True love and sexual desire

On May 20 2007 05:35 mdb wrote:
btw girls love to be fucked so stop acting gay

On May 20 2007 05:57 meRz wrote:
Wtf its like the complete opposite for me -.-

On May 20 2007 06:11 Fedaykin wrote:

Almost the same here, when I'm really in love I wanna have sex with that one person all the time and really nobody else, so porn doesn't work, nor do other girls, just want 'her' all the time, sadly I'm without such a 'her' atm..

On May 20 2007 07:47 dropthesky wrote:
you are scared, i was at the start, im assuming you're young. You just don't wanna suck, and the woman you love think you are a loser in bed.

On May 20 2007 07:42 JimD.Brav wrote:
you should read more girl thread on TL

On May 20 2007 05:24 mrdx wrote:
Whenever I'm truly in love with someone, all my sexual desires are instantly turned off. Porn doesn't work (while just before I'm in love, even a cheap porn could usually turn my horny self on in < few secs). Kisses, hugs, touches, and sometimes even oral don't work either. Basically I don't want to have sex with the one I truly deeply love.

Have you ever experienced this problem? Or, should I see this as a problem? Is it because I'm Asian? Please feel free to share your thoughts.

On May 20 2007 05:24 mrdx wrote:
Whenever I'm truly in love with someone, all my sexual desires are instantly turned off. Porn doesn't work (while just before I'm in love, even a cheap porn could usually turn my horny self on in < few secs). Kisses, hugs, touches, and sometimes even oral don't work either. Basically I don't want to have sex with the one I truly deeply love.

Have you ever experienced this problem? Or, should I see this as a problem? Is it because I'm Asian? Please feel free to share your thoughts.

On May 20 2007 10:10 Q~Bert wrote:
Wow you are gonna have a serious problem when you get married. I hope you truly love a fat ugly bitch who can't get any from anyone else otherwise she is gonna leave your no putting out ass

On May 20 2007 10:22 gulii wrote:
I wanna fuck everybody. (not ahk)

On May :43 ilovezil wrote:
Actually, I know exactly what the OP is talking about. Perhaps it's because the girls that I tend to like are the "cute" type instead of the "hot" type, but when I really start liking a girl, I become like that. I don't have the sexual desire, but rather, I want to make her happy. Bleh...whatever. Means nothing from a guy who has no female interaction T_T.

Anyway, there are 3 types of girls in this world for me:
1. girls u wanna fuck
2. girls u wanna protect from being fucked
3. girls u wish would fuck off.

On May 20 2007 10:26 FirstBorn wrote:


gay.

On May 20 2007 09:43 ilovezil wrote:
Actually, I know exactly what the OP is talking about. Perhaps it's because the girls that I tend to like are the "cute" type instead of the "hot" type, but when I really start liking a girl, I become like that. I don't have the sexual desire, but rather, I want to make her happy. Bleh...whatever. Means nothing from a guy who has no female interaction T_T.

Anyway, there are 3 types of girls in this world for me:
1. girls u wanna fuck
2. girls u wanna protect from being fucked
3. girls u wish would fuck off.

On May 20 2007 11:32 bine wrote:
most people probably haven't felt love in a very extreme way. It's not odd at all that if in fact you are feeling extremely attached to a single person, you won't be interested in having sex with that person at first. The first thing you need to do is relax. Sex is the least important component of your relationship. Just be together, and talk as much as you can about things that you think you really don't want to talk about. If there's anything you're afraid to talk about, talk about it. And then, after that, it will probably mellow out and settle down into a wonderful normality, and you'll either want to have sex or you won't. But either way, not having sex with the one you love is about as trivial as not playing tennis with them. It has nothing to do with the substance of your relationship.

On May 20 2007 11:32 bine wrote:
most people probably haven't felt love in a very extreme way. It's not odd at all that if in fact you are feeling extremely attached to a single person, you won't be interested in having sex with that person at first. The first thing you need to do is relax. Sex is the least important component of your relationship. Just be together, and talk as much as you can about things that you think you really don't want to talk about. If there's anything you're afraid to talk about, talk about it. And then, after that, it will probably mellow out and settle down into a wonderful normality, and you'll either want to have sex or you won't. But either way, not having sex with the one you love is about as trivial as not playing tennis with them. It has nothing to do with the substance of your relationship.

On May 20 2007 06:11 Fedaykin wrote:

Almost the same here, when I'm really in love I wanna have sex with that one person all the time and really nobody else, so porn doesn't work, nor do other girls, just want 'her' all the time, sadly I'm without such a 'her' atm..

On May 20 2007 10:48 Pressure wrote:

4. 13 year old boys u wanna fuck

hmm?

On May 20 2007 15:45 skindzer wrote:
Try getting drunk.

On May 20 2007 15:35 dropthesky wrote:


Pressure nobody wants to fuck you

On May 20 2007 09:43 ilovezil wrote:
Actually, I know exactly what the OP is talking about. Perhaps it's because the girls that I tend to like are the "cute" type instead of the "hot" type, but when I really start liking a girl, I become like that. I don't have the sexual desire, but rather, I want to make her happy. Bleh...whatever. Means nothing from a guy who has no female interaction T_T.

Anyway, there are 3 types of girls in this world for me:
1. girls u wanna fuck
2. girls u wanna protect from being fucked
3. girls u wish would fuck off.

On May 20 2007 11:32 bine wrote:
most people probably haven't felt love in a very extreme way. It's not odd at all that if in fact you are feeling extremely attached to a single person, you won't be interested in having sex with that person at first. The first thing you need to do is relax. Sex is the least important component of your relationship. Just be together, and talk as much as you can about things that you think you really don't want to talk about. If there's anything you're afraid to talk about, talk about it. And then, after that, it will probably mellow out and settle down into a wonderful normality, and you'll either want to have sex or you won't. But either way, not having sex with the one you love is about as trivial as not playing tennis with them. It has nothing to do with the substance of your relationship.

On May 20 2007 09:10 Bill307 wrote:

Are you both happy and feel no regrets that the sexual desire isn't there?

Then there is no problem.

On May 20 2007 16:37 FakeSteve[TPR] wrote:


yes there is

because if she says she's ok with him not wanting to fuck her she's lying through her teeth

On May 20 2007 15:29 mrdx wrote:
Thanks for all replies
I'm physically normal btw -.- I'm way too old for immature childish love but probably not experienced enough for a real commited relationship I guess.

On May 20 2007 17:31 RebelHeart wrote:
i haven't bothered reading through... but if you don't fuck her, someone else will

On May 20 2007 17:44 MadNeSs wrote:
LMAO, I've never heard of anything like this. Not being able to fuck your gf, because you're in love.

lol, I have it the other way around (like all other guys), I can't wait to fuck my gf, and I know she want it too.

On May 20 2007 18:24 MadNeSs wrote:
I think the problem is that you're gay, og your gf i fat and ugly.

On May 20 2007 10:48 Pressure wrote:

4. 13 year old boys u wanna fuck

hmm?

On May 20 2007 18:24 MadNeSs wrote:
I think the problem is that you're gay, og your gf i fat and ugly.

On May 21 2007 00:38 intrigue wrote:
yup, i know what you're talking about
i'd hook up np if the girl's cute and the situation is right, woo woo! but there are a few prospects that for me make messing around seem very trivial, i just want to have fun with them, hold their hand, and all that ridiculous lololol kissy cute stuff. i don't see my intentions staying so noble for very long though! =P

whatisprotoss just lay back and enjoy the forums, how do you live life so angrily

On May 21 2007 00:28 WhatisProtoss wrote:
(1) Can we stop using the word "fuck" in regards to sex? What the fuck is wrong with you people? It's some kind of game? Or are you guys all so good at fucking/banging girls?

(2) I know many guys, including myself, who have felt that way about a girl. It's a stage that some people go through. I know that it comes from you having a bad feeling about sex because you think it's demeaning. It's not. As long as the feeling is right and you care about her, sex is an important and trusting activity between the two of you.

On May 21 2007 00:50 Hot_Bid wrote:

for (2), that feeling goes away really fast. i mean, for ilovezil or mrdx or whoever gets these kind of feelings for "cute" girls, don't you just feel urges after periods of time? i mean do you just go home and jerk off or whatever after hanging out with this girl? you can't just go weeks or whatever without ever having an orgasm if you're seeing her right?

and for (1), "fuck" and "bang" are necessary because they express a complete different meaning than "make love" or "have sex with." the connotation is more raw, its more primal, its more sexual and dirty, it's less candlelight and music and more bathroom stall or tabletop. i don't see what's wrong with people using that word if their intent is to convey a certain meaning. certainly not censoring it altogether which is what you're suggesting, that's kind of ridiculous.

On May 21 2007 00:51 fusionsdf wrote:
WiP always makes thread entertaining.

Like a really active ganfei

(2) What did you just write? I don't understand what you said. I think it's an attempt to agree with me.... but you just didn't read my post carefully enough.

On May 21 2007 00:28 WhatisProtoss wrote:
(1) Can we stop using the word "fuck" in regards to sex? What the fuck is wrong with you people? It's some kind of game? Or are you guys all so good at fucking/banging girls?

On May 21 2007 01:08 WhatisProtoss wrote:
You try too hard to annoy me. Too hard to the point where almost every sentence of yours contains "fuck" in it just because I disapproved of people using it. Keep trying.

On May 21 2007 01:28 WhatisProtoss wrote:
If this guy does love her.... and makes the decision to have sex with her... he certainly won't think of it as "fucking" her. He'll want to "make love" to her. Like you said, "fucking" is something that's primal and raw. Sex doesn't have to be that way, and I'm sure this guy doesn't want it to be.

On May 21 2007 01:37 WhatisProtoss wrote:
You just say the same thing over and over again. Idiot.

On May 21 2007 01:53 Smurg wrote:
So what Moltke is saying is:

I'm just a bachelor
I'm looking for a partner
Someone who knows how to ride
Without even falling off

Gotta be compatible
Takes me to my limits
Girl when I break you off
I promise that you won't want to get off

[Chorus]
If your horny, Let's do it
Ride it, My Pony
My saddle's waiting
Come and jump on it

If your horny, Let's do it
Ride it, My Pony
My saddle's waiting
Come and jump on it

Sitting here flossing
Peeping your steelo
Just once if I have the chance
The things I will do to you
You and your body
Every single portion
Send chills up and down your spine
Juices flowing down your thigh

[Chorus]

If we're gonna get nasty, Baby
First we'll show & tell
Till I reach your ponytail
Lurk all over and through you baby
Until I reach your stream
You'll be on my jockey team

[Chorus]
[repeats and ends]

(Ride it)
(My Saddle's)

On May 21 2007 06:59 [GiTM]-Ace wrote:
Well pretty much the thread creator either loves this girl way to much to the point where he idolizes her. Or he is just scared of not being good in bed. I remember when I was in love I couldn't even imagine having sex with this girl. But I was young and dumb and that quickly faded. Then it turned into fear of not being good enough.

And to hot_bid and whatisprotoss there is nothing wrong with fuck at all. I wrote sex in my little paragraph but I'm pretty sure if I was actually telling this to someone in person I would have used fucking her instead. So yea People love to fuck the people they love... I really don't even get that whole argument up there.

On May 21 2007 01:51 MoltkeWarding wrote:
It is natural for someone preoccupied with amorous feelings to lose their lecherous habits. These habits occur most frequently among those who are bored and live in a perpectual purgatory of menial existence. When one has no higher pleasures to indulge in, one sinks to taking pleasures in the menial aspects of biological life - food, drink, sex, etc. When one is stimulated by anything else, whether intellectual curiosity, a personal labour of great importance or the excitement of amorous feelings stimulated by non-carnal pleasures, one's experiences rise above those previous aspects of life which have always bored him anyhow.

On May 21 2007 01:53 Smurg wrote:
So what Moltke is saying is:

I'm just a bachelor
I'm looking for a partner
Someone who knows how to ride
Without even falling off

On May 21 2007 07:10 Clutch3 wrote:


I nominate this for this year's most condescending post ever.

Translation: I'm better than those of you who actually enjoy sex.

Moltke, do you really think that it's impossible for a person to enjoy sex and to enjoy "higher" pursuits at the same time??

Well, I mean, not actually AT the EXACT same time, but...

(Hey that gives me an idea, maybe we can get FakeSteve to do a picture of Moltke and his dream girl going at it while he reads 18th-century philosophy. Or maybe that would be a bad idea?)

On May 20 2007 05:32 Rekrul wrote:
you're not supposed to have sex with your family, don't worry it's normal

On May 20 2007 09:43 ilovezil wrote:
Anyway, there are 3 types of girls in this world for me:
1. girls u wanna fuck
2. girls u wanna protect from being fucked
3. girls u wish would fuck off.

On May 21 2007 07:10 Clutch3 wrote:


I nominate this for this year's most condescending post ever.

Translation: I'm better than those of you who actually enjoy sex.

Moltke, do you really think that it's impossible for a person to enjoy sex and to enjoy "higher" pursuits at the same time??

Well, I mean, not actually AT the EXACT same time, but...

(Hey that gives me an idea, maybe we can get FakeSteve to do a picture of Moltke and his dream girl going at it while he reads 18th-century philosophy. Or maybe that would be a bad idea?)

On May 20 2007 16:37 FakeSteve[TPR] wrote:


yes there is

because if she says she's ok with him not wanting to fuck her she's lying through her teeth

On May 20 2007 06:11 Fedaykin wrote:

Almost the same here, when I'm really in love I wanna have sex with that one person all the time and really nobody else, so porn doesn't work, nor do other girls, just want 'her' all the time, sadly I'm without such a 'her' atm..

On May 21 2007 09:26 MoltkeWarding wrote:


I think it's a fairly accurate description of what goes on today, when sexuality is open, yet has "lost its laughter." The great love affairs of passion that we see in Stendhal or Flaubert are things f the 19th century, and people no longer pursue even those fleeting immoralities, which may at least be said to be heroic. The French novel of the 19th century was a study of amorous feelings, but we in 2007 are much more primitive than that. Today it does not take a great seducer to obtain that honour which we reserved for heroes of passion. Because of the openess of sexuality, because of the baseness of its contemporary representation, and because of the social isolation of the modern person, (the estrangement from others creates the strange circumstance that we frequently practise the most intimate acts while meaning nothing,) any thinking person will at one time or another become bored or even depressed with its meaninglessness. The sphere of happiness (and I do not exclude sexual activity from it, although it will always be a secondary act, a matter which is caused rather than a cause in itself) will inevitably transfer to those activities in life which still have some semblence of meaning.

You say I am being condescending. I think quite the opposite. I have a propensity to assume the decency of every individual I meet, often without much justice. I cannot quite believe that I live in a neo-Babylon, and the fact that I bother to say what I say here should demonstrate that. I post without a self-conscious sense of exceptionalism, and if the singularity of my opinion makes such an impression in your mind, it is no fault of mine. I do not post to criticize others, and I speak of general, not particular evils. Is there a more delicate or, in your opinion, modest way to have one's mind out? Perhaps you would think it better of my modesty if I were to opine, in light of the lack of sympathy I receive, that my words are too stupid to post, and deprive myself of any freedom of expression.

If I offend your personal habits, and you find them defensible, you ought to use your self-knowledge as a source of strength to mount a counter-opinion, and it may even be interesting. Talking about my motives isn't.

btw girls love to be fucked so stop acting gay

you are scared, i was at the start, im assuming you\'re young. You just don\'t wanna suck, and the woman you love think you are a loser in bed.

On May 20 2007 05:32 Rekrul wrote:
you're not supposed to have sex with your family, don't worry it's normal

On May 21 2007 21:07 tinman wrote:
sex does not consist of a physical and imaginative component that is wrong thinking.

sex consists of 14 components: physical, psychological, spiritual, financial, retroactive, aerobic, occult, biological, sociological, emotional, marital, martial, chronological, and tetrakaidecessential. these components are paradoxically arranged as both a hierarchy and a continuum. this hierarchy situates the components biological, martial, and aerobic in a trinity niether confounding the persons nor separating the substance as the apex stone of a pyramid of inferior (spatially and evaluatively) virtues, which are by row: (1) emotional (2) occult, chronological, and tetrakaidecessential (3) retroactive, financial, marital, and spiritual and (4) sociological. the continuum in contradistinction organizes all 14 components (including financial and sociological) between two points: financial and sociological. the components exist gradientially, transmuting into one another by infinitesimal increments and then undoing their transmutations as one progresses from one end of the circle to the other.

further inquiries into the nature of sex, here I reference Phineas Drummond Chapman and his Amor et Carbediensis: Summa Prognosticalia, have suggested 15th and 16th components, sexual and technological respectively, but attempts to replicate his famous experiments have ended inconclusively and his most detailed journals presumably lie with his remains in the arctic.

The only reason that you cannot conduct sexual activities with somebody is due to the fact that you do not find that person sexually attracted to you

sex consists of 14 components: physical, psychological, spiritual, financial, retroactive, aerobic, occult, biological, sociological, emotional, marital, martial, chronological, and tetrakaidecessential.

The world of 19th century French movies and novels is a very narrow window into a very narrow world. I would argue that the underachieving have always sought to drown their sorrows in drink and strive for the quick lay over everlasting love. Menial existence has been the reality for the vast majority of history\'s subjects, not just those depressed by society today. The difference today would be the much greater accessibility of those baser influences, and the earlier age in which people are spoiled to their ease.

On May 22 2007 05:54 MoltkeWarding wrote:


I would like to request an explication of these 14 components and then perhaps I can justify them as belonging to a reasonable hierarchy of thought. Although I suppose I might be repaid for the crime of having bothered to categorize anything in the first place. Such is the inadequacy of human thought that we need categories to shortcut our reasonings

On May 21 2007 16:04 MyLostTemple wrote:


i laughed so hard at this i spilled my cherios and milk all overmyself.

On May 21 2007 21:07 tinman wrote:
sex does not consist of a physical and imaginative component that is wrong thinking.

sex consists of 14 components: physical, psychological, spiritual, financial, retroactive, aerobic, occult, biological, sociological, emotional, marital, martial, chronological, and tetrakaidecessential. these components are paradoxically arranged as both a hierarchy and a continuum. this hierarchy situates the components biological, martial, and aerobic in a trinity niether confounding the persons nor separating the substance as the apex stone of a pyramid of inferior (spatially and evaluatively) virtues, which are by row: (1) emotional (2) occult, chronological, and tetrakaidecessential (3) retroactive, financial, marital, and spiritual and (4) sociological. the continuum in contradistinction organizes all 14 components (including financial and sociological) between two points: financial and sociological. the components exist gradientially, transmuting into one another by infinitesimal increments and then undoing their transmutations as one progresses from one end of the circle to the other.

further inquiries into the nature of sex, here I reference Phineas Drummond Chapman and his Amor et Carbediensis: Summa Prognosticalia, have suggested 15th and 16th components, sexual and technological respectively, but attempts to replicate his famous experiments have ended inconclusively and his most detailed journals presumably lie with his remains in the arctic.