cause someone else to die. Yeah if you're risking your life over a video game you probably shouldn't be playing it. There are many other competitive ways to have fun, so play sports or pick up chess or something. Or try seeing a therapist and see if they don't tell you the same thing On May 09 2013 09:13 Lauriel wrote: To everyone saying "quit and get professional help," thank you for your input, but I'm not going to respond, simply because it's a last resort, and I'm looking for solutions that will prevent me from going to that end. You sound like a drug addict asking how to stop being addicted without quitting drugs | ||
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Onlinejaguar
Australia2823 Posts
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deo.deo
135 Posts
At your age you are not going pro anyway so whats the point since you clearly don't get any enjoyment out of the game itself. | ||
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TeslasPigeon
464 Posts
Start reading about cognitive behavior therapy. The phrases may sound scary, but the idea is about teaching you coping mechanisms that help deal with your adversities. Here is one book I would suggest: http://www.amazon.com/Mind-Over-Mood-Change-Changing/dp/0898621283 If you are strapped for cash it is fairly easy to find online. | ||
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MadProbe
United States269 Posts
did that person hack, cheese, exploit game imbalance, do a stupid all-in, or otherwise gain an unfair advantage? if you feel you've been wronged -- your "revenge instinct" kicks in, driving you to say awful things and act violently. if this is your problem, i'd recommend doing a lot of cheese and gimmicky all-ins (or whatever your opponent does that makes you rage) so that you accept those strategies as fair and valid ways to play. | ||
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ScrubS
Netherlands436 Posts
I used to have a bit similar problem when i was around 14 years old. I was in a really heavy puberty period and i would just get annoyed by everthing. I would get especially annoyed by my family as i was around them alot (I lived in the same house ofc) at some point I would burst and I would start to rage against them. When I was 15 years old we went on holiday to Indonesia, where I ended up in some temple with alot of people meditating. Eventhough I never meditated before, I just sat next to them on a pillow and just sat there for an hour. I just sat and thought about stuff, no weird stuff like clearing your mind or holding a specific posture, just think. For some reason this really calmed me down mentally. Its not like i was frustrated at that point, but I felt so much more relaxed. Since then I try to "meditate" on my own way very often. I just sit on the couch, in the park, or even on the train on my way somewhere and I think. Just think. Ofcourse at first I start thinking about some homework, food, or some other random stuff. But at the end I usually end up thinking about how I could improve my life by doing something or thinking differently, and that really calmes me down. Even just realizing how happy I am is a really good way to calm down. It might sound a bit weird and makes me look like a crazy hippie, just try it. It cant hurt right? I suggest you just go to the park and just sit on a bench. Or my favorite, just sit at a really crowed place and watch people do their thing (for example, go sit next to the Eifel Tower and watch people pass by). Just sit and think, maybe even for a couple hours straight. One thing: just make sure you have nothing else to do that day, as less stress possible is really beneficial. About the therapists, For some reason people in the US always consult a therapist for their tiny stupid problems, eventho solving your own problems teaches you a lot more. In my country very few people see therapists even tho it is free (I actaully once read that seeing a psychiatrist can have bad results as it might fix your current problem, but makes you even less capable of fixing your next). As you stated yourself, try to solve it first, it is your last step. | ||
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forsooth
United States3648 Posts
As far as the game itself, goes, I saw in one of your posts earlier that losing ladder games is particularly upsetting for you because they're isolated, meaning if you lose, that's it. You can't go back and fix things. I think that's the wrong way of looking at it though. A single game is only a part of a much larger time investment/learning process that occurs game by game. Why did you lose? What could you have done differently? You apply these things to the next game you play, and the game after that, and the game after that, and eventually you eliminate a particular weakness from your play. Maybe you play that person again in the future and they try to do the same thing, but you beat them. Maybe you forget their name altogether. I rarely remember the name of anyone I play against, mainly because it doesn't matter much to me. I'm playing against the ladder, and every opponent is either an opportunity for skill refinement, or a learning experience. The individuals themselves are irrelevant, and so is losing to them. The purpose of playing is to get better, and losing is part of that process. Some people are better than you. | ||
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DDie
Brazil2369 Posts
On May 09 2013 08:50 Lauriel wrote: The strange thing is that absolutely nothing else in my life gets me this upset. Nothing. I'm a very relaxed, easy-going guy in every other facet of my life. If anyone I worked with or went to school with knew this side of me existed, they would be utterly, incredibly shocked. I can't explain why video games (and starcraft, in particular) is such a trigger for me, but it has me on the verge of quitting the game, which I don't want to do because I love it, and the entire E-sports scene in general. Sounds like you're repressing anger in everyday life and blowing it all out on games. My suggestion is : a) Do a martial art (i would suggest boxing/muay thai, these are the best stress relievers) or b) Get medical help. | ||
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Lauriel
United States108 Posts
On May 09 2013 11:58 DDie wrote: Sounds like you're repressing anger in everyday life and blowing it all out on games. My suggestion is : a) Do a martial art (i would suggest boxing/muay thai, these are the best stress relievers) or b) Get medical help. Mmm...that's not it. When things get me angry, I'm very poor at repressing it. It's more that not a lot gets me angry. | ||
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HardlyNever
United States1258 Posts
On May 09 2013 08:50 Lauriel wrote: Just to be clear, I'm not talking about typing out obscenities after losing a game, punching a pillow, and being in a sour mood for a few minutes. Wow I max out at about this, and only in the most extreme of circumstances, and thought I was bad... Anyhow, I think you honestly should stop playing the game. I don't really see an alternative in the short-term. It just isn't worth this kind of rage. At least switched to just unranked or something, where you won't feel as much pressure. | ||
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Xialos
Canada508 Posts
So stop until you can control yourself. (even though you like playing) That's ridiculous lol. | ||
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CrazyF1r3f0x
United States2120 Posts
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TheSwamp
United States1497 Posts
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ThisWillBEz
United States120 Posts
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Lauriel
United States108 Posts
On May 09 2013 12:07 TheSwamp wrote: If you were just running around your house screaming and punching things like a two year old, I would say, "Who gives a fuck?" But the fact that you put other people's lives in danger by driving recklessly and are not willing to seek the help you obviously need, or just quit this VIDEO GAME makes really angry. Imagine you run a red light and kill some kid crossing the street. For what? Because some kid on ladder four gated you? Get you priorities in order. That's a valid point. I should clarify about the driving. It's not that I drive recklessly, or take ridiculous risks in the car. It's more that I'm driving angry. I haven't done anything truly reckless though. Driving angry is still dangerous, however. | ||
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s3rp
Germany3192 Posts
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nstrike
Canada9 Posts
Pay attention to your emotional state as you are playing (or at the end of each game). Learn to identify the physical signs of anger that your body presents (such as increased heart rate, quicker breathing, feeling hot in the face, clenched muscles, repetitive movements, etc.). As you identify these physical manifestations of your increasing rage, tell yourself to take a break and use calming strategies (deep slow breathing, go for a run, etc.). Interrupt the cycle before it gets out of control. You may also find it helpful to keep a journal. After each game, do a quick write of what happened and how you felt. Not only does doing this force you to take time between losses, but it also forces you to pay attention to your emotional state (and might even be a worthwhile sc2 improvement strategy). The key to this is building the habit of journaling while you are not upset. The earlier advice about being mindful of precipitating factors (not enough sleep, lack of exercise, skipping meals, family or work stress) is excellent as well. Know that any of these factors increases the likelihood of a rage attack. There is nothing wrong with feeling angry, and each of us has different triggers. The key is being able to ensure that we are in control of our anger, and we do not let it control us. So we need to be mindful of our emotional state, and take actions that will regulate our emotions before they get out of control. | ||
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MichaelDonovan
United States1453 Posts
Edit: I should also say that if you really can't heed this advice, it means that you do in fact need medication of some sort and NOTHING any of us could possibly say to you is going to help. | ||
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