Girl problems, what should I do? - Page 5

On September 19 2011 13:04 Brett wrote:
lol... Way to take some things faaaaaaaar too seriously, overreact and create drama where it wasn't needed. The false bravado you're displaying in this thread is amusing in the context of your reaction to her friend's comment about your sunglasses and your decision to storm out of her house. You were in the shitty mood because of how the night was going. Not because of her or her friend's comment. If you weren't being stupid in circumstances where you allowed your mood to be affected by shit you can't control, you would have laughed at the attempt to insult you, whether it was serious or a joke.

If you want to salvage this, you need to contact her and say something like 'Look, that was fucking stupid, the reactions were childish and I'm over it. Let's talk'.

Then when you talk you tell her in a controlled manner that behaviour X bothers you and you'd appreciate if she'd make an effort to curb it. The comments about her friend are best left alone; you took the bitch friend's bait I'm afraid. Be smarter in the future.

On September 19 2011 10:04 Ancestral wrote:
I said, I was joking, I really wanted to go with you, and Rocketnerd will get over it / literally doesn't care at all. Then I brought up the fact that one of her friends said to me "have you ever heard the song "sunglasses at night," clearly mocking me because I was wearing hipster-esque clear sunglasses in a bar at night. Yes it's cheesy but they had max swag. And I told her "your friends can't just mock me alright, that was disrespectful."

On September 19 2011 13:01 VarmVaffel wrote:
To me you seem like a very reasonable man. Just from that, if you really want her, you should be able to put this behind you and move on. I don't think you need much luck with that, but ofcourse, some luck always helps. :p

I also like the way you respond and take into consideration every advice that is posted in this thread. This should be the standard for girl blogs in general, really makes it seem like TL is helping out!

On September 19 2011 13:09 thoraxe wrote:


I logged in just to post this

I do not know the kind of tone the friend used since I was not there, but it doesn't seem like she was trying to mock you with what I can tell. You reminded her of the song (I don't know why, your clear shades are not dark shades like in the song) so she decided to bring up the topic to, either make conversation and build rapport or to supposedly "mock" you (which I doubt). You could have taken this opportunity to create ties with the friend and play it off playfully with her instead of interpreting it as an attack (seems like you were the one that brought up your shields); perhaps you don't feel like yourself while wearing the sunglasses, but I don't know. Now this line "the had max swag" I don't understand what you are trying to say, so I'll just skip it.

Even if she was disrespecting you, it has nothing to do with your girlfriend, so don't pin the issue on her and try to make her resolve it. It is not like a man to blame others for your issues, so always try to appear as a man of higher value. Women test you with questions like this to see how well you react when you're on the spot, wish I knew how you responded. After this encounter, the mood with your girlfriend took a turn for the worst and ended with an embarrassing finale. I am merely giving you another perspective on the moment where you did wrong.


I'm curious, what kind of sunglasses were you wearing?
These:


these:


or these:

On September 19 2011 13:11 Trowabarton756 wrote:
There is a fine line in dating a "submissive woman" and not pulling a tampon out. My girlfriend is a feminist as well(and I won't be like you and try to be all politically correct, the bitch is a feminist pure and simple) At the same time I don't take any of her shit, if the bitch gets out of line with me, I don't take that shit and I let her know that. You have two options really, man up and just take the road you're on and see where it goes or be some little pussy whipped bitch and go apologize to her even though she instigated and fueled the fire. I anit saying you can't talk to her and try and patch things up, but just straight up apologizing because she thinks shes "right" is a real bitch move and puts all the power in her hands. Ill put it real simple for you, hike up your skirt, take your tampon out, borrow some balls, and go talk to her but don't apologize and don't let her walk all over you.

On September 19 2011 13:16 dRaW wrote:
a guy with so much swag asking TL for relationship advice, so good!

On September 19 2011 13:09 Ancestral wrote:

You're wrong that I stormed out because of anything sunglass related. Now that that's out of the way, I will definitely only apologize about the friend thing, as has been made clear and therefore you don't need to mention. That was 100% both of our already being in a bad mood. And I said, I didn't leave because of the sunglasses comment, I left because she had the audacity to suggest she should drive me home, which I would never let happen.

And I can salvage it, don't think it's that dire. You clearly misunderstood the whole thread or didn't read it. I'm not worried about maintaining the relationship, just doing it in a meaningful and progressive way. But you're right that I could have said nothing about the sunglasses thing. That was the dumb thing that she dumbly overreacted about, and I was not serious about anyway.

On September 19 2011 13:32 Brett wrote:

What? You accuse me of not reading and then post that?

My sentence about bravado is telling you that I think it's funny that you've posted all this "I've got swag" shit in this thread, but the bottom line is, you got shitty at her friend because you were being emo about your gig. You got so riled up about the way the night had gone that you let her comments make you storm out of her house in a huff. I mean LOL. You obviously STEWED on her comments while she was in the bathroom and when she came out and said you should go, you bust out before the tears flowed. No guy who's 'got swag' should be doing that..

When I say salvage it, I'm not talking about getting on your knees and apologising to her, begging forgiveness to save the best relationship you've ever had... I'm talking about not letting yourself get so whiney in the future because, basically, somethind didnt go to plan (in this case, your gig). Im talking about telling her it was dumb (it was) and getting on with things after stating your position. If she wont bend to some degree, fuck her off.. there are plenty of others out there.

On September 19 2011 13:36 Ancestral wrote:

I didn't say anything to her friend. And no one on Earth ever uses the word "swag" seriously. And like I said, I said one sentence about the glasses, and they were not the reason for my dismay. And I wasn't about to cry. You're an idiot. And I didn't whine. Why are you so stupid? Do you get off trolling and being stupid? Nothing constructive said, a gross misinterpretation of the situation, and you must have skipped words when you read the whole thread.

I stormed out because she told me she was going to drive me home and I wasn't going to suffer a 10 minute car ride with someone who was basically kicking me out. Don't be so stupid and dense in the future. Jesus Christ. Worthless. You're a chump.

On September 19 2011 13:41 Brett wrote:

Haha. Having a cry again? You post this shit and ask for help with your girl problems. Be prepared for people to tell you that you were acting like a bitch.

Talk about cherry picking words out of a sentence.

On September 19 2011 14:17 Brett wrote:
Yep. I read it, kid. You're the one asking for advice, sometimes that means you have to be prepared to cop criticism. You clearly are not. It's ok, you'll get there one day, I'm sure.

On September 19 2011 16:43 dakalro wrote:
Aww lol your girlfriend was right. The entire thread screams out loud "I AM ALWAYS RIGHT".

First sunglasses indoor in a possibly dark club are pretty fucking lame, wonder how many had their fun on the matter. Pretty sure you were the target of many a joke from the spectators. Were you doing a comedic number? Maybe that's why they didn't care about the crappy sound. And her friend just happened to be near you when he had his turn. :D

Second you messed up that joke part so badly you can't even imagine. Did you actually think she even thought about your friend being upset that you left? You made her look bad, why ffs would you ever say something that stupid unless you wanted to piss her off. I understand you actually wanted to go with her but the statement you made is exactly what she didn't want to hear you spout to your friends. For most people words do hurt and a little care must be taken. Joke or no joke you basically stereotyped her as one of those girls in front of your friends, take that fact as a sign that she wanted to know them/have them respect her, for you.

Yeah she overreacted but you didn't make it hard for her to blow.