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metbull
United States404 Posts
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kollin
United Kingdom8380 Posts
On November 16 2012 11:44 metbull wrote: Seems like a perfect time for a road trip. I hear the south of Spain is nice in November. Maybe a weekend, maybe a week, maybe change her phone number, get a new ID. Have you ever watched The Bourne movies? Not suggesting to get physical with this guy. Just outsmart him. He's 17. | ||
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Aerisky
United States12128 Posts
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CecilSunkure
United States2829 Posts
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PointyShoes
Northern Ireland20 Posts
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SaWse
Belgium102 Posts
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MountainDewJunkie
United States10340 Posts
On November 17 2012 01:54 Aerisky wrote: His failure to respond to daphreak and people who responded similarly makes what he's saying somewhat dubious to me. I would be inclined to take what he's saying at face value otherwise. Wonder what's going on for him. And oops, I also missed that he is seventeen. So now I really take all of this with a grain of salt. I mean in that state, certain statements could embellished upon. Not to mention, when you're 17, you're probably not "in love." You're probably seventeen. Way too young to be playing the "good guy," and possibly "the white night." Like I said, he will regret this. | ||
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Gprime
Canada198 Posts
On November 14 2012 08:15 AngryMag wrote: Serious advice: 1. Try to get authorities involved. Why are you afraid to call the police? Worst thing to happen is to hear "No sorry we cannot help you at all". You should atleast try. 2. If 1 fails you can contact battered women's shelters in your region. Call them, explain your situation and arrange meetings with them to inform yourself about possible protection measures these institutions can arrange for your girlfriend. 3. If 1 and 2 fall through inform the parents and ask them what can be done in a situation like this. 4. Call a lawyer to inform yourself about legal possibilities. 5. Call your friends for protection. As the dudes are larger than you you may need some. Just let them stay at your place while Asshole 1 is in the country. If he shows up, chin him together with your friends. You should put some effort into the points 1 to 4. You can do them alltogether. If everything falls through for some reason stick to point 5 (remember this is the last resort) and make sure that an eventual chinning is not forgotten to fast. this seems like an intelligent course of action to me. one thing id like to add is to try to think rationally and not to panic, as youl be no help to her if you do. stay calm, think clearly, talk to her, figure out a good course of action, and then do it. also i am slightly skeptical of the situation. something seems off...another possible explanation is that your girlfriend is attracted to the "bad guy" archetype; crazy russian guy hurt your girlfriend (emotionally) and she made him out to be some kind of monster to you by exaggerating certain less serious incidents, to elicit sympathy because she is the type of person who needs that kind of thing...then the other guy who is friends with the crazy russian was with her and it didnt work out with him either so she made him out to be evil, and now since she is sick of douchebags she is with you, because she wants a nice guy. that might be a tough pill to swallow, but ive seen it many times, chicks being manipulative. that sounds alot like something a 17 year old would do, and also i doubt that if she was in such a dire situation that after escaping it she would go with one of his friends for a while. its more likely that the second guy played on her fragile emotional state after breaking up with "crazy" russian guy, and fucked and chucked her, which hurt her again, causing her to stretch the truth. of course this is all just a theory. if you think there is even a small possibility of her being in legitimate danger then you should do whatever you can to protect her and follow the aforementioned steps. | ||
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3Form
United Kingdom389 Posts
On November 17 2012 07:27 SaWse wrote: Weapons don't care about size, this day and age anyone can fuck up anyone. Carry a knife on you if you're really scared. Contact the police and see what they can do. Then I would also break all contact with him. Breaking someone's fingers one by one is torture and I wouldn't leave anything to luck with people like that. Jesus Christ. If it's true just go the effing police for the love of god. Does this really happen to 17 year old middle class white children in the UK? | ||
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Zealos
United Kingdom3571 Posts
On November 17 2012 21:57 3Form wrote: Jesus Christ. If it's true just go the effing police for the love of god. Does this really happen to 17 year old middle class white children in the UK? I'm the middle class one, not her. And yes, that is our plan, I feel a lot more confident that the police will be able to do something about it now, too. To everyone doubting the stories and thinking it could never happen, you have to /really/ consider you privilege, because most of you probably have no idea about what happens in the world you don't have to see. | ||
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Gprime
Canada198 Posts
On November 18 2012 01:00 Zealos wrote: I'm the middle class one, not her. And yes, that is our plan, I feel a lot more confident that the police will be able to do something about it now, too. To everyone doubting the stories and thinking it could never happen, you have to /really/ consider you privilege, because most of you probably have no idea about what happens in the world you don't have to see. i think its rude to tell the people who are trying to help you that they dont know what they are talking about because they feel something fishy about the situation. you are 17. alot of people here have seen alot of things you have not. instead of discounting the opinion of anyone who you disagree with as one that is based on ignorance, perhaps you should realize that they might be trying to help you and save you some heartache, because they have been in the exact same situation and they know that you are probably going to get hurt if you go down this road. just another theory... | ||
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3Form
United Kingdom389 Posts
On November 18 2012 01:00 Zealos wrote: I'm the middle class one, not her. And yes, that is our plan, I feel a lot more confident that the police will be able to do something about it now, too. To everyone doubting the stories and thinking it could never happen, you have to /really/ consider you privilege, because most of you probably have no idea about what happens in the world you don't have to see. Well whatever you do mate, don't listen to the people here telling you to get a knife / baseball bat / gun / sharp stick ... The reason I'm sceptical is precisely because of law, police, social services here. You might complain, but nowhere in the UK is like suburban Moscow, or Johannesberg or whatever. We're damn well taken care of here. Talk to your parents at least, they have at least twice the life experience of you and are probably much wiser than you give them credit for, you'll realise that one day though  | ||
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MountainDewJunkie
United States10340 Posts
On November 18 2012 01:00 Zealos wrote: I'm the middle class one, not her. And yes, that is our plan, I feel a lot more confident that the police will be able to do something about it now, too. To everyone doubting the stories and thinking it could never happen, you have to /really/ consider you privilege, because most of you probably have no idea about what happens in the world you don't have to see. Ironic because you're the one who put all of your problems out there, and that you have yet to see anything yourself, going off her word and your intense feelings about the situation. | ||
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Kurumi
Poland6130 Posts
Or just tell them that he is a criminal (who he is) and maybe some gramps has a hunting rifle and life full of nothing ahead. You could always buy a crown, dress your friends in animal hides and torture him in the forest nearby so he remembers the good ol' times. I assume you live on your own? Move back to your parents for a while. Tell your neighbours not to tell anyone what happened to you or talk about some trip to South-eastern Poland or Lithuania. | ||
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TerranMechRush
8 Posts
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Rekrul
Korea (South)17174 Posts
On November 14 2012 16:44 puppykiller wrote: Your GF might be a chronic liar. You should try to ascertain proof of his existence. Also just because he can overpower her does not mean that he can overpower you. If he can overpower you I recommend breaking up with her. Not worth getting dragged into her fucked up life. lol........ | ||
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polishedturd
United States505 Posts
On November 16 2012 11:44 metbull wrote: Seems like a perfect time for a road trip. I hear the south of Spain is nice in November. Maybe a weekend, maybe a week, maybe change her phone number, get a new ID. Have you ever watched The Bourne movies? Not suggesting to get physical with this guy. Just outsmart him. rofl, god, some of you people are goddamn delusional | ||
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Zealos
United Kingdom3571 Posts
On November 18 2012 05:32 Gprime wrote: i think its rude to tell the people who are trying to help you that they dont know what they are talking about because they feel something fishy about the situation. you are 17. alot of people here have seen alot of things you have not. instead of discounting the opinion of anyone who you disagree with as one that is based on ignorance, perhaps you should realize that they might be trying to help you and save you some heartache, because they have been in the exact same situation and they know that you are probably going to get hurt if you go down this road. just another theory... The people saying the story is probably wrong are: A) Not the ones helping B) Not the people telling me to do something about it, due to them doubting it I understand the reasons people doubt the story, and that's fine, but there are a lot of people in the world that will never experience the bottom 20% of society.... | ||
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3Form
United Kingdom389 Posts
On November 20 2012 02:26 Zealos wrote: I understand the reasons people doubt the story, and that's fine, but there are a lot of people in the world that will never experience the bottom 20% of society.... Fudge mate, you're the one being naive now. Even living in the UK on benefits you're in the top 15% of the entire world, so please can it with the patronising crap. On the minimum wage you're in the top 10%. There is help available to you and your lady-friend. If you choose not to take it it's your own fault. Stop comparing yourself to some poor sod from Burkino Faso, Zimbabwe, Congo or wherever, who doesn't have the luxury of choosing. | ||
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ziggurat
Canada847 Posts
1. She should go to the police and report everything that happened. Tell them that she wants to proceed with charges for sexual assault with a weapon, aggravated assault, etc. 2. Police will definitely take these matters seriously. They will get her to give a full, video-taped account of what happened, in graphic detail. This will be very uncomfortable for her but she will need to do it. 3. Police will want to get medical records from the hospital or doctor where she was treated for her broken fingers. Your gf should sign a waiver of confidentiality so police can get these. 4. Once they have this information, police will attempt to contact the perpetrator. Just one problem -- he's in Russia. 5. Once police realize they cannot locate the perpetrator, they will get a warrant for his arrest. In Canada this is called a warrant in the public interest. 6. When he arrives in the country, he will be arrested on the warrant. He will then have the right to apply for bail, which he may or may not get depending on a number of factors. 7. With any luck he will hear about this and never come back to the country. Problem solved. Now of course if your gf's story is actually exaggerated or not completely true then of course she could get in a lot of trouble by falsely accusing someone of serious crimes. But I'm telling you this on the basis that it's all true as you described. Source: I have been a criminal lawyer in Canada for over 10 years. | ||
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