EPTDude I know exactly what you're going through - It happened to me before. One thing I can tell you is that you should get out of that as soon as possible. It will be impossible to maintain any sort of relationship (either friendship or 'relationship' relationship) feeling that way towards someone you are attracted to. From what I remember, it's not so much as missing that sexual feelings towards her, but more like a 'blockage' in your brain when it comes to dealing with that person. Really, it can fuck your thoughts up if you let this develop further. Induce sexual thoughts or something.
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poasiodss
United States63 Posts
Dude I know exactly what you're going through - It happened to me before. One thing I can tell you is that you should get out of that as soon as possible. It will be impossible to maintain any sort of relationship (either friendship or 'relationship' relationship) feeling that way towards someone you are attracted to. From what I remember, it's not so much as missing that sexual feelings towards her, but more like a 'blockage' in your brain when it comes to dealing with that person. Really, it can fuck your thoughts up if you let this develop further. Induce sexual thoughts or something. | ||
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zobz
Canada2175 Posts
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s4rk
Philippines137 Posts
After a year or so, it would be gone so and you're on your own in keeping what you have... If you want a reference, one of my friends has this book by scott peck "the road less travelled" It would probably give you some insights, but I would not recommend basing your life on a book. | ||
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NewbSaibot
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Konni
Germany3044 Posts
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WiSaGaN
203 Posts
On May 20 2007 11:32 bine wrote: most people probably haven't felt love in a very extreme way. It's not odd at all that if in fact you are feeling extremely attached to a single person, you won't be interested in having sex with that person at first. The first thing you need to do is relax. Sex is the least important component of your relationship. Just be together, and talk as much as you can about things that you think you really don't want to talk about. If there's anything you're afraid to talk about, talk about it. And then, after that, it will probably mellow out and settle down into a wonderful normality, and you'll either want to have sex or you won't. But either way, not having sex with the one you love is about as trivial as not playing tennis with them. It has nothing to do with the substance of your relationship. yeah,i am always wondering about what the attachment really is? maybe longing for love from a specific person. | ||
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Q~Bert
United States658 Posts
On May 20 2007 11:32 bine wrote: most people probably haven't felt love in a very extreme way. It's not odd at all that if in fact you are feeling extremely attached to a single person, you won't be interested in having sex with that person at first. The first thing you need to do is relax. Sex is the least important component of your relationship. Just be together, and talk as much as you can about things that you think you really don't want to talk about. If there's anything you're afraid to talk about, talk about it. And then, after that, it will probably mellow out and settle down into a wonderful normality, and you'll either want to have sex or you won't. But either way, not having sex with the one you love is about as trivial as not playing tennis with them. It has nothing to do with the substance of your relationship. Well what if you are dating Venus Williams? | ||
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merz
Sweden2760 Posts
On May 20 2007 06:11 Fedaykin wrote: Almost the same here, when I'm really in love I wanna have sex with that one person all the time and really nobody else, so porn doesn't work, nor do other girls, just want 'her' all the time, sadly I'm without such a 'her' atm.. Uh dunno about the porn thingy but yeah, if you really like a girl all you wanna do is sex her up ;o | ||
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mrdx
Vietnam1555 Posts
 I'm physically normal btw -.- I'm way too old for immature childish love but probably not experienced enough for a real commited relationship I guess. | ||
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PissedOffEmo
Canada777 Posts
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dropthesky
Canada285 Posts
Pressure nobody wants to fuck you | ||
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il0seonpurpose
Korea (South)5638 Posts
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zobz
Canada2175 Posts
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skindzer
Chile5114 Posts
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Ghin
United States2391 Posts
On May 20 2007 15:45 skindzer wrote: Try getting drunk. best advice in thread | ||
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funkie
Venezuela9374 Posts
But If I'm with a girl I really care, I just can't stop thinking about making love to her in the showerzzzzz | ||
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funkie
Venezuela9374 Posts
Kevin is on a mission. To identify the next TL.net Pedo. | ||
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Imai_Eriko
Singapore57 Posts
On May 20 2007 09:43 ilovezil wrote: Actually, I know exactly what the OP is talking about. Perhaps it's because the girls that I tend to like are the "cute" type instead of the "hot" type, but when I really start liking a girl, I become like that. I don't have the sexual desire, but rather, I want to make her happy. Bleh...whatever. Means nothing from a guy who has no female interaction T_T. Anyway, there are 3 types of girls in this world for me: 1. girls u wanna fuck 2. girls u wanna protect from being fucked 3. girls u wish would fuck off. hahahahha roflmao | ||
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MTF
United States1739 Posts
On May 20 2007 11:32 bine wrote: most people probably haven't felt love in a very extreme way. It's not odd at all that if in fact you are feeling extremely attached to a single person, you won't be interested in having sex with that person at first. The first thing you need to do is relax. Sex is the least important component of your relationship. Just be together, and talk as much as you can about things that you think you really don't want to talk about. If there's anything you're afraid to talk about, talk about it. And then, after that, it will probably mellow out and settle down into a wonderful normality, and you'll either want to have sex or you won't. But either way, not having sex with the one you love is about as trivial as not playing tennis with them. It has nothing to do with the substance of your relationship. Yes and no. Sex isn't the backbone of (most, can't say for all) successful relationships, but it is a key part of them. Human beings by nature are sensual, which is why we like dressing up, being complimented, and feeling the touch of others. Having sex and expressing such interest with someone you love is the ultimate version of that, as it is the one person you care that much about giving you that sort of affirmation and providing a sensual outlet. Granted, there are varying degrees of who has what amount of sensuality about them. But, ask yourself how many people you know, including yourself, that like looking good and like having the interest of another. 99% or more do or are lying if they say they don't, because it's human nature to like feeling wanted. Being nice and respectful is good, but don't be just that, be more. In other words, sex isn't the most important, but don't keep to a "safe, respectful" path if you ever want to experience full closeness, satisfaction, and passion with the one you love. Edit: Agree with FakeSteve fully. The average woman will most likely take it as insult whether it's meant to be and explained in full or not. Imagine her (or any person you've ever been sexually interested in) walking up to you and saying that you don't turn her on. That she doesn't want you sexually in any way at all. It's not a good thing, unless you are severely insecure in your sexuality. | ||
FakeSteve[TPR]
Valhalla18444 Posts
On May 20 2007 09:10 Bill307 wrote: Are you both happy and feel no regrets that the sexual desire isn't there? Then there is no problem. yes there is because if she says she's ok with him not wanting to fuck her she's lying through her teeth | ||
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