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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
L_Master
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JimmyJRaynor
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On July 08 2018 04:19 sc-darkness wrote: Maybe it's possible to be immune to it even if you're infected. This article ( https://www.medicaldaily.com/why-some-people-are-immune-hiv-ebola-and-other-diseases-397940 ) claims that 1% of Caucasians are immune to HIV (please don't try to find out on your own if you're one of them), some people are immune to Ebola, etc. it used to be 3 in 1000 and now we're up to 1% in caucasians ![]() | ||
Ghostcom
Denmark4782 Posts
On July 12 2018 09:12 JimmyJRaynor wrote: it used to be 3 in 1000 and now we're up to 1% in caucasians ![]() 1) I think your argumentation for increased prevalence of immunity (if true) is quite odd. If anything, your logic would lead to a lower fraction being immune rather than a larger. 2) Frankly, the big thing with HIV is to avoid the infection in the first place. | ||
Excludos
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I think someone here earlier said they'd look at someone's profile if they asked and pick out what's wrong. That offer still on the table? | ||
L_Master
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On July 17 2018 03:10 Excludos wrote: Well I'm folding due to desperation, and I'm going to try..*sighs*..Tinder..again. I think someone here earlier said they'd look at someone's profile if they asked and pick out what's wrong. That offer still on the table? I don't mind offering my thoughts. | ||
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WarSame
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L_Master
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What you get in those first 12-24 hours is a pretty good indication of how well you're profile is fairing and might give a little insight. Tbh I sort of agree with WarSame. I think some of the other guys here are better than me at knowing what works as far as actual pics to use, but I'm pretty confident in deciding how good someone looks in a picture, which is definitely a HUGE aspect of Tinder. You can have the most kickass pictures but if you look average in all of them it doesn't go well for you. If they chime in I'll be curious to see how their thoughts compare to mine. | ||
Excludos
Norway7992 Posts
On July 17 2018 06:59 L_Master wrote: Oh out of curiosity, how many matches have you been getting? Like not right swipes, but how many likes? 1? 3+? 10+?25+? What you get in those first 12-24 hours is a pretty good indication of how well you're profile is fairing and might give a little insight. Tbh I sort of agree with WarSame. I think some of the other guys here are better than me at knowing what works as far as actual pics to use, but I'm pretty confident in deciding how good someone looks in a picture, which is definitely a HUGE aspect of Tinder. You can have the most kickass pictures but if you look average in all of them it doesn't go well for you. If they chime in I'll be curious to see how their thoughts compare to mine. Yeah, almost no matches lately. haven't had one for over half a year now. I got a few in the beginning, but most of them were bots. At that time my profile looked quite a bit different (and probably shit) tho, so my score is most likely really bad (I didn't even know there was such a system until recently). It's one of the reasons I had given up on Tinder and thought it useless. I guess it might be worth considering starting a new one if the starting score is really that important for matches. | ||
L_Master
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On July 17 2018 07:28 Excludos wrote: Yeah, almost no matches lately. haven't had one for over half a year now. I got a few in the beginning, but most of them were bots. At that time my profile looked quite a bit different (and probably shit) tho, so my score is most likely really bad (I didn't even know there was such a system until recently). It's one of the reasons I had given up on Tinder and thought it useless. I guess it might be worth considering starting a new one if the starting score is really that important for matches. Have you been using it regularly? If you haven't then you won't get matches. Either way, it's ABSOLUTELY worth starting a new one. You'll get a reset, and a very significant initial boost where it basically puts you to the top of girls decks for the first 12-24 hours. This boost tells you a ton. Don't swipe for like 12 hours and see how many likes you have. If you're not at 3+, then definitely need to keep trying different things with the pictures. To be honest though, it might be hard for you. You're more or less average. Not attractive, not unattractive. This is fine in person for meeting good women, but Tinder is tough in those circumstances because it's basically a meat market with girls having access to a good number of attractive and very attractive guys. I've seen average looking guys do okay, but generally they have excellent pics playing to a good angle, and really show off components of an active/attractive lifestyle (combination of super fun and adventurous/expansive social circle/leadership/etc.). | ||
sc-darkness
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Edit: Keep in mind a lot of people are on holiday and/or out of university at this point of summer. Probably less matches in general. | ||
TheBrochette
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IshinShishi
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Artisreal
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sc-darkness
856 Posts
On July 18 2018 23:52 Artisreal wrote: Being in good shape helps. being a good person helps too. The latter is definitely not a high priority on Tinder as many people here would tell you. In real life, sure. | ||
L_Master
United States8017 Posts
On July 19 2018 06:04 sc-darkness wrote: The latter is definitely not a high priority on Tinder as many people here would tell you. In real life, sure. Yep. Being a good person has no bearing on getting matches. Meeting up with those matches...maybe. But you have to have some to have a chance to meetup in the first place. | ||
bloodwhore~
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The following is the picture I've gotten most comments about (People actually initiate conversations because of the image fairly often). + Show Spoiler + ![]() It is basically a tribute to this picture: + Show Spoiler + ![]() But I've replaced "hotdogs" with "julmust" which is a super tasty christmas soda in Sweden. Even though I don't look that attractive in that very picture, having some unique pics help. | ||
Excludos
Norway7992 Posts
On July 23 2018 03:06 bloodwhore~ wrote: If you need more feedback you can send your profile to me. The following is the picture I've gotten most comments about (People actually initiate conversations because of the image fairly often). + Show Spoiler + ![]() It is basically a tribute to this picture: + Show Spoiler + ![]() But I've replaced "hotdogs" with "julmust" which is a super tasty christmas soda in Sweden. Even though I don't look that attractive in that very picture, having some unique pics help. Sent, and thanks. Likewise it's fine if you want to share the feedback here for others to see | ||
Excludos
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My tactic for getting decent photos is to film yourself and then take a screenshot. 4 out of 6 photos that I have are taken using that method. Definitely try it out. Make sure you have a decent background. Preferably outside so the lightning is good, a decent living space indoors works as well. As for the bio. I'd cut down on the nerd stuff honestly. It's fine that you like that stuff, but I don't think you should be flashing that around so much. Few girls will read "average nerd" and go bananas. "Almost sociable" doesn't ring good at all either. I believe you're trying to make a joke, but it is a self deprecating joke and those are bad 99.9% of the time. It doesn't exactly exude confidence. The feedback also echoes what L_Master told me: Too nerdy isn't attractive on sites like Tinder, and my pictures are...less than good. I guess I need to work on both before I restart my profile then ![]() | ||
L_Master
United States8017 Posts
On July 23 2018 03:06 bloodwhore~ wrote: If you need more feedback you can send your profile to me. The following is the picture I've gotten most comments about (People actually initiate conversations because of the image fairly often). + Show Spoiler + ![]() It is basically a tribute to this picture: + Show Spoiler + ![]() But I've replaced "hotdogs" with "julmust" which is a super tasty christmas soda in Sweden. Even though I don't look that attractive in that very picture, having some unique pics help. Do you use that as your main pic? Either way, especially if that's a known joke, I can see a picture like that adding something to an otherwise decent profile. Of course, I'm not surprised to see you're a pretty damn attractive guy as well. I'd be pretty shocked if you aren't getting a reasonable number of matches. | ||
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