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mahnini
United States6862 Posts
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skyglow1
New Zealand3962 Posts
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Loanshark
China3094 Posts
Try and use this to convince your parents to let you do something else educational that you enjoy instead. | ||
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YPang
United States4024 Posts
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Ichigo1234551
United States649 Posts
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radar14
United States1437 Posts
Also, I'd be hesitant to take their "offer" of an interest-free loan for college. I think that potential feeling of indebtedness might make getting a part-time job a better option. | ||
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Aznleeman
United States208 Posts
Oh, and make sure you have some fun in college. It should make up for all the crap you're being put through at the moment. | ||
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MafiaAreJerks
Bahrain8 Posts
i've read all the posts, and heh i think i've decided to make up a solid schedule just for myself givin what i have. As in studying, and only studying for a fwe specific hours, and giong on SC the other hours. I don't feel like trying to start some conflict cuz its only 1 year left, and i dont feel the need for it. Plus after im done taking this test in september, they might back off as well. Given that you're indoors, maybe you should go outside and make some friends during that SC time. | ||
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Zidane
United States1692 Posts
I remember distinctly catching the fucking belt they tried to hit me with and threatening to hit them back. After that day that shit never happened ever again, and they have become chill ass parents especially now that I'm in college. | ||
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Hypnosis
United States2061 Posts
On August 09 2009 22:03 YPang wrote: i've read all the posts, and heh i think i've decided to make up a solid schedule just for myself givin what i have. As in studying, and only studying for a fwe specific hours, and giong on SC the other hours. I don't feel like trying to start some conflict cuz its only 1 year left, and i dont feel the need for it. Plus after im done taking this test in september, they might back off as well. That is a good way too look at it man, fighting with your parents is completely fucking useless for many reasons. First of all they were alive before you, they decided to have you (hopefully) and have a clear plan for what they want you to do. Obviously arguing is not going to change that fact. The only thing you can do is lay low until college then you are free. Feel lucky your parents are paying for your college, that means zero loans until you have a job and can afford to pay it back.. This is not just happening to you, i had to retake a math class over the summer in order to get out of probation (im fucking white) and the class was INSANELY fast. Guess what? there were a bunch of 14 year old asian kids in it (this is college BY THE WAY), getting higher grades than me and i had already taken the damn class before... Just get through senior year without any bruises and you will be fine. You are probably thinking you are missing out on all sorts of amazing senior year things, but its mostly just hanging out.. You will have a fuckin blast in college because you will be free. As far as the ACT goes, retake that shit and just do other things while you pretend to study, write a book if your parents really are that strict, it looks like studying and its worth your time much more than fucking around with friends or w/e you might be doing. oooooooooooooooooooooooooorrr you could be a total badass and break free right now.\ Gather what money you have, line up a job in cali, get your friend to come along and say fuck off mom and dad, ill become a surfer.!! just weigh the consequences if you choose this option :D | ||
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Athos
United States2484 Posts
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hellokitty[hk]
United States1309 Posts
I'm asian, but i'm not a school smart asian, i admit. I have a 3.6 gpa, and i scored 26 on my ACT's i'm not going to lie. But that is HORRIBLE for an asian kid. Sadly, your right about that, honestly. Man, that sucks dude. Massive respect to you for remaining sane though. That's hard to do. Good luck on your exams and life in general. I concur. What you need to do is lower the bar from childhood, and keep them out of contact with other Asians! It certainly takes a lot of time, and might not work against super strict Asians though  .Good luck! | ||
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Judicator
United States7270 Posts
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Garnet
Vietnam9056 Posts
On August 09 2009 09:46 n.DieJokes wrote: That sucks but deep down I wish I could have traded places with you; my parents are very laid back, I fill out all the forms and signed up for all the courses and decided whether or not I wanted to study. I'm a better student than my parents ever were (and they were pretty good, it was just a different time) but I always wonder how good I could have been if I had been pushed instead of doing all the pushing. Especially as I apply to colleges and I know I'm gonna be rejected from my top choices even if my parents think I'm being pessimistic. Idk maybe I did well because they were laid back but they took a huge gamble on me. Just another perspective, gl dude Same here. And my family is damn poor thanks to my father not being able to make money and my mother being a people pleaser with no life. To OP: Time = life. If you waste your time you're wasting your life. Knowing what to do is meaningless if you don't take action. | ||
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Garnet
Vietnam9056 Posts
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YPang
United States4024 Posts
On August 12 2009 10:31 Garnet wrote: i just read a news about Chinese uni students committing suicide because they can't get a job. Oh god don't be one of them! And I think you won't. nah im not like that 8D... | ||
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QuickSandSlowly
China95 Posts
Also to touch on the abusive dad thing, my dads kinda like your dad too it's pretty much all the same with Asian parents, my Korean friend's dad is an artist who does sculptures, he told me his dad used to beat him with his hammer(LOL). With my dad this one day I just got so fed up I started arguing with him that his method isn't Fing working and he should just leave me alone so I can get some shit done, and I started to fight back(defend I should say) basically when he tried to beat me, he then accidentally broke the window and my mom got in and had massive spasm over both of us and I didn't talk to my dad for 2 -3 weeks(Not the first time). But at the end of the day his still your father and when you look back you will see that it is for your OWN good. | ||
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Aegraen
United States1225 Posts
On August 09 2009 09:31 YPang wrote: [rant] I'm not sure if i feel pissed or sad right now. But my dad is a fucken asshole... I dont even know where to begin. I guess firstly i would like to post my life schedule that my parents wants me to live by. + Show Spoiler [Summer Schedule] + SUMMER SCHEDULE: 7:30-wake up 8:00-12am Study ACT's/SAT's until 12am 1-5pm-Study more ACT/SAT's 7-8PM - Run 8-11:30pm - Do AP homework. As you can see i literally have NO room for "fun". The only times i had a friend over was on november of 2008, and then i had them come again 2 weeks ago. That was it. I basically cannot do anything Except study (DURING THE SUMMER)... As many of you TLnetter's know that i am forbidden to play starcraft, view teamliquid, go on any other sites thats not related to studies excluding CNN and newsites. If it wasn't for starcraft and teamliquid/MSN(i'm forbidden to use MSN/AIM as well, thats why i use meebo so when my parents come i can alt f4 it faster than MSN) i would have literally no social contact/communication at ALL. ----------- I'm asian, but i'm not a school smart asian, i admit. I have a 3.6 gpa, and i scored 26 on my ACT's i'm not going to lie. But that is HORRIBLE for an asian kid. So as a result, today they even tightens my schedule(I have no idea how thats possible), and basically further implement it because they want me to get a 30+ on my next ACT's. The funny thing is that, i think what they're doing is really counter productive but there's no way i can bring it up to them without being shit on. But honestly though, who can fucken concentrate all day doing some stupid standardize testing bullshit. Holyshit i'm being trained like a standardized test taking progamer right now except im not actually doing much at all. I do do some studying but not NEARLY as much as they expect me to. Plus i was really looking forwards to senior year next year because i wanted to do cross country, but of course i shoulda saw it coming, they denied it and made me study 24/7 again next senior year. I was pretty down for that week when they told me i couldn't do it anymore AFTER i got my physical exam done and everything. I did cross country/track my Sophmore year because first i wanted to get out of my house and 2nd according to my parents its something i put on my college application. They tried to persuade me so much to play tennis instead cuz they said all asian kids were doing it cuz its easy and you put it on your college, but i managed to refuse and still do track. Ironically i had my HIGHEST GPA the semester i did cross country, SO as a result they believe that "If i didn't do any other sports my grade would go even higher"... So of course i was denied to doing anything my Junior year and studyied 24/7, and boom my GPA dropped, and they were wondering "WHY?! u study 24/7 and ur gpa still suck balls". So now i can't do any sports next year, and im forced to study all day. I've tried explaining the concept to them that i cannot study all day and concentrate like that, but of course they were really close minded... ---------------- All of this is not even mentioning the fact that my dad was/is really abusive as well, my first memory of my ass getting kicked was when i was like 3 or 4, and i accidentally spilled some milk, and he got me down and started rolling/kicking me with this foot. These sorta things continued all the way until i was 17 (which is this year). He used to spit on me and belt me which resulted in clear red swollen skin. This year however he was about to do it again after getting my ACT score, but i told him to "Fuck off and i can't stand your bullshit anymore" in the most mannerful way in chinese i could think of at the moment. But man i've thought about leaving home SEVERAL times, i have a good friend n we talked about sharing an apartment together, he agreed that he would be able to do it if i could. But i know my parents would not allow me to do that. Anyways i'm turning 18 this upcoming september, and just counting off the days until i go to college leave ... I do realize that my dad's abusive behavior comes from his mom, and its passed down from generation and generation, but i've made a promise to myself that i would stop this shit when i get my kids. I wanna even tatoo it on my arm to remind myself about it even more. Peace out~ [/rant] Let them know that Companies in the "real world" don't care what University you went to, or where you got your degree. In fact, some of the better programs for specific majors aren't even major state universities nor Ivy League schools. My mothers community college for her RN degree (Nursing) was one of the best in the state and it was a CC. She makes 70,000+ a year and spent about 1/20th or less than the average State Uni. grad. Point is. A degree is a degree. An Ivy League degree or even many State Uni degrees are simply the equivalent to E-peens on the internet. You will see once you become older, perhaps now the best way to inform your parents is to actually go around to various companies and document first-hand then show them that 1) Getting into a State University isn't difficult at all 2) Companies do not care where you got your degree from 3) You are a man and you will show yourself as such (Do this when you turn 18, but be a man about it and not a whiny child) 4) GPA is pretty much irrelevant (as long as it isn't 2.0 and below). | ||
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Jonoman92
United States9110 Posts
On August 09 2009 10:38 YPang wrote: lol its a great idea and everything, but they dont let me study with other people O_O, they just say i'm just going to play. I've tried. So say "fuck you assholes" and leave anyway? I mean they can't ground you anymore than you already are right.... Although I dunno if you're big enough to best your dad in a physical fight so that depends if this is an option or not. In any case, you're not a fuck up, your parents are. Just try and get through the year and get to college. | ||
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Jonoman92
United States9110 Posts
On August 09 2009 14:45 Physician wrote: this is not every summer, but one of two that will make a big difference in ur future life.. 玉不琢不成器 //redouble the effort, pick up the pace lol Phsysician's true identity is revealed: Master Troll | ||
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