Dating: How's your luck? - Page 18

On October 11 2011 00:13 Jayjay54 wrote:


yeah, but you don't wanna act like the nicest guy in the world. u never get anything, but the friend zone. so in a way, if you're being total jackass u probably have better chances to get a gf than if you're being too nice. u can start treating her good as soon as she knows u def not wanna be friends...

On October 09 2011 23:00 Durp wrote:
The first date I went on with my last girlfriend was to the Gigantour concert. Dream Theater (one of our mutual fav bands) was opening for Megadeth (one of my actual favourite bands), so I thought why not, I'd take her instead of one of my friends.

Day seemed to go well enough, got a little road head on the drive to the concert, so I expected the best out of this date.

When we arrived, as she put it "terrible music band X" was playing- aka Fear Factory. She dragged me from our seats during their set to go look for concert T-shirts. I was pretty poor at the time, and the 40 bucks she somehow talked me into spending was all my money. I was hoping to get laid at the concert, but unfortunately two of the fattest trailer trash hicks I've ever seen were drunk and feeling each other up a couple rows in front of us. While it was hysterical to watch and one of those forever lasting impressions, obviously it was an equally epic cockblock.

Dream Theater put on a fantastic show, but 3 songs into Megadeth's set my now-ex realized she was hungry and wanted to go. Of course, I told her to fuck herself and we're not leaving until the end of the Megadeth set, or at the very least after Hangar 18 was played. Her response was that she "wanted me to fuck her, and doesn't want to fuck herself. However if that's my attitude it's unlikely to ever happen."
Hmm I thought- crazy bitch pulls power play at Megadeth concert, uses sex as weapon, and is ruining my time- is this worth it? Like most men, my little head thought for my big one, so I agreed to leave, banged her on the way home, and thought no more about it.

The next day at school I found out that not only was the Megadeth set fantastic, but Mike Portnoy (the at the time drummer for Dream Theater) came out at the end of the set to play the drums for Peace Sells. I should've learned then: no good would come from dating that bitch. In our four years of dating that was the last time I took that bitch on a date. And on top of it all, the concert t-shirt I bought her was hideous, and didn't fit a year later when she got all fat. Looking back, so glad I dumped her haha

I <3 this thread, what a pick me up


Lol the ex-girlfriend mentioned above did the same shit to me man! Michelle, if you somehow found me here know this: you're a self absorbed cunt, and I want my N64 back.

On October 10 2011 23:28 SPcrusader wrote:
I work at a bar and somehow this makes you attractive to girls.( Seriously, Im average at best). Anyways this pretty black haired chick walks up to the bar and slips me a note with her number on it.
I was like :" aaaaw yeeah! Gonna get laid fo sho!". She goes to an afterparty and I quickly close the bar and down a few beers before calling her. " Oh please come to the afterparty" Was her reply. Getting pumped as a Templar with the Khaydarin Amulet. Now, the women in Norway are really slutty and often have sex on the first date. This woman however was ... Russian! We talked alot and i finally managed to kiss her at 5 am. But then she suddenly stopped me and started asking alot about my interests and such. I told her she was special( and I meant every word) and I would love to get to know her better. Seems she wanted a date and I accepted the challenge. I really took a liking to her, because im not used to women holding back. The next weekend I met another (Norwegian girl) And we had sex on the first night. A couple of days later I send a message to the russian girl. She tells me that im a lowlife scumbag... Turns out the norwegian girl i slept with was a coworker of hers and they had constructed a " Trap" to see if I was trustworthy.. Turns out im not. Damn you, penis!

On October 11 2011 00:33 frogrubdown wrote:


But why would you act like the nicest guy in the world unless you actually were the nicest guy in the world? Either,

A) You are the nicest guy in the world, and it would be wrong to discourage you from continuing to be who you are to find someone, or

B) You are not the nicest guy in the world, but you think you are a supposed to pretend to be in front of girls. If this is the case, then you're just like the PUA guys, putting on an act to get a girl, only you have a less successful strategy than them.

If the latter group sincerely wants a real relationship, they just need to stop acting like women are a different species and be themselves around them (combined with appropriate hints at physical attraction).

But there's still a huge difference between being your mildly asshole-ish self around girls and actively devising dehumanizing, asshole strategies to manipulate them into liking you. You can have a perfectly fine love life following the first path. But I have a significant moral problem with second, at least when applied to potential serious relationships, and I imagine most of the thread shares this issue.

On October 11 2011 00:46 Cel.erity wrote:


I like how this "trap" ended with you getting to bang the Norwegian girl. Seems like she's kind of a bitch, screwing the guy her friend likes, under the guise of testing him. I mean, she could have just stopped you and been like "Gotcha!"

On October 11 2011 00:49 zalz wrote:


I wish i ran into more traps like that.

Ooh no i got laid, you got me

On October 11 2011 00:48 Jayjay54 wrote:


I agree in most parts.

But I don't agree that you are born as an asshole or the nicest guy. These are choices how to behave in various groups of people. You can choose to hold the door open for her and get in on slow. Or you can choose to push it and don't open the door.

Most people who end up in the friend zone play it safe and 'try to be there for her'. I tried this a lot when I was younger. Doesn't work.

Like you said, being yourself is key here. And don't overemphasize any so called pretentious social norms. Act like u normally act. Let's face it, sometimes you are an asshole to your friends. You make fun of them and so on. Do so with your girl and don't think about if she likes it or not. After all that is you and she has to like you in order for the whole thing to work. If you treat her artificially nice => friend zone. That's what happened to me and to a lot of other guys here...

and for god's sake. all these posts 'I don't want to date', 'I gave up years ago' and so on make me sad. I said it before. It's like balance whining. Get it together, identify what has to be changed in your life to work stuff out and then go practice. If you keep everything as it is, you probably be forever alone. But you are responsible for it. and not the cruel world.

On October 09 2011 16:31 Fir3fly wrote:
EDIT: I also just want to say to anyone out there wanting relationships:




(i think day[9] said something like this once aswel.)

On October 11 2011 00:07 Mykill wrote:
chivalry is dead. women killed it.

On October 11 2011 01:06 frogrubdown wrote:


Well, since I don't think that niceness is innate either, I'd say we agree on nearly all points.

My problem is with people treating this like a game. This applies as much to people playing the "act nicer than I actually am" strategy just as much as it does to people playing the "destroy her self-esteem to make her want me more" strategy. If you want something serious, don't play around.

On October 11 2011 01:21 TheDraken wrote:



how is it not a game? you find ladies, you try to snatch a card, you get it, you move on. the guy with the most at the end is the winner!

it's all about building street cred bro. in fact i've found it becomes easier the more manwhore you are. if this chick knows you've fucked all her friends but not her, she's gonna want in on the club so she doesn't feel unattractive/unworthy.

On October 11 2011 01:21 TheDraken wrote:



how is it not a game? you find ladies, you try to snatch a card, you get it, you move on. the guy with the most at the end is the winner!

it's all about building street cred bro. in fact i've found it becomes easier the more manwhore you are. if this chick knows you've fucked all her friends but not her, she's gonna want in on the club so she doesn't feel unattractive/unworthy.

On October 11 2011 01:29 shin ken wrote:
Never had a relationship and I'm totally happy with my life (I'm 25).
It all comes down to a) setting priorities and b) do what you want and c) know who you are.

I'm a nerd and I'm ok with that. I'm most comfortable in front of a computer screen. Im not fat or thin. I don't smell. But I spent almost all of my money, time and effort with other things than clubbing/dating/whatever.

Yet I'm quite social but my closest friends are proud nerds like me. That's natural because conversations with "other people" become superficial sooner or later. It's rare, that I find someone not interested in nerd stuff that I can talk all night with. And while that's happening from time to time they're almost always men.

I know some guys who have abandoned quite a large part of their identity just to get a girlfriend. Some I never heard from again, some always tell me how they would like nothing more than to do more gaming etc. but can't because of their girlfriends. And from time to time there's a broken relationship and someone becomes a depressive wreck for a week and two.

I for one don't want to do any compromises. I define myself as a nerd. If someone would take that away from me, there's not much left of my identity. My girlfriend would have to be a rare nerd-woman who would not only tolerate but embrace my lifestyle.
Even if there's the odd twist of fate and nice girl would fall in love with me helplessly despite totally different interests couldn't stand living in two seperate worlds besides our bed and breakfast time. That girl would have to live a very lonely life if I coudn't "turn her around".