Serious, some advice or opinion needed - Page 7

I wanted to say something witty and hilarious like inc but I feel like there's a slim possibility that you're telling the truth, so here's my advice.

I was in a similar situation before, but with an RL girlfriend of 4 years. With me, she said everything I wanted to hear and was just my perfect little angel. Behind my back she cheated on me... For about 10 months...

Now, I'm also relatively intellectual and intelligent, but I didn't know what to do when my friends came to me telling me that she's being unfaithful. She outright denied it, and very believably. Okay, so things look good. Finally, as more evidence streamed in, I was so paranoid and anxious and frustrated that I just checked her msn chat log folder to try to put these rumors to death. Sadly, I did indeed find her talking up an old friend of mine, them flirting, private shit like that, etc... Of course it may have been wrong of me to check but I didn't care at that point. It was a relationship of 4 years and I Was ready to marry her. So I asked her what it was and she cried violently and begged my forgiveness. She looked me in the eyes, begged forgiveness, said she'll never talk to him again, said there was nothing there, etc... I wanted to believe her, and it sounds like YOU want to believe Mischy. The problem is, the insane ones are always very, very, very good actors. My Ex's parents were also fucked up, and I can't help but think that there is a correlation there.

I forgave her because more than anything I wanted the relationship to work. This issue came up multiple times over that last 10 months. She would always cry and say she loved me and beg forgiveness. And this wasn't fake crying, this was real emotion.

Finally, after all the forgiveness in the world and understanding in the world, (I still at this point had no concrete evidence that they were fucking.) she finally left me the day before her birthday to go get shitfaced with that guy and go fuck him a lot. Lawl?

The point of the story is. The ones that cheat and lie, they do it because they know they can get away with it. They know they can cry, they can come up with excuses and bring in friends to accept blame. (My ex did literally all those things.) Most people are slaves to their emotions but these people can control them and manipulate them to make them cry real tears of sadness when she could be, and might be, crying tears of guilt and pain.

The problem is. She's a liar. Those are her chatlogs I can guarantee. I promise you. I also promise you they aren't the only ones, and I also promise you that there will be more. You can never trust someone who can look you in the eyes, cry, say they love you, and still lie to your face.

It's not a repressed memory. She knows that she can pretend it is and she knows that if you 'love' her enough, she can get away with it.

The only thing that can help these people in the long term is to leave them the second they are disloyal. Show them that they cannot get away with it and no amount of affection can obscure the truth from light. Sadly this means that you can never have a successful relationship with her. If you think she's fixed, she won't do it anymore, and get back together, she will further believe in her acting abilities and her own selfish gains.

This relationship is over. You can, like me, live in denial, feel happy and blissful, have wonderful sex and plan a future. But it will end, and along the way everyone will be hurt more. Because you can love a liar, but you can never know if that liar really loves you.

She seems "perfect" to you because you've allowed yourself to fall for her completely. You love her. So yes, she seems perfect to you. But when you fall for someone else. Someone sane, that new person will be perfect to you. My advice, wait for that one.

Sorry man. GTFO.

Now, incase this is a troll.
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