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On October 10 2011 16:30 n.DieJokes wrote:Show nested quote +On October 10 2011 15:53 OliverDONG wrote:It will take me a while to get over my first relationship. + Show Spoiler +Im only 19, but i have spend the past 5 years in and out of the hospital (Leukemia) and am now im total remission. About 2 years ago during one of my never ending hospitalization, I met that sweet girl which was a year older than me who had cystic fibrosis. When you are that sick it is kinda hard to talk about all you feel and such with your parents and your friends since none of them really have gone through such events. Turned out she was the first one I was able to open my heart to and express how I was feeling inside at that time and vice-versa. We became close friends pretty damn quickly and, after couple dates when we were not hospitalized, ended up in a relashionship. I just cannot find the words to describe how good that relationship has been to both of us. I mean I dated soem girls before, but they all ended up failign because of my health issues (which I find rediculous but whatever) and I never loved someone that much. Having someone going through similar difficulties and being able to support each other through the ups and downs of life is priceless. Our relationship lasted a 19 months, her disease took over and she died...in my arms. Its already been 5 months, yet it feels like it was just yesterday. Fighting for your life really opens your eyes on what is true love. I dont think I will be ready to date or to have a relationship fora long time. My friends and family are really supportive so it helps. It'll be hard to find someone like my ex, and she will always be in my heart, but I am pretty sure that one day I will find someone that is worth spending my life with. I'll focus on uni and sc2 for now, until then im better off alone... I'm sorry to hear that man, I can't begin to imagine how that feels. Still it made me smile when I looked up at your username and saw the capitalized DONG
This look like a facking movie, those that you cry like a litle girl in the end.
Hope you continue heath and you can found another relationship nicely like this one ...
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What do you do when you have a crush on your close friend's girlfriend and the friend is out of the country for the next 2 years?
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On October 10 2011 22:13 JokerSan wrote: What do you do when you have a crush on your close friend's girlfriend and the friend is out of the country for the next 2 years?
keep your pants on and look for another girl? Really man the guy cant be your friend when you even think about it
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Once I had a girl which was totally beautifull and had a crush on me, but I somehow managed to screw that up when I didint believe her when she said she was sick and couldnt make it to our date. -Later on I found out she really was sick but it was too late.
Another girl once gave me her phone number and told me she had broken up with her boyfriend. I met her but I only nodded to her and said hi, not quite what she was looking for, the rest of the date was awkward, after that I deleted her and never contacted her again. She actually contacted me through facebook last week and asked if she could hang out with me with 2 of her friends, I told her no because I thought it would be too awkward.
3rd girl, she kept asking me to go the movies and bowling and pretty much anything, I turned her down because she is a friend of my cousin and 4 years younger than me.
So yeah. I never actually dated even 1 day in my life. Not maybe bad luck but extremely bad dating skills.
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On October 10 2011 22:13 JokerSan wrote: What do you do when you have a crush on your close friend's girlfriend and the friend is out of the country for the next 2 years? Find another way to get your dick wet.
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bros before hoes, seriously dude. loyality between friends is so important. if this fails, u will start to get jealous for your friends....
even if they break up, I'd probably look for another girl, nothing good can come out of this
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dating?...what is this thing you call dating???
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I'm a hardcore nerd. The only girl meant for me is 2D in an anime.
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The last girl I "dated" was around 2 years ago. It was only 1 date really and it didn't go so well. I don't have the best of memory so my description is quite vague. I had just met said girl and I was really into her. We started to talk and somehow ended up walking through a park. We ended up in an isolated spot along that is next to the river downstream from the dam which had quite shallow water and a few rocks near the shore but they where still in the water. There is this relatively large rock that is the furthest away from the shore which she decided would be a good idea to jump to. So she takes off her shoes and socks and jumps over to the rock. She then asks me to do the same and I think, what the hell why not. So i jump over to said rock but when I get there, I step on this huge piece of broken glass that cuts my foot wide open. So I'm standing there with this dirty piece of glass lodged in my foot and blood spilling out about 10 meters from shore and I have to pull this piece of glass on my foot in this tiny space, the rock is quite large but there isn't a lot of space with 2 people standing on it, and it hurt like hell. I pull it out quite quickly but then the blood really started coming out so I quickly jump back to shore, wash off my foot and put my socks and shoes back on. I then quickly say goodbye and rush off to get a bandage on the foot so that the bleeding would stop. We still keep in touch but we haven't been on a date again.
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On October 10 2011 22:32 Keltanokka wrote: The last girl I "dated" was around 2 years ago. It was only 1 date really and it didn't go so well. I don't have the best of memory so my description is quite vague. I had just met said girl and I was really into her. We started to talk and somehow ended up walking through a park. We ended up in an isolated spot along that is next to the river downstream from the dam which had quite shallow water and a few rocks near the shore but they where still in the water. There is this relatively large rock that is the furthest away from the shore which she decided would be a good idea to jump to. So she takes off her shoes and socks and jumps over to the rock. She then asks me to do the same and I think, what the hell why not. So i jump over to said rock but when I get there, I step on this huge piece of broken glass that cuts my foot wide open. So I'm standing there with this dirty piece of glass lodged in my foot and blood spilling out about 10 meters from shore and I have to pull this piece of glass on my foot in this tiny space, the rock is quite large but there isn't a lot of space with 2 people standing on it, and it hurt like hell. I pull it out quite quickly but then the blood really started coming out so I quickly jump back to shore, wash off my foot and put my socks and shoes back on. I then quickly say goodbye and rush off to get a bandage on the foot so that the bleeding would stop. We still keep in touch but we haven't been on a date again.
sorry but i laughed sounded like a comedy movie to me
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I once spent the night with a girl
Woke up really early, and sat down on my computer (back then i was getting up at 6 am every day just out of habit)
She wakes up about a half hour later, says "could you turn off that music? It's so bad and keeps repeating."
"....I'm composing..."
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I work at a bar and somehow this makes you attractive to girls.( Seriously, Im average at best). Anyways this pretty black haired chick walks up to the bar and slips me a note with her number on it. I was like :" aaaaw yeeah! Gonna get laid fo sho!". She goes to an afterparty and I quickly close the bar and down a few beers before calling her. " Oh please come to the afterparty" Was her reply. Getting pumped as a Templar with the Khaydarin Amulet. Now, the women in Norway are really slutty and often have sex on the first date. This woman however was ... Russian! We talked alot and i finally managed to kiss her at 5 am. But then she suddenly stopped me and started asking alot about my interests and such. I told her she was special( and I meant every word) and I would love to get to know her better. Seems she wanted a date and I accepted the challenge. I really took a liking to her, because im not used to women holding back. The next weekend I met another (Norwegian girl) And we had sex on the first night. A couple of days later I send a message to the russian girl. She tells me that im a lowlife scumbag... Turns out the norwegian girl i slept with was a coworker of hers and they had constructed a " Trap" to see if I was trustworthy.. Turns out im not. Damn you, penis!
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I had one date when i was dating my gf from high school in which I took her to a sushi place (i hated sushi at the time) and spent 50$ on her and myself (which was a lot of money for me at the time). she saw some other people eating something she wanted and she wanted me to order it for her. so we called over the waiter who didnt speak good english and he ended up bringing the wrong thing. she ended up being pissed the entire night over it...
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This is a really nice thread.
Now if only every page didn't have some PUA guy saying "You're doing it wrong! Treat them like objects!", even though it's obvious that the majority of depressing posts here are from people that want more than a hookup.
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chivalry is dead. women killed it.
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On October 10 2011 23:58 frogrubdown wrote: This is a really nice thread.
Now if only every page didn't have some PUA guy saying "You're doing it wrong! Treat them like objects!", even though it's obvious that the majority of depressing posts here are from people that want more than a hookup.
yeah, but you don't wanna act like the nicest guy in the world. u never get anything, but the friend zone. so in a way, if you're being total jackass u probably have better chances to get a gf than if you're being too nice. u can start treating her good as soon as she knows u def not wanna be friends...
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On October 10 2011 16:30 n.DieJokes wrote:Show nested quote +On October 10 2011 15:53 OliverDONG wrote:It will take me a while to get over my first relationship. + Show Spoiler +Im only 19, but i have spend the past 5 years in and out of the hospital (Leukemia) and am now im total remission. About 2 years ago during one of my never ending hospitalization, I met that sweet girl which was a year older than me who had cystic fibrosis. When you are that sick it is kinda hard to talk about all you feel and such with your parents and your friends since none of them really have gone through such events. Turned out she was the first one I was able to open my heart to and express how I was feeling inside at that time and vice-versa. We became close friends pretty damn quickly and, after couple dates when we were not hospitalized, ended up in a relashionship. I just cannot find the words to describe how good that relationship has been to both of us. I mean I dated soem girls before, but they all ended up failign because of my health issues (which I find rediculous but whatever) and I never loved someone that much. Having someone going through similar difficulties and being able to support each other through the ups and downs of life is priceless. Our relationship lasted a 19 months, her disease took over and she died...in my arms. Its already been 5 months, yet it feels like it was just yesterday. Fighting for your life really opens your eyes on what is true love. I dont think I will be ready to date or to have a relationship fora long time. My friends and family are really supportive so it helps. It'll be hard to find someone like my ex, and she will always be in my heart, but I am pretty sure that one day I will find someone that is worth spending my life with. I'll focus on uni and sc2 for now, until then im better off alone... I'm sorry to hear that man, I can't begin to imagine how that feels. Still it made me smile when I looked up at your username and saw the capitalized DONG I recommend that he watch A Walk To Remember :[
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On October 11 2011 00:13 Jayjay54 wrote:Show nested quote +On October 10 2011 23:58 frogrubdown wrote: This is a really nice thread.
Now if only every page didn't have some PUA guy saying "You're doing it wrong! Treat them like objects!", even though it's obvious that the majority of depressing posts here are from people that want more than a hookup. yeah, but you don't wanna act like the nicest guy in the world. u never get anything, but the friend zone. so in a way, if you're being total jackass u probably have better chances to get a gf than if you're being too nice. u can start treating her good as soon as she knows u def not wanna be friends... Honestly, just act like yourself. And remember you can always change yourself too. Your interests, looks, etc. Do interesting things and people will be interested in you.
If you have to put up a fake front then you're a fake douchebag. But at least you'll get opportunities. Unlike a person who hasn't had any chances and doesn't look inwards to fix the problem.
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On October 10 2011 22:13 JokerSan wrote: What do you do when you have a crush on your close friend's girlfriend and the friend is out of the country for the next 2 years? be a man and dont even think about this sh1t
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