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On April 04 2015 20:24 SoSexy wrote:
I don't come here to brag about my success but only post when looking for suggestions (that is what this thread is about).
On April 04 2015 20:24 SoSexy wrote:
If you think that I should start reflecting because on a Starcraft forum people tell me I am bad with girls, well...I would start reflecting if they told me I'm bad at Starcraft.
so you're looking for validation of the creepy and gross things you say/do/think, not any kind of suggestions?
again, I'm not doing any kind of speculating here. I'm going off of the things you post, the same things that anyone who occasionally reads this thread would see. We have that benefit that these girls don't have, and you still get called out on it by them constantly.
this isn't the first time that some random teenage girl has called you creepy or a douchebag, nor is the first time you've been called that in this thread. And as other posters just confirmed, people remember you here for how consistently creepy you are
why are you getting so defensive when people are giving suggestions exactly as you asked. Ever heard the old saying about how if you constantly find yourself running into assholes, you're probably the asshole?
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This is my last post in this thread.
It is ridicolous how people like you try to paint a picture of a person. You are thinking 'sosexy's posts here=it's sentimental life'. I'm sorry mate but that's wrong. I post here when I have funny things to say or just to vent. If you really believe that me posting 'this girl is crazy' equals 'sosexy's a creep with no success whatsoever', I'm sorry for you.
People accusing on the false concept that if you behave correctly, girls will treat you nicely. That is not true. You have to play - and of course sometimes it does not go well. You can't seduce every girl on the planet. I probably had more girls than the people here accusing me, but I just need to post a 'omg that girl gave me the middle finger lol' for you all to go crazy.
Oh, I forgot that afterall this forum had Squattincassanova banned because he wasn't 'kind' (while he was the only one in this thread who had an idea about how seduction works). Right.
Goodbye.
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On April 04 2015 21:41 LostWraithSC wrote:Show nested quote +On April 04 2015 17:30 ticklishmusic wrote:
/letting off steam
So, the story is my good friend had a couple friends who visited from home (we're in university, he's from waaay out of state). One of them came in the summer and we hung out and it was pretty chill. She and a couple others came to visit again a couple weeks back for their spring break, it was nice but didn't get to hang too much because I had classes and whatnot. I thought she was pretty cool, but hey out-of-state right?
I grabbed dinner with my friend, and he brought the subject up "so, what do you think of so-and-so, not like that but personality-wise?" I'm honest about it and say that I thought so-and-so was pretty cool. And then he's like "well I was talking with my roommate (who hung out with us those times) and it it seemed like something was going on between you two, and she was also asking about you a bit."
There's a bit more, but it's just kind of frustrating. I'd say she's one of the few girls I've met while in college that I see/saw as dateable. Sadly, I haven't dated anyone in college (though I've gotten burned a couple times). Not quite sure what to do with the info. Bleh. Is there any chance where the two of you will be in the same place in the future?
Going with the theme of "there's a shred of hope" which makes it all the more frustrating, her sister actually lives here, so she visits a couple times a year. She also almost transferred to a school in the area, but ended up not doing so.
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On April 05 2015 03:02 SoSexy wrote:
This is my last post in this thread.
It is ridicolous how people like you try to paint a picture of a person. You are thinking 'sosexy's posts here=it's sentimental life'. I'm sorry mate but that's wrong. I post here when I have funny things to say or just to vent. If you really believe that me posting 'this girl is crazy' equals 'sosexy's a creep with no success whatsoever', I'm sorry for you.
People accusing on the false concept that if you behave correctly, girls will treat you nicely. That is not true. You have to play - and of course sometimes it does not go well. You can't seduce every girl on the planet. I probably had more girls than the people here accusing me, but I just need to post a 'omg that girl gave me the middle finger lol' for you all to go crazy.
Oh, I forgot that afterall this forum had Squattincassanova banned because he wasn't 'kind' (while he was the only one in this thread who had an idea about how seduction works). Right.
Goodbye.
You are actually talented as a satire writer.
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There's another Italian poster who's even better than SoSexy 
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and he plays (played?) for a german organisation?
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On April 05 2015 04:19 puerk wrote:
and he plays (played?) for a german organisation?
...with comparable results
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I went over to her house to get my things yesterday, we had a pretty decent talk which makes me kind of feel better but not really..
Basically i sat her down and i was like "I want to ask you something and you to be completely honest with me in the answer" (always say be honest even tho she hasnt ever lied to me) to which i said "Do you want a break, or do you want to be done permanently?" "Because if you want a break then i'm not gonna bother with other girls because i don't really care to, have no interest in it. Get your daughter back and if you decide you want to keep going i'll be here to support you and her." "But if you want to be done then i'm going to still be friends with you but i'm going to move on"
She looked and said "I want a break to figure out whats best for me and her, you can talk to other girls i dont give a shit what you do, im not going to talk to anyone else though"
Probably not my best move but i looked her in the face and said " You know as well as I do you don't want me talking to anyone else don't give me that bullshit" She didnt really say anything to that so i assume i must have been right when i said it.
Then finally i asked her to promise me one more thing, to which she said yes
I asked her "If you decide you know, in a couple weeks or whatever you don't want to continue I want you to tell me so i can move on." She did say yes to that.
We did end up having sex before i left, and she slipped up and said she loved me too then tried to deny it.. but i did hear her say it right before i left.
I figure i'll not talk to her for a couple of weeks then do what you guys said and hit her up asking how shes doing and telling her i hope she is okay etc. She will have her kid back by the end of the month so hopefully that will be enough to push her decision into whatever direction she wants it to go
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On April 05 2015 03:02 SoSexy wrote:
This is my last post in this thread.
Goodbye.
this paints a great picture in my head.
A child that puts its fingers in its ears and starts to sing because people dont tell it what it wants to hear.
Had to smile, thank you for that :D
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On April 05 2015 22:26 arb wrote:
I went over to her house to get my things yesterday, we had a pretty decent talk which makes me kind of feel better but not really..
Basically i sat her down and i was like "I want to ask you something and you to be completely honest with me in the answer" (always say be honest even tho she hasnt ever lied to me) to which i said "Do you want a break, or do you want to be done permanently?" "Because if you want a break then i'm not gonna bother with other girls because i don't really care to, have no interest in it. Get your daughter back and if you decide you want to keep going i'll be here to support you and her." "But if you want to be done then i'm going to still be friends with you but i'm going to move on"
I really dislike this, you are giving her ultimatums, pressuring her being impatient. . .
And do you really want to be friends with her? Seems like you are just flat out lying to avoid rejection
On April 05 2015 22:26 arb wrote:
She looked and said "I want a break to figure out whats best for me and her, you can talk to other girls i dont give a shit what you do, im not going to talk to anyone else though"
Probably not my best move but i looked her in the face and said " You know as well as I do you don't want me talking to anyone else don't give me that bullshit" She didnt really say anything to that so i assume i must have been right when i said it.
Omg man now I wanna break up with you, you're such a jerk - why would you try to assume what she wants... It's really not hard man, man the hell up, tell her what YOU want, kindly, honestly without pressure and don't assume for her...
Why not just say "That's up to you, I think you're (what you like about her: boobies, punanny, other things people like, hell if I know, personality perhaps?), and I want to be with you (or - what do you actually want besides stirring drama - just tell her) so why don't you take your time, and if you want the same thing, just give me a call and we'll do something fun together."
And then walk away and don't look back until she gets in contact. And when she does (girls either ask some dumb questions, or make some random comments - they'll not tell you directly they want to see you) just assume she wants to see you and set a date, take her out and show her a good time without all that relationship talk bullshit.
On April 05 2015 22:26 arb wrote:
Then finally i asked her to promise me one more thing, to which she said yes
I asked her "If you decide you know, in a couple weeks or whatever you don't want to continue I want you to tell me so i can move on." She did say yes to that.
We did end up having sex before i left, and she slipped up and said she loved me too then tried to deny it.. but i did hear her say it right before i left.
Seriously? You brought up she said that she loved you AND HELD IT AGAINST HER?
Sorry for swearing this is really horrible tho.
On April 05 2015 22:26 arb wrote:
I figure i'll not talk to her for a couple of weeks then do what you guys said and hit her up asking how shes doing and telling her i hope she is okay etc. She will have her kid back by the end of the month so hopefully that will be enough to push her decision into whatever direction she wants it to go
Why are you pushing her to a decision...If you really like and want her you will stop being this selfish, wait until she contacts you even if it takes a month, and then playfully say you want to take her out for a date and have a good time and focus on the present and make her fall in love with you all over again - which is what you must have done at start and now you are screwing it up. And stop being this needy pushy ultimatum giving emotion stirring impatient mistress from a Venezuelan telenovella
If you want to get rid of her, by all means, keep doing what you're doing. Maybe her self esteem is low enough that she will keep a guy like you around for a few more months until you drive each other crazy.
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EDIT: done, was being lazy editing one post - delete the 3 blanks pls
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On April 06 2015 02:17 LemOn wrote:Show nested quote +On April 05 2015 22:26 arb wrote:
I went over to her house to get my things yesterday, we had a pretty decent talk which makes me kind of feel better but not really..
Basically i sat her down and i was like "I want to ask you something and you to be completely honest with me in the answer" (always say be honest even tho she hasnt ever lied to me) to which i said "Do you want a break, or do you want to be done permanently?" "Because if you want a break then i'm not gonna bother with other girls because i don't really care to, have no interest in it. Get your daughter back and if you decide you want to keep going i'll be here to support you and her." "But if you want to be done then i'm going to still be friends with you but i'm going to move on"
I really dislike this, you are giving her ultimatums, pressuring her being impatient. . . And do you really want to be friends with her? Seems like you are just flat out lying to avoid rejection Show nested quote +On April 05 2015 22:26 arb wrote:
She looked and said "I want a break to figure out whats best for me and her, you can talk to other girls i dont give a shit what you do, im not going to talk to anyone else though"
Probably not my best move but i looked her in the face and said " You know as well as I do you don't want me talking to anyone else don't give me that bullshit" She didnt really say anything to that so i assume i must have been right when i said it.
Omg man now I wanna break up with you, you're such a jerk - why would you try to assume what she wants... It's really not hard man, man the hell up, tell her what YOU want, kindly, honestly without pressure and don't assume for her... Why not just say "That's up to you, I think you're (what you like about her: boobies, punanny, other things people like, hell if I know, personality perhaps?), and I want to be with you (or - what do you actually want besides stirring drama - just tell her) so why don't you take your time, and if you want the same thing, just give me a call and we'll do something fun together." And then walk away and don't look back until she gets in contact. And when she does (girls either ask some dumb questions, or make some random comments - they'll not tell you directly they want to see you) just assume she wants to see you and set a date, take her out and show her a good time without all that relationship talk bullshit. Show nested quote +On April 05 2015 22:26 arb wrote:
Then finally i asked her to promise me one more thing, to which she said yes
I asked her "If you decide you know, in a couple weeks or whatever you don't want to continue I want you to tell me so i can move on." She did say yes to that.
We did end up having sex before i left, and she slipped up and said she loved me too then tried to deny it.. but i did hear her say it right before i left.
Seriously? You brought up she said that she loved you AND HELD IT AGAINST HER? Sorry for swearing this is really horrible tho. Show nested quote +On April 05 2015 22:26 arb wrote:
I figure i'll not talk to her for a couple of weeks then do what you guys said and hit her up asking how shes doing and telling her i hope she is okay etc. She will have her kid back by the end of the month so hopefully that will be enough to push her decision into whatever direction she wants it to go Why are you pushing her to a decision...If you really like and want her you will stop being this selfish, wait until she contacts you even if it takes a month, and then playfully say you want to take her out for a date and have a good time and focus on the present and make her fall in love with you all over again - which is what you must have done at start and now you are screwing it up. And stop being this needy pushy ultimatum giving emotion stirring impatient mistress from a Venezuelan telenovella If you want to get rid of her, by all means, keep doing what you're doing. Maybe her self esteem is low enough that she will keep a guy like you around for a few more months until you drive each other crazy.
Truthfully the first part yes i was asking what she wanted for sure that way i knew what to say next.
She asked me if i was going to keep constantly trying to get with her, and i told her i was going to give her time to decide what she wanted to do. I didnt actually say anything about her saying she loved me, i thought that to myself. This sounds alot worse in text than it was when it happened in person.
I will give her time to make her decision,
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how do you guys react when a girl you've been with for no more than 2-3 weeks starts saying she wants to get married in the future and all that yadda yadda and you don't have any plans to do that. Do you crush her dreams immediately or do you just let it phase out and say that it's not gonna be for some time? are you guys straight up with your girl like that or how do you tackle it? i let it phase out my self. i just wanna hear if my approach is bad or normal
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On April 06 2015 05:37 Copymizer wrote:
how do you guys react when a girl you've been with for no more than 2-3 weeks starts saying she wants to get married in the future and all that yadda yadda and you don't have any plans to do that. Do you crush her dreams immediately or do you just let it phase out and say that it's not gonna be for some time? are you guys straight up with your girl like that or how do you tackle it? i let it phase out my self. i just wanna hear if my approach is bad or normal
That she is with you now doesn't mean she expects you to be her future husband, nothing wrong with wanting to get married.
Edit: You can be honest about it, but don't be an asshole. "At this point in life I think I never want to get married" is way nicer than "I'll never marry anyone" despite the fact they mean exactly the same; wording is always important.
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On April 05 2015 03:02 SoSexy wrote:
Oh, I forgot that afterall this forum had Squattincassanova banned because he wasn't 'kind' (while he was the only one in this thread who had an idea about how seduction works). Right.
Goodbye.
On that topic, r.Evo was my favorite poster in this thread; it's too bad he doesn't post here anymore that I've seen. He seemed to know his stuff but also seemed like a decent person.
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On April 03 2015 22:16 puerk wrote:
Maybe they read your forum posts here.
That made.me lol
But in all seriousness, you guys were too harsh with sosexy IMO, he's a fun guy, and didn't even brag or anything on that post, he shared an expirence, that's all, you are critizicing the post not for what it says, but for who wrote it, and that's pretty bad.
He may be a dick with woman, who cares, we don't even know the guy, this is a place to share our stories and ask for suggestions, if he doesn't listen to them well, to bad, but that doesnt make him deserve all the people going against him.
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So...like 2 years ago or so I met this girl, she wasn't the prettiest or anything but I felt some attraction to her. We talked and stuff, and I felt something special, really learned a lot with her. At the end, it was all like a long romance, hard to explain, she was going through pretty rough times and I didn't have much time, so for that and other reasons..at the end it never really got past that.
She is pretty weird, and deletes his Facebook account, then reopens it 6 months later and other stuff, the thing is, whenever she reopens his social media/reinstalls WhatsApp, she always talk to me again, and we talk till 3 am and stuff, it feels nice you know? Like If she really cares for me. and idk since I haven't really met a girl I really like since, I'm kind of inclined to talk to her well again, since he suddenly appeared a few days ago, the thing is, as I said before, she is like this really weird semi emo girl so she's is really unpredictable, and idk when she will "disappear" again.
So my question is, so you think I should do the extra effort and ask her out to some.place again? Or just keep talking with her whenever she decides to reappear in the world? TBH, Im not even sure I like her as...dating material.so to speak anymore, but the one thing I know is that it feels really good talking with her, like, if we were exactly the same, like if we were connected, talking to her still feels like the first day you know what I mean?
Maybe a good friend?
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Did you have sex at all or just platonic when you were with her?
Seems like you're friend zoned already, just do whatever you feel like with her if you enjoy it, she doesn't seem like a girl that'd be a good fuck buddy nor dating material, so be her friend if you enjoy it. And if the good feelings are not penis feelings - cause that could cause trouble if you're not dating anyone.
A simple test I use to see if I really DO like a girl, but you can use it the other way:
Not sure how to put this delicately. I don't trust myself and it's hard to tell which feeling it is. So you can do this simple thing: - do nofap no porn for at least a week, then spend time with her, and if there's no arousal, no Cowper's fluid after spending time with her then you are good to go for a friendship. If there is, probably better just sticking to texting and spending energy on getting out there and finding that mutual strong attraction with a girl that has her life sorted and once you do have a strong one, and you are having your needs met then continue seeing this one as a friend.
I sometimes think having a good female friend would be a lot higher value long term than another one of the short to mid term relationships with sexual tension, games and all that jazz.
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On April 06 2015 15:43 [Phantom] wrote:That made.me lol But in all seriousness, you guys were too harsh with sosexy IMO, he's a fun guy, and didn't even brag or anything on that post, he shared an expirence, that's all, you are critizicing the post not for what it says, but for who wrote it, and that's pretty bad. He may be a dick with woman, who cares, we don't even know the guy, this is a place to share our stories and ask for suggestions, if he doesn't listen to them well, to bad, but that doesnt make him deserve all the people going against him. ____________, So...like 2 years ago or so I met this girl, she wasn't the prettiest or anything but I felt some attraction to her. We talked and stuff, and I felt something special, really learned a lot with her. At the end, it was all like a long romance, hard to explain, she was going through pretty rough times and I didn't have much time, so for that and other reasons..at the end it never really got past that. She is pretty weird, and deletes his Facebook account, then reopens it 6 months later and other stuff, the thing is, whenever she reopens his social media/reinstalls WhatsApp, she always talk to me again, and we talk till 3 am and stuff, it feels nice you know? Like If she really cares for me. and idk since I haven't really met a girl I really like since, I'm kind of inclined to talk to her well again, since he suddenly appeared a few days ago, the thing is, as I said before, she is like this really weird semi emo girl so she's is really unpredictable, and idk when she will "disappear" again. So my question is, so you think I should do the extra effort and ask her out to some.place again? Or just keep talking with her whenever she decides to reappear in the world? TBH, Im not even sure I like her as...dating material.so to speak anymore, but the one thing I know is that it feels really good talking with her, like, if we were exactly the same, like if we were connected, talking to her still feels like the first day you know what I mean? Maybe a good friend?
He/his? Is there something you're not telling us?
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