EPTAfter awhile the words sink in and then she will realize your point.
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DreamChaser
1649 Posts
After awhile the words sink in and then she will realize your point. | ||
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Ancestral
United States3230 Posts
On September 19 2011 12:10 DukE_ss wrote: Defend myself? Umm...considering that was my first post in this thread, how could I be defending myself? I was simply replying back to what mmp said about ever DJing. Also I never commented on whether wearing sunglasses inside a club was a good or bad thing. I just simply stated that out of the gigs I've been too, I've never seen a DJ wear them. If you would actually read my "post" as you've stated, you would of noticed that. Sorry you're right. I didn't read the name on the post, and assumed you were n.diejokes, who had already railed about sunglasses inside, which themselves are somewhat tongue in cheek. | ||
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mmp
United States2130 Posts
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Ancestral
United States3230 Posts
On September 19 2011 12:11 DreamChaser wrote: You will never win in an argument against a Woman. The only way you can "win" is to make calm and logical answers pointing out certain behaviors and dont answer back, she will probably want the last word. After awhile the words sink in and then she will realize your point. No I don't need the gratification of having "won." But you're right, if I set out with the intent to "win" an argument I'd be doomed from the get go. If you want to go with stereotypes, she's also less likely to want to fight about it than I am though. I only want to hear her say "yeah you're right, I was a little bitchey" while I have to admit my last act was outrageous, despite the fact that she gave me the inspiration. | ||
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Ancestral
United States3230 Posts
On September 19 2011 12:12 mmp wrote: this is clearly all about the shades Holla | ||
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Risen
United States7927 Posts
On September 19 2011 10:40 nodnod wrote: mistake 1 - letting her came to an event that you're ill-prepared for. mistake 2 - letting her friends came along to the ill-prepared event mistake 3 - got on her ride and went to her apartment mistake 4 - storming off without leaving a clause of reconciliation mistake 5 - not following up on a pre-arranged event ... the damage is done man. just hope she's nice enough to take you back. With the exception of 1 and 2 I agree with everything here. To me it just sounds like you were being a bitch :/ which you did acknowledge. Call and apologize. Tbh, why do you care so much about what her friend said to you? And you may think you said it jokingly as "oh well she wants to go" but why even say that? Just say nah I gotta take off. No need to throw her under the bus, even as a joke. That's you saving face at her expense, whether the dude will ever interact with her again or not. To reiterate: Call and apologize | ||
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Spiffeh
United States830 Posts
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Slaughter
United States20254 Posts
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Aruno
New Zealand748 Posts
Learn to laugh at yourself more man. When a girl asks you "Why are you wearing sunglasses at night?", just say "It's to protect young sweet girls like yourself from falling in love with my sexy eyes". Then when they say she says she's not all young and sweet. Walk slowly up to them gentle hold her chin with one hand and slowly say "So your saying that your a bad girl eh?, You know what I do to bad girls?"..her: "what?", you  slap her hard on the ass* *her reaction is your next indicator*..GG Then proceed to make a Blog about your upcoming sexual assault case. It'll be great ^_^ | ||
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Th1rdEye
United States1074 Posts
When you said : "I mean as douchey as it is, the way I envision it now is, I say something about being sorry, not meaning to offend her friend, then, she made my night stressful by nagging, shouldn't do that, should have realized the show was a lot of work, should have realized I was doing her a favor by leaving, should have realized the other DJ's didn't really give a shit where either of us went, and should stop being so self conscious" There's tons of girls, stop trying to mold one into who you think they should be. Accept it or move on If you're truly mature and truly conscious of yourself you won't even let something like this become a problem in the first place....have more self control I know it's hard, but like they tell you in 1st grade.. think before you speak. Think before you act. If you accept it just talk to her and stop being a noob If she likes you and you like her it will not matter one bit Haven't you ever seen married couples? fuck. | ||
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Ruffian
United States369 Posts
On September 19 2011 10:40 nodnod wrote: mistake 1 - letting her came to an event that you're ill-prepared for. mistake 2 - letting her friends came along to the ill-prepared event mistake 3 - got on her ride and went to her apartment mistake 4 - storming off without leaving a clause of reconciliation mistake 5 - not following up on a pre-arranged event ... the damage is done man. just hope she's nice enough to take you back. Going to also agree with this. Especially the last two. You honestly should have contacted her before the event you were planning to go to. Girls are stubborn as hell especially if they believe they are in the right. Call as soon as you can and apologize. | ||
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Ancestral
United States3230 Posts
On September 19 2011 12:20 Risen wrote: With the exception of 1 and 2 I agree with everything here. To me it just sounds like you were being a bitch :/ which you did acknowledge. Call and apologize. Tbh, why do you care so much about what her friend said to you? And you may think you said it jokingly as "oh well she wants to go" but why even say that? Just say nah I gotta take off. No need to throw her under the bus, even as a joke. That's you saving face at her expense, whether the dude will ever interact with her again or not. To reiterate: Call and apologize I want everyone to understand that while I personally think I reacted poorly, she has not been entirely fair to me. You can disagree with that, but seeing as how you are not me, you doing it based on incomplete information. I am going to be the one to say something at this point though. The original post, about 3-4 weeks, while it seems manly, is literally half again the length of time we've actually been dating (though we knew each other for a school quarter before that). 3 has happened a lot of times with no issue. 4 is the main problem yes, but if she drove me home, that would be even more ridiculous. I'm not going to tolerate that. 5 - maybe I should have tried to do something earlier today, but I wasn't prepared mentally to say anything. And it's still soon, imo. I'll see how I feel tomorrow. I DON'T CARE ABOUT WHAT HER FRIEND SAID TO ME. At least not that much. I said one sentence about it, which prompted her to ask me to leave. There may have been more going on, and if it were anything, it was the leaving issue. The DJ I told, understood me completely. No one in their right mind would stay at a mediocre event, especially because the guy I DJ with had the promotion and networking front down. I was being facetious, and what "she wants to leave" means is "I want to go kick it with my girl and maybe get to plowin' ynawhatimsayin?" And he knew that. He's a man. I even winked at him and grabbed his ass when I said it. But she, which she admitted, said she didn't want to be put into female stereotypes, even ones she was actually fulfilling. If she didn't mind staying, I would have. But she did, so I went with her. If she thought about it, or if you did, obviously that shows I care more about her. The DJ who challenged me about leaving in the first place knew I was, and he was kidding anyway. I was there, words were spoken IRL, no text to hide sarcasm or anything. It's fine if you all reprimand me because you think my position sounds weaker, because I did ask for advice. But when I say I feel a certain way about something, it's because I was there and experienced it. The constructive posts are the ones that tell me how I should handle the next interaction or whether or not I should initiate it, which this one does and I appreciate it. But don't say "you're a faggot tool bitch what are you thinking." Which you didn't, but some people have, or something similar... | ||
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nodnod
New Zealand172 Posts
On September 19 2011 12:20 Risen wrote: With the exception of 1 and 2 I agree with everything here. To me it just sounds like you were being a bitch :/ which you did acknowledge. Call and apologize. Tbh, why do you care so much about what her friend said to you? And you may think you said it jokingly as "oh well she wants to go" but why even say that? Just say nah I gotta take off. No need to throw her under the bus, even as a joke. That's you saving face at her expense, whether the dude will ever interact with her again or not. To reiterate: Call and apologize On September 19 2011 10:46 Ancestral wrote: I'm with you on 1 and 2. 3 could have been innocuous, but she made a mistake there - bitching when I made it clear that I wanted to go with her (she wanted me to go with her too). 4 is obviously the point of the blog. 5 I think you're not clear on. It would have been audacious, in my opinion, to bring it up. First other things would have had to have taken place, which I'm not sure it was the right time to do. lol looks like the OP thinks the opposite. oh dear... :p | ||
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Ancestral
United States3230 Posts
On September 19 2011 12:24 Aruno wrote: You seem like a douche who takes things too seriously + is arrogant and self centred. Learn to laugh at yourself more man. When a girl asks you "Why are you wearing sunglasses at night?", just say "It's to protect young sweet girls like yourself from falling in love with my sexy eyes". Then when they say she says she's not all young and sweet. Walk slowly up to them gentle hold her chin with one hand and slowly say "So your saying that your a bad girl eh?, You know what I do to bad girls?"..her: "what?", you slap her hard on the ass* *her reaction is your next indicator*..GG Then proceed to make a Blog about your upcoming sexual assault case. It'll be great ^_^ That would have been a more interesting blog, agreed. "[H] Sexual assault case?" | ||
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Ancestral
United States3230 Posts
On September 19 2011 12:30 nodnod wrote: lol looks like the OP thinks the opposite. oh dear... :p Nah his argument was meaningful. It's all good. I mean they're all partially true and partially not true, as with everything in life. Except Fox News, always true. | ||
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FFGenerations
7088 Posts
being a lil bitch is not cool so be cool not a lil bitch like the girls | ||
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Doraemon
Australia14949 Posts
On September 19 2011 12:24 Aruno wrote: You seem like a douche who takes things too seriously + is arrogant and self centred. Learn to laugh at yourself more man. When a girl asks you "Why are you wearing sunglasses at night?", just say "It's to protect young sweet girls like yourself from falling in love with my sexy eyes". Then when they say she says she's not all young and sweet. Walk slowly up to them gentle hold her chin with one hand and slowly say "So your saying that your a bad girl eh?, You know what I do to bad girls?"..her: "what?", you slap her hard on the ass* *her reaction is your next indicator*..GG Then proceed to make a Blog about your upcoming sexual assault case. It'll be great ^_^ that just made me laugh  | ||
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NuclearJudas
6546 Posts
But I'm currently single, so what the fuck do I know? :L Good luck, anyway. I think you'll need it. | ||
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Ancestral
United States3230 Posts
On September 19 2011 12:52 NuclearJudas wrote: I'd say that you should contact her (phone, text, smoke signals, pick a favourite), but before you do; Make sure that you've thought through the whole thing, what happened and why, and try to look at it from her side of the "dispute". Your story didn't paint you in the best of light. Also, thinking through what you want out of the relationship could be a good thing. If you want her, she's obviously more important than your integrity. But I'm currently single, so what the fuck do I know? :L Good luck, anyway. I think you'll need it. I am not trying to paint myself in a good light. We both were a little overbearing, I think. I don't want people to pat me on the shoulder and say "no no it's all her fault." I don't however, think I'll need luck. One day vs. two months would be a little much for her to blow up and leave. More likely though it would be the fact that I missed that bird breeder show, which I legitimately wanted to see with her. But I'll mention that too. And yes, I should definitely be able to see it from her point of view. Trust me, I spent plenty of time wondering what exactly she thought after I slammed her door and didn't see/talk to her again. | ||
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VarmVaffel
Norway378 Posts
I also like the way you respond and take into consideration every advice that is posted in this thread. This should be the standard for girl blogs in general, really makes it seem like TL is helping out! | ||
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