Yesterday was a bad day. I scored 20 percent above class average on an AP chem test to be yelled at. Epic failed at an unfair pop quiz, and brought my GPA down to 4.2. So sad inside, even made a sticky on my desktop to remind me to feel guilty every time I turn on my computer.
So I get home and go shit shit shit shit epic rage incoming from parents, and get straight to work. Work work work work work work.
I’m in the clear, I’m working on math at 9:30, I’m being told to go to bed (something I might actually do at 10:00 given the circumstances…) and
Both of my parents come out of their room off the grades website like Hussein bolt melted some large abombination from starship troopers. Or like some bull running at me, a brightly colored fail student. Except for two large horns, it was brandishing a disgusting quantity of bullshit to throw at me.
In any case, as soon as I heard the ominous pounding you only hear in lord of the rings, I knew I was fucked. I quickly closed Wikipedia windows (I waste all my time there, you know), my email, and even ironically in panic MY ONLY WINDOW WHERE I WAS WORKING. Both parents came out, and initiated to talk about my worthlessness. The normal response to their antics is to act like a shitproof surface, and just wait. Unfortunately, they came with a memorandum… I think of something that would help me in school or they keep me up all night, prevent me from doing anything, and blame me for their sleep loss. I came up with some ideas, but they didn’t take kindly to any of them. Some of them included. 1. Working harder 2. Cleaning up 3. Becoming more organized 4. Dedicating a fixed portion of each day to studies 5. Getting off teamliquid permanently (err, what a lie rofl) At this point I’m legitimately thinking what I can say to get them off my backs. They, like firebathero, are too annoying for me to ignore. My desk with my computer is tiny, and with the speakers and monitor there is about no available space to work. (Imagine that with a textbook, a calculator, pens and pencils, etc) I think “I’ll move it to my room, where I have much more room on my desk” This is met with hell no, all you’ll ever do is mess around blah blah blah. Eventually, they got tired and fell for some equally bullshit of idea of what I’d do, but this does not compare to the idiocy to follow. At this point, after being yelled at and barbecued for literally 3 hours, I’m fairly well… pissed off. So apart from going and listening to the roomie version of I’m not a witch (epic btw)
I decided fuck this, I’m moving the computer into my room. Sooo I took my computer, unplugged it, and moved it under my desk, covering it with a sweatshirt. At this point I realize my parents would sent me to slaughter for this, so I return to I wake up this morning, hoping they haven’t noticed. WOOT THEY havn’et. Then I think, what the fuck can I do with it, if they actually realize it’s gone I”ll be screwed, and I can’t use it in there in any case. (I’m a bit of a retard) (I also actually own my computer) I get back from school, study in my room, basically refusing to reply to my mom’s snyde comments that I never study. (All the hell she ever does is listen to PBS world, which our tv station just dropped much to her ranting and dismay.)
PBS World is a 24-hour digital channel showing documentaries, current affairs, and history programs
So at this point I’m just so pissed I say let’s make this all in. I take the monitor from the computer desk put it in my room, take a picture, MARVEL AT THE AWESOMENESS. Sit down. Stare. Smile. Gaze, directly into the sweet twin fans of the front of the antec 300 case…. To be awakened by my mom coming down the hall (again, think lord of the rings.) At this point I just say whatever. She comes in, yells at me, the elderly bassoon teacher with my brother looks at her like she’s a bitch, but that’s not that surprising. She then stops talking and states that she is incredibly angry. At this point I noted she looked like one of those world champion sumo wrestlers. I say, well, I only had it to “see what it would look like” She responded by saying YOU KNOW I DIDN’T WANT THAT ALL YOUD DO IS SCREW AROUND I just facebed (not facepalm, I think I was carrying something) and put up with a 10 minute lecture about how now she can’t trust me, and about how my doorknob will be removed. I now I have a three inch round hole in my door…. She left. Don’t know for where. She has no friends. My aunt kicked her out last time she left because of me. Anyways, the logistics aside, she returned with the disclaimer “On a scale of 1-10, 10 being the maddest, I’m at a trillion.” Ignoring this obvious logical flaw, she then proceeded to the heart of this deeply woven story, with the well phrased, poetic (though not in iambic pentameter verse of “I need to leave again, because I can’t see you. (I didn’t think I was THAT ugly o.O) If I see you more I will do something and the police will be here. Why be soft. I want to kill you and bash in your skull. I want to bash your head into the door. I want to kick your face. I WANT TO (hand motions included) BREAK YOUR NECK
I just sat there with the following look on my face:
Given that these kinds of events happen fairly frequently, this will be the first blog in a series of many. Feel free to post comments, advice for writing, and whatnot.
Are you serious? Your mom gave you all this crap for 'not studying'?
What was the average mark in your class - and you said you got 20% over it? Doesn't sound horrible to me.
Anyway, tell your mum you'd be much more productive in an evironment with less stress and pressure. Tell her you're aware of your own goals and have your own motivation - all her yelling and screaming is not helping.
Also, tell her to stop living vicariously through you. Your success != her success.
so when you say your gpa is 4.2 what scale are we using here? Are we talking 4.5 scale or 9 point scale? Your answer will help determine whether or not I think you're a tool.
haha nice blog i thoroughly enjoyed it. I'm going to go on a whim and assume asian parents but meh =P. I've heard the whole you make me so angry i'm gonna do somethign the cops will be after me for. Don't completely dismiss this as the normal BS if your old lady is anything like mine she can snap and next thing you know shes trying to stick you with a pair of kitchen scissors. =/
Do what you gotta' do. Bite your tongue, keep working, keep studying.... then when you graduate move far, far away. If you're taking AP classes you're likely a senior (can you take AP as a junior? I don't remember at this point) so you've only got ~2/3 of a year to eat their shit.
On November 17 2010 14:56 Froadac wrote: Out of a 5.0. Pretty damn good. About the mean to get into UC Berkeley.
not quite. you're asian so that kind of shoots your gpa to shit relatively. the average takes into account underrepresented minorities and athletes, which bias it down pretty hard
On November 17 2010 14:56 Froadac wrote: Out of a 5.0. Pretty damn good. About the mean to get into UC Berkeley.
not quite. you're asian so that kind of shoots your gpa to shit relatively. the average takes into account underrepresented minorities and athletes, which bias it down pretty hard
Berekeley is 4.18. THey do bias it. However, I"m white, male, and have uber extracurriculars and volunteering.
The best approach to deal with parents raging like this I found at least was to point out to them all the things you HAVE done right (even though in reality the thing you've done 'wrong' are unwarranted), and to also indicate to them that its pretty difficult to be motivated when whether you succeed at 10% or 110% its never good enough for their standards. Another good one is to simply not care and intentionally infuriate them (lol) when your mom went on about how she wanted to 'break your neck' or whatever a good response would be 'gee if you get this made about me moving the computer from room to the other what would happen if I did something really bad?'. Basically you have to show the attitude of not caring towards their REMARKS, but at the same time do the very best you can in school, etc. - eventually (and I really mean eventually, it took mine about four years) they will realize their stupidity.
On November 17 2010 15:01 SichuanPanda wrote: The best approach to deal with parents raging like this I found at least was to point out to them all the things you HAVE done right (even though in reality the thing you've done 'wrong' are unwarranted), and to also indicate to them that its pretty difficult to be motivated when whether you succeed at 10% or 110% its never good enough for their standards. Another good one is to simply not care and intentionally infuriate them (lol) when your mom went on about how she wanted to 'break your neck' or whatever a good response would be 'gee if you get this made about me moving the computer from room to the other what would happen if I did something really bad?'. Basically you have to show the attitude of not caring towards their REMARKS, but at the same time do the very best you can in school, etc. - eventually (and I really mean eventually, it took mine about four years) they will realize their stupidity.
Unfortunately the canned response to that they always give is "just because other people are being dumb doesn't mean you have to"
dude, i didn't even own a desk or a computer when i was in high school, i had to share the comp with the parentals (which was less than ideal). but yea i'd always get straight(ish) A's and they'd always yell at me for random shit, check the comp history (started deleting it after the first time they said something), check texts and just be super intrusive. they'd also blame all their marital (or drinking problems if you're my dad) on me. all-in-all, you just gotta brush it off bro. once you're in college you're given sooooo much freedom (just don't abuse it like i did frosh year heh). just hang in there, though, dude. a lot of us have been there under worse circumstances.
On November 17 2010 15:01 SichuanPanda wrote: The best approach to deal with parents raging like this I found at least was to point out to them all the things you HAVE done right (even though in reality the thing you've done 'wrong' are unwarranted), and to also indicate to them that its pretty difficult to be motivated when whether you succeed at 10% or 110% its never good enough for their standards. Another good one is to simply not care and intentionally infuriate them (lol) when your mom went on about how she wanted to 'break your neck' or whatever a good response would be 'gee if you get this made about me moving the computer from room to the other what would happen if I did something really bad?'. Basically you have to show the attitude of not caring towards their REMARKS, but at the same time do the very best you can in school, etc. - eventually (and I really mean eventually, it took mine about four years) they will realize their stupidity.
Unfortunately the canned response to that they always give is "just because other people are being dumb doesn't mean you have to"
My canned response to that is 'Ironic how you fail to follow your own advice isn't it?'
On November 17 2010 15:03 wrestlingfool08 wrote: dude, i didn't even own a desk or a computer when i was in high school, i had to share the comp with the parentals (which was less than ideal). but yea i'd always get straight(ish) A's and they'd always yell at me for random shit, check the comp history (started deleting it after the first time they said something), check texts and just be super intrusive. they'd also blame all their marital (or drinking problems if you're my dad) on me. all-in-all, you just gotta brush it off bro. once you're in college you're given sooooo much freedom (just don't abuse it like i did frosh year heh). just hang in there, though, dude. a lot of us have been there under worse circumstances.
haha. So true. I'm from a suburban family, and things could be much much much much worse. But venting is good.
On November 17 2010 15:01 SichuanPanda wrote: The best approach to deal with parents raging like this I found at least was to point out to them all the things you HAVE done right (even though in reality the thing you've done 'wrong' are unwarranted), and to also indicate to them that its pretty difficult to be motivated when whether you succeed at 10% or 110% its never good enough for their standards. Another good one is to simply not care and intentionally infuriate them (lol) when your mom went on about how she wanted to 'break your neck' or whatever a good response would be 'gee if you get this made about me moving the computer from room to the other what would happen if I did something really bad?'. Basically you have to show the attitude of not caring towards their REMARKS, but at the same time do the very best you can in school, etc. - eventually (and I really mean eventually, it took mine about four years) they will realize their stupidity.
Unfortunately the canned response to that they always give is "just because other people are being dumb doesn't mean you have to"
My canned response to that is 'Ironic how you fail to follow your own advice isn't it?'
Quite epic sir. Quite epic. Unfortunately, that generally leads to further sanctions (ie no teamliquid )
On November 17 2010 15:03 wrestlingfool08 wrote: dude, i didn't even own a desk or a computer when i was in high school, i had to share the comp with the parentals (which was less than ideal). but yea i'd always get straight(ish) A's and they'd always yell at me for random shit, check the comp history (started deleting it after the first time they said something), check texts and just be super intrusive. they'd also blame all their marital (or drinking problems if you're my dad) on me. all-in-all, you just gotta brush it off bro. once you're in college you're given sooooo much freedom (just don't abuse it like i did frosh year heh). just hang in there, though, dude. a lot of us have been there under worse circumstances.
haha. So true. I'm from a suburban family, and things could be much much much much worse. But venting is good.
yea totally! i agree venting is therapeutic. just wanted to throw in my two cents good luck with the Berkley business!
EDIT: also, venting is better than killing hookers lol so good choice.
On November 17 2010 15:01 SichuanPanda wrote: The best approach to deal with parents raging like this I found at least was to point out to them all the things you HAVE done right (even though in reality the thing you've done 'wrong' are unwarranted), and to also indicate to them that its pretty difficult to be motivated when whether you succeed at 10% or 110% its never good enough for their standards. Another good one is to simply not care and intentionally infuriate them (lol) when your mom went on about how she wanted to 'break your neck' or whatever a good response would be 'gee if you get this made about me moving the computer from room to the other what would happen if I did something really bad?'. Basically you have to show the attitude of not caring towards their REMARKS, but at the same time do the very best you can in school, etc. - eventually (and I really mean eventually, it took mine about four years) they will realize their stupidity.
Unfortunately the canned response to that they always give is "just because other people are being dumb doesn't mean you have to"
My canned response to that is 'Ironic how you fail to follow your own advice isn't it?'
Quite epic sir. Quite epic. Unfortunately, that generally leads to further sanctions (ie no teamliquid )
Yea my parents tried to pull a 'no internet for a week' type thing in high school, and sometimes they might follow through on it - for a few hours, but then they cool off and logic sets. I'm not going to presume to know how your parents would react though, all I know is that for mine to accept that I still wasn't 12 years old when I was actually 16-18 (the three years they pulled these kinda stunts) things had to get worse before they got better.
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good luck with the Berkley business!
