EPTSorry to hear about all that though. :/
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Jibba
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Sorry to hear about all that though. :/ | ||
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mahnini
United States6862 Posts
On August 09 2009 09:58 stalife wrote: Don't think of it as a waste of time... Think of this as the 3 years of "slump" SKT1 had. Boxer gone, oov and kingdom retiring, zergs fucking up big time. But look now! SKT1 is yet again the CHAMPION. Your "Champion" phase may come in college, or maybe post-undergrad studies, or maybe even after that. But they will come if you keep yourself busy studying and not wasting time with social life :D waiting to live life the way you want is a flawed existence. obviously, don't take this to mean never work toward any goal, but you shouldnt be waiting for that moment or "champion phase". | ||
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d(O.o)a
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Yaqoob
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YPang
United States4024 Posts
On August 09 2009 10:09 Yaqoob wrote: Gladstone you play more Starcraft then me and I live alone thats cuz ur noob | ||
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KawaiiRice
United States2914 Posts
On August 09 2009 10:08 d(O.o)a wrote: This blog gave me huge dejavou but like others said good luck and not much further to go. Yeah strange, I swear it's like I've read this before. Yang I feel kinda sad for you because I have asian parents that let me do whatever the hell I want and have never laid a finger on me. Exactly how many days until you alt Q_Q from your house? o.o | ||
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jonnyp
United States415 Posts
 . on a sidenote, i dont understand why parents get this extreme. i understand they want their kids to do well/be successful, but even if the student barely passes high school and doesn't take the ACT's they can still go to community college and transfer (if they do well there) to a well respected uni. point is, even if you screw up the entirety of your high school career you can come out the other side successfully :/ | ||
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Salv
Canada3083 Posts
Your only two options are to put up with what you feel is a shitty life and then move out when the time comes to go to College, or stand up for yourself. I had to re-read your post because you said you told your parent to fuck off... in the most mannerful way possible in Chinese, I find that very telling. I would suggest you start to actually stand up to your parents, even though I know you're too weak to. Sorry for being harsh GS but I think that's the truth. | ||
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pinenamu
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VictorW
United States157 Posts
On August 09 2009 09:46 YPang wrote:But yea they said they'd pay my college fees, but i'd have to pay them back except without interest fees like in banks. WTF you have to pay them back?! I've never heard of that happen to any Asian person I've ever known. On August 09 2009 09:41 MoltkeWarding wrote: All I can say is that you must start thinking about the unthinkable, and the consequences of simply saying no. I agree with this. Say something like you can't concentrate and you need to take a break sometimes. The alternative can't get any worse unless your dad gets physical. Would he still hit you? Or hit you in front of your mom? And, alternatively, you can just lie. I knew some people in my high school who were in pretty much the same situation as you. Aren't you in after school clubs to help with your college apps? Any time you go out, just say it's for a community service, studying, a group project, etc. They literally lied to their parents 90% of the time when we went out. Even during the summer, you can just say you want to study with some friends or you're getting a head start on community service or something. | ||
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YPang
United States4024 Posts
On August 09 2009 10:36 VictorW wrote: WTF you have to pay them back?! I've never heard of that happen to any Asian person I've ever known. I agree with this. Say something like you can't concentrate and you need to take a break sometimes. The alternative can't get any worse unless your dad gets physical. Would he still hit you? Or hit you in front of your mom? And, alternatively, you can just lie. I knew some people in my high school who were in pretty much the same situation as you. Aren't you in after school clubs to help with your college apps? Any time you go out, just say it's for a community service, studying, a group project, etc. They literally lied to their parents 90% of the time when we went out. Even during the summer, you can just say you want to study with some friends or you're getting a head start on community service or something. lol its a great idea and everything, but they dont let me study with other people O_O, they just say i'm just going to play. I've tried. | ||
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Ichigo1234551
United States649 Posts
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VictorW
United States157 Posts
On August 09 2009 10:38 YPang wrote: lol its a great idea and everything, but they dont let me study with other people O_O, they just say i'm just going to play. I've tried. Holy crap they're ruthless. But aren't you in after school clubs for community service at least? If they say you need a sport for your resume, then I'd figure they'd know you need some clubs and activities. Or tell them you don't understand the material and you need help? I figure since they're Asian, they won't be able to help you with anything other than math so can't you just say something like "My grades/scores aren't getting any better and I need help from so and so to get my grades/scores up?" | ||
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YPang
United States4024 Posts
On August 09 2009 10:44 VictorW wrote: Holy crap they're ruthless. But aren't you in after school clubs for community service at least? If they say you need a sport for your resume, then I'd figure they'd know you need some clubs and activities. Or tell them you don't understand the material and you need help? I figure since they're Asian, they won't be able to help you with anything other than math so can't you just say something like "My grades/scores aren't getting any better and I need help from so and so to get my grades/scores up?" lol yea that might work. But yeah i've done something like staying after school for no reason just cuz i didn't want to go home, and me and some friends would chill and surf the internet in the library. | ||
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Salv
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ZoW
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YPang
United States4024 Posts
On August 09 2009 10:51 ZoW wrote: Asian parents suck, I was in the same position as you a few years ago. I'm not going to tell you what I did because it was pretty bad lol, just hang in there. i actually only study a bit, the rest of the time is on the internet/sc lol. | ||
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YPang
United States4024 Posts
On August 09 2009 10:50 Salv wrote: Stand up to your parents. They cannot force you to study 10+ hours every day. They can ground you, or beat you, yes, but they cannot force you to study. If you truly believe that what's going on isn't right you should tell them no. I'm not suggesting you try to sit down and discuss this with them, you've stated this doesn't work. However you have the face the fact that either you will continue to take this lying down, or you will stand up for yourself and risk being kicked out of the house. tbh i sorta wanna get kicked out of the house, i know a few people that'd let me sleep in their car or coach or w/e. Plus my school ends at like 3pm, and i can work in restaurant for like 2-4 hours everyday after school without really affecting my studies that much, cuz i dont really use my time to study after i get home anyways lol. | ||
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Salv
Canada3083 Posts
That being said, I don't see a restaurant giving you a 2-4 hour shift from 3-5 or 3-7, that's a restaurants slow period. I think the fact is that if you moved you, you would need to work six hours or so two or three days a week, possibly thursday and friday, and weekends. You would probably have just as leisure time as you do now, but now with labour. The tradeoff is that you show your parents that you are serious. Which I don't think you are. | ||
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VictorW
United States157 Posts
On August 09 2009 10:45 YPang wrote: lol yea that might work. But yeah i've done something like staying after school for no reason just cuz i didn't want to go home, and me and some friends would chill and surf the internet in the library. Haha well there you go. You've got at least one friend with a car, right? Next step: I've got a community service from 5 to 8 and we might go out to eat after so I'll be back at 9-10. Or Saturday from noon to 2 and then we're going to study/work on a project afterwards. A lot of legitimate community service falls at those hours. I remember doing stuff like Project Open Hand, Habitat for Humanity, Ronald McDonald House, etc. | ||
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