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I decided today i am just going to occupy my time and not talk to her until she decides to talk to me.
She is a woman i guess and moody shit like this happens i will just hope it is a phase and if not i guess i'll know i waited a long time for her for nothing i guess.
I feel like atm yeah im being clingy, but i left my phone at her house while she was visiting her kid and had a million missed calls and texts and i had only left it there a few hours..
it is quite strange to me because this is unlike her, but if she does not want to be together i expect her to tell me and not beat around the bush and jerk me off.
After 6mo together i would think shit like this should not be happening anymore tbh but i will let it roll and see what happens
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On April 01 2015 21:48 arb wrote:
After 6mo together i would think shit like this should not be happening anymore tbh but i will let it roll and see what happens
shouldn't that be another major red flag to you???
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On April 01 2015 22:43 QuanticHawk wrote:Show nested quote +On April 01 2015 21:48 arb wrote:
After 6mo together i would think shit like this should not be happening anymore tbh but i will let it roll and see what happens shouldn't that be another major red flag to you???
Yes but im not one to give up that easily without atleast some explanation behind ones actions. that is just the kind of person i am i guess.
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such is the downside of being a good loyal person. unfortunately getting answer never really solves anything. it just gives you more questions. just don't let that cloud your judgement is all im saying. good luck!
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On April 01 2015 22:52 QuanticHawk wrote:
such is the downside of being a good loyal person. unfortunately getting answer never really solves anything. it just gives you more questions. just don't let that cloud your judgement is all im saying. good luck!
i guess you were right, i cant help but think there is someone else
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Just stop being attached to this girl so much, it's what pushed her away in the first place.
Focus on your stuff, make it clear that you won't stand for bullshit and if you really like her, then stop being so stressed out, asking for reasons and driving yourself crazy by demanding stuff from her and making theories.
I'd say at this point none of the 6 months matter at all and if you continue doing this she'll break up with you anyways - so you have nothing to lose really and treat her as any other girl, cut the effort you put into her, definitely don't think about solving her problems and if there is someone else whatever - worse case scenario is that you move on which from what you told us about her so far and her recent behavior might actually be the best outcome for you.
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She has obvious reasons for being stressed and for her acting weird. If there is nothing else going on she probably just doesn't know how to let others help her with negative emotions. The way you act doesn't actually help that because of your own insecurity you put more pressure on her so she pushes you away. Now, of course the way she acted is not fair to you either but if you really want to help her show her that you care for her regardless of what's going on. There is a big middle ground between being clingy and not giving her any attention at all. However you can't stand that ground if you keep flip flopping and work yourself up emotionally. Just keep calm and see where it goes.
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Recently I discovered some of the most stupid girls ever. Sometimes I go out with this girl (who is ok) and I met her friends a couple times (2-3 girls). After some months I added these girls (summer is coming, I am always looking for nice people to invite at pool parties) and they started writing the girl I date things like 'omg what a creep', 'he wants to bang us', etc.
Seriously? I didn't even write you 'hello', not a single like on any picture... you're not the center of the world, my God.
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Maybe they read your forum posts here.
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Just 3 minutes for the hate train to roll in, not bad buddy :D
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Are they wrong?
Everyone can see your posts here. You treat women like things, you're hypocritical, you constantly target extremely young women/virgins/immature people (these gals are 19 tops I'm sure)... ffs, you one blogged about wanting to kill your ex's exs because you were bothered by the fact that she slept with other people before you.
You constantly get called a dick here, and you've posted numerous times about women thinking the same. That's not a hate train or people trolling you; that's a trend based on your actions.
Maybe it's time for self-reflection
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/letting off steam
So, the story is my good friend had a couple friends who visited from home (we're in university, he's from waaay out of state). One of them came in the summer and we hung out and it was pretty chill. She and a couple others came to visit again a couple weeks back for their spring break, it was nice but didn't get to hang too much because I had classes and whatnot. I thought she was pretty cool, but hey out-of-state right?
I grabbed dinner with my friend, and he brought the subject up "so, what do you think of so-and-so, not like that but personality-wise?" I'm honest about it and say that I thought so-and-so was pretty cool. And then he's like "well I was talking with my roommate (who hung out with us those times) and it it seemed like something was going on between you two, and she was also asking about you a bit."
There's a bit more, but it's just kind of frustrating. I'd say she's one of the few girls I've met while in college that I see/saw as dateable. Sadly, I haven't dated anyone in college (though I've gotten burned a couple times). Not quite sure what to do with the info. Bleh.
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No, Hawk. You are one of the most toxic person I've ever met on the internet, always targeting me and quoting blog posts from 3 years ago. You don't know me in real life, I don't come here to brag about my success but only post when looking for suggestions (that is what this thread is about). If you think that I should start reflecting because on a Starcraft forum people tell me I am bad with girls, well...I would start reflecting if they told me I'm bad at Starcraft.
About the blog posts, I am seriously amazed at how can you still remember them after 3 years. You are probably obsessed. Take your pills and don't fuck with me anymore, thanks.
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Nah, Hawk ain't obsessed, your posts are that memorably creepy.
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Yea, I'm with hawk on this to.
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Usually not my style, but I feel like I hop on that train. I agree that from your posts you appear like the kind of person I would tell all my female friends to stay away from in terms of dating. Not saying you are a bad person, but I have to agree with farvacola.
EDIT: And I havent read the mentionend blog and only stalk this thread since a year or so occasionally, but whenever you turned up, I knew what I am about to read. We are only missing SixStrings now  (even though I have to say he seems to be a little bit better)
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On April 04 2015 17:30 ticklishmusic wrote:
/letting off steam
So, the story is my good friend had a couple friends who visited from home (we're in university, he's from waaay out of state). One of them came in the summer and we hung out and it was pretty chill. She and a couple others came to visit again a couple weeks back for their spring break, it was nice but didn't get to hang too much because I had classes and whatnot. I thought she was pretty cool, but hey out-of-state right?
I grabbed dinner with my friend, and he brought the subject up "so, what do you think of so-and-so, not like that but personality-wise?" I'm honest about it and say that I thought so-and-so was pretty cool. And then he's like "well I was talking with my roommate (who hung out with us those times) and it it seemed like something was going on between you two, and she was also asking about you a bit."
There's a bit more, but it's just kind of frustrating. I'd say she's one of the few girls I've met while in college that I see/saw as dateable. Sadly, I haven't dated anyone in college (though I've gotten burned a couple times). Not quite sure what to do with the info. Bleh.
Is there any chance where the two of you will be in the same place in the future?
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On April 04 2015 20:57 farvacola wrote:
Nah, Hawk ain't obsessed, your posts are that memorably creepy.
I initially thought SoSexy's post was meant as parody and reflected growing self-awareness. /disappointed
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On April 04 2015 17:30 ticklishmusic wrote:
/letting off steam
So, the story is my good friend had a couple friends who visited from home (we're in university, he's from waaay out of state). One of them came in the summer and we hung out and it was pretty chill. She and a couple others came to visit again a couple weeks back for their spring break, it was nice but didn't get to hang too much because I had classes and whatnot. I thought she was pretty cool, but hey out-of-state right?
I grabbed dinner with my friend, and he brought the subject up "so, what do you think of so-and-so, not like that but personality-wise?" I'm honest about it and say that I thought so-and-so was pretty cool. And then he's like "well I was talking with my roommate (who hung out with us those times) and it it seemed like something was going on between you two, and she was also asking about you a bit."
There's a bit more, but it's just kind of frustrating. I'd say she's one of the few girls I've met while in college that I see/saw as dateable. Sadly, I haven't dated anyone in college (though I've gotten burned a couple times). Not quite sure what to do with the info. Bleh.
You could probably hook up or something, but if she ends up moving there or whatever you could try something else.
good luck man
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On April 04 2015 20:57 farvacola wrote:
Nah, Hawk ain't obsessed, your posts are that memorably creepy.
i may come off as a horrible person but please dont judge...
i read this thread whenever i feel down and need to pick myself up a bit through other ppls misery (im in happy, stable relationship going for 6 years now), and this is probably my first ever post / end of lurking in this thread, because it simply had to be done: i can not express how strongly i agree with quoted statement.
sexstrings is an amateur compared to you sosexy, and you would do well to reflect on this feedback instead of brushing it off because its on gamers forum (which also speaks a lot about you too, mate). you are so creepy when you post about girls, that in fact i also remember you from 3-4 years back, and i usually couldn't be bothered to care about you at all. so you might want to reconsider character assassinating Hawk by labeling him as a stalker just because he has an issue with your posting - he's not the only one...
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