EPT[Girl Blog] I need serious help. - Page 4
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boomudead1
United States186 Posts
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Darkren
Canada1841 Posts
The end solution is that this is your girlfriend problem, she is in control, the solution must come from her.Until she fights her own problems the guy will keep troubling her. Gl mucho good vibes from montreal, try to not worry too much and enjoy life. | ||
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Release
United States4397 Posts
Don't try to white knight. Your life is in danger. | ||
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Ghostcom
Denmark4781 Posts
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frogmelter
United States971 Posts
On November 14 2012 12:14 Ghostcom wrote: I have patched together quite a few fingers in the ER currently and let me say this: Someone WILL have noticed her broken fingers and she will certainly have been at a hospital to get them treated (broken fingers need to be x-rayed, possibly repositioned and then put in a splint or you run the risk of losing functionality). Hospitals keeps records of EVERYTHING - especially in a system like the one in the UK. Multiple broken fingers, especially if on both hands, are really hard to explain with just clumsiness, so bring the medical record and explain the entire story to the police who will then most certainly be able to guide you on the correct course of action. Sounds like the best plan. Seconded. | ||
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Aerisky
United States12128 Posts
 I hope you get out of this alright and that these guys are punished or caught or at least don't hurt you or your girlfriend. Wow. Ghostcom nailed it too, I think. Best of luck ._. | ||
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dAPhREAk
Nauru12397 Posts
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MountainDewJunkie
United States10340 Posts
Also, sorry, but I'm in line with Release on this one. You bit off more than you can chew and now your going to watch her willingly endanger herself (she doesn't want the cops and she knows you can't fully protect her... so... what the fuck). You don't know what's going to happen, but it ain't good, and with your level of obligation and panic, you obviously have no control, and quite frankly, there's little you could do even if you were more assertive. Also, I've been with someone like this before. She had been abused an raped, I was the hero, blah blah blah, but not only was it more than either person could handle, but not everything I was told was entirely credible in hindsight. She also was a "refuse to call the police" type of person. Well, didn't take long for shit to hit the fan you might imagine. I was as powerless as you are, and will be. Sure, you love her and whatever, but if this going to be some major dominant problem in her life, not the mention the CONSTANT threat of him returning... you, her, and this relationship are kind of fucked. Not sure what calling the cops would do... They won't arrest him on you second-hand testimony. Restraining orders aren't quick to obtain or easy and they don't deter the very determined. She doesn't feel safe knowing he's out there somewhere, and the damage requires therapy at the very least, and probably relocation altogether. Also, how did this man get in contact with your girlfriend to let her know he was coming??? Friend... it sounds like your probably going to drag yourself through to the bitter end. You will regret this. | ||
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Doodsmack
United States7224 Posts
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puppykiller
United States3126 Posts
On November 14 2012 16:02 Doodsmack wrote: I honestly am skeptical of this story. Especially the breaking fingers part, and the guy leaving the country because he felt guilty, and you wanting anonymous opinions even though you're planning to tell the right people anyway. If you're making this up, it's a very bizarre thing to do. If you're telling the truth, I apologize, but you must know that your story is unlikely. Your GF might be a chronic liar. You should try to ascertain proof of his existence. Also just because he can overpower her does not mean that he can overpower you. If he can overpower you I recommend breaking up with her. Not worth getting dragged into her fucked up life. | ||
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Zealos
United Kingdom3571 Posts
I hadn't thought of this. Also, her parents are not aware of the situation, she always kept it secret, (when her fingers were broken she claimed it was from a martial arts tournament) but this is a decent idea. | ||
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Zealos
United Kingdom3571 Posts
On November 14 2012 16:44 puppykiller wrote: Your GF might be a chronic liar. You should try to ascertain proof of his existence. Also just because he can overpower her does not mean that he can overpower you. If he can overpower you I recommend breaking up with her. Not worth getting dragged into her fucked up life. The broken fingers are confirmed, they happened. I also know the second guy is real, I've seen him. I guess it's possible the main guy isn't real, but it wouldn't really make sense. | ||
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Zealos
United Kingdom3571 Posts
On November 14 2012 10:45 AgentW wrote: 1. I know you didn't, but I suggest you do. 2. I would have to disagree here. People who deal with light handguns are bad, bad people and should be avoided unless you're a badder, badder person. How does one "rarely" trade in guns? They did it once or twice, never had any of their own, it was more of a thing they'd sell to trusted clients. It's been a long time since they've been doing this though (1-2 years) | ||
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Eilistraee
Denmark17 Posts
I think Ghostcom nailed it on how to approach this. If you can provide the circumstantial evidence of the broken fingers in combination with telling her story, then I think the police will be forced to react. Which is definately what you want as your first step. Following that you want the police to give you advice on how to properly defend yourself and how to take precautions. After all they are our go-to-guys in case somebody intends to do physical or psycological harm. Personally, I would make sure to ask about things like pepperspray (good point FFgeneration) for self defense. Mostly because it is a very effective and easy way of neutralizing stronger and larger aggressors while simultaneously gaining the necessary time to run for it if it should come to that. No point in fighting people you can't beat. The reason you should discuss everything with the authorities is that you want to follow their procedures. Otherwise the case might be cluttered in illegally acquired evidence and end up unresolved due to a failure to follow proper investigative procedures. You want to prepare as best you can for the worst case scenario and hope it never comes to pass. But if it does, you also want to make 100% sure that it will never be able to happen again. On the personal level, as others have pointed out and you probably already know yourself, you should consider discussing councelling with your girl friend (if you haven't already). Finally, I just want to add that you have my sympathies and that I hope everything will work out for the two of you. You have drawn a very bad hand, but if play your cards right you just might be rewarded for it. | ||
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B.I.G.
3251 Posts
A) Let the problem be solved by someone else (for example police) B) Solve the problem yourself (do whatever is necessary to stop him) C) Do nothing and hope that everything turns out ok. Your choice man. If your not a fighter you can still be smart about it. | ||
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Aterons_toss
Romania1275 Posts
a ) you live in a very remote area/ "dark" part of a town, in which case get the fuck away from her or purchase a gun... if 2 guys twice your size want to rape your gf than might i just suggest that you can be killed or severely injured b ) If you actually live in a civilized part of a city and she hasn't gone to the authorities about this yet, might i suggest that maybe just maybe she isn't in a " good relation" with the police already. And seeing how sad the situation is for her i would guess that's not a very unreasonable assumption to make. So yeah, be reasonable, get the fuck away. You are 17, you have a life of live for fucks sake. If you decide to be dumb and stay than at least contact the damn police or make sure you know how to protect yourself. And make sure to tell us in a month if your still alive/not in a vegetative state... really, be careful dude don't try to be a fucking withe knight if you ain't got no sword and armor. | ||
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Wortie
Netherlands212 Posts
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Fruscainte
4596 Posts
On November 14 2012 07:52 Zealos wrote: Not how he works. Instead, he'll wait for the next time I'm leaving her house, and most likely hospitalize me. Most people are non-confrontational, you find this out very fast when you act confrontational in life. The very threat of beating the shit out of him is enough for most people to back off. If he actually beats the shit out of you, call the fucking cops. Grow a spine. Something HAS to be done here bro. | ||
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[UoN]Sentinel
United States11320 Posts
Do what is in your power to convince GF that neither of those two men, or anyone at all, truly owns her. If you're not a good talker, post results on TL and someone will help guide you through. | ||
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MountainDewJunkie
United States10340 Posts
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