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On March 13 2015 21:06 SwizzY wrote:
Opinions on dead-end relationships?
Dating a really cool Indian girl right now who is all sorts of great: funny, intelligent, motivated, beautiful, and is actually really open-minded. We are both seniors in college and have things going for us.
The catch: She has fairly conservative parents who are classic xenophobic/ethnocentric and really have no mind to accept any guy who isn't Indian.... And I'm Korean LOL.
We've openly talked about the potential of the relationship and every time we get near mid/endgame everything gets murky and pretty depressing to say the least. It's been a month so far and it's going fantastic. This isn't my first relationship by a long shot so I'm pretty experienced as far as what to expect and not drinking the infatuation koolaid.
I understand that I should really expect the worst and guard myself, but I feel like she is worth giving effort for. What are some of your opinions or experiences?
I've lived with a chinese born and raised girl older than me for 5 years. She was 2.5years older than me. In the end the relationship ended because when it came near her 28 their culture dictates that marriage is really important and I was just not ready for it at 25/26.
But I mean, it was great 5 years I wouldn't really take that back!
But should something like that happen to me where I meet a girl where fundamentally it just can't work long run I'd be very open about it, make sure to agree we have no long term plans and we are here to enjoy each other right now and here without any expectations - and have a great time.
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On March 13 2015 21:06 SwizzY wrote:
Opinions on dead-end relationships?
Dating a really cool Indian girl right now who is all sorts of great: funny, intelligent, motivated, beautiful, and is actually really open-minded. We are both seniors in college and have things going for us.
The catch: She has fairly conservative parents who are classic xenophobic/ethnocentric and really have no mind to accept any guy who isn't Indian.... And I'm Korean LOL.
We've openly talked about the potential of the relationship and every time we get near mid/endgame everything gets murky and pretty depressing to say the least. It's been a month so far and it's going fantastic. This isn't my first relationship by a long shot so I'm pretty experienced as far as what to expect and not drinking the infatuation koolaid.
I understand that I should really expect the worst and guard myself, but I feel like she is worth giving effort for. What are some of your opinions or experiences?
It's going to be up to you guys. Will her parents disown her?
Can you and she handle you being treated like a lesser person like that?
Also has she told her parents? Have you told yours?
In the end it's going to be her life, not her parents, and cross race relationships are becoming so common, even Indian Korean mixed children won't look odd 20 years down the line.
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Guys why does page 590 have a different background?
On topic:
Next week going to travel 2h 30 min to a girl met some time ago on the Internet. She's pretty awesome and into me, hopefully we'll make our lives funnier!
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On March 13 2015 22:58 Kurumi wrote:
Guys why does page 590 have a different background?
On topic:
Next week going to travel 2h 30 min to a girl met some time ago on the Internet. She's pretty awesome and into me, hopefully we'll make our lives funnier!
WTF? This is true! Kurumi found a TL Easter Egg?
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On March 13 2015 23:41 Acrofales wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2015 22:58 Kurumi wrote:
Guys why does page 590 have a different background?
On topic:
Next week going to travel 2h 30 min to a girl met some time ago on the Internet. She's pretty awesome and into me, hopefully we'll make our lives funnier! WTF? This is true! Kurumi found a TL Easter Egg?
Haha love it
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Such a random page to have the easter egg on. I checked other threads to see maybe if it was a page 590 artifact and I didn't find it anywhere else.
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On March 13 2015 21:25 Copymizer wrote:
is it weird not necessarily wanting to have a girl, but just some good sex? i've felt this way for awhile now
i feel the same way.
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On March 13 2015 21:06 SwizzY wrote:
Opinions on dead-end relationships?
Dating a really cool Indian girl right now who is all sorts of great: funny, intelligent, motivated, beautiful, and is actually really open-minded. We are both seniors in college and have things going for us.
The catch: She has fairly conservative parents who are classic xenophobic/ethnocentric and really have no mind to accept any guy who isn't Indian.... And I'm Korean LOL.
We've openly talked about the potential of the relationship and every time we get near mid/endgame everything gets murky and pretty depressing to say the least. It's been a month so far and it's going fantastic. This isn't my first relationship by a long shot so I'm pretty experienced as far as what to expect and not drinking the infatuation koolaid.
I understand that I should really expect the worst and guard myself, but I feel like she is worth giving effort for. What are some of your opinions or experiences?
As the others said, if you think shes worth it and if she can live with the consequenses go for it, but make sure that you evaluate the situation correctly. Make sure you know what exactly this would mean to her, as she seem to be the person that would get affected the most. Also, please be sure how "conservative" her parents exactly are. I dont know how common this is in the USA, but here are some extremely conservative people. Not to long ago some pakistan parents who live in the same city as I do, strangeld their daughter because she was about to marry a guy from a lower cast. Not to say that all are as extreme, but make sure you know what you are getting her into. Also, the disowning is pretty serious. A fellow student whos also indian has a south-asian girlfriend and if his father would find out, he would kick him out of the house immediately. So please take caution, some of theese cultures take that stuff pretty seriously.
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On March 13 2015 20:37 Mina wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2015 15:33 MarlieChurphy wrote:
PS- Anyone who has dated these kinds of women, was it arousing to them when you were 'pro' at games? I'm sorry, WUT? The other way around, do you find it arousing when girls are pro at games? Arousing being the keyword here...
Arousing is one of those words that people have a pretty extreme description of in their head. Arousing in the brain/limbic system sense of the word.
And yes I probably would, however. I have never met one, so I don't know.
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On March 13 2015 21:06 SwizzY wrote:
Opinions on dead-end relationships?
Dating a really cool Indian girl right now who is all sorts of great: funny, intelligent, motivated, beautiful, and is actually really open-minded. We are both seniors in college and have things going for us.
The catch: She has fairly conservative parents who are classic xenophobic/ethnocentric and really have no mind to accept any guy who isn't Indian.... And I'm Korean LOL.
We've openly talked about the potential of the relationship and every time we get near mid/endgame everything gets murky and pretty depressing to say the least. It's been a month so far and it's going fantastic. This isn't my first relationship by a long shot so I'm pretty experienced as far as what to expect and not drinking the infatuation koolaid.
I understand that I should really expect the worst and guard myself, but I feel like she is worth giving effort for. What are some of your opinions or experiences?
LPT: relationships in your teens and early twenties aren't meant to last. So don't rush them or put too much weight/pressure on them. You guys are still young and your brains aren't even done developing until around the age of 25.
You could be entirely different people in a years time. Beyond that, as a man you can never really settle down until you get your 'playing the field' drive out of your system. If in the deep back of your mind you wanna slay all these various types of girls and experience all kinds of females still, then you won't be happy settling down with that in your mind.
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Gah just my luck. At a bar, attractive girl initiates conversation with me and asks to exchange numbers, she's 20 and I'm 23. Turns out she has a 2 year old kid. :-\
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On March 14 2015 08:44 Chewbacca. wrote:
Gah just my luck. At a bar, attractive girl initiates conversation with me and asks to exchange numbers, she's 20 and I'm 23. Turns out she has a 2 year old kid. :-\
I'm starting to think that it's no coincidence that this has never happened to me.
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On March 14 2015 08:44 Chewbacca. wrote:
Gah just my luck. At a bar, attractive girl initiates conversation with me and asks to exchange numbers, she's 20 and I'm 23. Turns out she has a 2 year old kid. :-\
Single moms are great bro go for it 
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On March 13 2015 23:41 Acrofales wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2015 22:58 Kurumi wrote:
Guys why does page 590 have a different background?
On topic:
Next week going to travel 2h 30 min to a girl met some time ago on the Internet. She's pretty awesome and into me, hopefully we'll make our lives funnier! WTF? This is true! Kurumi found a TL Easter Egg?
This is amazing
On March 13 2015 21:25 Copymizer wrote:
is it weird not necessarily wanting to have a girl, but just some good sex? i've felt this way for awhile now
You mean just hooking up/ friends with benefits, rather than an exclusive relationship?
That's not uncommon at all; it depends on a lot of things, including where you are emotionally. People who just ended a relationship, for example, might be more likely to just "rebound" or "play the field" rather than rushing into another relationship. And even if that's not your current situation, it's completely fine to just be in it for the physical aspects. What's important is that you make your intentions known when the opportunity arises, so that you don't lead the girl on
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Thanks, that actually helped me because i just came out of a relationship a couple months ago. Telling intentions is defintely most important. i'm looking to play the field as you said
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On March 14 2015 20:17 SixStrings wrote:Show nested quote +On March 14 2015 08:44 Chewbacca. wrote:
Gah just my luck. At a bar, attractive girl initiates conversation with me and asks to exchange numbers, she's 20 and I'm 23. Turns out she has a 2 year old kid. :-\ I'm starting to think that it's no coincidence that this has never happened to me.
Meh it was the first time the girl ever initiated with me either. Normally I got to do the work.
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On March 14 2015 00:12 Najda wrote:
Such a random page to have the easter egg on. I checked other threads to see maybe if it was a page 590 artifact and I didn't find it anywhere else.
There are certainly other threads/pages that have modified backgrounds like that. I couldn't tell you which ones specifically off the top of my head though.
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On March 14 2015 22:32 Chewbacca. wrote:Show nested quote +On March 14 2015 00:12 Najda wrote:
Such a random page to have the easter egg on. I checked other threads to see maybe if it was a page 590 artifact and I didn't find it anywhere else. There are certainly other threads/pages that have modified backgrounds like that. I couldn't tell you which ones specifically off the top of my head though.
Beware the flying monkey men, my pretty.
On March 14 2015 22:24 Copymizer wrote:
Thanks, that actually helped me because i just came out of a relationship a couple months ago. Telling intentions is defintely most important. i'm looking to play the field as you said
Best of luck
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On March 13 2015 21:06 SwizzY wrote:
Opinions on dead-end relationships?
Dating a really cool Indian girl right now who is all sorts of great: funny, intelligent, motivated, beautiful, and is actually really open-minded. We are both seniors in college and have things going for us.
The catch: She has fairly conservative parents who are classic xenophobic/ethnocentric and really have no mind to accept any guy who isn't Indian.... And I'm Korean LOL.
We've openly talked about the potential of the relationship and every time we get near mid/endgame everything gets murky and pretty depressing to say the least. It's been a month so far and it's going fantastic. This isn't my first relationship by a long shot so I'm pretty experienced as far as what to expect and not drinking the infatuation koolaid.
I understand that I should really expect the worst and guard myself, but I feel like she is worth giving effort for. What are some of your opinions or experiences?
I understand your concern etc but just saying from my personal experience, indians (unlike middle easterners) are actually rather ok with eastern asian. Know a couple of indian girls went out with chinese descent guys and one of them married a chinese guy. They are all raised and born in uk etc.
I would say screw her parents (no, dont actually do it lol), if she likes you and want to go out with you then you shouldn't concern about how her parents think, talk to her about your concerns and if she is ok with it then whats stopping you there.
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On March 14 2015 22:35 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:Show nested quote +On March 14 2015 22:32 Chewbacca. wrote:On March 14 2015 00:12 Najda wrote:
Such a random page to have the easter egg on. I checked other threads to see maybe if it was a page 590 artifact and I didn't find it anywhere else. There are certainly other threads/pages that have modified backgrounds like that. I couldn't tell you which ones specifically off the top of my head though. Beware the flying monkey men, my pretty.
No don't send me to disneyland!
TL has a few funny quirks.
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