EPT[Q&A] Girls/Relationships - Page 15
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OpticalShot
Canada6330 Posts
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Hassybaby
United Kingdom10823 Posts
On August 26 2011 21:03 OpticalShot wrote: Need an epic thread revival with more drama. So there is this brunette girl at my workplace... I was actually looking forward to this, haven't had my fill of girl blogs in a while Damn you OS, damn you | ||
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OpticalShot
Canada6330 Posts
I could hear the ice cream cart rolling along the corridor across. Oh, how awesome would a popsicle be at the end of a hard-working day, as I bite into the sheer cold joy and walk out into the parking lot! Thought were running through my mind, you see, and I even pretend to work hard by opening up more random excel spreadsheets and laying it randomly across my dual monitors. One thought that didn't cross my mind was, who is this awesome person handing out the popsicle. Surely, in an engineering firm, one would not expect a young attractive female anywhere - everyone I've seen at that point were either young male, old male, or old female. That's until I turned around to a sweet voice offering me a popsicle... | ||
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BilltownRunner
United States229 Posts
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Mogwai
United States13274 Posts
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Hassybaby
United Kingdom10823 Posts
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OpticalShot
Canada6330 Posts
When I realized what just happened, I was immediately going through the office website and searching through the employee list... | ||
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Hassybaby
United Kingdom10823 Posts
On August 27 2011 05:20 Mogwai wrote: I get this odd feeling that he's setting up to Fresh Prince us. Me too, but then again I'm still curious about how he transitions there | ||
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iamahydralisk
United States813 Posts
Up until today, I hadn't really thought about her, so I thought those feelings were gone, but now I know they're still there and as strong as ever. she's the one I really want, even though the relationship was destructive as hell. I don't consider myself a weak person, but back when we were having problems, she was able to thoroughly break me and make me hate living. She's the only person in my entire life to ever truly get to me like that... I keep wondering if I did the right thing today when I just kept on walking. Part of me thinks I should've chased after her and said something. I don't even know what I'd say if I did... there are literally no words. My feelings towards her are a mix of extreme anger and powerful love... I want to tell her how much she tore me apart, and how I should hate her for everything she put me through... but I can't. Because I still love her. I hate admitting that... But I really do. Even today, even though it's been months since we so much as talked... I'd die for her, no hesitation. I'm not even sure why I'm posting this... I guess I just need somewhere to let off steam, because I haven't felt this lonely in a really long time. TL;DR: Kinsey, I still love you. When I told you I always would, I meant it, and at least right now, I don't plan on breaking my word.... and I hate myself for it. I want to get you back... But I'm so afraid to even try because I'm so vulnerable to you. I don't know what to do... I guess all I can do is wait. I need a hug :/ EDIT: I'm thinking more and more about contacting her in some way. I don't have her number anymore, and I don't have her email address... and she doesn't have a facebook, so that basically leaves me the choice of handwriting a letter and taking it to where she works (where I also used to work), or her house. I don't know if that would be "creepy" or not... if I did write her a letter, it wouldn't be a love letter or anything like that. More like, "it was nice seeing you, and I'm ready to be friends if you are." that sort of thing. opinions? | ||
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Hidden_MotiveS
Canada2562 Posts
I think you have to ask whether you want to know her in a few years time. You'll probably realize that it will hurt you more to ask now (in the long run). Then you'll probably be like "screw reason" and go talk to her anyways. | ||
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SarR
476 Posts
On August 27 2011 00:12 Hassybaby wrote: I was actually looking forward to this, haven't had my fill of girl blogs in a while Damn you OS, damn you This blog killed girl blogs and to add insult to injury, ILK got banned. | ||
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Hassybaby
United Kingdom10823 Posts
On September 01 2011 15:59 iamahydralisk wrote: so today I saw my ex for the first time in about 5 months. didn't talk to her or anything... just pretty much glanced at her. it was one of those awkward eye contact things... pretty much ruined my day. I feel so fucking stupid... it's been 6 months since we broke up, so I feel like I should be over her... I shouldn't care anymore. I mean, hell, I have a new girlfriend now, so I should be happy with that, right? but I'm not... I'm really not. I thought I was over my ex, but simply seeing her one single time was enough to make me realize that I'm not even close... and I don't know how to be. when I was with her, I loved her more than I've ever loved anyone or anything else. Up until today, I hadn't really thought about her, so I thought those feelings were gone, but now I know they're still there and as strong as ever. she's the one I really want, even though the relationship was destructive as hell. I don't consider myself a weak person, but back when we were having problems, she was able to thoroughly break me and make me hate living. She's the only person in my entire life to ever truly get to me like that... I keep wondering if I did the right thing today when I just kept on walking. Part of me thinks I should've chased after her and said something. I don't even know what I'd say if I did... there are literally no words. My feelings towards her are a mix of extreme anger and powerful love... I want to tell her how much she tore me apart, and how I should hate her for everything she put me through... but I can't. Because I still love her. I hate admitting that... But I really do. Even today, even though it's been months since we so much as talked... I'd die for her, no hesitation. I'm not even sure why I'm posting this... I guess I just need somewhere to let off steam, because I haven't felt this lonely in a really long time. TL;DR: Kinsey, I still love you. When I told you I always would, I meant it, and at least right now, I don't plan on breaking my word.... and I hate myself for it. I want to get you back... But I'm so afraid to even try because I'm so vulnerable to you. I don't know what to do... I guess all I can do is wait. I need a hug :/ EDIT: I'm thinking more and more about contacting her in some way. I don't have her number anymore, and I don't have her email address... and she doesn't have a facebook, so that basically leaves me the choice of handwriting a letter and taking it to where she works (where I also used to work), or her house. I don't know if that would be "creepy" or not... if I did write her a letter, it wouldn't be a love letter or anything like that. More like, "it was nice seeing you, and I'm ready to be friends if you are." that sort of thing. opinions? Dude, you either have one of the most messed up lives, or you're stealing this from a show. Either way, I'm actually gonna steal a quote from a TV show for this There's a difference between a great love and the right love. Seeing an ex you had a great relationship with will always be emotional (unless it was a really shitty break up and there's hatred there.) The real question you have to think about, and you need to think about it hard, is whether this relationship is REALLY going to work. I don't mean in a platonic way, because love, while its a major major thing, isn't all of it. Happiness has to come in, and the sounds of it, you were in love, but you weren't happy. Remembering your last ask for help, you met a girl in a concert, and she gave you butterflies that you hadn't felt in ages (actually, since your ex.) That's gotta be a good thing right? is your current relationship going ok? Maybe if its a bit rocky that's why these feelings came back. Bad timing instead of hidden feelings I can't pretend that I know you really well, since all I know is what you've told us in this thread. However, I would really suggest that you should talk to someone that's pretty neutral in the aspect, but knows you really well. Your best friend, a sibling. Hell, you mum would be a great person to talk to, since I'm guessing she knows about your previous relationship, as well as this one. The friend letter is.....tricky. If she has such an influence on you, then it could start something that may mess everything up, with her ans well as your current girlfriend. However, it does seem like you need some closure. Personally? I'm thinking go cold turkey for a while. Forget about her, absorb yourself in other activities, and try to move on. Then, after a while, if you see her again, and there are still anxieties, you know that its something you have to address at some point. And when you do, you'll be a person better equipped for it (hopefully) Also, when you do decide to meet her (cold turkey or not), take backup. You'll need the support before and after, and possibly during if its going badly | ||
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Hassybaby
United Kingdom10823 Posts
On September 01 2011 20:50 SarR wrote: This blog killed girl blogs and to add insult to injury, ILK got banned. Yeah, me and OpticalShot have sorta brought this blog straight to the ground My bad, dunno about OS | ||
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OpticalShot
Canada6330 Posts
- THE END LOL sigh that was so bad, but at least it was true story. I honestly think we should let this thread die so that random girl blogs start popping up again. Having a centralized blog kind of failed. | ||
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Chef
10810 Posts
TL;DR: Kinsey, I still love you. When I told you I always would, I meant it, and at least right now, I don't plan on breaking my word.... and I hate myself for it. I want to get you back... But I'm so afraid to even try because I'm so vulnerable to you. I don't know what to do... I guess all I can do is wait. I need a hug :/ That's obsession. You're fixated on the romantic idea of love, especially since you want to stay true to your word "when I told you I always would I meant it." Chef's advice: sometimes it takes longer than 5 months, especially if you torture yourself with dumb ideas and think about her all the time. To fix this try to fill up your free time with something productive so you don't have to much time for dumb thoughts/so you have your own life/so you aren't so needy for another person's affection. Usually this is more a result of boredom and not doing anything with your life for yourself than about a girl being the one and only missing piece. | ||
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Hassybaby
United Kingdom10823 Posts
On September 01 2011 23:44 OpticalShot wrote: ... and you can guess, it wasn't hard to find her. Except, like, I was sure it was her, but then how come she went from a 9 to a 5? Bad picture perhaps? Or was I blinded by the popsicle that she became a goddess for a brief second? At least I learned her name so that I could now go around from cubicle to cubicle looking for her. That would be sort of creepy though, no? The excitement of finding her versus the creep factor made me hesitate day after day, and here I am TODAY still wondering if I should go look for her. While my mind is wondering, I'm back with giant spreadsheets and TL blogging. - THE END LOL sigh that was so bad, but at least it was true story. I honestly think we should let this thread die so that random girl blogs start popping up again. Having a centralized blog kind of failed. I enjoyed it, but I had to go back to read the other posts because you're such a tease You may have a point about separating the blogs up. Ofc, that would mean I would have to browse the Blog section a lot more instead of just bookmarking this thread. | ||
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Mogwai
United States13274 Posts
On September 01 2011 15:59 iamahydralisk wrote: EDIT: I'm thinking more and more about contacting her in some way. I don't have her number anymore, and I don't have her email address... and she doesn't have a facebook, so that basically leaves me the choice of handwriting a letter and taking it to where she works (where I also used to work), or her house. I don't know if that would be "creepy" or not... if I did write her a letter, it wouldn't be a love letter or anything like that. More like, "it was nice seeing you, and I'm ready to be friends if you are." that sort of thing. opinions? It doesn't sound like you're ready to be friends at all. It sounds like you want more than that and it would be stupid to say, "hey let's be friends" and then try to either hide your feelings or make a move for her again. | ||
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unichan
United States4223 Posts
they're not really "party guys", more "sit around in dorm and play games guys" in general and i think if most of them went out to a party they'd be scared shitless... i usually just try suggesting they go up to girls and TALK TO THEM but they have all these excuses like "girls won't like it if i makes the first move!" which is bullshit because it doesn't matter, or "girls at college aren't looking to talk to guys" i dont know if this is true or not because i'm in fucking high school, or "i don't want to join a club because blah blah blah".... a lot of them haven't even been in a relationship before or anything so they are completely clueless anyways i get this question from like 3 guys a day and i have no clue what to say anymore, is there any college guy who can tell me what i can say to these guys to inspire them to a) shut up or b) get off their lazy ass and go talk to a girl instead of asking me how to do it because i really don't know | ||
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Mogwai
United States13274 Posts
On September 02 2011 00:20 unichan wrote: what do i tell all the guys who keep asking me how to approach girls at college (i'm not even in college...) they're not really "party guys", more "sit around in dorm and play games guys" in general and i think if most of them went out to a party they'd be scared shitless... i usually just try suggesting they go up to girls and TALK TO THEM but they have all these excuses like "girls won't like it if i makes the first move!" which is bullshit because it doesn't matter, or "girls at college aren't looking to talk to guys" i dont know if this is true or not because i'm in fucking high school, or "i don't want to join a club because blah blah blah".... a lot of them haven't even been in a relationship before or anything so they are completely clueless anyways i get this question from like 3 guys a day and i have no clue what to say anymore, is there any college guy who can tell me what i can say to these guys to inspire them to a) shut up or b) get off their lazy ass and go talk to a girl instead of asking me how to do it because i really don't know tell them they're being stupid. they're asking you: "How do I approach girls?" and you say: "Approach them" and they say: "omg, they won't like me if I make first move! D=" By college, most girls are over the whole nerd/cool thing (at least in my experience), so it's really about these guys getting some confidence/growing a pair and just talking to girls. If you really can't just talk to them without a good social excuse and aren't a party-goer, try going to office hours for common classes or get involved with similar groups on campus. I don't really get why this shit is so hard for some guys... Really you go about meeting and befriending girls the same way you go about meeting and befriending guys. You find some common interest and fucking talk to them. Especially in college, where most relationships tend to develop from a friendship (again, at least in my experience), I don't get why guys have such a hard time with this. Oh yea, and common areas in dorms. As I remember it, there were always people chilling in the common areas of our dorm doing homework, watching TV/movies and just generally hanging out. These social situations are super duper easy, and frankly, if you can't meet and befriend girls under these circumstances, you're in for a hell of a time when you leave college and you lose all these easy means by which to meet women. | ||
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Hassybaby
United Kingdom10823 Posts
On September 02 2011 01:02 Mogwai wrote: tell them they're being stupid. they're asking you: "How do I approach girls?" and you say: "Approach them" and they say: "omg, they won't like me if I make first move! D=" By college, most girls are over the whole nerd/cool thing (at least in my experience), so it's really about these guys getting some confidence/growing a pair and just talking to girls. If you really can't just talk to them without a good social excuse and aren't a party-goer, try going to office hours for common classes or get involved with similar groups on campus. I don't really get why this shit is so hard for some guys... Really you go about meeting and befriending girls the same way you go about meeting and befriending guys. You find some common interest and fucking talk to them. Especially in college, where most relationships tend to develop from a friendship (again, at least in my experience), I don't get why guys have such a hard time with this. Oh yea, and common areas in dorms. As I remember it, there were always people chilling in the common areas of our dorm doing homework, watching TV/movies and just generally hanging out. These social situations are super duper easy, and frankly, if you can't meet and befriend girls under these circumstances, you're in for a hell of a time when you leave college and you lose all these easy means by which to meet women. Has this thread really got to the point where people are giving advice to guys about giving advice to guys about girls? Yo dawg, I heard you like girl blog advice.... Yeah, the OP got it right with the 2 options. Shut up and just go out and do it. Join a club, go to a bar, talk to others in lectures, DO SOMETHING | ||
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