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On September 19 2011 11:40 mmp wrote:
Solution: Go back, admit you were a bitch, tell her you were having a bad set and that got into your head, apologize about her friends, and tell her you want to make it up to her (whatever that means in your relationship).
Not quite, but close. I already said on the night "sorry I wasn't being that social, I was stressed." What I'm trying to reiterate is:
1) I was stressed, and wasn't being nice
2) Her friend is dumb and ugly
3) I "made her look bad" which means literally nothing.
4) She got offended about something I didn't care much about
5) She told me I had to leave, because of what I said and didn't care much about.
6) I did fucking care about being told to leave.
7) Boom.
I won't say "I was a bitch." But rather do what my previous post says."
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On September 19 2011 11:42 mmp wrote:Show nested quote +I mean I'll definitely apologize, as I said earlier, but also give something like "you have to understand why I'm mad too." Even if I admit I got a little too mad. Don't dwell on it, don't try to reconcile it. Just explain, apologize, and move on without asking her to side with you versus her friends or anything (friends always win). Be a big man and tank the blow. Do it.
Right right right. I don't mean see why I was mad about her friend. I mean see why I was mad about being told to leave. I mentioned the friend thing because she cared about that, while I cared about her caring about that. I will say "I didn't mean it like that" etc. etc.
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This isn't about sunglasses.
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On September 19 2011 11:43 Ancestral wrote:Show nested quote +On September 19 2011 11:42 mmp wrote:I mean I'll definitely apologize, as I said earlier, but also give something like "you have to understand why I'm mad too." Even if I admit I got a little too mad. Don't dwell on it, don't try to reconcile it. Just explain, apologize, and move on without asking her to side with you versus her friends or anything (friends always win). Be a big man and tank the blow. Do it. Right right right. I don't mean see why I was mad about her friend. I mean see why I was mad about being told to leave. I mentioned the friend thing because she cared about that, while I cared about her caring about that. I will say "I didn't mean it like that" etc. etc.
The fewer details you bring into your next discussion, the better.
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Wow, that sounds like a lot of really petty issues. Get over it or give up on it; I can't believe anyone would legitimately fight over something so stupid and trivial. And sunglasses inside make you look like a tool, not swag Convinced me
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On September 19 2011 11:48 mmp wrote:Show nested quote +On September 19 2011 11:43 Ancestral wrote:On September 19 2011 11:42 mmp wrote:I mean I'll definitely apologize, as I said earlier, but also give something like "you have to understand why I'm mad too." Even if I admit I got a little too mad. Don't dwell on it, don't try to reconcile it. Just explain, apologize, and move on without asking her to side with you versus her friends or anything (friends always win). Be a big man and tank the blow. Do it. Right right right. I don't mean see why I was mad about her friend. I mean see why I was mad about being told to leave. I mentioned the friend thing because she cared about that, while I cared about her caring about that. I will say "I didn't mean it like that" etc. etc. The fewer details you bring into your next discussion, the better.
While I agree that I shouldn't deliver a monologue like I did in the op, saying "I'm sorry let's move on" is not satisfactory. It's not my job to sit around and not be mad about things she does. Likewise, it isn't her's either. Neither of us should take shit from the other. And glossing this over, which to me is the surmounting of a lot of issues, is not doing either of us or the relationship justice.
We actually talk a lot, which she says she likes, compared to her last relationship, which was more of what you seem to be suggesting. Pretending like everything is just going to work is dumb. Which is exactly why she said she ended the prior one. "I'm sorry, now let's move on." Won't cut it.
And I can understand why you think that fewer words are better, and like I said, I won't ramble. But this isn't high school and we're two smart people. As much as I also often feel women are incomprehensible, erratic beings who live only to be subjugated by the most powerful male, it's dumb to think there's any way other than talking about what happened.
I mean, I'm suggesting 5 minutes of discussion. I don't know what you're suggesting but I'm telling you, knowing both of us, words need to be shared.
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On September 19 2011 11:53 n.DieJokes wrote:
Wow, that sounds like a lot of really petty issues. Get over it or give up on it; I can't believe anyone would legitimacy fight over something so stupid and trivial. And sunglasses inside make you look like a tool, not swag.
No you're wrong. They're swag. But also, see my post earlier on this page. Fool.
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On September 19 2011 11:53 n.DieJokes wrote:
Wow, that sounds like a lot of really petty issues. Get over it or give up on it; I can't believe anyone would legitimacy fight over something so stupid and trivial. And sunglasses inside make you look like a tool, not swag.
Have you ever DJed? I don't think you understand.
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man, u just come across as a big douchebag. that is why i get from the few lines. and yea, i have nothing meaningful to add lol. just relax more and take it easy.
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On September 19 2011 11:57 tenacity wrote:
man, u just come across as a big douchebag. that is why i get from the few lines. and yea, i have nothing meaningful to add lol. just relax more and take it easy.
I only wish you read more than a few lines before making such a decision and chiming in with something pointless. Edit: Yeah relax isn't bad advice ever, but a lot of people have said that.
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On September 19 2011 11:54 Ancestral wrote:Show nested quote +On September 19 2011 11:48 mmp wrote:On September 19 2011 11:43 Ancestral wrote:On September 19 2011 11:42 mmp wrote:I mean I'll definitely apologize, as I said earlier, but also give something like "you have to understand why I'm mad too." Even if I admit I got a little too mad. Don't dwell on it, don't try to reconcile it. Just explain, apologize, and move on without asking her to side with you versus her friends or anything (friends always win). Be a big man and tank the blow. Do it. Right right right. I don't mean see why I was mad about her friend. I mean see why I was mad about being told to leave. I mentioned the friend thing because she cared about that, while I cared about her caring about that. I will say "I didn't mean it like that" etc. etc. The fewer details you bring into your next discussion, the better. While I agree that I shouldn't deliver a monologue like I did in the op, saying "I'm sorry let's move on" is not satisfactory. It's not my job to sit around and not be mad about things she does. Likewise, it isn't her's either. Neither of us should take shit from the other. And glossing this over, which to me is the surmounting of a lot of issues, is not doing either of us or the relationship justice. We actually talk a lot, which she says she likes, compared to her last relationship, which was more of what you seem to be suggesting. Pretending like everything is just going to work is dumb. Which is exactly why she said she ended the prior one. "I'm sorry, now let's move on." Won't cut it. And I can understand why you think that fewer words are better, and like I said, I won't ramble. But this isn't high school and we're two smart people. As much as I also often feel women are incomprehensible, erratic beings who live only to be subjugated by the most powerful male, it's dumb to think there's any way other than talking about what happened. I mean, I'm suggesting 5 minutes of discussion. I don't know what you're suggesting but I'm telling you, knowing both of us, words need to be shared.
Just don't end up repeating the argument or force in any missed points. Sounds like a good thing you have going.
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On September 19 2011 11:59 Ancestral wrote:Show nested quote +On September 19 2011 11:57 tenacity wrote:
man, u just come across as a big douchebag. that is why i get from the few lines. and yea, i have nothing meaningful to add lol. just relax more and take it easy. I only wish you read more than a few lines before making such a decision and chiming in with something pointless. Edit: Yeah relax isn't bad advice ever, but a lot of people have said that.
By "a few lines" i mean the whole thread. still, it doesn't change my opinion.
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On September 19 2011 11:57 mmp wrote:Show nested quote +On September 19 2011 11:53 n.DieJokes wrote:
Wow, that sounds like a lot of really petty issues. Get over it or give up on it; I can't believe anyone would legitimacy fight over something so stupid and trivial. And sunglasses inside make you look like a tool, not swag. Have you ever DJed? I don't think you understand.
What does him not having ever DJed have to do with that? There are tons of EDM djs that never wear sunglasses inside clubs or at their gigs. As a matter of fact the whole DJ mag top 10 don't. I can atest to that, since I've seen them all live more the once. As a matter of fact, I've never seen a DJ wear sunglasses at all, headliner or opening/supporting djs, at any event I've been to and I've been to quite a few. Both being club gigs and festivals.
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On September 19 2011 12:00 mmp wrote:Show nested quote +On September 19 2011 11:54 Ancestral wrote:On September 19 2011 11:48 mmp wrote:On September 19 2011 11:43 Ancestral wrote:On September 19 2011 11:42 mmp wrote:I mean I'll definitely apologize, as I said earlier, but also give something like "you have to understand why I'm mad too." Even if I admit I got a little too mad. Don't dwell on it, don't try to reconcile it. Just explain, apologize, and move on without asking her to side with you versus her friends or anything (friends always win). Be a big man and tank the blow. Do it. Right right right. I don't mean see why I was mad about her friend. I mean see why I was mad about being told to leave. I mentioned the friend thing because she cared about that, while I cared about her caring about that. I will say "I didn't mean it like that" etc. etc. The fewer details you bring into your next discussion, the better. While I agree that I shouldn't deliver a monologue like I did in the op, saying "I'm sorry let's move on" is not satisfactory. It's not my job to sit around and not be mad about things she does. Likewise, it isn't her's either. Neither of us should take shit from the other. And glossing this over, which to me is the surmounting of a lot of issues, is not doing either of us or the relationship justice. We actually talk a lot, which she says she likes, compared to her last relationship, which was more of what you seem to be suggesting. Pretending like everything is just going to work is dumb. Which is exactly why she said she ended the prior one. "I'm sorry, now let's move on." Won't cut it. And I can understand why you think that fewer words are better, and like I said, I won't ramble. But this isn't high school and we're two smart people. As much as I also often feel women are incomprehensible, erratic beings who live only to be subjugated by the most powerful male, it's dumb to think there's any way other than talking about what happened. I mean, I'm suggesting 5 minutes of discussion. I don't know what you're suggesting but I'm telling you, knowing both of us, words need to be shared. Just don't end up repeating the argument or force in any missed points. Sounds like a good thing you have going.
what do you mean by that? why is repeating the same argument any helpful if she doesn't get it?
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On September 19 2011 12:00 tenacity wrote:Show nested quote +On September 19 2011 11:59 Ancestral wrote:On September 19 2011 11:57 tenacity wrote:
man, u just come across as a big douchebag. that is why i get from the few lines. and yea, i have nothing meaningful to add lol. just relax more and take it easy. I only wish you read more than a few lines before making such a decision and chiming in with something pointless. Edit: Yeah relax isn't bad advice ever, but a lot of people have said that. By "a few lines" i mean the whole thread. still, it doesn't change my opinion.
Cool. Good thing you're not the one I'm dating then.
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On September 19 2011 12:02 DukE_ss wrote:Show nested quote +On September 19 2011 11:57 mmp wrote:On September 19 2011 11:53 n.DieJokes wrote:
Wow, that sounds like a lot of really petty issues. Get over it or give up on it; I can't believe anyone would legitimacy fight over something so stupid and trivial. And sunglasses inside make you look like a tool, not swag. Have you ever DJed? I don't think you understand. What does him not having ever DJed have to do with that? There are tons of EDM djs that never wear sunglasses inside clubs or at their gigs. As a matter of fact the whole DJ mag top 10 don't. I can atest to that, since I've seen them all live more the once. As a matter of fact, I've never seen a DJ wear sunglasses at all, headliner or opening/supporting djs, at any event I've been to and I've been to quite a few. Both being club gigs and festivals.
Something you may also be missing is that the glasses have clear lenses. They're wayfarers with clear, non-prescription lenses. Clearly, you care more about sunglasses then I do, because that is literally entirely fucking irrelevant. It could have been the brand of jeans I was wearing. I've seen DJ's with sunglasses. It's not even close to a majority, but clearly my swag outmatches yours in any case because you feel the need to defend yourself so ravenously.
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if you use the word "swag" you must be a cool cat
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On September 19 2011 12:07 Kojak21 wrote:
if you use the word "swag" you must be a cool cat
More like hepcat.
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On September 19 2011 12:05 Ancestral wrote:Show nested quote +On September 19 2011 12:02 DukE_ss wrote:On September 19 2011 11:57 mmp wrote:On September 19 2011 11:53 n.DieJokes wrote:
Wow, that sounds like a lot of really petty issues. Get over it or give up on it; I can't believe anyone would legitimacy fight over something so stupid and trivial. And sunglasses inside make you look like a tool, not swag. Have you ever DJed? I don't think you understand. What does him not having ever DJed have to do with that? There are tons of EDM djs that never wear sunglasses inside clubs or at their gigs. As a matter of fact the whole DJ mag top 10 don't. I can atest to that, since I've seen them all live more the once. As a matter of fact, I've never seen a DJ wear sunglasses at all, headliner or opening/supporting djs, at any event I've been to and I've been to quite a few. Both being club gigs and festivals. Something you may also be missing is that the glasses have clear lenses. They're wayfarers with clear, non-prescription lenses. Clearly, you care more about sunglasses then I do, because that is literally entirely fucking irrelevant. It could have been the brand of jeans I was wearing. I've seen DJ's with sunglasses. It's not even close to a majority, but clearly my swag outmatches yours in any case because you feel the need to defend yourself so ravenously.
Defend myself? Umm...considering that was my first post in this thread, how could I be defending myself? I was simply replying back to what mmp said about ever DJing. Also I never commented on whether wearing sunglasses inside a club was a good or bad thing. I just simply stated that out of all the gigs I've been too, I've never seen a DJ wear them. If you would actually read my "post" as you've stated, you would of noticed that.
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