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On July 19 2013 13:58 MysteryMeat1 wrote:Show nested quote +On July 19 2013 13:44 MountainDewJunkie wrote:
Uh
Okay, I didn't think it was to this extreme
You need to leave
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My own mother fully admitted to snooping in my room, and was unapologetic, but she did NOT follow me around I'm still at my house but still... I feel like sometimes I'm being childish but other times i feel like they might be too harsh on stuff.
Yeah it's hard to tell from your own perspective. You always hear about other dudes, especially on TL, that complain about their parents. Usually they are brats. But just take it from the rest of us: your parents are being mean to you and you should move and spend some time on your own.
I think you shouldn't expect to fully attend school, but you can knock out some gen. ed courses without much a problem. Just pay for like 3 credits to start off and see how it goes. You can always take more classes later, but once you actually move out you can't commit to too much without knowing what you can handle.
And if you have 6k saved up you're in a great spot. I moved out, out of state with 600 dollars and no job at all 
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On July 19 2013 14:04 MountainDewJunkie wrote:
Ah, youth. It can sure suck. Although being an adult has been pretty terrible as well. *shrugs*
probably cause you live in snohomish \_(O.O)_/ and drive a truck without AC
@Cecil, you think sept1 or just rough it until jan1, and what state did you go to?
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i mean, i would say under ideal circumstances tough it til jan because you can save more and try and figure out what you can do as far as work/school/life balance... but shit dude. get the fuck out lol
i think you could do a bit more than 3 credits, but i agree, take it easy at first until you know what you can do. but as cecil said, others have gone out in way worse positions than you are. if you are smart about what you are doing you will be totally fine.
seriously, tomorrow morning, get your ass to your financial aid office. talk loans and all that stuff. get some info and come back and ask questions here and someone more in the know will come along. i provide glib comments and occasional good advice. finance aint my stuff.
sept 1 is ok i am sure you can keep your head low til then. but i had seen this play out enough when i was your age. your situation will not end well if you stay at home
youll be better for it though man. youre getting a jump on being an adult. most people your age have zero savings, no job, and would struggle to make ramen. youll be fine.
a second thing: i wouild go look up food stamps in your state. once you start up school you will be on a much lower income. you have no car, and with limited income you might qualify. you can a good hunk of change that way. look it up without applying. they might ding you for having that much savings, but you can also cash it out, and put it in a safe deposit box since bank accounts make fucking nothing in interest these days. then it doesnt appear. option two would be investing in silver, which is not necessarily a bad idea since it is low now, but it is also risky.
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On July 19 2013 14:12 MysteryMeat1 wrote:Show nested quote +On July 19 2013 14:04 MountainDewJunkie wrote:
Ah, youth. It can sure suck. Although being an adult has been pretty terrible as well. *shrugs* probably cause you live in snohomish \_(O.O)_/ and drive a truck without AC @Cecil, you think sept1 or just rough it until jan1, and what state did you go to?
Truck broke down lol
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On July 19 2013 14:29 MountainDewJunkie wrote:Show nested quote +On July 19 2013 14:12 MysteryMeat1 wrote:On July 19 2013 14:04 MountainDewJunkie wrote:
Ah, youth. It can sure suck. Although being an adult has been pretty terrible as well. *shrugs* probably cause you live in snohomish \_(O.O)_/ and drive a truck without AC @Cecil, you think sept1 or just rough it until jan1, and what state did you go to? Truck broke down lol
:/ glad i asked you for used car advice 
If I find a place i like ill go check it out then!
for chemical engineering the first year would be 2 classes a quarter and the second one would be 1 class a quarter. If i don't find a place to move in then i will take a stacked course load for the first quarter and make the rest of them easier for when i move out or just start the 2 quarter year first.
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How much are you getting in aid. It matters dude. Also, there is federal loan forgiveness for certain majors, etc. You could look into that. Finally, I would HEAVILY suggest trying to get a work-study job or a paying internship working for a professor you like.
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On July 19 2013 14:40 docvoc wrote:
How much are you getting in aid. It matters dude. Also, there is federal loan forgiveness for certain majors, etc. You could look into that. Finally, I would HEAVILY suggest trying to get a work-study job or a paying internship working for a professor you like.
no Aid, when i applied my parents made enough that i didn't qualify for the aid that UW gives. To be fair they don't really give any unless you qualify for the husky promise which i don't. This would probably change if i move out and claim independent on my FAFSA but i haven't factored in anything like that, and i feel that it is better not to plan on receiving something like that and just think of it as a bonus.
I'm going to public state uni so for 4 years at current tuition dollars i would be at 45k for the whole thing. I will look into the certain majors thing. I haven't taken any classes yet so i have yet to meet a professor i like.
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On July 19 2013 14:43 MysteryMeat1 wrote:Show nested quote +On July 19 2013 14:40 docvoc wrote:
How much are you getting in aid. It matters dude. Also, there is federal loan forgiveness for certain majors, etc. You could look into that. Finally, I would HEAVILY suggest trying to get a work-study job or a paying internship working for a professor you like. This would probably change if i move out and claim independent on my FAFSA but i haven't factored in anything like that, and i feel that it is better not to plan on receiving something like that and just think of it as a bonus.
yeah dont plan on it but certainly ask an advisor about it. explain your situation and just say i am moving out, my parents will not be paying
fafsa are notoriously bastards about aid. i got denied because my parents made over their limit, even though i was the oldest of four and three of us were within five years of each other
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On July 19 2013 14:39 MysteryMeat1 wrote:Show nested quote +On July 19 2013 14:29 MountainDewJunkie wrote:On July 19 2013 14:12 MysteryMeat1 wrote:On July 19 2013 14:04 MountainDewJunkie wrote:
Ah, youth. It can sure suck. Although being an adult has been pretty terrible as well. *shrugs* probably cause you live in snohomish \_(O.O)_/ and drive a truck without AC @Cecil, you think sept1 or just rough it until jan1, and what state did you go to? Truck broke down lol :/ glad i asked you for used car advice
Hey, I gave great advice about shopping for a decent car lol. And I'm well aware that when you buy cheap, you get cheap. I don't regret it but I highly recommend that if anyone has more than the pile of change I used to buy my car, use it to get the most reliable thing you can.
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On July 19 2013 14:12 MysteryMeat1 wrote:Show nested quote +On July 19 2013 14:04 MountainDewJunkie wrote:
Ah, youth. It can sure suck. Although being an adult has been pretty terrible as well. *shrugs* probably cause you live in snohomish \_(O.O)_/ and drive a truck without AC @Cecil, you think sept1 or just rough it until jan1, and what state did you go to?
What are the dates for, like moveout dates? I moved to WA.
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On July 19 2013 14:53 CecilSunkure wrote:Show nested quote +On July 19 2013 14:12 MysteryMeat1 wrote:On July 19 2013 14:04 MountainDewJunkie wrote:
Ah, youth. It can sure suck. Although being an adult has been pretty terrible as well. *shrugs* probably cause you live in snohomish \_(O.O)_/ and drive a truck without AC @Cecil, you think sept1 or just rough it until jan1, and what state did you go to? What are the dates for, like moveout dates? I moved to WA.
Ya tentative move out dates. Before fall quarter or before winter quarter, i thought you were always in washington.
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On July 19 2013 15:06 MysteryMeat1 wrote:Show nested quote +On July 19 2013 14:53 CecilSunkure wrote:On July 19 2013 14:12 MysteryMeat1 wrote:On July 19 2013 14:04 MountainDewJunkie wrote:
Ah, youth. It can sure suck. Although being an adult has been pretty terrible as well. *shrugs* probably cause you live in snohomish \_(O.O)_/ and drive a truck without AC @Cecil, you think sept1 or just rough it until jan1, and what state did you go to? What are the dates for, like moveout dates? I moved to WA. Ya tentative move out dates. Before fall quarter or before winter quarter, i thought you were always in washington.
Nope my parents are an 8 hour drive away!
Whichever is easiest for you, both dates are fine. What matters is apartment/living situation + jobs/loans, etc.
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On July 19 2013 15:23 CecilSunkure wrote:Show nested quote +On July 19 2013 15:06 MysteryMeat1 wrote:On July 19 2013 14:53 CecilSunkure wrote:On July 19 2013 14:12 MysteryMeat1 wrote:On July 19 2013 14:04 MountainDewJunkie wrote:
Ah, youth. It can sure suck. Although being an adult has been pretty terrible as well. *shrugs* probably cause you live in snohomish \_(O.O)_/ and drive a truck without AC @Cecil, you think sept1 or just rough it until jan1, and what state did you go to? What are the dates for, like moveout dates? I moved to WA. Ya tentative move out dates. Before fall quarter or before winter quarter, i thought you were always in washington. Nope my parents are an 8 hour drive away! Whichever is easiest for you, both dates are fine. What matters is apartment/living situation + jobs/loans, etc.
Ya, i think i don't know if i will move out unless i see something i really like such as decent living place for sub 500$ with utilities. It might not happen but it could, and if it doesn't then i get a quarter to find out how much i can handle and accomplish in order to find a balance between school and work.
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I seriously don't get parents like this. If my mother ever saw me with a girl in high school she'd have been the happiest woman on earth (unfortunately, that didn't happen). How does it even make any sense?
I'd move out, asap. Living alone is far better than with your parents, especially when they're like that
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Keep preparing to move out... Before you sign paperwork have a sit down with your parents. Don't ask them for permission, but talk to them as an individual concerned with your future (which ultimately is WHY they make the rules they do). Just test the waters to see if the thought of you being out from under their wings/roof/rules might make them reconsider how they perceive and treat you.
If your parents can find a way to relax you'd be much better off living at home and having less to worry about in terms of money. Unfortunately, if your parents can't see you as an individual you're best off moving.
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not co-signing on loans is really dangerous...That means you have to rely on YOUR OWN CREDIT (wtf is that right) to buy shit like a car, house, other expensive necesities in life. ANd your credit rating wont be too good either because of the debt youll acquirer from the school loans if you have them after you graduate
On July 19 2013 06:10 MysteryMeat1 wrote:Show nested quote +On July 19 2013 06:09 CecilSunkure wrote:
LOL that's a classic mistake. You really gotta think things through. For example, I never have my gf text me anything like that. I have siblings, roommates, friends around and it's way too easy for personal stuff to get around.
Clear your texts or something geez lmao
Despite how funny this is, your parents are ridiculous. I'm guessing they are pretty uptight church goers? Honestly if they just talked about sex and relationships openly with you, you'd probably have less a desire to go out and figure things out yourself.
My advice is still to distance yourself, but chill out on what you experience. Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should. Make some priorities and then execute them. My dads a pastor T.T EDIT: I would have about 8k saved up before school started and im looking for somewhere that would be like 1 bus to work and UW. I think with 10 credits a quarter for the first year and 5 credits a quarter the second year i could work 20 hours easiyl the second year and maybe 15 hours a week the first year. about 5 hours a week would be babysitting at night time were i just watch the house and make sure nothing happens while the parents are out. Prime study time. EDIT#2: I also realize the need for a solid plan which is why i haven't committed to anything yet
oh...your dad is a pastor. oooohhhh. Um.....how exactly would your dad, a pastor, be able to pay for your college? I can only think of the reasons that your a single sibling and that he is using his life savings to help pay for college for ya. Did they also say anything about praying for you or having you in their prayers as well?
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Get the fuck out of that household. If your parents are that unsupportive of you and are willing to intentionally damage your future, then they are not an asset - they are a liability. What if during your college they decide that they want to kick you out? What would you do in that instance?
Find a place, make some friends, collaborate.
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On July 19 2013 21:42 Race is Terran wrote:not co-signing on loans is really dangerous...That means you have to rely on YOUR OWN CREDIT (wtf is that right) to buy shit like a car, house, other expensive necesities in life. ANd your credit rating wont be too good either because of the debt youll acquirer from the school loans if you have them after you graduate Show nested quote +On July 19 2013 06:10 MysteryMeat1 wrote:On July 19 2013 06:09 CecilSunkure wrote:
LOL that's a classic mistake. You really gotta think things through. For example, I never have my gf text me anything like that. I have siblings, roommates, friends around and it's way too easy for personal stuff to get around.
Clear your texts or something geez lmao
Despite how funny this is, your parents are ridiculous. I'm guessing they are pretty uptight church goers? Honestly if they just talked about sex and relationships openly with you, you'd probably have less a desire to go out and figure things out yourself.
My advice is still to distance yourself, but chill out on what you experience. Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should. Make some priorities and then execute them. My dads a pastor T.T EDIT: I would have about 8k saved up before school started and im looking for somewhere that would be like 1 bus to work and UW. I think with 10 credits a quarter for the first year and 5 credits a quarter the second year i could work 20 hours easiyl the second year and maybe 15 hours a week the first year. about 5 hours a week would be babysitting at night time were i just watch the house and make sure nothing happens while the parents are out. Prime study time. EDIT#2: I also realize the need for a solid plan which is why i haven't committed to anything yet oh...your dad is a pastor. oooohhhh. Um.....how exactly would your dad, a pastor, be able to pay for your college? I can only think of the reasons that your a single sibling and that he is using his life savings to help pay for college for ya. Did they also say anything about praying for you or having you in their prayers as well?
he probably meant cosign on school loans. as little as a pastor would make, he surely has bettter credit than a 19 year old kid
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On July 19 2013 23:56 QuanticHawk wrote:Show nested quote +On July 19 2013 21:42 Race is Terran wrote:not co-signing on loans is really dangerous...That means you have to rely on YOUR OWN CREDIT (wtf is that right) to buy shit like a car, house, other expensive necesities in life. ANd your credit rating wont be too good either because of the debt youll acquirer from the school loans if you have them after you graduate On July 19 2013 06:10 MysteryMeat1 wrote:On July 19 2013 06:09 CecilSunkure wrote:
LOL that's a classic mistake. You really gotta think things through. For example, I never have my gf text me anything like that. I have siblings, roommates, friends around and it's way too easy for personal stuff to get around.
Clear your texts or something geez lmao
Despite how funny this is, your parents are ridiculous. I'm guessing they are pretty uptight church goers? Honestly if they just talked about sex and relationships openly with you, you'd probably have less a desire to go out and figure things out yourself.
My advice is still to distance yourself, but chill out on what you experience. Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should. Make some priorities and then execute them. My dads a pastor T.T EDIT: I would have about 8k saved up before school started and im looking for somewhere that would be like 1 bus to work and UW. I think with 10 credits a quarter for the first year and 5 credits a quarter the second year i could work 20 hours easiyl the second year and maybe 15 hours a week the first year. about 5 hours a week would be babysitting at night time were i just watch the house and make sure nothing happens while the parents are out. Prime study time. EDIT#2: I also realize the need for a solid plan which is why i haven't committed to anything yet oh...your dad is a pastor. oooohhhh. Um.....how exactly would your dad, a pastor, be able to pay for your college? I can only think of the reasons that your a single sibling and that he is using his life savings to help pay for college for ya. Did they also say anything about praying for you or having you in their prayers as well? he probably meant cosign on school loans. as little as a pastor would make, he surely has bettter credit than a 19 year old kid
ha I think almost anyone has better credit than a 19 year old kid with student debt.
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On July 19 2013 23:56 QuanticHawk wrote:Show nested quote +On July 19 2013 21:42 Race is Terran wrote:not co-signing on loans is really dangerous...That means you have to rely on YOUR OWN CREDIT (wtf is that right) to buy shit like a car, house, other expensive necesities in life. ANd your credit rating wont be too good either because of the debt youll acquirer from the school loans if you have them after you graduate On July 19 2013 06:10 MysteryMeat1 wrote:On July 19 2013 06:09 CecilSunkure wrote:
LOL that's a classic mistake. You really gotta think things through. For example, I never have my gf text me anything like that. I have siblings, roommates, friends around and it's way too easy for personal stuff to get around.
Clear your texts or something geez lmao
Despite how funny this is, your parents are ridiculous. I'm guessing they are pretty uptight church goers? Honestly if they just talked about sex and relationships openly with you, you'd probably have less a desire to go out and figure things out yourself.
My advice is still to distance yourself, but chill out on what you experience. Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should. Make some priorities and then execute them. My dads a pastor T.T EDIT: I would have about 8k saved up before school started and im looking for somewhere that would be like 1 bus to work and UW. I think with 10 credits a quarter for the first year and 5 credits a quarter the second year i could work 20 hours easiyl the second year and maybe 15 hours a week the first year. about 5 hours a week would be babysitting at night time were i just watch the house and make sure nothing happens while the parents are out. Prime study time. EDIT#2: I also realize the need for a solid plan which is why i haven't committed to anything yet oh...your dad is a pastor. oooohhhh. Um.....how exactly would your dad, a pastor, be able to pay for your college? I can only think of the reasons that your a single sibling and that he is using his life savings to help pay for college for ya. Did they also say anything about praying for you or having you in their prayers as well? he probably meant cosign on school loans. as little as a pastor would make, he surely has bettter credit than a 19 year old kid
my parents make about 85k a year together. My dad has a doctorate in theology, but he also has a bachelors or masters in math and a masters in teaching and education. So he teaches IB calculus. He doesn't like to rely on other people for financial stuff and so he doesn't have to cater his message to get money.
And I doubt my parents would cosign on anything.
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