On January 12 2010 11:00 {88}iNcontroL wrote:
Go to the zoo. Go to the science museum. Ride bikes. Shoot hoops. Go to the park. Go to the pool. Watch a movie. Volunteer at an animal shelter with her (walking dogs, petting cats etc etc). Start a model together. Do puzzles.
as for the religious problem: I understand you see her getting indoctrinated and you do not like it. I understand you want to intercede but chances are you will do more harm than good. If you directly compete you will force her to be in the middle. If you subtly try to suggest the competitive mode of thought you are as bad as they are. It is tough when people are raised in hardcore X households but it isn't our place to decide to "free" them or "arm" them with the "superior knowledge."
If she asks you questions answer them honestly. If she wants to know about your belief system share. But don't plot to control her thoughts or beliefs through direct or indirect methods.
Go to the zoo. Go to the science museum. Ride bikes. Shoot hoops. Go to the park. Go to the pool. Watch a movie. Volunteer at an animal shelter with her (walking dogs, petting cats etc etc). Start a model together. Do puzzles.
as for the religious problem: I understand you see her getting indoctrinated and you do not like it. I understand you want to intercede but chances are you will do more harm than good. If you directly compete you will force her to be in the middle. If you subtly try to suggest the competitive mode of thought you are as bad as they are. It is tough when people are raised in hardcore X households but it isn't our place to decide to "free" them or "arm" them with the "superior knowledge."
If she asks you questions answer them honestly. If she wants to know about your belief system share. But don't plot to control her thoughts or beliefs through direct or indirect methods.
inc you rock.