EPTA blog about a girl... Part 6 - Page 3
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Enfold
United States110 Posts
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zenMaster
Canada761 Posts
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Straught
Mexico157 Posts
You Mosby-ed her! | ||
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Conversion
United States3308 Posts
On March 10 2011 10:07 AyeH wrote: Aight, that's fine with me. Hehe. I guess that's what you get when you post things on an internet forum. People tell you things you don't want to hear. No, that's what you get for being arrogant and derailing the thread into a topic of infatuation vs. love. It's a story, not a 'what do i do with this girl?' or 'is this really love?' blog. Anyways, thanks for the stories  keeps me entertained when I should be asleep. | ||
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AyeH
United States534 Posts
On March 10 2011 15:56 Conversion wrote: No, that's what you get for being arrogant and derailing the thread into a topic of infatuation vs. love. It's a story, not a 'what do i do with this girl?' or 'is this really love?' blog. Anyways, thanks for the stories keeps me entertained when I should be asleep.lol it doesn't make me arrogant to give a person advice that most people would find to be good advice. the story ended with him saying i love u so thats why i'm commenting on it. just because i want to comment on his story via advice and criticism doesn't mean i'm arrogant. i'm not derailing the thread when it has to do with his story. | ||
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Never.Die
Japan189 Posts
On March 09 2011 17:03 AyeH wrote: telling her love that you love her this early in a relationship is a sign of insecurity. girls can see that too. not all, but most girls yes. you definitely jumped the gun on that one and to be honest, you won't know if you love her until you've been through more than 2 dates. infatuation doesn't mean you love her. if you love her, 10 months or more from now, you will buckle down with her and help her through the toughest struggles in her life and not waiver. that is love. http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove/59_relationship_expert.html http://www.tressugar.com/Do-Tell-When-Too-Soon-Say-I-Love-You-1053886 read that^^ but i will say that your writing skills are good. you make the story enjoyable to read. Want to quote this because this is very important. Although I've never actually felt love for a girl, maybe because I can always see myself getting another one, but even if I did, I wouldn't tell her that, and especially never early in a relationship. Like this good man says, it basically shows how insecure you are. But yeah OP, she looks kinda cute in that picture you put of her. Not going to lie though, she looks a bit out of your league, so nice catch. | ||
Souma
2nd Worst City in CA8938 Posts
On March 10 2011 14:43 Straught wrote: OH NO YOU DIDN'T! You Mosby-ed her! Lol okay, this made me laugh. But really, can we all just agree to disagree and stop arguing this further? It's a nice story and you guys are ruining the mood with stuff that cannot be proven. | ||
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Sotamursu
Finland612 Posts
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AyeH
United States534 Posts
On March 10 2011 14:43 Straught wrote: OH NO YOU DIDN'T! You Mosby-ed her! ROFL! that's a good one. considering i watch that show religiously. lol | ||
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-KarmA
United States353 Posts
On March 10 2011 16:02 AyeH wrote: lol it doesn't make me arrogant to give a person advice that most people would find to be good advice. the story ended with him saying i love u so thats why i'm commenting on it. just because i want to comment on his story via advice and criticism doesn't mean i'm arrogant. i'm not derailing the thread when it has to do with his story. It does make you arrogant because you persist on this blog to constantly give your opinion when it doesnt matter. Youre basically "That guy" on the strategy forums that says "Didnt watch the replay but here what i would do..." and then cites "BTW im a 5k point master T" | ||
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AyeH
United States534 Posts
On March 11 2011 05:50 MOARpylons wrote: It does make you arrogant because you persist on this blog to constantly give your opinion when it doesnt matter. Youre basically "That guy" on the strategy forums that says "Didnt watch the replay but here what i would do..." and then cites "BTW im a 5k point master T" After clearly analyzing your stories (kind of like watching a replay), I said what I wanted to say. It definitely seems like you are inexperienced and very insecure because why else would you say I love you to a girl if you knew the difference between love and infatuation? Once you get past 6-8 months, you'll realize what love is. Maybe sooner, but not on the second date. And I'm not the only person here stating that you dropped the L word too early. For christsake, the first comment on your blog stated it as well. Just because I'm not praising you and saying everything you did was perfect doesn't mean I'm arrogant. It just makes you seem even more insecure because you can't take good advice from people. | ||
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Souma
2nd Worst City in CA8938 Posts
And by the way, at this point it's not advice, it's just criticism. The whole situation with you claiming your view on love and infatuation reigns supreme and if he doesn't agree he's just being insecure = you being arrogant/closed-minded. Now, we all agree that he dropped the Mosby too early, but you really can't just dismiss his feelings because of what you think love and infatuation is. I'll even agree with you that in the mass majority of cases, you would be right, it's more often infatuation. But really, how can you tell another guy what he is feeling at a single moment in time, especially when you know nothing about him and were not there with him? The way you push your case so hard on an issue that cannot be proven is arrogance. You may be trying to be realistic, but if you tell me there is never, in the history of the entire world and its infinite future, a case where someone can fall head over heels early on in a relationship or at first sight, I would have to say that you are not being realistic, but prejudiced against love. A few years from now MOARpylons may look back on that moment and know what the feeling really was; whether it was infatuation, love, impulse, or a combination of such. For now, though, don't deny a man his feelings; the heart knows what it wants. | ||
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Conversion
United States3308 Posts
Sure, other people said it too, but they don't tell him that he's being insecure and that he's infatuated. They show him mild disapproval as, who would have guessed, their opinions don't agree. You took it too far and basically assume he was infatuated and insecure. He may or may not be, but do you really have a right to tell him that? At this point, you're just being completely narrow minded. You're blinded by thinking he doesn't want to listen to "good advice." No matter how good the advice is, if one didn't ask for it, it's worthless. You don't see me going around to all the people in grief, "Suck it up. You're not going to go anywhere just mourning. Move on with your life; it's the best thing to do." Is it true and good advice? Perhaps. Does the situation call for it? Absolutely not. If he never asked you for advice, don't give it to him. There's a difference between giving constructive criticism at opportune times and just throwing out your "good advice" when he didn't ask for it. Stop being arrogant by thinking you're right. You were obviously in the wrong by saying he was infatuated ans insecure. Don't give advice where it's not needed; it's a simple concept. edit - ninja'd by the guy above me and took out offensive word. no need for insults. | ||
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-KarmA
United States353 Posts
On March 11 2011 07:23 AyeH wrote: After clearly analyzing your stories (kind of like watching a replay), I said what I wanted to say. It definitely seems like you are inexperienced and very insecure because why else would you say I love you to a girl if you knew the difference between love and infatuation? Once you get past 6-8 months, you'll realize what love is. Maybe sooner, but not on the second date. And I'm not the only person here stating that you dropped the L word too early. For christsake, the first comment on your blog stated it as well. Just because I'm not praising you and saying everything you did was perfect doesn't mean I'm arrogant. It just makes you seem even more insecure because you can't take good advice from people. Youre arrogant because YOURE the only one whos kept going on with it. Youre "Analyzing" way too far into a story that isnt finished or even includes all the details. Youre taking it WAY too seriously. Nobody asked for advice or for you to keep coming back to throw your two cents in and try to rally everyone else who thinks the same as you. What you dont realize is im not you. Im not as insecure as you think. I do know the difference between love and infatuation. Youve stated your opinion many many times. And yet when someone tries to at least stick up for me just a little you come back and shoot them down and continue on trying to dominate this derailed bullshit. Its a story, not a "OMG I DROPPED THE L BOMB SECOND DATE HELP PLS" blog. You know why i said it? Because this woman has stolen my heart. Her, Her son, Her Family, and all of her flaws. It doesnt matter to me. This is alot more serious than any other woman ive dated. Any hardship well have we will conquer. And no "Dating Professionals" on websites, or the random naysayer on TL is going to change that. But seriously this is just childish. Stop pointing out what you think is right for me and apply it to your life | ||
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AyeH
United States534 Posts
On March 11 2011 08:14 Souma wrote: You are actually being extremely arrogant. And by the way, at this point it's not advice, it's just criticism. The whole situation with you claiming your view on love and infatuation reigns supreme and if he doesn't agree he's just being insecure = you being arrogant/closed-minded. Now, we all agree that he dropped the Mosby too early, but you really can't just dismiss his feelings because of what you think love and infatuation is. I'll even agree with you that in the mass majority of cases, you would be right, it's more often infatuation. But really, how can you tell another guy what he is feeling at a single moment in time, especially when you know nothing about him and were not there with him? The way you push your case so hard on an issue that cannot be proven is arrogance. You may be trying to be realistic, but if you tell me there is never, in the history of the entire world and its infinite future, a case where someone can fall head over heels early on in a relationship or at first sight, I would have to say that you are not being realistic, but prejudiced against love. A few years from now MOARpylons may look back on that moment and know what the feeling really was; whether it was infatuation, love, impulse, or a combination of such. For now, though, don't deny a man his feelings; the heart knows what it wants. Head over heels does not equal love. To most people, it means you are obsessed with the person. What I'm saying is that love is more than falling head over heels for someone. It's way past that. And from the story, you can get a clear sense of how he thinks and who he is. You can read the story and see his person in the story. So don't say that just because I'm not him or I wasn't there, doesn't mean I don't know exactly how he feels. I've had feelings like he has for Ashley with my current gf but I knew that it wasn't love. Not until much later. There's no such thing as love at first sight. Everything is physical. Love goes more than physical. Plus, you read what he says and he goes on saying how he was freaking out about certain things. Why would you tell a person you love them when you can't even wrap your head around their own problems? I'm no longer advising him and just responding to people's comments. At first I was advising, but now I'm just defending my points. That doesn't make me arrogant. Just because I'm stating an obvious truth and you are unable to grasp it doesn't make me arrogant. You are being arrogant by stating that I am arrogant, then going about saying how I am probably right, but that there is a sliver of chance that I am wrong. If I am arrogant, so are you. Because your position cannot be proven either. I'm not saying he can't be obsessed with her. All I told him was to get his feelings in check because infatuation is not the same as love and you shouldn't be going up to every girl you fall for and tell them that you love her on the second date because unlike him, most girls take love more seriously than a four letter word. edit: You're obsessed with her, you're not in love. Be honest, what's the longest relationship you've been in? That should explain a lot. Infatuation can cause people to dismiss people's flaws at first. You must be really inexperienced. | ||
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-KarmA
United States353 Posts
Hmm... Not quite as inexperienced as you thought | ||
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Souma
2nd Worst City in CA8938 Posts
On March 11 2011 08:30 AyeH wrote: Head over heels does not equal love. To most people, it means you are obsessed with the person. What I'm saying is that love is more than falling head over heels for someone. It's way past that. And from the story, you can get a clear sense of how he thinks and who he is. You can read the story and see his person in the story. So don't say that just because I'm not him or I wasn't there, doesn't mean I don't know exactly how he feels. I've had feelings like he has for Ashley with my current gf but I knew that it wasn't love. Not until much later. There's no such thing as love at first sight. Everything is physical. Love goes more than physical. Plus, you read what he says and he goes on saying how he was freaking out about certain things. Why would you tell a person you love them when you can't even wrap your head around their own problems? I'm no longer advising him and just responding to people's comments. At first I was advising, but now I'm just defending my points. That doesn't make me arrogant. Just because I'm stating an obvious truth and you are unable to grasp it doesn't make me arrogant. You are being arrogant by stating that I am arrogant, then going about saying how I am probably right, but that there is a sliver of chance that I am wrong. If I am arrogant, so are you. Because your position cannot be proven either. I'm not saying he can't be obsessed with her. All I told him was to get his feelings in check because infatuation is not the same as love and you shouldn't be going up to every girl you fall for and tell them that you love her on the second date because unlike him, most girls take love more seriously than a four letter word. Do you not see what you are doing in your argument? You are pushing your own view on something as if it's the undeniable truth. You do not see something wrong with that? I don't want to argue, I just really want you to glance over how you are approaching this. It's your opinion, but you are stating it as a fact. | ||
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-KarmA
United States353 Posts
Thanks for sticking up for me at least a little to all of you who did. Means alot to me. (Souma and Conversion) Next chapters on the way. Expect something later tonight  | ||
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Garnet
Vietnam9033 Posts
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CaffeineFree-_-
United States712 Posts
Nice read, at first I thought it was a fiction story it was so good ;o | ||
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