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On March 12 2015 22:48 QuanticHawk wrote:Show nested quote +On March 12 2015 12:30 Najda wrote:Is this girl worth any more effort or should I just move on? Quick summary of events: Went out with a girl last Wednesday, date went pretty well. She texts me 20 minutes after saying she had a lot of fun and would love to meet up again, we agree Monday would be best. I text her Friday and we talk for a little. Then Monday I text to confirm and she says she's not sure, she's pretty tired and will let me know. I just say I'll be busy then but let me know and we might be able to hang out later in the evening. She later texts that she's too tired and is just heading home, so I say we'll hang out some other time then. Today around noon I ask her if she had plans for the day, she doesn't respond until 6:30 and says "my phone was dead all day  my b" so I just responded "it happens" two hours later (was playing Dota and forgot). Move on? Try to set up another date? people who short hand bad are not worth your time. you should strongly consider driving a couple hours out into the woods with her and abandoning her for good measure
My current long-term girlfriend took quite a bit of time and effort to get her to commit in the early dating phase. It can take a lot of energy from both sides to set up and commit to meeting outside of something you would normally do. Seems over the top to give up after flaking once and having her phone die. Just ask her outright about a way to avoid her flaking and see if that works.
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On March 13 2015 07:23 RoyGBiv_13 wrote:Show nested quote +On March 12 2015 22:48 QuanticHawk wrote:On March 12 2015 12:30 Najda wrote:Is this girl worth any more effort or should I just move on? Quick summary of events: Went out with a girl last Wednesday, date went pretty well. She texts me 20 minutes after saying she had a lot of fun and would love to meet up again, we agree Monday would be best. I text her Friday and we talk for a little. Then Monday I text to confirm and she says she's not sure, she's pretty tired and will let me know. I just say I'll be busy then but let me know and we might be able to hang out later in the evening. She later texts that she's too tired and is just heading home, so I say we'll hang out some other time then. Today around noon I ask her if she had plans for the day, she doesn't respond until 6:30 and says "my phone was dead all day my b" so I just responded "it happens" two hours later (was playing Dota and forgot). Move on? Try to set up another date? people who short hand bad are not worth your time. you should strongly consider driving a couple hours out into the woods with her and abandoning her for good measure My current long-term girlfriend took quite a bit of time and effort to get her to commit in the early dating phase. It can take a lot of energy from both sides to set up and commit to meeting outside of something you would normally do. Seems over the top to give up after flaking once and having her phone die. Just ask her outright about a way to avoid her flaking and see if that works.
Seems like committing to something on Wednesday seems like a decent plan. It should not be a 1-sided effort: if the girl is busy, that is fine, but she should be initiating conversation and helping making plans. If it's all 1-way traffic, something is wrong.
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I dont even know how to compose this. So Ill just type and speak my mind.
Currently Im not even looking to date. I just want to pass college get my degree and start my career off. But I do talk with girls in class (Im an undergrad for Nursing and Science so the ratio is pretty generous) but nothing ever goes past flirting.
Then I come across this one chick. Shes totally focused into fitness and school (oh wow, just like me!). And shes really smart, scored second highest grade on our first exam. And she really doesnt give a fuck what she dresses like. She literally came to class one time in complete gym apparel, power belt and all. But I found this to be a goddamn turn on! I start to sit next to her and try to talk to her. But shes VERY introverted and I always had to initiate a conversation. Like I didnt know if she was just shy or didnt like me or what. But over time she really didnt mind me, I would talk to her about small stuff every now and then and help her out whenever she came to class late etc. I thought we were moving in a good direction (friends-wise).
Then I start to learn more about her from my other classmate. He tells me stuff about her like how she was teased a lot in highschool and never went to prom or banquets or anything. So in my head Im like, "Well no wonder shes like this, you guys were dicks to her". So I thought I just need to be more friendly with her and be nice. But still same old thing, I initiate all convos and she just buries herself in her phone or laptop right after.
At this point I really start to fall for this chick, I come across her social networks like IG and Twitter. She posts A LOT of stuff. Mostly fitness stuff and eating. Like she even literally just posts on her twitter during class sitting next to me about the most random shit, "Like wtf? you have those thoughts in your head while you look like youre about to fall asleep during lecture???"
This is getting really too long, but to cut to the chase. I learned or came to the conclusion that she has some sort of complexity that I dont think Im equipped to deal with. I came to realize that maybe shes still single for a reason and that I would just be wasting my time.
Anyways ya. Thats it. I doubt Ill try to chase a girl more in the near future. This one already got me feeling depressed, more so that I really just got my hopes up about this girl.
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On March 12 2015 21:32 SixStrings wrote:Show nested quote +On March 12 2015 16:27 bloodwhore~ wrote:
They should start teaching girls how to say "I'm not interested" in kindergarten. It infuriates me when girls play games. Yeah, I don't get it. Remember when I told you guys how badly I struck out with the kidney-snatcher? It's been a while, so I don't expect you to. At any rate, even she, who was so obviously uninterested gave me the 'this was so nice, let's totally do it again' routine at the end of the night. Of course I have never spoken to her again. It's so weird to me, I don't find that polite, it's just insincere and a bit cravenly.
Some girls do that just so they don't end up with a guy pleading in front of their place and then showing up later with a boom box over his head.
Not saying that would be you, just they don't know one way or the other.
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On March 13 2015 10:08 Emnjay808 wrote:
I dont even know how to compose this. So Ill just type and speak my mind.
Currently Im not even looking to date. I just want to pass college get my degree and start my career off. But I do talk with girls in class (Im an undergrad for Nursing and Science so the ratio is pretty generous) but nothing ever goes past flirting.
Then I come across this one chick. Shes totally focused into fitness and school (oh wow, just like me!). And shes really smart, scored second highest grade on our first exam. And she really doesnt give a fuck what she dresses like. She literally came to class one time in complete gym apparel, power belt and all. But I found this to be a goddamn turn on! I start to sit next to her and try to talk to her. But shes VERY introverted and I always had to initiate a conversation. Like I didnt know if she was just shy or didnt like me or what. But over time she really didnt mind me, I would talk to her about small stuff every now and then and help her out whenever she came to class late etc. I thought we were moving in a good direction (friends-wise).
Then I start to learn more about her from my other classmate. He tells me stuff about her like how she was teased a lot in highschool and never went to prom or banquets or anything. So in my head Im like, "Well no wonder shes like this, you guys were dicks to her". So I thought I just need to be more friendly with her and be nice. But still same old thing, I initiate all convos and she just buries herself in her phone or laptop right after.
At this point I really start to fall for this chick, I come across her social networks like IG and Twitter. She posts A LOT of stuff. Mostly fitness stuff and eating. Like she even literally just posts on her twitter during class sitting next to me about the most random shit, "Like wtf? you have those thoughts in your head while you look like youre about to fall asleep during lecture???"
This is getting really too long, but to cut to the chase. I learned or came to the conclusion that she has some sort of complexity that I dont think Im equipped to deal with. I came to realize that maybe shes still single for a reason and that I would just be wasting my time.
Anyways ya. Thats it. I doubt Ill try to chase a girl more in the near future. This one already got me feeling depressed, more so that I really just got my hopes up about this girl.
While it sounds like you have her all figured out, if you're so depressed over this girl, you should at least ask her out for coffee (or to join her at the gym or something). Worst she can do is turn you down, but it doesn't appear like you've had a chance to learn anything substantive about her.
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On March 13 2015 11:40 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2015 10:08 Emnjay808 wrote:
I dont even know how to compose this. So Ill just type and speak my mind.
Currently Im not even looking to date. I just want to pass college get my degree and start my career off. But I do talk with girls in class (Im an undergrad for Nursing and Science so the ratio is pretty generous) but nothing ever goes past flirting.
Then I come across this one chick. Shes totally focused into fitness and school (oh wow, just like me!). And shes really smart, scored second highest grade on our first exam. And she really doesnt give a fuck what she dresses like. She literally came to class one time in complete gym apparel, power belt and all. But I found this to be a goddamn turn on! I start to sit next to her and try to talk to her. But shes VERY introverted and I always had to initiate a conversation. Like I didnt know if she was just shy or didnt like me or what. But over time she really didnt mind me, I would talk to her about small stuff every now and then and help her out whenever she came to class late etc. I thought we were moving in a good direction (friends-wise).
Then I start to learn more about her from my other classmate. He tells me stuff about her like how she was teased a lot in highschool and never went to prom or banquets or anything. So in my head Im like, "Well no wonder shes like this, you guys were dicks to her". So I thought I just need to be more friendly with her and be nice. But still same old thing, I initiate all convos and she just buries herself in her phone or laptop right after.
At this point I really start to fall for this chick, I come across her social networks like IG and Twitter. She posts A LOT of stuff. Mostly fitness stuff and eating. Like she even literally just posts on her twitter during class sitting next to me about the most random shit, "Like wtf? you have those thoughts in your head while you look like youre about to fall asleep during lecture???"
This is getting really too long, but to cut to the chase. I learned or came to the conclusion that she has some sort of complexity that I dont think Im equipped to deal with. I came to realize that maybe shes still single for a reason and that I would just be wasting my time.
Anyways ya. Thats it. I doubt Ill try to chase a girl more in the near future. This one already got me feeling depressed, more so that I really just got my hopes up about this girl. While it sounds like you have her all figured out, if you're so depressed over this girl, you should at least ask her out for coffee (or to join her at the gym or something). Worst she can do is turn you down, but it doesn't appear like you've had a chance to learn anything substantive about her.
I coulda gone on about asking to go gym with her etc. But I learned that she also prefers to go gym alone. She wont even accept spots from anyone. She has a busted inner lip and a few scabs on her chin and cheeks to prove that =/
Yea it goes a lot deeper than that, but I wont divulge anymore.
I dont know, Im really just upset that I allowed myself to feel this way when I shouldve known better.
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On March 12 2015 12:30 Najda wrote:Is this girl worth any more effort or should I just move on? Quick summary of events: Went out with a girl last Wednesday, date went pretty well. She texts me 20 minutes after saying she had a lot of fun and would love to meet up again, we agree Monday would be best. I text her Friday and we talk for a little. Then Monday I text to confirm and she says she's not sure, she's pretty tired and will let me know. I just say I'll be busy then but let me know and we might be able to hang out later in the evening. She later texts that she's too tired and is just heading home, so I say we'll hang out some other time then. Today around noon I ask her if she had plans for the day, she doesn't respond until 6:30 and says "my phone was dead all day my b" so I just responded "it happens" two hours later (was playing Dota and forgot). Move on? Try to set up another date?
alert : typical princess issue.
consider yourself in her shoes, you say monday is good and then you forget your date and make yourself exhausted. what is more important than your date? okay lets say shit happens. would not you want to fix your cancellation later on? what does she do, "my phone was dead all day : (((( my b " ... okay she is killing her battery before noon, thats still bad but lets say shit happens, would not you want to fix this : ((((( cancellation later on by saying, hey sorry for my bad, wanna meet so i can redeem myself?
i bet any caring man would be ^ like this. give her another chance, but add : "your last chance : ))))))))) "
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On March 13 2015 11:48 lastpuritan wrote:Show nested quote +On March 12 2015 12:30 Najda wrote:Is this girl worth any more effort or should I just move on? Quick summary of events: Went out with a girl last Wednesday, date went pretty well. She texts me 20 minutes after saying she had a lot of fun and would love to meet up again, we agree Monday would be best. I text her Friday and we talk for a little. Then Monday I text to confirm and she says she's not sure, she's pretty tired and will let me know. I just say I'll be busy then but let me know and we might be able to hang out later in the evening. She later texts that she's too tired and is just heading home, so I say we'll hang out some other time then. Today around noon I ask her if she had plans for the day, she doesn't respond until 6:30 and says "my phone was dead all day my b" so I just responded "it happens" two hours later (was playing Dota and forgot). Move on? Try to set up another date? alert : typical princess issue. consider yourself in her shoes, you say monday is good and then you forget your date and make yourself exhausted. what is more important than your date? okay lets say shit happens. would not you want to fix your cancellation later on? what does she do, "my phone was dead all day : (((( my b " ... okay she is killing her battery before noon, thats still bad but lets say shit happens, would not you want to fix this : ((((( cancellation later on by saying, hey sorry for my bad, wanna meet so i can redeem myself? i bet any caring man would be ^ like this. give her another chance, but add : "your last chance : ))))))))) "
Whatever you do, don't end a text with "This is your last chance" if you're trying to get someone to like you.
On March 13 2015 11:47 Emnjay808 wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2015 11:40 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On March 13 2015 10:08 Emnjay808 wrote:
I dont even know how to compose this. So Ill just type and speak my mind.
Currently Im not even looking to date. I just want to pass college get my degree and start my career off. But I do talk with girls in class (Im an undergrad for Nursing and Science so the ratio is pretty generous) but nothing ever goes past flirting.
Then I come across this one chick. Shes totally focused into fitness and school (oh wow, just like me!). And shes really smart, scored second highest grade on our first exam. And she really doesnt give a fuck what she dresses like. She literally came to class one time in complete gym apparel, power belt and all. But I found this to be a goddamn turn on! I start to sit next to her and try to talk to her. But shes VERY introverted and I always had to initiate a conversation. Like I didnt know if she was just shy or didnt like me or what. But over time she really didnt mind me, I would talk to her about small stuff every now and then and help her out whenever she came to class late etc. I thought we were moving in a good direction (friends-wise).
Then I start to learn more about her from my other classmate. He tells me stuff about her like how she was teased a lot in highschool and never went to prom or banquets or anything. So in my head Im like, "Well no wonder shes like this, you guys were dicks to her". So I thought I just need to be more friendly with her and be nice. But still same old thing, I initiate all convos and she just buries herself in her phone or laptop right after.
At this point I really start to fall for this chick, I come across her social networks like IG and Twitter. She posts A LOT of stuff. Mostly fitness stuff and eating. Like she even literally just posts on her twitter during class sitting next to me about the most random shit, "Like wtf? you have those thoughts in your head while you look like youre about to fall asleep during lecture???"
This is getting really too long, but to cut to the chase. I learned or came to the conclusion that she has some sort of complexity that I dont think Im equipped to deal with. I came to realize that maybe shes still single for a reason and that I would just be wasting my time.
Anyways ya. Thats it. I doubt Ill try to chase a girl more in the near future. This one already got me feeling depressed, more so that I really just got my hopes up about this girl. While it sounds like you have her all figured out, if you're so depressed over this girl, you should at least ask her out for coffee (or to join her at the gym or something). Worst she can do is turn you down, but it doesn't appear like you've had a chance to learn anything substantive about her. I coulda gone on about asking to go gym with her etc. But I learned that she also prefers to go gym alone. She wont even accept spots from anyone. She has a busted inner lip and a few scabs on her chin and cheeks to prove that =/ Yea it goes a lot deeper than that, but I wont divulge anymore. I dont know, Im really just upset that I allowed myself to feel this way when I shouldve known better.
Gotcha. Don't be upset... sometimes you need to wear your heart on your sleeve.
The worst thing you can take from this experience is to no longer allow yourself to feel emotional about a girl 
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i always say this is your last chance when things come to that point, works %100 if you do it in a humorous way.
OR THEY CANT REJECT ME ANYWAYS ; )))
On March 13 2015 11:47 Emnjay808 wrote:Show nested quote +On March 13 2015 11:40 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On March 13 2015 10:08 Emnjay808 wrote:
I dont even know how to compose this. So Ill just type and speak my mind.
Currently Im not even looking to date. I just want to pass college get my degree and start my career off. But I do talk with girls in class (Im an undergrad for Nursing and Science so the ratio is pretty generous) but nothing ever goes past flirting.
Then I come across this one chick. Shes totally focused into fitness and school (oh wow, just like me!). And shes really smart, scored second highest grade on our first exam. And she really doesnt give a fuck what she dresses like. She literally came to class one time in complete gym apparel, power belt and all. But I found this to be a goddamn turn on! I start to sit next to her and try to talk to her. But shes VERY introverted and I always had to initiate a conversation. Like I didnt know if she was just shy or didnt like me or what. But over time she really didnt mind me, I would talk to her about small stuff every now and then and help her out whenever she came to class late etc. I thought we were moving in a good direction (friends-wise).
Then I start to learn more about her from my other classmate. He tells me stuff about her like how she was teased a lot in highschool and never went to prom or banquets or anything. So in my head Im like, "Well no wonder shes like this, you guys were dicks to her". So I thought I just need to be more friendly with her and be nice. But still same old thing, I initiate all convos and she just buries herself in her phone or laptop right after.
At this point I really start to fall for this chick, I come across her social networks like IG and Twitter. She posts A LOT of stuff. Mostly fitness stuff and eating. Like she even literally just posts on her twitter during class sitting next to me about the most random shit, "Like wtf? you have those thoughts in your head while you look like youre about to fall asleep during lecture???"
This is getting really too long, but to cut to the chase. I learned or came to the conclusion that she has some sort of complexity that I dont think Im equipped to deal with. I came to realize that maybe shes still single for a reason and that I would just be wasting my time.
Anyways ya. Thats it. I doubt Ill try to chase a girl more in the near future. This one already got me feeling depressed, more so that I really just got my hopes up about this girl. While it sounds like you have her all figured out, if you're so depressed over this girl, you should at least ask her out for coffee (or to join her at the gym or something). Worst she can do is turn you down, but it doesn't appear like you've had a chance to learn anything substantive about her. I coulda gone on about asking to go gym with her etc. But I learned that she also prefers to go gym alone. She wont even accept spots from anyone. She has a busted inner lip and a few scabs on her chin and cheeks to prove that =/ Yea it goes a lot deeper than that, but I dont divulge anymore. I dont know, Im really just upset that I allowed myself to feel this way when I shouldve known better.
yet again, i think what would i do if i was in the same situation.
here is the plan, do you have any pauses between lectures, if not, you will cut your lectures for 10 min.
next day, make your buddy sit next to you and the girl, talk with the girl, about anything, maybe her laptop, or something that will not sound cringy. and have your buddy say something also. then during lectures, tell your bud that you are thirsty, but let her hear this. go buy something drinkworthy and make yours and girls sugarfree, before offering, tell her that hers is sugar free, you bet that she will prefer this one. if she asks why, you can presume that she is doing gym and caring her body etc, you spot people like you easily. ; ))))) okay. this will hopefully lead in you in a conversation that you will learn how addicted she is to her gymlife and which saloon she is going, and now you say, i plan to change my saloon, is yours good? can i join you and visit the saloon maybe one day? if she says okay no probs, ask her facebook so you can text her. if she is not scared already or refused you, take her account name and move on. rest is up to your typing skills.
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My dad once told me that u often find someone when u stop looking
This has been true for me. I spent the first 3 and a half years of my college life going after this one girl. We had a phase where we hooked up and we were always close but we could never take it any farther than that. Used to drive me crazy and make me miserable.
So I finally managed to get over her in the sense that I didn't want to be with her anymore. Probably that same week I went to a party at one of my best friends place (a little before this last christmas) with my roommate. I hooked up with a girl who I had met before but wasn't exactly friends with. I went into it with no expectations at all of anything happening, and I know now that she did too.
Long story short we are now falling in love with each other and it is the best feeling ever. Not loving somebody, but knowing that they love you back.
Moral of the story is, don't go crazy looking for love. a lot of times it will find you.
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On March 13 2015 12:00 lastpuritan wrote:i always say this is your last chance when things come to that point, works %100 if you do it in a humorous way. OR THEY CANT REJECT ME ANYWAYS ; ))) Show nested quote +On March 13 2015 11:47 Emnjay808 wrote:On March 13 2015 11:40 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:On March 13 2015 10:08 Emnjay808 wrote:
I dont even know how to compose this. So Ill just type and speak my mind.
Currently Im not even looking to date. I just want to pass college get my degree and start my career off. But I do talk with girls in class (Im an undergrad for Nursing and Science so the ratio is pretty generous) but nothing ever goes past flirting.
Then I come across this one chick. Shes totally focused into fitness and school (oh wow, just like me!). And shes really smart, scored second highest grade on our first exam. And she really doesnt give a fuck what she dresses like. She literally came to class one time in complete gym apparel, power belt and all. But I found this to be a goddamn turn on! I start to sit next to her and try to talk to her. But shes VERY introverted and I always had to initiate a conversation. Like I didnt know if she was just shy or didnt like me or what. But over time she really didnt mind me, I would talk to her about small stuff every now and then and help her out whenever she came to class late etc. I thought we were moving in a good direction (friends-wise).
Then I start to learn more about her from my other classmate. He tells me stuff about her like how she was teased a lot in highschool and never went to prom or banquets or anything. So in my head Im like, "Well no wonder shes like this, you guys were dicks to her". So I thought I just need to be more friendly with her and be nice. But still same old thing, I initiate all convos and she just buries herself in her phone or laptop right after.
At this point I really start to fall for this chick, I come across her social networks like IG and Twitter. She posts A LOT of stuff. Mostly fitness stuff and eating. Like she even literally just posts on her twitter during class sitting next to me about the most random shit, "Like wtf? you have those thoughts in your head while you look like youre about to fall asleep during lecture???"
This is getting really too long, but to cut to the chase. I learned or came to the conclusion that she has some sort of complexity that I dont think Im equipped to deal with. I came to realize that maybe shes still single for a reason and that I would just be wasting my time.
Anyways ya. Thats it. I doubt Ill try to chase a girl more in the near future. This one already got me feeling depressed, more so that I really just got my hopes up about this girl. While it sounds like you have her all figured out, if you're so depressed over this girl, you should at least ask her out for coffee (or to join her at the gym or something). Worst she can do is turn you down, but it doesn't appear like you've had a chance to learn anything substantive about her. I coulda gone on about asking to go gym with her etc. But I learned that she also prefers to go gym alone. She wont even accept spots from anyone. She has a busted inner lip and a few scabs on her chin and cheeks to prove that =/ Yea it goes a lot deeper than that, but I dont divulge anymore. I dont know, Im really just upset that I allowed myself to feel this way when I shouldve known better. yet again, i think what would i do if i was in the same situation. here is the plan, do you have any pauses between lectures, if not, you will cut your lectures for 10 min. next day, make your buddy sit next to you and the girl, talk with the girl, about anything, maybe her laptop, or something that will not sound cringy. and have your buddy say something also. then during lectures, tell your bud that you are thirsty, but let her hear this. go buy something drinkworthy and make yours and girls sugarfree, before offering, tell her that hers is sugar free, you bet that she will prefer this one. if she asks why, you can presume that she is doing gym and caring her body etc, you spot people like you easily. ; ))))) okay. this will hopefully lead in you in a conversation that you will learn how addicted she is to her gymlife and which saloon she is going, and now you say, i plan to change my saloon, is yours good? can i join you and visit the saloon maybe one day? if she says okay no probs, ask her facebook so you can text her. if she is not scared already or refused you, take her account name and move on. rest is up to your typing skills.
roflmao I love you. I needed that XD
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On March 13 2015 11:48 lastpuritan wrote:Show nested quote +On March 12 2015 12:30 Najda wrote:Is this girl worth any more effort or should I just move on? Quick summary of events: Went out with a girl last Wednesday, date went pretty well. She texts me 20 minutes after saying she had a lot of fun and would love to meet up again, we agree Monday would be best. I text her Friday and we talk for a little. Then Monday I text to confirm and she says she's not sure, she's pretty tired and will let me know. I just say I'll be busy then but let me know and we might be able to hang out later in the evening. She later texts that she's too tired and is just heading home, so I say we'll hang out some other time then. Today around noon I ask her if she had plans for the day, she doesn't respond until 6:30 and says "my phone was dead all day my b" so I just responded "it happens" two hours later (was playing Dota and forgot). Move on? Try to set up another date? alert : typical princess issue. consider yourself in her shoes, you say monday is good and then you forget your date and make yourself exhausted. what is more important than your date? okay lets say shit happens. would not you want to fix your cancellation later on? what does she do, "my phone was dead all day : (((( my b " ... okay she is killing her battery before noon, thats still bad but lets say shit happens, would not you want to fix this : ((((( cancellation later on by saying, hey sorry for my bad, wanna meet so i can redeem myself? i bet any caring man would be ^ like this. give her another chance, but add : "your last chance : ))))))))) "
The thing is, I know she is introverted and I can very much relate to just not wanting to hang out with anyone at that time even if I like that person. The plans we made for monday weren't so much concrete as they were just monday works for both of us, so let's talk later and figure out what we want to do. The problem I had was that it's already starting to develop into a pattern and that she made no effort to reschedule either time.
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Question; I find it extremely rare to find a decent looking girl who is into video games to go on a date with, even though they will enjoy talking to me online or whatever, even if we don't talk about gaming or even mention it.
I am biased by the anecdotal experience that actual girls who are gamers (not just saying they are), who aren't socially retarded or ugly/fat, aren't really looking for a guy who is also a gamer. Anyone else agree/disagree with that?
I mean it's not like I'm actively trying to go this route, I just tend to run across them and connect often enough, but nothing ever seems to happen even after meetings/dates are suggested/planned. (maybe they are too caught up in a game, lol)
PS- Anyone who has dated these kinds of women, was it arousing to them when you were 'pro' at games?
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I'm an idiot and I wanna fucking die.
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On March 13 2015 15:33 MarlieChurphy wrote:
I am biased by the anecdotal experience that actual girls who are gamers (not just saying they are), who aren't socially retarded or ugly/fat, aren't really looking for a guy who is also a gamer. Anyone else agree/disagree with that?
I'd say stay away from "gamer girls", at least those who are really forward about, bragging or facebook wall covered with gamign shit. Feels like most of those girls are not sane and are often doing it for attention. There are of course normal girls who play games too.
tl:dr Don't go for girls who are actively trying to be a gaming girl.
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On March 13 2015 15:33 MarlieChurphy wrote:
PS- Anyone who has dated these kinds of women, was it arousing to them when you were 'pro' at games?
I'm sorry, WUT?
The other way around, do you find it arousing when girls are pro at games? Arousing being the keyword here...
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Opinions on dead-end relationships?
Dating a really cool Indian girl right now who is all sorts of great: funny, intelligent, motivated, beautiful, and is actually really open-minded. We are both seniors in college and have things going for us.
The catch: She has fairly conservative parents who are classic xenophobic/ethnocentric and really have no mind to accept any guy who isn't Indian.... And I'm Korean LOL.
We've openly talked about the potential of the relationship and every time we get near mid/endgame everything gets murky and pretty depressing to say the least. It's been a month so far and it's going fantastic. This isn't my first relationship by a long shot so I'm pretty experienced as far as what to expect and not drinking the infatuation koolaid.
I understand that I should really expect the worst and guard myself, but I feel like she is worth giving effort for. What are some of your opinions or experiences?
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is it weird not necessarily wanting to have a girl, but just some good sex? i've felt this way for awhile now
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On March 12 2015 22:48 QuanticHawk wrote:Show nested quote +On March 12 2015 12:30 Najda wrote:Is this girl worth any more effort or should I just move on? Quick summary of events: Went out with a girl last Wednesday, date went pretty well. She texts me 20 minutes after saying she had a lot of fun and would love to meet up again, we agree Monday would be best. I text her Friday and we talk for a little. Then Monday I text to confirm and she says she's not sure, she's pretty tired and will let me know. I just say I'll be busy then but let me know and we might be able to hang out later in the evening. She later texts that she's too tired and is just heading home, so I say we'll hang out some other time then. Today around noon I ask her if she had plans for the day, she doesn't respond until 6:30 and says "my phone was dead all day my b" so I just responded "it happens" two hours later (was playing Dota and forgot). Move on? Try to set up another date? people who short hand bad are not worth your time. you should strongly consider driving a couple hours out into the woods with her and abandoning her for good measure
The best thing to do with these is to
1) Call them with the intention of setting a date. Phone's just so much better, although I'm guilty of being lazy to do it as well.
2) With flaky girls if you text, never text first, wait for her to contact you (girls usually ask "how are you" or something random out of the blue") and when she does, just set the date right there, the only question should be when's she free to get together really. Never "Talk" over texts. Set a firm date, with firm time in a specific place and once you do, don't contact them whatsoever just assume they'll be there. Absolutely never confirm on the day! Girls will tell you if they won;t make it with some bullshit excuse if they can;t make it. Only text if she texts first, and end it quickly with "looking forward to *date you set* let's chat then"
What you should have done is not to ask what she's doing in the first place, and when she typed that thing about the phone, just text "it happens" but then "when are you free to get together" in whatever words that feel natural to you - make it easy for her and show that you want to meet her not text and that you aren't bothered by her not having the time.
I'm seeing a couple flaky chicks like that right now. At first I'd try to text em etc. but once you realize it's this type of girl stop spending resources on them, don't be surprised if it takes a week or more after you see them for them to contact you out of the blue, but when they do I'm just like "great, let's get together, what times are you free next week" they offer times, I reply with specifics right there, we go on good dates and the attraction's there like nothing happened.
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On March 13 2015 21:06 SwizzY wrote:
Opinions on dead-end relationships?
Dating a really cool Indian girl right now who is all sorts of great: funny, intelligent, motivated, beautiful, and is actually really open-minded. We are both seniors in college and have things going for us.
The catch: She has fairly conservative parents who are classic xenophobic/ethnocentric and really have no mind to accept any guy who isn't Indian.... And I'm Korean LOL.
We've openly talked about the potential of the relationship and every time we get near mid/endgame everything gets murky and pretty depressing to say the least. It's been a month so far and it's going fantastic. This isn't my first relationship by a long shot so I'm pretty experienced as far as what to expect and not drinking the infatuation koolaid.
I understand that I should really expect the worst and guard myself, but I feel like she is worth giving effort for. What are some of your opinions or experiences?
It depends a lot on both of you, and far less on her parents.
I am in a relationship, and have been for the last 5 years, with a Moroccan girl. Pretty much the only reason that we're not married is because it scares us both what happens when she introduces me to her parents. The best case scenario we can think of is that I "fake" being a Muslim, and they eventually accept me, despite being a total stranger, and not even Moroccan at that. The worst case is that they disown her and the whole family never wants anything to do with her ever again. So for 5 years we have had a happy relationship without any of her family knowing of my existence. It helps that we live far away, so we live together with no fear of parents or siblings dropping by for a chat, but it is obviously a difficult point for her, and when we eventually want kids we are going to have to deal with it.
What helped in the beginning was being honest about the family situation, but not agonizing over it. Obviously we're now 5 years along and still haven't crossed that bridge, but I think only crossing it when you have to is the right decision: focus on you two and what makes you happy. If and when she needs to tell her parents about you, that is when you have to face that issue.
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