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On November 17 2010 15:00 Froadac wrote: However, I"m white, male
Oh wow I just assumed from the general tone of the blog that you had to be Asian with parents who are the reason the stereotype of Asian parents exists. This revelation just adds another level of ‘What?’ to the equation.
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On November 17 2010 15:09 SichuanPanda wrote:Show nested quote +On November 17 2010 15:05 Froadac wrote:On November 17 2010 15:04 SichuanPanda wrote:On November 17 2010 15:03 Froadac wrote:On November 17 2010 15:01 SichuanPanda wrote: The best approach to deal with parents raging like this I found at least was to point out to them all the things you HAVE done right (even though in reality the thing you've done 'wrong' are unwarranted), and to also indicate to them that its pretty difficult to be motivated when whether you succeed at 10% or 110% its never good enough for their standards. Another good one is to simply not care and intentionally infuriate them (lol) when your mom went on about how she wanted to 'break your neck' or whatever a good response would be 'gee if you get this made about me moving the computer from room to the other what would happen if I did something really bad?'. Basically you have to show the attitude of not caring towards their REMARKS, but at the same time do the very best you can in school, etc. - eventually (and I really mean eventually, it took mine about four years) they will realize their stupidity. Unfortunately the canned response to that they always give is "just because other people are being dumb doesn't mean you have to" My canned response to that is 'Ironic how you fail to follow your own advice isn't it?' Quite epic sir. Quite epic. Unfortunately, that generally leads to further sanctions (ie no teamliquid ) Yea my parents tried to pull a 'no internet for a week' type thing in high school, and sometimes they might follow through on it - for a few hours, but then they cool off and logic sets. I'm not going to presume to know how your parents would react though, all I know is that for mine to accept that I still wasn't 12 years old when I was actually 16-18 (the three years they pulled these kinda stunts) things had to get worse before they got better. Yeah. It certainly makes a fair bit of sense. My parents are overall just full of irony. I'm president of two 50 person clubs, and I have no responsibility, and act like I'm 5
@antiochus yeah, if I tell anyone on the interwebs about my parents, they assume I'm asian. It's fine
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On November 17 2010 15:11 Antiochus wrote:Oh wow I just assumed from the general tone of the blog that you had to be Asian with parents who are the reason the stereotype of Asian parents exists. This revelation just adds another level of ‘What?’ to the equation. You may note that there were several give-aways to his Caucasian-ness hidden within the text.
First, the "Berkley or Bust" stick-it. I do not know a single Asian person who uses that sort of language, they're always middle-ish class white people.
Secondly, by the sound of it his mother is a bit of a bored, failed housewife. Asian mothers are more likely to have a part time job or be epically involved in house-work all the time.
Lastly, his mother watches PBS. Who watches PBS who isn't white?
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Osaka27105 Posts
How did a white guy get Asian parents?
edit - Oh the guy above me totally debunked it with the PBS comment. Well played sir.
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On November 17 2010 15:29 RisingTide wrote:Show nested quote +On November 17 2010 15:11 Antiochus wrote:On November 17 2010 15:00 Froadac wrote: However, I"m white, male Oh wow I just assumed from the general tone of the blog that you had to be Asian with parents who are the reason the stereotype of Asian parents exists. This revelation just adds another level of ‘What?’ to the equation. You may note that there were several give-aways to his Caucasian-ness hidden within the text. First, the "Berkley or Bust" stick-it. I do not know a single Asian person who uses that sort of language, they're always middle-ish class white people. Secondly, by the sound of it his mother is a bit of a bored, failed housewife. Asian mothers are more likely to have a part time job or be epically involved in house-work all the time. Lastly, his mother watches PBS. Who watches PBS who isn't white? True. Berkeley or bust is quite white :D
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On November 17 2010 15:35 Froadac wrote:Show nested quote +On November 17 2010 15:29 RisingTide wrote:On November 17 2010 15:11 Antiochus wrote:On November 17 2010 15:00 Froadac wrote: However, I"m white, male Oh wow I just assumed from the general tone of the blog that you had to be Asian with parents who are the reason the stereotype of Asian parents exists. This revelation just adds another level of ‘What?’ to the equation. You may note that there were several give-aways to his Caucasian-ness hidden within the text. First, the "Berkley or Bust" stick-it. I do not know a single Asian person who uses that sort of language, they're always middle-ish class white people. Secondly, by the sound of it his mother is a bit of a bored, failed housewife. Asian mothers are more likely to have a part time job or be epically involved in house-work all the time. Lastly, his mother watches PBS. Who watches PBS who isn't white? True. Berkeley or bust is quite white :D
Lol. All I can say is get into that school for yourself, and yourself alone, don't do it just because your parents are breathing down your neck, just keep in mind that despite all the arguements and bullshit its happening because they care what happens (evidently too much). Its not like they are trying to be malicious in your studies rather taking the incorrect approach (negative reinforcement as opposed to positive) to encourage you to do well. Hopefully when you do get into the school - because judging by your posts and your ability to make correct psychological conclusions about your parents behavior, you are clearly intelligent enough to pull it off - your parents will ease up.
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On November 17 2010 15:42 SichuanPanda wrote:Show nested quote +On November 17 2010 15:35 Froadac wrote:On November 17 2010 15:29 RisingTide wrote:On November 17 2010 15:11 Antiochus wrote:On November 17 2010 15:00 Froadac wrote: However, I"m white, male Oh wow I just assumed from the general tone of the blog that you had to be Asian with parents who are the reason the stereotype of Asian parents exists. This revelation just adds another level of ‘What?’ to the equation. You may note that there were several give-aways to his Caucasian-ness hidden within the text. First, the "Berkley or Bust" stick-it. I do not know a single Asian person who uses that sort of language, they're always middle-ish class white people. Secondly, by the sound of it his mother is a bit of a bored, failed housewife. Asian mothers are more likely to have a part time job or be epically involved in house-work all the time. Lastly, his mother watches PBS. Who watches PBS who isn't white? True. Berkeley or bust is quite white :D Lol. All I can say is get into that school for yourself, and yourself alone, don't do it just because your parents are breathing down your neck, just keep in mind that despite all the arguements and bullshit its happening because they care what happens (evidently too much). Its not like they are trying to be malicious in your studies rather taking the incorrect approach (negative reinforcement as opposed to positive) to encourage you to do well. Hopefully when you do get into the school - because judging by your posts and your ability to make correct psychological conclusions about your parents behavior, you are clearly intelligent enough to pull it off - your parents will ease up. Yeah. Parents are weird. They are incredibly worried about "closing doors"and are certain I can't get into berkeley, but they don't really have a school they want me to get into. If I don't drag up my GPA, I won't be able to, but work work work! Thanks for the encouragement.
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Pshaw why go to Berkeley if theres Stanford right nearby? :D :D :D
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On November 17 2010 15:52 Entropic wrote: Pshaw why go to Berkeley if theres Stanford right nearby? :D :D :D If only, if only, I sigh.
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There are some parents that at a certain moment in life ceize to have their own life and start living through their children. The reason they're mad at you is because they're basically investing everything they have in your succes. You have to remind them that they're responsible for their own happiness, instead of putting all the pressure on you.
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Are you actually working hard though?
It's not always about the results, I know a lot of my friends in my high school that never got below an A- in any class and graduated top 5% of the class. All while still not really trying. But to be fair, my highschool was a joke but still. I know that with my parents, their major issue with me is that I don't do the best that I can, I just do whatever I feel like, which is usually closer to the bare minimum. Which I actually learned was a fair point
Just throwing some ideas out
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On November 17 2010 16:24 Xenocide_Knight wrote: Are you actually working hard though?
It's not always about the results, I know a lot of my friends in my high school that never got below an A- in any class and graduated top 5% of the class. All while still not really trying. But to be fair, my highschool was a joke but still. I know that with my parents, their major issue with me is that I don't do the best that I can, I just do whatever I feel like, which is usually closer to the bare minimum. Which I actually learned was a fair point
Just throwing some ideas out Yes and no. I"ve had times (earlier this semester) when I wasn't , but at the time of the incident I"certainly was working as hard as possible. Myi highschool isn't a joke XD
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Dude your life fucking sucks... There a line between parents who push their children and psychopaths and your parents crossed that line, getting RAG'd to the point of threatening physical violence to their own child over a computer being moved isn't sane. My parents didn't push me at all and that's why I'm in the military. But good God, I'd rather have mine than yours anyday. Just yeah, there's no way I'd put up with it. The biggest fight I had with my mom was when she freaked out that I hit my half brother cause he was being a effin psycho and biting the shit out of me when he was 6. Some bullshit about how I should just deal with it and not take any action, of course her response being to tell her about it but it's kinda hard when you're passed out on pain meds... but this isn't about me Just Jesus dude, how close are you to graduating High School?
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Damn dude, your parents still tell you to do things and you're in highschool? You're a grown ass man. Take life by the balls and go to bed after 10 pm.
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Surprised that some white people have Asian parents as well. The best way to deal with Asian parents is to know what's best for yourself and act on it. Do whatever the hell you think is the best course of action for you, and then let your parents yell at you. Whenever they yell at you, lecture you, or anything, make it obvious that you are zoning them out and just say "okay" once in a while. Keep on doing whatever you're doing. If you are studying, just keep on reading your textbook while your parents are talking. If you are playing sc2, just keep on playing sc2 while your parents are screaming at you to go study. Even if the beat you, just ignore it. The worst thing you can try to do is to talk with your parents or try to reason with them. A parents is ALWAYS irrational 100% of the time, no matter what kind of a parent they are. That's why you cannot reason with them. If you obey every command that your parents give you, you will fail at life, and even your grades won't be the highest. It is your job to defy your parents and do what is best for yourself. Be sure to keep feeding results though. Whenever you do well on a test or make some significant achievement, tell it to your parents and then ignore all compliments/complaints that they have. Keep maintaining this process of completely shutting out your parents and then bringing back good grades, and eventually, your parents will get off your ass.
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stay strong, your parents are idiots. just try to get them not too mad to throw you out, cause that would be rather problematic ^^
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Yeah, yeah, similar things happened in my high school times as well. Parents yellin' at me about how little I study, how my classmates are studying, how are my marks and their marks etc etc. They always compared me with my friends, yelled about how my teachers hate me, my teachers' opinions about how those friends of mine being better than me and I won't succeed in the exam but my friends will etc. They somehow thought that I'd rank worse than 15th in my class in the university entrance exams (WTF) and they expressed those stupid opinions to my family (ROFL). My best friend's family didn't want him to talk to me because his grades are getting lower because of me (OMGWTFLOLROFLMAO).
But, in our previous system (the one that was valid when I was preparing for university), there was 1 exam worth 300 points, high school marks are worth 80 points (similar to korean style) and points from hs marks were determined with your degree in school and school's exam degree. My high school was one of the best in my country, so despite being ~50th or so in my high school (with over 91/100 cumulative GPA), I got over 79/80 high school points. It was like 79.1 or something like that. And yes, the 300 point exam (it was only 1 exam of slightly over 3 hours). And, guess my rank after the exam! I scored 2nd in my class and was in top 10 of the school (may even be top 5).
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YEAH THE VICTORY !!! I was like "WHAT!!! the fuck... BITCH???" in the every single time I went to school after that or every single time I saw one of my teachers. And guess what they said about me: "Well, we always knew what you were capable to do yada yada yada". I was like "SHUTCHA MOUTH BITCH!!!". And now everytime my family starts talking with their friends about my university exam stories like "he didn't even study 1 4th of his friends" I can proudly say "come to the conclusion part".
To wrap up: DON'T give a FUCK to what your family or teachers are thinking about you. They know NOTHING.
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Osaka27105 Posts
YEAH THE VICTORY !!! I was like "WHAT!!! the fuck... BITCH???" in the every single time I went to school after that or every single time I saw one of my teachers. And guess what they said about me: "Well, we always knew what you were capable to do yada yada yada". I was like "SHUTCHA MOUTH BITCH!!!". And now everytime my family starts talking with their friends about my university exam stories like "he didn't even study 1 4th of his friends" I can proudly say "come to the conclusion part".
To wrap up: DON'T give a FUCK to what your family or teachers are thinking about you. They know NOTHING.
You sound awesome.
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well, just score really high on your SATs and you should be fine, no?
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Canada9720 Posts
hussein bolt? lol he's not from the middle east dude
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