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"asian parents" haha
any 3rd world country parents will do the same
mine were just as strict, i used to get smacked around, beat with a "belt", verbally "abused"
sometimes i felt like i was completely in the right, sometimes i knew it was coming
i just cant explain why i tossed salads at walls and threw food at ceilings watching it stick to it and then fall off. I dont know why me and my bro made paper planes and tossed them out the window after putting on fire, maybe hundreds of them. I dont know why we threw eggs at people from our apartment on the 6th floor, i dont know why we covered floors with jam or burned carpet with a hot iron. We got beat to death every time and we still did it rofl. I had the biggest mouth at school, teachers complained all the time i was getting slaughtered at home even when i was 16. I cant remember if i ever got smacked in the face after going to college, at least once i did( i fought my bro and after my dad smelled alchohol on me he went nuts) I am pretty sure i could fight back at that time but you just dont do that vs own dad haha.
I cant say if it helped me or not, i just never seen it the other way. I dotn know what kind of sick shit would i do if i was never punished. So i hope it was for the best!
On August 09 2009 09:46 YPang wrote:
My computer is in an office desk which i also study on, so i can quickly exit the stuff and pretend to be studying and shit :D. But yea they said they'd pay my college fees, but i'd have to pay them back except without interest fees like in banks.
LOL. So your parents accepted the "western" idea of dealing with college payments but they still trying to school you old fashioned way? HAHA. This is lame? Even when i got beat up i knew i would never have to worry about anything if it depended on my mom and dad. Theyd give me their last penny if i needed it and never ask for anything in return. Thats how it should work and thats why i saw a certain logic behind this.
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On August 09 2009 13:17 food wrote:"asian parents" haha any 3rd world country parents will do the same mine were just as strict, i used to get smacked around, beat with a "belt", verbally "abused" sometimes i felt like i was completely in the right, sometimes i knew it was coming i just cant explain why i tossed salads at walls and threw food at ceilings watching it stick to it and then fall off. I dont know why me and my bro made paper planes and tossed them out the window after putting on fire, maybe hundreds of them. I dont know why we threw eggs at people from our apartment on the 6th floor, i dont know why we covered floors with jam or burned carpet with a hot iron. We got beat to death every time and we still did it rofl. I had the biggest mouth at school, teachers complained all the time i was getting slaughtered at home even when i was 16. I cant remember if i ever got smacked in the face after going to college, at least once i did( i fought my bro and after my dad smelled alchohol on me he went nuts) I am pretty sure i could fight back at that time but you just dont do that vs own dad haha. I cant say if it helped me or not, i just never seen it the other way. I dotn know what kind of sick shit would i do if i was never punished. So i hope it was for the best! Show nested quote +On August 09 2009 09:46 YPang wrote:
My computer is in an office desk which i also study on, so i can quickly exit the stuff and pretend to be studying and shit :D. But yea they said they'd pay my college fees, but i'd have to pay them back except without interest fees like in banks.
LOL. So your parents accepted the "western" idea of dealing with college payments but they still trying to school you old fashioned way? HAHA. This is lame? Even when i got beat up i knew i would never have to worry about anything if it depended on my mom and dad. Theyd give me their last penny if i needed it and never ask for anything in return. Thats how it should work and thats why i saw a certain logic behind this.
How old are you now out of curiosity?
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Philadelphia, PA10406 Posts
Of course it's difficult. But I ask you which is more difficult. Remaining in this state of total depression is going to be worse in the long term, far worse, than a confrontation. I'm sure of this.
Look, what I was trying to make clear is that your only option is to do something about it. Anything else simply will make the problem worse and more entrenched. How can I make it clear that you actually have to do something?
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8-12 and 1-5
Roughly 8 hours of straight hours with a 1 hour break probably used to feed your starving face.
Your parents are clueless. Your brain is not wired to retain knowledge in that way.
Your parents also don't understand that the SAT and the ACT aren't something that can be studied for like that. Sure it helps if you look over it every now and then but it's not something one really STUDIES for out of a book. Like someone said... they are aptitude tests for a reason.
Also being physically active helps grades because your brain gets rest. Your parents are really dumb... sorry.
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On August 09 2009 10:40 Ichigo1234551 wrote:
i feel sorry for you lol. I dont even study and I have same grade as you. Its feel good to be a smart asian though . I just smoke weed everyday and only study before tests.
I've seen your posts/blogs, you are not smart. And I'm being generous saying just that much.
Smart person would never mention being smart to begin with.
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On August 09 2009 13:21 Sadistx wrote:
How old are you now out of curiosity?
25 and i havent been home in 5 yrs
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On August 09 2009 13:31 food wrote:25 and i havent been home in 5 yrs
25 lawl
If I was your parent - lawl have to punish such naughty monster
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On August 09 2009 13:27 food wrote:Show nested quote +On August 09 2009 10:40 Ichigo1234551 wrote:
i feel sorry for you lol. I dont even study and I have same grade as you. Its feel good to be a smart asian though . I just smoke weed everyday and only study before tests. I've seen your posts/blogs, you are not smart. And I'm being generous saying just that much. Smart person would never mention being smart to begin with.
ichigo - i see you post too. You are worse than dog scraping for flea.
Btw YPANG - It's good that you accept it. Unlike Ichigo who shrouds himself with a superiority complex, at least you have the ability to imrpove. just live with it. Pain is temporary lol. Build yourself up. College - You'll be free. If you work hard, college will be shit for you. Get into a decent college.
At first, you'll be a nerd just like at home. Cuz that's what asian parents do to most kids. They make you nerdy. But if you got the balls to dance some crotches infront of kids, I'm sure you'll be having fun in coll.
Get them sats up boy.
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Philadelphia, PA10406 Posts
On August 09 2009 13:27 food wrote:Show nested quote +On August 09 2009 10:40 Ichigo1234551 wrote:
i feel sorry for you lol. I dont even study and I have same grade as you. Its feel good to be a smart asian though . I just smoke weed everyday and only study before tests. I've seen your posts/blogs, you are not smart. And I'm being generous saying just that much. Smart person would never mention being smart to begin with.
That was so uncalled for.
Also, YPang, let me mention that I think you took your first step by posting this blog, you articulated your thoughts. You didn't do so particularly methodically or well, but that's to be expected, and you got your point across. Your goal should be to encapsulate what you've written in an unemotional argument. An appeal to reason. Bring charts and facts. Be prepared. You need to develop a rational argument that you can deliver with conviction.
And do I actually expect you to do that? To be honest, not really. It's difficult to be able to see the long term in relation to the short term when you're involved. But hopefully you will try. It might be forced upon you. But I suggest you prepare for it, and deal with this problem on your own terms. Over dinner, on a totally normal night. It's your show.
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On August 09 2009 13:32 kdog3683 wrote:Show nested quote +On August 09 2009 13:27 food wrote:On August 09 2009 10:40 Ichigo1234551 wrote:
i feel sorry for you lol. I dont even study and I have same grade as you. Its feel good to be a smart asian though . I just smoke weed everyday and only study before tests. I've seen your posts/blogs, you are not smart. And I'm being generous saying just that much. Smart person would never mention being smart to begin with. ichigo - i see you post too. You are worse than dog scraping for flea.
ROFL
chinese insults are the best
On August 09 2009 13:33 tree.hugger wrote:
That was so uncalled for.
Come on, guy brags about being smart smoking trees while some "dumb" kids like YPang cant get a better grade then he does. To start off, he doesn't even know shit about how smart/dumb YPang is and what kind of school he goes too. He comes off as some arrogant kid who doesn't even realize where he's currently at and I know he isn't ANYWHERE
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On August 09 2009 13:27 food wrote:Show nested quote +On August 09 2009 10:40 Ichigo1234551 wrote:
i feel sorry for you lol. I dont even study and I have same grade as you. Its feel good to be a smart asian though . I just smoke weed everyday and only study before tests. I've seen your posts/blogs, you are not smart. And I'm being generous saying just that much. Smart person would never mention being smart to begin with.
Right. Ichigo, you know that there are people who only study the night before tests and still get perfect scores on each one? Their sleep schedule corresponds with their class schedule. And every class they take is an AP class. That's eight AP classes, roughly seven tests every two school weeks, or more than a test every other day. A perfect score on every single one. That's most definitely not you. Because they're all literate.
Yang, what's most important is that you find something you enjoy doing, and that you excel at (no, not Starcraft). This isn't going to happen if you spend your time cooped up in a room studying day and night. Hell, you'll probably end up hating subjects you could have really liked. When you find this thing you really want to do, give it your all. Not like Race and his race to B, 110%, always. Colleges like kids with a passion, and with direction in their lives. Grades mean absolute shit. You know how many kids go around sporting 4.0s or 3.9s or 3,8s or whatever? No one gives a shit. Colleges don't order their applicants based on GPA and say "oh, we're not going to evaluate kids 3.6 and under." Again, that may be how it works in China, but not here.
Also, you absolutely MUST do some sort of physical activity. Better yet, play a sport. Excel at it. Spend a good deal of your time doing it. Not only will it be great for your resume/application, but you'll look better, feel better (it will help you stay positive and deal with stress), and, as people have mentioned before in this thread, you'll re-energize your brain as well.
Sorry, it's like I'm talking to an incoming freshman, and I know it's probably too late to change all of this since you'll be applying to colleges soon (START EARLY!!!!).
Also, don't study in groups, please. It's so much less effective. If you're going to hang out with friends, then hang out. If you're going to study, then study. Sure, if you need help with something, ask someone, but there's a difference between a person who doesn't know asking a person who knows and two people who don't know asking each other.
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I found the hottest boxer picture!! O M G
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Physician
United States4146 Posts
this is not every summer, but one of two that will make a big difference in ur future life..
玉不琢不成器
//redouble the effort, pick up the pace
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Get 33 on ACT to satisfy your parents
Just my opinion but as long as your parents house you you should never risk doing any behavior that can get you kicked out of the house, especially if you aren't lucky enough to have people house you or you aren't willing to work full time.
If your dad comes to get you, let him beat on you but I suggest investing in a trenchcoat if he still uses the belt. One of my buddies wears that every time he comes home a little too late for his step mom and he pretends "pain" to make his stepmom satisfied
I got some tips for that test, but the main gist is simply to practice practice tests from good sources
it can be frustrating, since in some sections 1 or 2 wrong immediately drops your score but I believe that hard work pays off in the end. If you still have trouble / don't believe in yourself, maybe you should ask your parents to invest in a tutor or have a study group with some of your buddies
even if you "fail" at schoolwork (your grades are actually very good, especially if you take honors/AP) and you go to a community college, just invest in their honors program, tear that shit apart so that you can go to good tier one colleges
just never give up hope and don't let your parents get you down, hundreds of thousands of people suffer the same situation, MANY on a way worse level
and don't mind that ichigo douchebag lol
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Probably my post will get drowned out in the sea of other advice but at least id like to offer something that has ALWAYS worked for me.
I have asian parents too, but we live in england and they granted me lots of freedoms, always very supportive. In return, i would try and please them by working hard when i needed to and achieving good grades. Probably rubbish for an asian kid, but high standard for western england. I was blessed with wonderful parents who always knew the right balance and when to step in when i went too far etc.
One thing my dad told me is that when dealing with him, or anything difficult, is to be completely honest, both outside and with yourself
If you want to approach your dad, don't hide anything, be honest with yourself 100% and be honest with him 100%. Tell him you have been playing games behind his back. Tell him you have hardly been studying. Tell him the reason why you have been doing this is because your schedule is backwards, counter-productive and absolutely rediculous.
Tell him that his schedule gets you almost no studying done, forces you to hide everything from them and has even made you consider to move out.
Even if this accomplishes nothing, what can they do? You have told them nothing but the pure truth, honesty 100%. They can beat you, force your schedule even harder, but you have not lied to yourself one bit, and you have not lied to them. You really are thinking about moving out. You arn't even getting true asian support for your college fees,
If it comes to that, you can straight up say to their face, with no shame at all, that you have been completely honest with them, and told them everything, and yet all they are doing is forcing your schedule even harder, beating you even more, and you have already explained how this doesn't work
Everyone knows that for a strong college application you need a combination of work/play and hobbies/interests. Unless you're a genious, colleges hate nothing more than kids who have no interests, no life, did nothing with their youth except for study to only get above average grades, with no passion at all.
Maybe your parents will change their mind. If they do, then you have to show them for it! Play lots, study lots too! the biggest mistake western society/kids make is all play no work, but ofc you wont do that. Instead you should ACTUALLY study instead of the "no study hiding from your parents" you do now. And then when you play, you actually play.
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Ultimately, i think the worst thing you can do is lie/cheat/hide to your parents. This often makes things only more difficult and awkward to deal with. And besides, they are your parents! You don't want to miss the oppourtunity to grow a close bond with them and lose them for the rest of your life.
You want to make them proud to show that you can both be independent AND hard working. Almost certainly your grades will skyrocket if you spend half the day having fun and half the day working.
Just make sure you REALLY have fun, and you REALLY do work. Don't lie to yourself in those areas, and put the effort in where it is needed!
Good luck man, this is really the best advice i can give. This is what my dad always says to be, to be completely 100% honest with him, and with anyone in life is always the best approach when you don't know what to do
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I think I understand the situation you're in. I'm going to be a Junior next year, and I go to a VERY competitive school, so my parents are pressuring me that much more. Basically, what keeps me somewhat motivated is surrounding myself with successful and outstanding students. For example, I go to an SAT prep class on the weekends, and everyone who sits by me is getting 2300+ on their practice tests (the tests are just as if not harder than the actual SAT)... All of my friends have insane amounts of extracurriculars, either with internships at Hospitals, Colleges, or are in some insanely competitive band/ensemble (or both).
That said, being motivated isn't enough, Mindless studying isn't going to get you anywhere. Unfortunately, that's an area where knowing other people comes to play. My SAT class not only teaches me about the areas I struggle in, but it gives me information on what I should potentially watch out for based on others mistakes. Generally, it's important to have a plan of attack towards whatever test/class you're preparing for.
It sounds like you need to do well on the ACT.. I don't think you can adequately prepare for a test like that on your own unless you have a heavy amount of background knowledge... it's good to have others to learn from and gauge your own performance against. If you're sitting in your home with a textbook, it's very easy to lose track of what you should be focusing on.
My recommendation is to find some prep class (a good one) in your area. I don't think your parents would refuse something like that, yet it won't be quite as monotonous as sitting at your desk all day. You'll learn more and be automatically placed on a focused path towards achieving your goals.
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On August 09 2009 10:40 Ichigo1234551 wrote:
i feel sorry for you lol. I dont even study and I have same grade as you. Its feel good to be a smart asian though . I just smoke weed everyday and only study before tests.
i would fucking punch u in the face if i ever met u
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Korea (South)11567 Posts
i wish my parents were strict with my grades. That way i wouldn't of only had a 2.86 GPA in high school.
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On August 09 2009 16:03 v1rtu0so wrote:Show nested quote +On August 09 2009 10:40 Ichigo1234551 wrote:
i feel sorry for you lol. I dont even study and I have same grade as you. Its feel good to be a smart asian though . I just smoke weed everyday and only study before tests. i would fucking punch u in the face if i ever met u
if i ever meet you in real life we will probably exchange greetings and awkwardly start up a conversation about starcraft that would slowly wither until we were left with a heavy silence.
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maybe you are not very interesting person?
to the OP:
It really seems like your parents have drifted beyond what seems reasonable, regardless of their intent. If I were you, I would pick an opportune time (maybe when you are in relative good terms with your parents) and just reason with them earnestly, explaining how this regime is far far from what is efficient and best for your future.
And if this attempt fails (or you get a beating because of it), I would then just accept that their attitude will not change any time soon. In that case, I would be just like, "Fuck it, I will just fucking own SAT/ACT, go to a good college, show them what's up." This is also what would also probably serve you well, regardless of what they think.
Another thing: If you are applying to UCs or state schools, simply decent SATs and GPA will get you in most of the time. However, if you are also considering some private schools, a strong essay will really put you in the game even if your stats are not up to par. Since you had go through so much shit, you could probably write a really effective/touching essay on overcoming and coping with this lifestyle. Of course, don't go as to far to incriminate your parents too much: I'm sure you don't want to send them to jail. Especially if your letters of rec sort of enforce this resilience of character, you will definitely have a strong application. If you ever want help in this area, you can PM me. i ended up in a top 5 us univ, so i am not a total hack at this.
Anyway, I really applaud you for keeping sanity and i hope u the best
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