Dating: How's your luck? - Page 614

On April 24 2015 04:17 farvacola wrote:

Whatever it is you do, just make sure you wash your hands.

On April 24 2015 02:38 lastpuritan wrote:
I have 3 dates plan.

I will ask her if she wants to go watch a movie, very late one preferably. Drinking couple of beers and entering late-night cinema always works.

I will ask her if she wants to have breakfast. Unlike me, girls like having breakfast outside. Breakfast is a very late meal time for me that i can eat almost anything as start. I will pick a good place by the sea or with fresh air to fullfill this romance.

I will ask her if she wants to have some desserts after work. I know a good place again, serving quality waffles, it would be good after a hard day.

Question IS: I'll buy F L O W E R S . Y E S . 2 0 1 5 . Can you advice me a type and which time i should take em with me. Breakfast? Roses?

On April 24 2015 04:28 lastpuritan wrote:
Don't read it like you read a bossy male's list. This is me, in love after years and i wanted to write down quickly.

Those are not separate dates, same girl, and everybody says get flowers, nobody says which one and when to give... It must be perfect because she cares

On April 24 2015 06:48 lastpuritan wrote:
when i was driving her home last week after work, she said she is dying for flowers and never gets one though. i was thinking a good cut bouquet since that time.

that listing and dates hold one purpose, "giving her the flowers", because those flowers will hopefully, start my new relationship with true feeling this time.

i thought i cant give flowers the moment i see her or out of nowhere when we were talking. there must be steps right? i must make her happy, prepare the mood, man these things were easy when you dont feel anything.

On April 24 2015 02:38 lastpuritan wrote:
I have 3 dates plan.

I will ask her if she wants to go watch a movie, very late one preferably. Drinking couple of beers and entering late-night cinema always works.

I will ask her if she wants to have breakfast. Unlike me, girls like having breakfast outside. Breakfast is a very late meal time for me that i can eat almost anything as start. I will pick a good place by the sea or with fresh air to fullfill this romance.

I will ask her if she wants to have some desserts after work. I know a good place again, serving quality waffles, it would be good after a hard day.

Question IS: I'll buy F L O W E R S . Y E S . 2 0 1 5 . Can you advice me a type and which time i should take em with me. Breakfast? Roses?

On April 24 2015 07:13 14681 wrote:


lastpuritan my advice is to buy just a single flower. A nice flower with a long stem, pick it well. Looks elegant, thoughtful, romantic. Easier to carry and hide than a large bouquet which I'd say might be overkill. You can pick and choose your moment with a single flower without it being obvious the moment she turns the corner and sees you with a bouquet.

Focus on it being a nice simple gesture, and it'll go down really well. Just be cautious of coming across as too intense, which is what a large bouquet would signify at this stage. But gratz for being the nice type of guy who cares about this sort of thing, it won't go unnoticed.

On April 24 2015 07:16 GreenHorizons wrote:


I'd google what various flowers mean though, you don't want to get her one because you think it looks nice, then find out that the googled meaning says that particular flower means "I love you" or whatever. There is a good chance she googles "what does X flower mean".

On April 24 2015 07:52 LemOn wrote:
Jesus Christ
Can really women be this old fashioned?
Seeing this girl, it's been a month (been on 4 dates) Like I'd always call Monday to set a Wednesday or Thursday date. We're always into each other like crazy.

But at first she'd reply like a day later to texts, then we didn't text at all when she got used to me calling her - I'm a really busy guy with poker, dota watching and doing poker talkshow+commenting on matches+studying theory so I stuck to once per week without contact apart from calling to set up dates.

So like this week I just couldn't see her, or call to know when set up a date (complicated tooth removal+scheduling of a poker show that I'm organising where I couldn't get 2 people playing vs each other committed on a time so didn't know when I was free)


I've been on a 7hr awesome date with her last Wednesday, then called her today on Thursday 3pm when my schedule became clear/tooth healed up, wanting to see her that very day. She did the no callback until 11pm, she seemed like really distressed, telling me how it was so weird being without me on Thursday when she was with me every week, and that she's leaving for Ukraine for a week to visit her grandma, there's noway to see me in between as she leaves early and that she's kinda scared because of the situation there... Then slipped in the convo that I'm this person she'd like to try something serious with at one point.

Like seriously? Playing games is one thing, but this is stupid, or are there girls really this old fashioned, she's like extremely intelligent too, Christ - she'd rather leave without me knowing about it than send one text.




Anyways, I guess I will have to make it clear that I'd like it if she contacted me sometimes first as well and it's okay and I'd love it if/when she comes back?

On April 24 2015 06:55 Acrofales wrote:

You are REALLY overthinking this.

You can totally give her flowers when you are picking her up for the date (or wherever you meet). Just don't be stupid about it. Make it something lighthearted, not as if you are expecting her to swoon and fall into your arms because you gave her a bunch of flowers.

It's a first date. You make it seem like you expect her to marry you at the end of it. That is not right, and you are setting yourself up to fail.

On April 24 2015 07:13 14681 wrote:


lastpuritan my advice is to buy just a single flower. A nice flower with a long stem, pick it well. Looks elegant, thoughtful, romantic. Easier to carry and hide than a large bouquet which I'd say might be overkill. You can pick and choose your moment with a single flower without it being obvious the moment she turns the corner and sees you with a bouquet.

Focus on it being a nice simple gesture, and it'll go down really well. Just be cautious of coming across as too intense, which is what a large bouquet would signify at this stage. But gratz for being the nice type of guy who cares about this sort of thing, it won't go unnoticed.

On April 24 2015 02:38 lastpuritan wrote:
Thank you! What could be gifted as single? carnation? lilium? I asked my older brother (37- married for 10 years) whether its a single rose or bouquet, he said "single Rose? Are you virgin?" :D I dont want to give that message.

On May 06 2015 02:48 SixStrings wrote:
Half your age plus four is the cutoff, right?

On May 06 2015 03:13 Chocolate wrote:

trust your gut

better rule of thumb: if your friends would give you shit for it or her parents would be upset about your age, she's too young

also I'm pretty sure it's half your age plus 7. I don't think 18 year olds should be messing around with 13 year olds lol.