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Rekrul
Korea (South)17174 Posts
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PUPATREE
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Ancestral
United States3230 Posts
On September 19 2011 11:06 Rekrul wrote: ROFL Ayo. This girl is 6 years older than me, has a doctorate, was my teacher, has way more money than I do, and is a bangin hotty. Alright. If I wanted to swag on a bitch nonstop I would have aimed lower. As much as I love getting my meat twerked my male ambition would not allow me to stop at that so I have to have someone who can intellectually challenge me. Sugartits on the couch running her mouth of couldn't do that. | ||
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fatfail
United States386 Posts
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Ancestral
United States3230 Posts
On September 19 2011 11:09 fatfail wrote: Uh Ancestral, if you plan on rejecting everything everybody says, why did you ask in the first place? People's advice I have not rejected: Kurtistheturtle Doraemon Slaughter Nodnod Rekrul People's advice I have rejected: Everyone who doesn't say anything constructive, including you. Feel free to express your thoughts, but the blog is actually about addressing real life problems, not having people tell me I don't keep my bitch in line. | ||
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Rekrul
Korea (South)17174 Posts
On September 19 2011 11:09 Ancestral wrote: Ayo. This girl is 6 years older than me, has a doctorate, was my teacher, has way more money than I do, and is a bangin hotty. Alright. If I wanted to swag on a bitch nonstop I would have aimed lower. As much as I love getting my meat twerked my male ambition would not allow me to stop at that so I have to have someone who can intellectually challenge me. Sugartits on the couch running her mouth of couldn't do that. The fight happened cause you reacted the wrong way though. Arguing with girls is pointless and ultimately very unattractive to them. They want guys who will reason with them somewhat but for the most part take control. And for u to even mention getting kinda offended by the friends being rude about the sunglasses is a super weak move. Something like "Yeah she tried to be rude and offend my balla sunglasses but it actually backfired and made me feel even better about these things" Might have been good LOL | ||
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Ancestral
United States3230 Posts
On September 19 2011 11:14 Rekrul wrote: The fight happened cause you reacted the wrong way though. Arguing with girls is pointless and ultimately very unattractive to them. They want guys who will reason with them somewhat but for the most part take control. And for u to even mention getting kinda offended by the friends being rude about the sunglasses is a super weak move. Something like "Yeah she tried to be rude and offend my balla sunglasses but it actually backfired and made me feel even better about these things" Might have been good LOL You're definitely right about the "taking control" part. But this girl is modern, rational, and other words that I will use instead of feminist. As far as she's concerned, at two months I'm still on "trial period" and if I say something about her goblin friend she'll get offended. I probably should have made a more comical, less inflammatory joke about it though. Because what it comes down to is her friend is also older and fears a bar full of 21-25 year olds. And she and I have joked about that before, her friends' fearing the youth that is. IMO, the friend thing is what really blew it for her, even though I care less about that than the other bullshit (the leaving early bullshit, and the "you're always right" bullshit, which is a copout for her to avoid anything confrontational ever). Although I have started with the "yeah I'm always right, I'm glad you're catching on." Which actually seems to work better than getting pissed. Storming out will at least force her to consider whether she wants to keep treating me like she can eternally keep secrets from me (she ended a 5 year relationship just before we started dating, and that's why, as she's admitted, she is being "guarded"), because she goes on and on about how beautiful I am and how fat my cock is, and she knows I'm smart. But I guess if I want to keep it up, I should make it more like "look..." and less like "please..." Still should give it a few more days imo. I actually do shit anyway and we never hang out during the week as it is. | ||
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VarmVaffel
Norway378 Posts
It also sounds to me with the way you write about her that you maybe were a bit tired of her from before. In any case, a short break for the both of you to consider things isn't necessarily a bad thing. | ||
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fatfail
United States386 Posts
On September 19 2011 11:12 Ancestral wrote: People's advice I have not rejected: Kurtistheturtle Doraemon Slaughter Nodnod Rekrul People's advice I have rejected: Everyone who doesn't say anything constructive, including you. Feel free to express your thoughts, but the blog is actually about addressing real life problems, not having people tell me I don't keep my bitch in line. Did I tell you to keep your bitch in line? Also, my honest opinion is you should stop being an overly sensitive douche and get over your nonexistent struggles in this relationship. | ||
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Uranium
United States1077 Posts
On September 19 2011 10:04 Ancestral wrote: The event went on until 2:00AM, and I wanted to stay for promotional reasons and whatnot. But she wanted to leave earlier, and I definitely wasn't going to stay there while she left. This is where you lost. It was YOUR EVENT. You were DJing for fucks sake. And you left because your girl wanted to. It's not like she needed you to entertain her - she was with her friends. You should have let her go with them and stayed at the venue where you belonged as one of the acts. Instead you acted like a pussywhipped little bitch. THEN you took a bunch of shit from her for it because you made her "look bad" in front of your own friends after you tried to do something nice for her. Then I think she probably realized that you have no balls and that she should have dated an older guy. And things went down hill from there. Man up, prioritize your own life over your girlfriend, and don't take her shit when you don't deserve it. Secondly, YOU are the insecure one for caring so much what one of her friends said about your sunglasses. If you can't handle the social pressure that accompanies making such a bold fashion statement, then you shouldn't try it. Clearly it bothered you enough that you had to bring it up with her later, which means you are insecure. And I think she could tell. | ||
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Ancestral
United States3230 Posts
On September 19 2011 11:22 fatfail wrote: Did I tell you to keep your bitch in line? Also, my honest opinion is you should stop being an overly sensitive douche and get over your nonexistent struggles in this relationship. No someone else said that, I forget who. But yeah your last line isn't bad, and honesty is good if it's not just to say "haha you're a faggot.". I considered the whole "it's pointless drama" thing. The point is, her reaction to contact/apology/reconciliation cannot be known before I try it. And there are issues, even if the issues aren't domestic abuse or adultery. We get in lots of tiffs that don't last long but this time I want something to actually come of it, rather than say "man that sucked, glad we're together again!" and then risk the same shit two weeks later. | ||
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Ancestral
United States3230 Posts
On September 19 2011 11:22 VarmVaffel wrote: This is suddenly one of the best girl blogs I've read in a while. It also sounds to me with the way you write about her that you maybe were a bit tired of her from before. In any case, a short break for the both of you to consider things isn't necessarily a bad thing. Yeah for sure. I've definitely thought about it all a lot. I hope she has too. | ||
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Rekrul
Korea (South)17174 Posts
On September 19 2011 11:22 Ancestral wrote: You're definitely right about the "taking control" part. But this girl is modern, rational, and other words that I will use instead of feminist. As far as she's concerned, at two months I'm still on "trial period" and if I say something about her goblin friend she'll get offended. I probably should have made a more comical, less inflammatory joke about it though. Because what it comes down to is her friend is also older and fears a bar full of 21-25 year olds. And she and I have joked about that before, her friends' fearing the youth that is. IMO, the friend thing is what really blew it for her, even though I care less about that than the other bullshit (the leaving early bullshit, and the "you're always right" bullshit, which is a copout for her to avoid anything confrontational ever). Although I have started with the "yeah I'm always right, I'm glad you're catching on." Which actually seems to work better than getting pissed. Storming out will at least force her to consider whether she wants to keep treating me like she can eternally keep secrets from me (she ended a 5 year relationship just before we started dating, and that's why, as she's admitted, she is being "guarded"), because she goes on and on about how beautiful I am and how fat my cock is, and she knows I'm smart. But I guess if I want to keep it up, I should make it more like "look..." and less like "please..." Still should give it a few more days imo. I actually do shit anyway and we never hang out during the week as it is. Yea and storming out is bad, running from problems should be reserved for women and alcoholics, not MEN! But rofl, yeah, fking brainwashed american women tilt the fuk out of me. I don't even bother attempting to hit on white girls rofl. | ||
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Ancestral
United States3230 Posts
On September 19 2011 11:25 Uranium wrote: This is where you lost. It was YOUR EVENT. You were DJing for fucks sake. And you left because your girl wanted to. It's not like she needed you to entertain her - she was with her friends. You should have let her go with them and stayed at the venue where you belonged as one of the acts. Instead you acted like a pussywhipped little bitch. THEN you took a bunch of shit from her for it because you made her "look bad" in front of your own friends after you tried to do something nice for her. Then I think she probably realized that you have no balls and that she should have dated an older guy. And things went down hill from there. Man up, prioritize your own life over your girlfriend, and don't take her shit when you don't deserve it. Okay you definitely bring up a few good points. But I don't think she thinks she should have dated an older guy. She talks about how much she hates older guys frequently which makes me think she really just loves young meat. I think we 100% won't break up unless I do it or act insanely douchey. It's probably like 5% contentious between us 95% jolly. But I suppose I should emphasize that I was trying to be nice and she let it all blow up. I mean as douchey as it is, the way I envision it now is, I say something about being sorry, not meaning to offend her friend, then, she made my night stressful by nagging, shouldn't do that, should have realized the show was a lot of work, should have realized I was doing her a favor by leaving, should have realized the other DJ's didn't really give a shit where either of us went, and should stop being so self conscious. Edit: About you addendum, if "insecure" means I won't allow her friend who doesn't even know me to talk shit, then you're right. But if it means I'm afraid and will question my life decision, you're wrong. In all fairness, what Rekrul said was best, and I'll consider it in the future. The communications breakdown occurred though because I give only a half a shit about the comment, but in her drunk mind she thought I was shit talking her friend. I care more about prior events and lost it when she said I had to leave because of an offhanded remark about her friend. | ||
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Ancestral
United States3230 Posts
On September 19 2011 11:29 Rekrul wrote: Yea and storming out is bad, running from problems should be reserved for women and alcoholics, not MEN! But rofl, yeah, fking brainwashed american women tilt the fuk out of me. I don't even bother attempting to hit on white girls rofl. That's where the original "how long should I wait" idea came from, don't want to make it look like I can't get my shit together but don't want to look desperate. I mean, obviously I fucked up a little or I wouldn't be asking the entire world about it. I was legitimately pissed though. | ||
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mmp
United States2130 Posts
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fatfail
United States386 Posts
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mmp
United States2130 Posts
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Ancestral
United States3230 Posts
On September 19 2011 11:37 fatfail wrote: I think that in life, its always easier and more effective to change ourselves rather than other people. I mean, girls always get mad for random random reasons, you aren't going to be able to change that. I would just apologize as soon as possible, no matter how pissed/ how much injustice you feel. I can tell you are seeking a higher level of understanding, but I don't think that prolonging the argument is going to do that effectively. Yeah. You're right that I shouldn't be mad. My decision can be whatever, but shouldn't be mad. I was mad, and that's how it got started, but I think I'll be able to figure it out, and even if I can't I should cool it. After all, if I really want to swag and "set things straight," more storming and slamming of doors won't do it. I mean I'll definitely apologize, as I said earlier, but also give something like "you have to understand why I'm mad too." Even if I admit I got a little too mad. | ||
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mmp
United States2130 Posts
I mean I'll definitely apologize, as I said earlier, but also give something like "you have to understand why I'm mad too." Even if I admit I got a little too mad. Don't dwell on it, don't try to reconcile it. Just explain, apologize, and move on without asking her to side with you versus her friends or anything (friends always win). Be a big man and tank the blow. Do it. | ||
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